 If you're still with her, but video topic on women except living with a boyfriend, having a boyfriend's baby and saying that marriage is only a piece of paper and that they don't not every not marriage is not for everyone and my friend thinks that these women are just saying that because they don't think that they're able to get married or they don't think their man will ever ask them to marry or they're already stuck in the situation and they're trying to justify not being married blah blah blah and she thinks that they really really truly want to be married you know I don't know what this thing is doing so she wants me to talk about why women should be married and not just in a relationship with a boyfriend with children living in the same house and marriage is not just a piece of paper okay first of all I'm gonna tell y'all as a former funeral director and mortician legally when that man dies when your boyfriend dies and y'all aren't legally married you're not gonna have any kind of say of what happens to his body where it's buried you're not gonna be able to get any of his money you don't have access to his bank accounts or anything you'll have any of that his parent his sister his next of kin does or his child but not the wife I mean not the girlfriend because you're not the wife okay you have zero zilch legal anything with this man okay no property nothing okay so if y'all are living in a house and he dies and that the house is in his name you don't get that house okay whoever is his next of kin or the government could take it or the bank that's not your house unless you try to buy it set your house unless he lists you on the deed okay so a lot of a lot of women are just playing ignorant and they're not asking the right questions they're just going by what this guy is saying I don't need marriage I don't need a marriage license yes you do in this country if you need a driver's license you need a marriage license okay if you're if you're go go ahead go go drive around no driver's license and see what happens don't get that sticker on your car see what happens okay when you live in a country where you need licenses to do certain things legally you might as well go get your marriage license if you're gonna live with the same man for 20 years have all his babies and not get any of the wife benefits after death you're stupid okay and I'm just telling you all that I know a lot of people who were against the system working you're not against the system if you pay taxes you're not against the system if you work in this country and get a paycheck and fill out a w2 form you're not against the system so please stop using that as an excuse for why your man won't marry you either you demand marriage or you get up and leave because somebody will marry you and if they don't you know why why can't they why can't they marry you are they still married to someone else secretly and they just don't want to get the divorce and that ex that you have no idea exists is gonna get all your money hmm you don't know that I have seen that come out the woodwork in the funeral business a man will lie and say oh I can't get married I can't get married he'll still be married to somebody else and you won't have any clue and then when he dies guess what that wife is still married to him he gets she gets the social security she gets the 401k you get nothing but left as you're not even the widow she is the widow okay now I'm saying this because a lot of y'all women don't think and that is what leads you in the direction for you know failure y'all think things through y'all understand y'all are too busy listening to that man who is just lying to you okay always do your research first Google his name if it comes up he's still married thing now you know okay I had someone that was living with this guy for so many years and he would never ask her to marry him and she was like why won't he ask me to marry him I've asked him he said not now he can't do it I said well have you ever googled his name and see if he was already married and she was like I never thought about that she googled his name he was still married okay and I'm not trying to say that this is all guys and what they're doing but you'd be surprised if you pay that $11 to get that background search and to see if this guy is still married a lot of times this is why no guy will ask you to marry them because they're already married and they're too cheap to get a divorce because they know their wife is trying to get half their money and this isn't that lawyer fees and all this so before you shackle up with a man who claims that he's your boyfriend y'all don't need no marriage license make sure you pay that $11 to Google him and make sure he's not married okay because that lady is gonna get what you have put in 20 years 10 years and you get nothing she's gonna step in as soon as they call her oh I'm ready for my check oh yeah he's gonna be buried here oh he's gonna be cremated whether you like it or not oh yes sorry my kids are gonna get all the benefits social security 401k you gets nothing oh in that house that's in his name I'm gonna have to sell it so y'all are gonna have to move okay bye bye remember that y'all marriage is a legal agreement that you and them him are equal partners and ownership of your life together so you can get in a car crash any day driving home from work I am why are you left homeless okay so ladies get it together demand marriage okay if you if you if you're if you're not good enough to marry then why why is he living with you okay if you're not good enough to legally marry why is he with you and why are you with him you're wasting your time you'll have kids by a boyfriend and and then have him call you daddy but you're still single on paper this is why a lot of guys are saying oh most black women are single most black women are single over the age of this and this they're not really single they're shacked up with a loser boyfriend who won't marry them and they have to put single on the paper because they're not married a lot of women are with people a lot of women are in relationship long-term relationships living as husband and wife but they don't have they can't check that married box so therefore in statistics it comes up as a lot of black women over the age of this are single when they're really not it's just that they've chosen to live life as a girlfriend and not reap any wife benefits from it and they've accepted that because they think that's all they deserve which is it's not you have devalued yourself as a as a woman you have said I am not worth marriage you have said that you have allowed that when you shack up with some man for more than two years without a rank without a marriage license you have told him I'm not marriage material I'm not worth marrying you don't have to marry me to get all the goods you don't have to marry me to get wife minimins I'm just glad to be here okay no I bet you he's not gonna shack up with any other race a woman for over five years without her demanding marriage and tell me if I'm wrong okay you have to start demanding marriage whether you're black white Asian Latino old young fat skinny you got to demand what you want in this world you got to take what you want half the time and if you're too stupid and dumb to sit there and accept what people give you then you deserve everything you get and I'm just keeping it real because a lot of these women they need tough love they need to be taught because nobody will teach this to them you know there's too many moral standards and oh you're supposed to be this and oh you're supposed to be that and you're not supposed to speak your mind you're just supposed to accept what the man does and if you too loud and and demanding no man is gonna want you but in the end at the end of the day are you married are you with someone or are you still alone most women that are married have made demands have had high standards and they don't just accept anything and men are attracted to that that means no one can touch you no one has gotten to you no one has tricked you you're not stupid no one has lied to you you are a queen you are be above all the rest and that's who they end up marrying they don't end up marrying that person that was tricked and had to live with this person for 20 years while he was still married you know all that the bad things if you're smart enough and have high enough standards to get through all of that to get beyond all of that you bet it to wifey okay and also how you dress has a lot to do with it you can't go around looking a certain way if you want to be treated like wife material and I'm that's gonna be my next video y'all so tune in tomorrow for how to dress for the stages of your life in order to attract a man a husband potential man a good man that's coming up next y'all and also coming up more to come there's a lot of subjects I have to cover this year so y'all stay tuned