 When the narcissist sees your life improving without them, when they see your life getting better, When they see you becoming happier and healthier without them, how do they react to it? How does it make them feel? When the narcissist sees your life improving without them, it makes them feel very jealous. They feel like you are taking something away from them. Something that rightfully belongs to them, because narcissists have a strong sense of entitlement. They believe they have a right to everything you've established, even if you did it without them. They are envious of your achievements and advantages, and they want to take it all away from you. They are fiercely protective of their own rights and possessions, and they see you as an object that exists to serve them. They see you as something that belongs to them, so when you go off on your own, and your life begins to improve without them, they feel like they've just been robbed. They feel like you've stolen something from them, which they think gives them the right to take it from you, or to sabotage whatever you've established on your own, even if they were the ones to discard you. In their distorted minds, they still feel entitled to you. They feel like they can come back whenever they choose to, and pick up where they left off, but they're only coming back because they want a piece of the pie. They want to partake in the fruits of your labor after you did all of the work, and you went through everything you went through. Now they want to come back and act like they were with you all along, as though they invested something into it. So now they're looking for a payout. When they never did anything for you, if anything, they were an inconvenience in your life. They set you back, and it was only when they left that you then had the time and energy to improve your life. But here they come, acting like you have something that belongs to them. When they were never invested in you, they were never interested in building anything with you, because they never wanted to see you succeed. When the narcissist is always monitoring you, they're not looking to see any signs of improvement. They want to witness your misfortune. It gives them satisfaction to learn of, or witness your troubles, failures, or humiliation. It makes them feel better about their own lives. But when they come back, and they see that you're happy and doing better without them, it eats away at them. They get very jealous. They will always have some demeaning remark for you. They will always have something negative to say about your success, because they're very insecure. They see your success as a threat, and they were always jealous of you, even before your life started to improve, because all they see is the finished product. They're not looking at everything you did to get to where you are today. They're not thinking about all of the hard work you put in. So in their minds, it's unfair. In their minds, you are not deserving of what you have. They see it as though you're unkind and considerate or unreasonable. They see it as though you're selfish, when really, they are the ones who are selfish. For watching you go through it all on your own, without ever stepping in to assist you. And then when you finally rise from the ashes, that's when they return to collect. When you are dealing with a narcissist, there's nothing you can say to justify your success. There's nothing you can do to get them to see all of the hard work you put in. Because they're only thinking about themselves. They're only thinking about how they can benefit from the situation. And when you try to explain this to them, no matter how right you may be, it just triggers their shame. It causes a narcissistic injury. And then they get very angry, because narcissists are very competitive, which causes them to become ruthless and merciless, where they will do anything to get what they want, while having no pity or compassion for you. When the narcissist sees your life improving without them, they get very jealous. And if they do come back, they will come back with their hands out. But even if they don't return, they will be plotting behind the scenes. They will be smearing your name and trying to find ways to reign on your parade. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching Inquiries. You can email me at coaching.naxiv.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.