 When the narcissist does a disappearing act, when they suddenly disappear, when they are nowhere to be seen or found, when you first meet the narcissist, they are all over you. You feel like you've never met someone who was so into you before. They are very polite, friendly and likable. They are full of praise and compliments. They do everything they can to make you believe that they're your soulmate. They manipulate your emotions. They get you to attach to them. They future fake. They give you false promises. They make you believe that they're always going to be there for you. They're always going to be there to support you. They give you this fabricated story which is intended to deceive you. They give you a mistaken impression to make you believe something that is not true so that they can gain an advantage over you and then when they've got what they wanted from you, they do a disappearing act. They vanish. They can disappear for a few hours, sometimes for weeks or even months. They might first disappear when you have an argument or disagreement. They might be very angry with you because you don't agree with what they have to say. But as time goes by, they will disappear for no apparent reason. They will stop talking to you. It's designed to punish you. They want to hurt you because you're not agreeing with what they say. You're not validating the illusion. So they disappear and act as designed to get your attention. It is an attempt to control you. You cannot talk to the narcissist. There is no way to get them to understand your perspective. You will just be pulled into another argument that goes around in circles. The narcissist will always play the victim. They will always blame you, even though you may not have done anything wrong. The narcissist understands the power of the disappearing act. They know that you are an empath. They know that if they disappear, you're going to feel guilty. You're going to blame yourself. They know that you're going to focus so much on what they're doing. Even though what they're doing is designed to punish you, it is designed to hurt you. But they know that you're just going to blame yourself. They know that you're going to question if you did something wrong. Because that's why they targeted you in the first place. They targeted you because they knew that you're an empath. They knew that you were going to take responsibility, even when they do you wrong. It's like all the narcissist has to do is vent their frustration. And you automatically assume that it's your fault because you were conditioned to be this way in childhood. And the narcissist noticed that they could see an opportunity to manipulate and control you. That's why they targeted you. But although they may do a disappearing act, they never let you go completely. They always keep you waiting. They always withhold certain information from you because they don't want you to go anywhere. They want to keep you attached to them. It feeds them. It makes them feel alive. Which is why as soon as you start to forget about the narcissist and focus on yourself. That is when they will come back. That is when they will hoover you. It's like they can feel that the energetic exchange is diminishing and they want to strengthen it. The narcissist will do a disappearing act when you don't give them what they want. When you don't give them constant attention and admiration. When you don't validate their false self or self-confidence and the illusion that they are trying to portray. Or when you don't give them money or sex. When you refuse to follow their agenda. That is when they will disappear. That is when they won't want anything to do with you because you either do everything their way. Or they don't want you. But they will put you on the back burner. You become a lower priority to them. You may not receive immediate attention. But they still consider you at some level. Which is why at some point they may decide to hoover you. But until then. They're going to remain hidden. Until they think that they can get some out of you again. And that is when they will come back. Because a narcissist only comes around a person if they want something from them. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like. Comment. Share and subscribe. If you would like to donate. My PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching inquiries. You can email me at coaching.narksurvivor.co.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.