 وما يلاح ميك أس among his companions and his helpers and supporters with the بركة of صلاة على محمد وآل محمد بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم والحمد لله رب العالمين بارئ الخلاق أجمعين باعث الأمبياء والمرسلين ثم الصلاة والسلام على أشرف الأمبياء وسيد المرسلين حبيب إله العالمين المصطفاء بالقاسم محمد وعلى آله الطيبين الطاهرين المعصومين المنتجبين الذين أذهب الله عنه مرجسا وطهرهم تطهيرا واللعنة الدائم على أعدائهم أجمعين إلى قيام يوم الدي السلام عليه السلام رزقنا الله في الدنيا زيارتكم وشفاعةكم في الدنيا أما بعد فقال الله تباركا وتعالى في كتابه المجيد وقرآنه الحميد وقوله أعوذ بالله من الشيطان وجهيم بسم الله الرحمن الذين آمنوا وتطمئم صدق الله صلا على محمد وآله محمد Our discussion tonight will be about mental health This issue is of extreme significance as scientists are finding that it is on the rise The reason for the rise could be because more and more people are experiencing some mental health issues Or it may be because more people are now reporting mental health problems Or it could be because now we have better documentation of mental health problems Regardless, mental health is a serious concern in this day and age I will quote to you what the World Health Organization talks about mental health only in Europe and then in some aspects globally Here is what they say in the World Health Organization data They say according to systematic review of data and statistics from community studies in European Union countries Iceland, Norway and Switzerland 27% of the adult population here defined as age 18 to 65 Had experienced at least one of a series of mental disorders in the past year This included problems arising from substance abuse Psychosis, depression, anxiety and eating disorders They continue to say these figures represent an enormous human toll of ill health With an estimated 83 million people being affected That is almost equivalent to the population of the UK Imagine the entire population of the United Kingdom being affected with mental health problems That's a huge number Then they continue on to say some very interesting data but also very scary data Mental disorders are by far they say The largest contributor to chronic conditions afflicting the population of Europe Chronic conditions, chronic disorders It is by far the largest contributor According to the most recent available data from 2012 Neuropsychiatric disorders rank as the first cause of years lived with disability in Europe People who have mental health problems They are leading cause of years lived with a disability People just unable to work They have a problem Now you can imagine the consequence of this on the financial aspect When they are unable to work They are not able to contribute And of course governments look at that from a financial perspective It means we have to support them It means they have to go see health practitioners, physicians, doctors And all that would add on the financial toll of the countries Then they come to suicide Because if these persist sometimes they can progress to God forbid suicide Listen to the number They say an estimated 804,000 deaths occurred worldwide In 2012 Because of suicide When you divide that number by the number of minutes in the year 800,000, 800, 4000 Divided by the number of minutes every year This means every 40 seconds someone is committing suicide in the world Think about it By the end of our Majlis today Think how many people on average would have committed suicide These numbers are very scary And they affect everybody They say Suicide accounts for 17.6 of all death among young adults Age 15 to 29 In high income countries Even high income countries In high income countries 3.5 males commit suicide for every female So more men commit suicide than women However More women suffer from mental health than men That's what the data suggests So more women experience mental health problems than men However more men ending up committing suicide than women In total 804,000 In 2012 And I saw a similar figure by the World Health Organization For 2016 More or less the same Again about 800,000 people So these statistics are quite important They affect all walks of life Recently in the past year Some of you may be familiar With a very famous chef who worked for the CNN He was a celebrity chef as they call him She committed suicide Another lady who is a very successful fashion designer In New York she committed suicide So because they were high profile cases They were all over the news And experts, medical experts were saying This shows that mental health affects everyone Whether you are rich or poor Whether you are famous or not famous It runs across So this is a very serious problem That needs to be dealt with In the Muslim community We are not immune from this Many Muslims also suffer from mental health problems Many Muslims unfortunately sometimes commit suicide Unfortunately So the question is that we need to deal with What is happening Why do people experience mental health problems That's one Second How can we solve it What are some of the solutions Of course a disclaimer here As I mentioned last night In a one hour lecture You cannot solve the problem of mental health Second I want also to make it very clear from where the get go Whatever solutions we will be presenting Some of them are scientific backed up by science Some of them are religious based And sometimes they meet the scientific recommendations Have also a religious analogy to it I will make it clear insha'Allah By all means We are not saying And I repeat We are not suggesting here in this lecture That we just use these recommendations And do not seek medical intervention If medical intervention is necessary It is required Then we need to seek medical intervention If the physician recommends some medications Then we need to work with the physicians To really figure out What is the best option for us And hence Please do not say that Shaykh here is giving us a beautiful therapy And he is saying We should not get any medical therapy Or medical guidance Or medical That is not exactly what we are saying What we are trying to say here In this lecture Is sometimes People start off by feeling down Feeling depressed Which is different from depression We all experience the highs and the lows in life No things sometimes don't work out So you go in a downturn People experience this Now if this downturn persists Insists This may develop progress To something more serious Now instead of just being depressed A person falls into depression A person gets into anxiety Anxiety disorders A person might even progress And develop, God forbid, bipolar Schizophrenia etc People sometimes resort to substance abuse Sometimes people resort to self harm What we will try to say Is those who fall in the state Of just being depressed You know at the beginning Maybe if they practice some of the recommendation That scientists and some of the Quran Or the Rwayat what they suggest Maybe they can work their way out Of feeling depressed And hence inshallah that will help them But if it does consist Become consistent And things pursue for further Then medical guidance, medical counseling Need to be sought Medical guidance So this is from the beginning What are the reasons For mental health problems There are many many problems We will discuss a few of them One of the reasons For mental health problems Is trauma People sometimes experience a trauma This trauma could also be variable A trauma could be a loss of a loved one Someone loses a loved one A few years ago here in Britain There is a very famous fashion designer In Britain, a man He used to design fashion for celebrities His mother passed away He wrote a suicide note That I cannot keep with my life After my mother I really loved my mother And hence he committed suicide That was something that he couldn't cope with That was a trauma that he experienced That he couldn't deal with Trauma could be A financial loss Someone has a good job Was doing well For example think of the 2008 financial crisis You had individuals who are doing really well Business is going really well They are financially affluent But all of a sudden with the crash of the markets Things just turned around Financially they start getting into debt Getting into problems That could be a trauma That some people just can't cope with They become depressed And then that depressed state Progresses to depression And God forbid other problems At that time I remember reading in the papers A 72-year-old German man 72-year-old German man Billionaire He committed suicide Because he lost so much in the stocks market Because of the 2008 financial crisis He couldn't deal with that trauma It was too stressful for him He committed suicide So these trauma Could be different But trauma is a reason For mental health problems People become depressed And unfortunately this may progress So that's one reason Second reason Because they are stressed Stress People continuously live a stressful life And that might develop some anxiety Even youth They say anxiety because of homework Because of grades It causes depression in some youth They are worried My gosh I can't get the grades That I need to get into university My dreams are shattered They are so anxious They develop anxiety disorders Stress People sometimes work so hard Day and night They become sleep deprived That sleep deprivation can result Into mental health problems People become stressed They start losing sleep They develop insomnia So that creates a problem So stress is another factor Third reason Is people feeling lonely They feel I am not appreciated I am not loved Here women are more than men In terms of feeling that I am not good looking enough I mentioned last night Shelly Grabe In her paper in 2008 She states 50% of girls And undergraduate women Suffer in the United States From psychological and physical problems Because of the looks They feel that I am not pretty enough She looks in the mirror And she says my gosh I am not as pretty as these models out there I am not beautiful enough I may be overweight And then what adds to the problem My brothers and sisters Is sometimes a person comes To see this individual And constantly thinking about this That I am not pretty enough I am overweight And says you have gained some weight Now what do you think has just happened To this individual She starts to go She goes home And maybe she starts crying She gets depressed That I am fat I am overweight When in fact she is not overweight She could be beautiful But because of that perception of the media That this is how the looks are People sometimes develop low self esteem That I am not good Whatever I do I am a failure Nobody likes me No one wants to be with me They develop this kind of loneliness I don't want to be associated with people Let's go to the Husseiniyah There is some program happening Osama Al-Atar is giving a lecture about mental health No sorry I don't want to listen to Osama Al-Atar He depresses me even more One day someone wrote to me You make us laugh And you make us cry I said this is the attribute of Allah So I don't want to be Why? Because he or she says I don't want to see people I don't want to be around people You know people will ask me some questions I don't want to be with people That develops that loneliness That loneliness So loneliness is another factor One factor is trauma Another factor is stress A third factor is loneliness A fourth factor is expectations What do we mean by this? Setting expectations Let's say for example A person Smart masha'Allah He is getting good grades in high school And he sets expectations He says you know what Insha'Allah I am going to go to university I am going to study engineering And when I graduate I am going to do very well I am going to open up my company And insha'Allah my company Will become one of the best companies of engineering Insha'Allah So they set expectations, standards, ambitions Which is great Good stuff Good But then for example Say they go to first year university And let's say for example God forbid God forbid something happens And his or her father falls ill His father falls ill To the point where the father Cannot support the family anymore And he has to drop out of university And go work Now this individual He might feel as a failure You know his expectations This is my dreams My dream was to succeed And maybe he had the ability He had the potential He is a smart person But SubhanAllah What they call it life gets in the way She has an expectation This is what I would like And sometimes his expectations Could not be as ambitious They could be simple expectations Simple expectations A person for example Says you know on the weekend By the weekend I will finish reading this chapter And doesn't get to finish reading the chapter Something is very simple But yet Says you know A person starts to think That my gosh Every time I set up an expectation Something happens And just I never meet I am a failure I can never meet my expectations I can never develop Reach my goals And even though these goals Are so simple They are simple goals I mean reading a chapter I can't even read a chapter Or something along these lines So then What's the point of me Setting any goals anymore People start falling Down Feeling down So meeting these expectations Sometimes These are among the reasons And I already mentioned Financial problems Under the trauma section Sometimes they say Financial problems Trauma Could also mean God forbid a divorce A person experiences a divorce It shatters their life For the man or the woman For example The man would say My God The love of my life is gone That's it My whole life has crumbled I can't see my children anymore Because of the divorce For example Some problems happen It just shatters the person It makes them fall In a state of depression So they became depressed And that's it They just don't want to do anything anymore So there are many reasons For mental health problems As you can see It's very multifaceted And some do say That there could be a genetic aspect to it There could be an environmental aspect to it Food The food you eat May affect the mood Your mood So there are many many issues here That deal with mental health We'll suffice with these issues Stress Trauma Which includes the loss of Financial losses Loss of a loved one Family problems That all could be traumatic issues A divorce God forbid Impact of the divorce on the children You know sometimes children Are traumatized by the divorce But they're too young to express their feelings When the children see the husband The wife are fighting The mom and dad are always fighting They get traumatized They get traumatized But they're too young to express it When they grow older They start to develop some of these problems Anxieties, issues, etc. Stress is a problem Which may lead to lack of sleep Insomnia That could lead to further problems Loneliness is a problem Loss of health Could be a problem Somebody loses his health Or her health God forbid And they start feeling depressed So there are many many issues here Okay How do we deal with that? And that takes us to the next point Of our discussion How do we deal When we don't meet our expectations When we feel that we are down What can we do? Here We have some points That stem from research Others come from The Ahadith And the Qur'an And the Ahadith Some of those points As I mentioned earlier They cross One thing my brothers and sisters We need to overcome the stigma Of mental health There's a stigma associated with mental health It is all right For a person If he or she feels depressed To seek a psychologist Go see a psychologist There's nothing wrong with that But we have a stigma associated Does that mean I'm crazy? No Just because you're seeing a psychologist Doesn't mean you're crazy People sometimes think that way You suggest to someone Why don't you go see a psychologist Are you suggesting I'm crazy? No, I know of a psychologist Who sees a psychologist Because Of all the problems that the psychologist deals with Counseling, problems, troubles, youth issues So this psychologist tells me On a weekly basis I have to go see a psychologist For therapy Just to vent I need to vent off From all the problems I see in this world And the things that come across me So this is perfectly fine One should not be Feeling bad for seeing a psychologist Overcome that stigma Second You don't have to announce to the world I'm seeing a psychologist Publish it on your social media And whatever Talking a selfie with a psychologist And say look at me You don't have to do this For confidentiality You can keep everything confidential Nobody has to know خلص My recommendation though Is to seek a psychologist Who understands religious And cultural issues Someone who understands your religious background Your cultural background So he or she can have a better sense Of what to say A friend of mine Who's a neurologist Or psychiatrist He says one day I brought a friend of mine Who is in the medical profession On the day of عاشرة I brought him to The Majlis Now imagine bringing someone Who's never been to a Majlis before He's not a Muslim And he comes to the Majlis On the day of عاشرة He sat down this person And he was a physician as well He looked at those people The Maqtel is being recited And they keep crying And people are like An hour later they serve food القيمة is there قيمة comes Look at you I mentioned قيمة And you're smiling هجنور You have قيمة for us tonight هجنور He says An hour later they serve the food And everyone is sitting down This guy He looked at me in the face This is a textbook definition Of manic disorder This is the textbook definition of it These people are not They have all bipolar problems They're all mentally ill Just now they were crying And beating themselves And now they're all laughing And joking and whatever He says that's classical Imagine you go see a psychologist Like this man He will definitely say You have mental problems So it's good to go to someone Who understands religious values Comes from religious understanding Cultural understanding Understands your culture That in your culture There are these exercises These things which are normal These are norms in the culture For example So that's what it's good to do If you can't find a psychologist With this kind of a background And we need to clarify Something brothers and sisters Because sometimes when I tell people Go see such a psychologist Like someone who has a similar background As you have People get worried He said no If I go see her Or if I go see him No, the world will be all over there Community Everyone will know I have a problem They are not allowed to do so They are not allowed If this psychologist you're seeing Goes and tells people Oh, do you know Today Shea Khosama came to see me Shea Khosama is cuckoo They will lose their license This person will lose his or her license What you need to understand They have to act within the professional boundaries It's like seeing a physician A medical doctor Whether he is from the community Not from the community He is not allowed to speak about you He can't even say That today so and so came to my practice And you know They are bound In fact Some hospitals When you go to them They will have posters In the elevators On the staircases That remind the doctors That remember patient confidentiality When you are in the elevator This is not the place to discuss patient problems Because there could be someone else who is listening When you are on the staircase This is not the place to discuss patient problems That behind closed doors You have to be reminded Of the patient confidentiality So this is something we need to remember So if needed To seek psychological help Go seek psychological help And don't worry This is something that we need to think about That's one Second What can we do If I am not yet at the stage Where I may need a psychological help I am just feeling down I feel down What are some of the things that we can do First Thinking positive What does that mean? Everyday Write down one thing Positive about yourself Think positive Some people have low self esteem They think I am not liked I am not wanted I am a loser You know whatever I do I am such a loser Instead of thinking like this Saying okay I did not get this job interview But it does not mean That I can try next time And I can get the job next time Now you are looking at it in a positive sense Everyday Say something good about yourself In fact I have a friend Or one day in Hajj In Hajj One of the people with us Was a psychiatrist I asked him I said Do you do any marriage counseling He says yes we do I told him What are some of the things That you give for marriage counseling He says one of the most effective Ways is positive thinking I said what does that mean What do you do When you have a husband Or a wife He says two things First Everyday Write something positive About your wife Or your husband Recently I went to Attend to one of these issues Marriage issues And the husband said Interestingly My wife is a great mother But she is a terrible wife I said hold on a second That is a very interesting statement And oxymoron He says what do you mean I said You just said Your wife is a great mother He said yes I said okay So when you Go to work Do you have to worry About your children Who is looking after them Who is going to be taking care of them He said no My wife is a great mother Okay good When you travel to Hajj Umra Ziara When you are in Hajj Umra in Ziara Do you have to constantly Imagine if you are in Hajj And you are constantly thinking about your children How are they How is their well-being Are they okay Are they sleeping well Are they Imagine what is your Hajj going to be like What is your Ziara going to be If you are constantly thinking like this Are you going to enjoy that Ziara Whereas you Go to Hajj Go to Umra Go to Ziara And you don't have to worry about this Is that true He looks at me and he says yes That's true She is a great mother I said that means she is a great wife If she is taking care of your children To the point where you go to work You don't have to worry about your children You can concentrate and focus on your work You go for Hajj You go to Ziara You go to Umra You go to wherever You don't have to worry You can actually concentrate and enjoy your Hajj Enjoy your Umra Enjoy your Ziara Doesn't that mean she is a good wife I said I never thought about it that way There you go This is positive thinking Think about the positives Alright You have said certain expectations I want my wife to do this This this this Okay well maybe your expectations Are not realistic expectations When she has children to look after When she has for example Other issues to deal with She can't meet all these expectations of yours So let's work something out الحمد لله A little while later The wife sends me a message Says الحمد لله He has improved significantly Because he started thinking about The positive things of the wife So these do matter They do actually affect you psychologically Think of the positive things That you have done Don't say I'm a loser No الحمد لله مؤمنين We are especially Who are the followers of أهل البيت عليهم السلام We are People who insha'Allah Will be with Imam علي سلام الله عليه جنة Are we losers? نهو الله مصادق عليه السلام Says كيف بكم إضاح الشرطم يوم القيامة وكان علي سلام الله عليه إمامكم أين تظنون يا يأخذكم أو يمري بكم فقال سلام الله عليه هي الجنة والله الجنة والله اللهم صلى الله عليه وسلم محمد عليهم هاي صلاواتكم محيدرية اللهم صلى الله عليه محمد وعجش الفرج لا حتى هاي هم محيدرية اللهم صلى الله عليه إمام الصادق في يوم الجدد عندما تأتي إلى المحشار وانتظر at the banner of Imam Ali Imam Ali holding the banner and you go with him كيف تشعر ذلك؟ أين تعتقد أنه ستأخذك؟ ويمام مصادق بيطسل ثلاثة وقال أنه ستأخذك إلى جنة جنة جنة هل نحن المساعدين؟ لا, والله نحن المساعدين نعم الأشياء في الدنيا يمكن أن تكون صحيحا لا يمكن أن تكون صحيحا بيطسل ولكن أنا ليس جنة أنا صحيحا أستطيع أن أعمل أعمل أنت تعتقد بيطسل الثلاثة التي سيكايترس أخبرني يقول أنني أخبر هؤلاء المساعدين كل يوم يجب أن يجب أن يخبرك أحبك ويجب أن يخبرك أحبك أخبره أنت فقط ماذا if the wife prefers seeing Israel than seeing her husband أنها أنه لا يكون صحيحا يقول actually يقول every day if he continues to write one thing positive about her and if every day he continues to say I love you I love you eventually psychologically he's going to accept it and he will start to appreciate her and she will start to appreciate him so that's thinking positive similarly about your own thing yourself think positively about yourself learn to love yourself not by being selfish I'm not saying being selfish no but rather instead of having low self esteem I'm a loser I can't get anything done they say there was a man he was what you call today a loser whatever he business whatever he does everything collapses this guy if you see him coming this way you run away to another street because some disasters going to happen one of those people and he lived an impoverished life one day his wife told him we're so impoverished so she knitted a sweater she knitted something she said go take this salad in the market you get for it buy us some food we're starving he takes the sweater goes around no one wants to buy it so what does he find a fisherman by the sea he sees he has one fish that's old old fish he says how about if I trade you you give me this old fish I'll give you the sweater the guy looks at the knitted sweater is like deal here he goes home his wife says what did you just do what is this I knitted this sweater I worked really hard to do this sweater and this is what you get us for he says يلا خلص بعد فش انا لله وانا ليه راجع okay fine so he starts to cleaning it when he cuts its stomach he finds two gems inside the stomach of this fish the wife says subhanallah great maybe our luck is turning take them and sell them one for each comes home and says look two bags of money they have never seen money in their lives he puts them on the table the wife gets out to do something someone comes knocks on the door this man opens the door yes how can I help you I'm a poor person please help me I don't have anything he says okay you see these two bags of take one of them the man comes takes the bag and goes away with it the wife comes back home what does she do I don't think they had garages back then car garages so that he can sleep in it but the wife was why did you just this all these years were living in poverty now that Allah has given us some you give half of it away what did you just do this poor man came one more bag of a short while later someone else knocks on the door it's the same person the same impoverished person he says to the man this is your bag of money take it I am an angel from Allah Allah wanted to test you you did not have money you were impoverished your whole life now that Allah gave you this what will you do with it will you help people will you look after people and you did when I came as an impoverished man you gave me half of your money so here take it back and Allah sends you his salam and says you will never experience poverty for the rest of your life he took it and went do you call this man a loser he had the faith in Allah the belief in Allah that's a positive thinking so always brothers and sisters think positively if you God forbid experience these financial problems that we were talking about like a trauma things go bad financially think positively I still have my health I still have my family my family is here none of my children are dead none of my family we're good now you're thinking positively I can put in effort now to change things this is positive thinking so this is something important my dear brothers and sisters if you lose your health at least I have my family there is a mu'min he is very ill bedridden but alhamdulillah he is surrounded by his family he is surrounded his son is looking after him this man's wife is there to look after him this is نعمة from Allah نعمة his health is not there but his family is there if you God forbid lose your health lose your money like what else is left your Iman is there okay the dunya is difficult عيسى the prophet who is my neighbor in jannah Allah tells him go to this place you'll find your neighbor in jannah عيسى he finds a place that is ruins a crumbled place ruins he enters he finds someone who is paralyzed can't walk very old blind very poor he is praying he is saying some words عيسى listens this man is saying يا محمد يا محمد يا محمد يا محمد and he is repeating it عيسى يا محمد means oh one who is so kind محمد oh one who is so beautiful and makes me beautiful oh the one who sends his blessings upon me يا شيخ old man where is the blessings of Allah on you عيسى is trying to test him he knows of course but where is the blessings of Allah where is the kindness of Allah you live in this ruin look at the place you live you don't have your health you're paralyzed you're blind where is the blessings of Allah where he says يا روح الله how did he recognize this he is a blind man but his heart is not blind he smells the fragrance of عيسى he says يا روح الله out of all Allah's creation he chose me to take my health away my legs my eyes do you think I'm special out of all Allah's creation Allah chose me to be poor but out of all Allah's creation he made me remember him and do his ذكر so do you not feel that I am showered by Allah's blessings doesn't that tell you I am showered this is where the ayah that says بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم قلوب قلوب indeed in the remembrance of Allah the heart's right tranquility peace positive thinking think about the positive things and if nothing is there think of your إيمان الحمد لله I have the إيمان the love of أهل البيت is in my heart that is the greatest نعم so that's one thing thinking positively what is gratitude some researchers they went to a school they divided the students into two groups one group they told them every day just write something about your day anything about your day today for example I had a lot of homework write it down the second half of the students they told them write down something positive something you are grateful for something you are thankful for what are you grateful for so they started writing down after two weeks they gave 10 $1 bills to each group $1 bills this is the united states so $1 bills 10 of them to each group they said you can spend it in any way you like you can spend it on yourself or you can give it to charity you can give some of it to charity you can keep all of it to yourself it's up to you interestingly what the researchers found is the group that wrote their gratitude journal every day for two weeks they gave up two thirds of their money for charity and they kept only a third for themselves the other group the other group that did not write a gratitude journal but something happens in their day they kept two thirds of the money or more than half of the money they kept it to themselves they did not donate not even half of what they had they kept more than half to themselves and only donated a small portion the conclusion they came with the researchers is that by writing every day something you are grateful for you can improve your mental status you can be happier you can help others you can become generous so gratitude they feel can be taught gratitude being grateful and that is something important what does the Quran say about gratitude وإن شكارتهم لأزيدناكم if you are grateful I will increase you this increase is not necessarily financial increase it's general Allah can increase you financially Allah can increase you psychologically increase you health wise so therefore being grateful gratitude is something that is very important that's the second thing that we need to practice gratitude being grateful don't be hang on to some experiences that may be negative that happened in the past some people just eat themselves a life I wish I did not do this 10 years ago had I not done that business transaction 10 years ago things would have been completely different that's it move on don't be held back move on they say people who establish successful businesses businesses that take off it was not their first experience it was not their second experience it's usually the third experience they started a business and it failed second time it failed third time things took off what is the difference what did they do though they noticed that they sat down and they reflected what strategies did I use that made me fail so they started writing the list down of course that's on average you have some individuals who they start a business and things take off so there are things but on average it takes 3 tries but they sit down and they think next time this is what I'm going to do so they start working that way so don't get hang on to things that happened in the past move on move on move on now here we see thank you now what are the situation now you're approaching you're Mein now you're approaching now now you're approaching now you're أكثر now you're waging now back to you do you understand now you're Waging شخص يشعر أنه يأتي و يقول أنه يأتي بخير خلاص بخير أعلم أنه يأتي بخير يمكنك أن ترى فماذا؟ خلاص شخص يأتي إلى المجلس يقول السلام على كل من لا يقول السلام عليكم ليه الله أكبر أستخفر الله قبي و أتوبه إليه هذا هو المشكلة الأكبر لماذا لم أقول السلام عليكم؟ يتكلمني؟ لا أستطيع أن أستطيع أعتقده خلاص لم أقول السلام عليكم ربما لم أرأيني إذا قلت إذا قلت سلام عليكم أو لم أقول سلام عليكم هل هذا سيجد سيئي my status in Allah أو سيئي my status before Allah خلاص، يشعر لا تتعبوا إلى كل هذا هذا يسمى تغافل في الآخر يوم أعرف أخي يأتي من كامل لكن هذه المشكلة يحاولوا أن تتكلم كل مجموعة مجموعة التي يحدث في مجموعة هذا أصدقائي مع هذا المجموعة أعرفه يقول سيئي you won't believe it لذا أسأل one day أخبرت هذه المجموعة كيف تستطيع أن تتكلم كل مجموعة مجموعة مجموعة مجموعة في الآخر في الآخر في الثانية كيف يمكنكم فعل هذا؟ يقول سيئي what can we do this is something we have to do يقول الناس have expectations هل تعرف شيء سيئي؟ I said what 18 years ago there was a family wedding I could not attend it هل تعرف شيء believe it or not until today whenever the father of the groom sees me he says you did not attend my son's wedding I said 18 years I mean the son has become a grandfather now maybe let go man tell him tell him let go 18 years later you did not attend my son's get over it you have some people like this Subhanallah and tip married couples never do that with your spouse you sit down and you tell her do you remember 10 years ago when you cook that terrible meal but I ate it you remember 10 years ago that's it's okay I will get over it 10 years ago and then she'll say well you know أحمد ربك you know you remember 12 years ago when you forgot our anniversary get over it خلص move on so this is something important don't hang up this is تغافل this is important Imam Ali عليه السلام says one who does not do تغافل من لم يتغافل عن كثير من الأمور on many things then he will not have a happy life Subhanallah you will have a terrible imagine if you get hung up on every word every day you'll come home and feeling miserable and then you'll make everyone's life miserable you lose your appetite you lose who cares خلص move on that's something important تغافل so don't get hung on to everything that you hear from people so one thing we should try to do is staying positive brothers and sisters second is gratitude شكرا being grateful for the many blessings that we have in this world grateful for everything that we have الحمد لله we have so many things to be grateful for we just need to remind ourselves third is don't get hung up on every single thing that happens to you every single experience makes it bothers you box you down brings you خلص move on and go on in your life these are the third things fourth thing helping others try to help other people when you help other people it will make you feel good people feel good some people don't believe in Allah but they try to do charitable work you ask them why do you do all this charity it says it feels good they like it it makes them feel good and that's what psychologists recommend as well helping other people we have a hadith Imam Ali عليه السلام says anytime I'm paraphrasing the hadith anytime you help someone a mu'min especially a mu'min if you help a mu'min Allah سبحانه وتعالى will send you some lot of lot of means gracious some grace from Allah will come and this grace will be there awaiting anytime you experience a problem it will come to help you overcome this problem when you help others Allah will help you we have that hadith that says ارحمو من في الأرض ارحمو كم من في السماء have mercy on those on earth Allah will have mercy on you so help other people helping people makes you feel good when you feel down go volunteer come to the Husseinia help other people give charity give sadaqat these things make you feel good you'll feel good about it that's the fourth thing we need to do fifth thing for us believers my dear brothers and my dear sisters طاعت الله when we obey Allah it makes us feel good when we disobey Allah we don't feel good Allah says بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم ومن اعرض عن ذكري فإن له معيشة ضنكة anyone who neglects my commands and following my remembrance don't you know Allah says go this way I go this way then they will have a very tight living عيشة ضنكة they won't feel happy and we have a hadith about this our person المؤمن is happy when he obeys Allah but is unhappy when he disobeys Allah so why don't we gain our happiness by obeying Allah my dear brothers my dear sisters I mentioned this to some of the sisters today in my talk let us address the way that Allah has pleased with not the fashion dictates because culture changes traditions change today they say okay you gotta wear tights you have to wear this you have to put on this makeup to look beautiful okay tomorrow things might change where do we stop whereas if we adhere to the teachings of the religion Allah it is for our own benefit you obey me you will be happy obey Allah I mentioned this story to the sisters today a friend of mine he applied for medical school in Canada getting into medical school in Canada is very difficult it's not like in UK you have to go through a bachelors degree almost a bachelors degree and then you have to write an exam called the medical MCAT then you have to really go for interviews you have to have a good GPA it's really a process to get accepted into medical school in North America this friend of mine did for years then he did two years of masters and then he wrote the MCAT and then he applied he got to the stage of the interview so now he's at the interview process he goes to the interview he says there were five people interviewing me three males two females I shook hands with the males when the females came to me I said to them I cannot shake your hands it's against my religion but this is how I'm going to greet you one of those females was upset you can see her face shell expression she wasn't too happy I asked him I said to him weren't you worried about getting into medical school this is your career you spent six years studying writing exams applying until you got to the stage what if they rejected you what if they reject you he says so what Sheik it is not at the expense of my religion I'm not going to do something Haram I will not do something Haram if they reject you if they accept me great they don't accept me then Allah has a better plan for me look at the Iman two three months later he calls me he says Sheik I received the acceptance letter from the same university I got in and now he's Mashallah practicing physician in why you thabbit if you support the cause of Allah Allah will support you and even if he didn't get into medical school he knows Allah has a better plan for me I will not disobey Allah he doesn't have to feel with the guilt a mu'min feels guilty when he disobeys Allah سبحانه وتعالى feels guilty I had a person come to me once and says Sheik I am addicted to this particular sin and he's crying he says I know it's Haram Sheik it's making me feel terrible I feel depressed cause I know it's Haram I told him why don't you start listening daily to the Masaaab of Imam al-Hussain peace be upon him make a CD back in those days there were CDs so they make a CD only of Masaaab of Imam al-Hussain just Masaaab that eulogies at the end of them the lecture every day listen to it 2-3 years later I went back to that city to visit that person comes to me he says Sheik do you remember me I said no to be honest with you I don't remember you I remember the one who had that problem do you remember you told me to listen to the Masaaab I said yes now I remember you he said الحمد لله I've overcome my addiction I'm done the Masaaab of Imam al-Hussain peace be upon him helped me overcome these problems my brothers and sisters ذكروا أهل البيت رحمة عباد blessing when we disobey Allah if I dress in a way the shara'a orders me to dress I'm wearing tights I put on the makeup I get out yes people might enjoy my fashion people might enjoy looking at me but deep inside I know this is not what Fatima al-Zahra wants of me am I going to be happy no I'm not whereas when I dress the way that Fatima al-salam is going to be pleased with me that will make me happy yes I may run through problems in life I have received some emails from sisters who say I can't find the job because I wear the abaya I said to her be patient have sabr insha'Allah Allah will reward you Allah will give you the edger in dunya you're going to struggle same thing with the mu'min he also struggles but insha'Allah Allah will reward you and I mentioned today to the sisters I told them remember Sayyida Fatima المعصومة peace be upon her this noble lady Fatima المعصومة was about 28 years old when she died and she was not married which at the time was unheard of 28 year old girl not married in those days yes the political situation was so tense that she couldn't get married so it's okay to strive in the way of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to struggle in the way of Allah I remind and I repeat just like with all the sisters I'm not saying don't get married because if we struggle in this dunya as long as we are on the path of Haq that will make us feel happy tranquility that's what we need to do men and women let's not cut corners play games no I'll go on the path of Haq these are among the things that we can do to make us feel happier feel better these are among the things that we can do feel better positive thinking gratitude not holding on to every single detail that happens in our lives refraining from committing sins staying positive always thinking about being strong having high self-esteem telling yourself that I am good I can stay positive I can succeed in addition to refraining from hanging out with people who are pessimistic some people masha'Allah are so depressive and they depress you with them as well you sit down and you listen to them you start crying nothing positive to say avoid such people pessimistic people stay positive hang out associate with positive people the next thing you can do my dear brothers and your sisters attending Majalis why is attending Majalis good? in addition to of course the blessings in these Majalis the ذكر of أهل البيت it's the community support there is a professor at Columbia State University who is a professor of philosophy and he is an atheist he doesn't believe in God himself doesn't believe in God he wrote a book although he is an atheist he doesn't believe in God yet he says religion cannot be ignored he wrote an article saying what religion gives us that science can't his name is Stephen Asma ASMR he is a professor of philosophy he is not a religious person however he says we cannot neglect the fact that religion does provide relief to people provides support to people that he said we cannot overcome that we may not agree with religion he says we may not find religion rational according to him although I disagree with him the religion of أهل البيت is very rational very logical because we can rationally logically prove there is God there are prophets there are imams there is a day of judgment and I've done this in the past two years ago when I was here in Muharram you can refer to these lectures some of them I have discussed this at length so I want to repeat myself here but it is very logical according to him he says even if we consider religion irrational I disagree with him however he says even then we cannot neglect the fact that religion does provide a lot of relief to those who believe in God and that community support someone feels down people come to him there was a Sayyid in Iran who lived in Germany for many years and he achieved a PhD in psychology his name was Sayyid al-Bahishti he got killed Sayyid Bahishti when he was in Germany he says one day I received the phone call I was told there is a man in the hospital he is an old man but he wants to become a Muslim this was back maybe in the 70s maybe early 80s give or take so we started looking through the phone book you know we found Islamic center of so and so so we called he says it just so happened I was there I picked up the phone they told me they asked me can you come to the hospital because there is an old man who is German he wants to become a Muslim do you want to come he says ok I'll come I'll be there so Sayyid al-Bahishti said I went to the hospital indeed I saw an old man German he wants to become a Muslim I asked him what's going on what is the reason that made you want to become a Muslim when you're so old in the hospital he says you know the bed next to me right here said yes he says two months ago a man came into this bed a person came into this bed next to me in the room this man masha Allah every day ten people come to visit him somebody comes out somebody brings flowers and someone brings someone brings whatever someone comes have you seen masha Allah when someone becomes in the house masha Allah you know they go they say there was a man a scholar not a shiri scholar his name was a shabi a shabi he lived at the time of many umayyah many many years ago a shabi a shabi becomes ill one day becomes ill becomes ill people go to visit so he couldn't sit straight you know he had to lie back like this and stretch his feet he was ill his back he had back pain some people came to visit him so he couldn't stretch his feet you know out of respect so he sat down like this and was painful to him it's mustahab when you visit someone who is ill that you don't take too long don't sit down masha Allah tea coffee whatever خلص you're okay inshallah spend few minutes and get out these people came and masha Allah they're hanging out there maybe if they had nergila back then maybe they were smoking nergila as well with the man you know like we see some of the shabab these days smoking nergila but forgetting about Salat Al Layl and forget Salat Al Layl Salat Al Fajr altogether they forget about it so they sat down at the end خلص the pain is so gets up and picks up his pillow pillow he gets شعبي where you going he said الحمد لله Allah cured me get out خلص الحمد لله لقد شوفية مريضكم خلص I'll become well so this German man says to say it this person masha Allah people coming people going people one day I asked I said is this man is he a prime minister of a country I said no is he some dignitary is he who is this man I said no this is an ordinary person he's a friend of us but you know he fell sick so we come here to help him support him look after his needs he says he's not anyone dignitary no he's just an ordinary person he says I've been in the hospital for two months my children have not asked about me my own children have not looked for me when I saw this I told them what religion is this they said to me because they said this is what our religion mandates our religion says we have to provide support to the one who is ill I asked them what religion is this they told me the religion of Islam so I started thinking about the religion of Islam and then I requested some books here and there I started reading I decided to become a Muslim I want to become a Muslim and hence said came and he did the shahada with this old man he says a week later the hospital calls me and says he died one week this is توفيق توفيق success he died so come and take care of him his son came then when the father died the son came he said I want to sell the body of my father خلاص I want to sell the body they told him no no don't sell it how much do you want to sell it for he wants to sell it to a local hospital so that they can do for example you know examination etc teaching they teach with the bodies he said how much do you want to sell him for he says this much says ok we'll buy him from you they bought the body so he said ok خلاص you do whatever you want with him we took him we took him we buried him سبحان الله so you see brothers and sisters religion provides this comfort this solitude don't live lonely with your pain do not live lonely with the pain اتن مجالس associate with people but don't be hung up on everything the people say oh why did they say this خلاص move on so that's important to be part of a group and that's why I really commend the مؤمنين who've developed some of these foundations like I hear today القيهة foundation there's an Akbar foundation there's other foundations and many others these help provide venues for the youth so that they can feel that they are part of the community they feel connected they don't feel isolated if the youth feel isolated they start going elsewhere والعياذ بالله God forbid joining gangs joining problems substance abuse والعياذ بالله you want to gain them provide them with venues proper training so this is something important the last thing I will leave you with about dealing with mental health is talking to someone don't keep it all inside don't keep it all inside talk to people but Imam Ali A.S. أهل البيت give you criteria they said don't talk to anyone talk to the will more out who are the will more out people you can trust people who fear Allah don't trust your friend Imam Ali says why not because your friend one day can do what become your enemy and when your friend becomes your enemy what he or she is going to do to all your secrets online this is what this person has done as we say have we not seen some friends who turn and they become enemies good friends trust your parents my dear sisters and my dear brothers trust your parents because your parents will not expose you trust people who fear Allah people who generate who have wisdom demonstrate with their wise people trust them and if you can't find anyone interestingly one day جابر ابن يزيد الجعفي the companion of Imam Al Baqar Ali A.S. he came to him and he said you know I've heard so many of your hadith these are heavyweight hadith these ones that I cannot talk to people about them so they really I mean I really feel I need to reveal them to someone but I can't reveal them to anyone Imam Al Baqar told him in that case go dig a hole and speak to the hole now please don't dig holes now in the backyards you know you go home and what are you doing والله الشيخ said to dig holes and if you don't have a backyard some of you will go to the plants in this you know in your house start digging holes maybe talk to the mirror I don't know mirror mirror on the wall and then your father walks in or your mother walks in what are you doing الشيخ told me to speak to the mirror which sheikh is this أسام العطاق okay next time tell me before you go to أسام العطاق I think he's cuckoo does he see a psychologist anyways but Imam Ali or Imam Al Baqar is telling him that fine you don't have to reveal it to someone in our cases I'm not saying talk to the mirror I was just a joke or talk to the hole but reveal it to someone don't keep it inside some people just need to vent venting venting you listen to them they feel good but make sure who you speak you reveal your secrets to parents are a good thing people who fear Allah and they are wise in the community you can't tell who these people are they demonstrate wisdom people who do not expose you don't talk about you even if they have a problem with you they will never expose you because they fear Allah سبحانه وتعالى sometimes they're known in the community so-and-so this sheikh, that's Sayyid this individual this lady very wise people they give you good admonishment speak to people at the end of the day my dear brothers and my dear sisters with all these recommendations I just gave let's turn to أهل البيت عليهم السلام see how much problems they experienced how many problems they faced but their iman in Allah was never shaken so always believe in Allah إمام الباقر has a very nice hadith for you بؤمنين المؤمنات إمام الباقر عليه السلام says a believer a mu'min should have the conviction whatever Allah does for him or her it is for his best whether he is cut into pieces it is for his best or he's made the king of this universe it is for his best if you believe in this if you say Allah will help me then you will be so positive so grateful a man came to me a couple years ago when I was here in London he said sheikh I wanna thank you I said brother I don't even know you he says no I'll tell you what my story is I used to be a pharmacist studying pharmacy at a university that was 3 hours away from home every day I would take the train 3 hours going 3 hours coming that's how many hours اللهم صلى الله عليه وسلم who spoke say salawat to this man اللهم صلى الله عليه وسلم محمد والي محمد وعجل thank you for staying awake brother جزاك الله خير maybe stay with me I'm gonna watch you 6 hours he says at this university in the second year when you finish it you have to write an exam if you don't pass this exam you can't move on to third year and they give you 3 chances I wrote the first exam I didn't pass second exam I did not pass the third exam I continued praying to Allah Allah help me Allah give me success I started studying night and day day and night etc I write the final exam he says and I really was losing sleep over the stress the anxiety you know I couldn't sleep that night when the score was about to be revealed I could not sleep that all night and then I listened to your lecture I said when you can't sleep you listen to me thank you very much it really makes me feel good did I put you to sleep he said I listened to your lecture it just so happened that lecture of yours that I listened to you were talking about hope being hopeful I said okay whatever hopeful and then the morning came the scores came out I failed by 2 marks so long for hope and Sheikh Osama and his hopeful talks he says I became depressed really depressed I started crying I felt my gosh you know my dreams are shattered I can't move on to the third year I have to drop out of this university I started crying I really got into being depressed I closed the door I wouldn't eat etc after a couple days my father walks into the room he says son why are you doing this to yourself he says father and what am I going to do I have been studying 2 years pharmacy now it's over he says son why don't you try applying to other universities maybe another university will accept you he says I was really feeling down but look at the words of encouragement this time it came from a father brothers and sisters be a source of encouragement to others a good word is like when you give a good word of encouragement to person and that's why I go back to that example I mentioned at the beginning of my talk when you see someone who's a bit overweight don't tell her Masha'Allah you've gained weight Alhamdulillah don't say it it could be something that she's sensitive about or someone the men they're very sensitive about their hair sometimes you look at somebody you say Masha'Allah look at all this Oh Allah he could be sensitive to this this is something that he doesn't feel calm and now he's going to go home feeling depressed don't make fun of somebody's looks you might think that's funny he may not think it's funny she may not think it's funny but look at the other way give them encouragement try don't give up I will try keep on trying this father to this told this young man his son try son try put in the effort why don't you look at this university we have a university in our backyard look at them maybe they will accept you so he helped me my father helped me we put in the application form and we submitted it surely they accepted me in third year a university he says that is better than the university I was at before a university that's in our backyard it literally takes me 20 minutes to get to it how long did it take him to take to go to the other one huh I sent 3 hours every day 6 hours going and coming 6 hours now it takes me 20 minutes to go because of that I am much more concentrating on my studies not only this I am now participating in the Muslim societies I am volunteering I am doing a lot because I have so much more time I've gained almost 5 hours on my day that I used to waste on the train so he said to me he said Shaykh failing that test was the best thing that happened to me الله this is what he told me and he said I really appreciate your words of hope now I really appreciate now that you got over your depression you appreciate my words of hope so the moral of the story listen to my words of hope boys and girls before you get into depression huh okay so maybe the next mode of getting out of mental health issues to listen to that's basically it next being this hopeful individual when you experience problems it's okay that's what Imam Al-Baqar says don't feel this is the end of the life in this case this man young man it took him only few months to realize that greatness of his loss or of his failure he's not a failure he's a successful man and they got accepted in the better university third year within two years he finished now he's practicing as a pharmacist finished happily ever after but sometimes it's not so quick sometimes it takes ten years before you realize why was it good for me to lose that job sometimes you may not even realize until the achara in the achara الله will tell you do you know why you got fired from that position I'll say why Allah it really give me because of this status you have in jannah look at your status now in jannah look at this when you look at it you say my God I wish I had lost every job I did but we don't realize it back then but we need to be convinced Allah loves us so you see for example زينا بسلام الله عليها is there any greater loss than losing إمام الحسين سلام الله عليها after رسول الله after فاطن she lost رسول الله she lost فاطمة سلام الله عليها at such a young age she lost أمير المؤمنين سلام الله عليها she lost إمام الحسن سلام الله عليها and she lost إمام الحسين all أصحاب الكساء she witnessed their losses one after the other and then the tents are burnt children are weeping her brothers are brutally slaughtered in front of her eyes yet إمام السجات says on the day of عشراء at night the eve of the 11th of محرر I see زينا بسلام الله عليها my aunt praying صلاة الليل صلاة الليل I tell you this brothers and sisters when you feel down pray صلاة الليل I tried this myself and last night one mu'min came to me and said my sons and I have been trying صلاة الليل for the past two years after I came in محرر I'm couple years ago and I spoke about it he says we've been trying it it has changed our lives my children I see their أخلاق has changed because of صلاة الليل because there is a hadith when you pray صلاة الليل it will improve your أخلاق when you pray صلاة الليل it will improve your financial situation when you pray صلاة الليل it will improve your physical and mental health we have a hadith about this because one of the beauties of صلاة الليل is you stand in the middle of the night and you say you say أستغفر الله ربي وأتوبه إليه أستغفر الله او Forgive me يا الله Forgive me and then you start shedding some tears on your cheeks if you can out of the greatness of Allah the fear of Allah the love of Allah that will make you feel great إمامة سجات said I saw my aunt Zaynab praying to Allah صلاة الليل the only difference is she was sitting down not standing up so I asked her my aunt why are you praying while sitting down she said my nephew يا ابن أخي I lost my strength I can't after today but she did not even forget about not her daily صلاة صلاة الليل you feel sometimes down pray صلاة الليل read زيارة عاشورة it makes you feel good for 40 consecutive days if you can't read all the hundred times سلام if you can fine just read it once but 40 consecutive days pray it and read it and read other دعاء دعاء that make you feel good like دعاء كومي if دعاء كومي it makes you feel good read دعاء دعاء التوصل read دعاء توصل توصل ذكر of Allah ذكر of أهل البيت ألا بذكر الله تطبئن القلوب in the remembrance of Allah the heart find peace and tranquility then زيناب عليها السلام goes as a prisoner تقوف تو مراجع تقليد they had a student who later he himself also became مرجع التقليد they were sitting the three of them together they asked that student of theirs why don't you read مصائب for us eulogies of أهل البيت that student he said I don't know how to read مصائب I don't know I'm not trained he said okay how about you read them from a textbook we'll give you a book you read said okay they brought him a book they said read said I opened the book those two مرجع are sitting there I am reading at the time he was a student later he became a مرجع I opened the book and I read the first sentence what is the first sentence دخلت زيناب علبن زياد زيناب entered before ابن زياد in the court of عبيد الله زياد he said the minute I read that sentence these two مرجع التقليد these two great علم they burst in tears and they started weeping ايوا حسينة they started crying weeping I waited for them to calm down so that I can continue but they continued morning crying weeping and then one of the two مرجع one of those two علماز noticed he heard to me and he said be patient with us if you were only to understand the magnitude of the calamity of that sentence زيناب the daughter of أمير المؤمنين the daughter of the house of purity and impeccability and infallibility a lady who's her whole life she's treated as a princess by her brothers now she becomes a prisoner and enters the court of عبيد الله ابن زيات and then عبيد الله comes to ask her ما رأيتي أو كيف فرأيتي صنع الله فيك وفي أهل بيتك how do you see what Allah did to you and to your family members what do you think about that she looks at him with all her strength the strength of يبن أبيطان and she says ما رأيتي إلا جميلة anything that comes from Allah is beautiful but it is you who killed my family يبن زيات you are the one who brought me here you look at this nobility look at that positive feeling positive thinking that love of Allah that faith this is what we need to learn of زيناب صلى الله عليه وسلم one of the things we need to learn of her is her love to Allah her patience her strength and implemented in our lives and then she goes into her journey from كربلا to كوف كوف to شاب as she enters شام she sees how the situation is when she was in kufa she remembered the day when she entered with her father أمير المؤمنين صلى الله عليه وسلم one day after the burial of السيدة الزهراء صلى الله عليه وسلم سيدة الزهراء in her will to Imam Ali asked him she said يا علي وقراء القرآن على قبري فإن الميت يأنس بقراءة القرآن read the Quran over my Qabr because the May'it enjoy the recitation of the Quran so sometimes in the middle of the night when nobody is around no one is watching Imam Ali would go in hiding to the Qabr of السيدة الزهراء and recites the Quran one night his eyes snoozed he saw السيدة الزهراء عليه السلام she said to him يا علي get back to the house now he says يا مولاتي sometimes he used to call her يا مولاتي or يا سيدة sometimes although he is her Imam but that's he knows her reverence before Allah he says يا مولاتي I am here with you let me stay with you away from this dunya the pain of this dunya she said يا علي but Zainab my five year old daughter has just woken up in her the house and she is calling she is crying she is saying يا علي يا أبتا go back to her calm her down comfort her أمير المؤمنين السلام rushes back to the house as he enters he finds يا علي crying يا أبتا يا أيها أمير المؤمنين عليها السلام comes to her the little girl five years old just lost her mother فاطمة السلام عليها he comes he hugs السيدة Zainab السلام عليها he kisses her he comforts her he says my little girl what happened she said يا فاضر يا أمير المؤمنين I woke up in the middle of the night I remembered my mother فاطمة يا I يم و شل شل اللي لبضلا يم و صرنا من بعد ات ات my little girl than what happened I miss my mother فاطمة I know she's no longer here with us so I started calling you I started crying أيها أبتا أيها عليها I don't see you يا أمير المؤمنين I didn't hear you my father إبام علي cried he said my little girl here I am I'm here with you I did not leave you I will be there for you I say يا أمير المؤمنين Where were you on the day of عاشرة وان زينب صاد the head of امام الحسين on the spears of بني امي and she cried أيها عليها وفنشلون انسبين وفنشلون انسبين ات ستر ابتا وان زينب I cry come and see your son حسين on the planes of the horses of بني امي حسين on the spears of بني امي وان زينب return to مدينة انسا امام البني وان she told her يا امام البني فنكاربلا got cut off فنكاربلا حسين امام البني we used to go to the cemetery of بقي she made four graves and the fifth one representing that of امام الخسين عليه السلام she lived for about three years after كاربلا imagine ام البني three years after كاربلا every day she would go to the grave of بقي cemetery of بقي she sits there and she cries لا تدعو ام البني ام البني تذكريني بليود دونت كولم ام البني ننمور I have lost all my sons كانت بنون ليأدعاب واليوم اصبحت ولا من بني تعتقول يا علي تشعر اكما اخبروا انقطيع اليمن انه سيعلم الذين ظلم ايام انقل بني انقلبون الحمد باعا مجلس هذا هم جصه يشا الله حاجات هفلظنا gate with ام البني بطهون اقل ألن ساعي بالجير وال south of أهم بيت All right هافل السلام هجي سmania الشايطان جين بسم الله اني عذuary كل واية ما جمع إن شاء الله أنسر الضعاء بسمك العظيم الأعظم الأعزل أجل الأكرم تن تائمس تجذر يا الله يا الله يا الله ومعليا وسر المستودع فيها اكشف عن نسوء يا الله اللهم اغفر ذنوبنا كفر عن ناسياتنا وتوفنا مع الابرار يا الله إلهي بباب الحوائج أم البنين اجعلنا ودريةنا إلى يوم الدين من شعة الزهراء المتقين يا الله وخدمت الإمام الحسين المخلصين يا الله ورزقنا شفاعتهم في الدنيا وفي القبر وفي الآخر يا الله اللهم اقضي حوائج المؤمنين والمؤمنات شاف وعاف جميع مربى المؤمنين والمؤمنات اكشف هذه الخم عن هذه الأم اللهم ومن أوصونا بالدعاء منهم اقضي حوائجهم شاف مرضاهم احفظهم في أنفسهم وأوطانهم وديارهم وذويهم وأهلهم بحفظك ورحمتك يا أرحم الراحمين رب غفر لي ولوالدي وللمؤمنين يوم يقوم الحساب رب رحمه ما كما رب ياني صغير اجزه ما بالإحسان احسانا وبالسيات غفرانا رب جعلني مقيمة الصلاة ومن درلية ربنا وتقبل دعاء اللهم عجل لي وليك الفراج وجعلنا من شيعة وأنصاري وأعواني والمستشهدين بين يدي نحن نساعد هذه الدعاء هل يمكن الله من خلال مرسي نحن نساعد الإمام إلى هذا المجلس إن شاء الله نرى لنا ونقر كلنا As is companions together إن شاء الله اللهم كل وليك حجت بنال حسان صلاوان تكاء حتى تسكنه أرضا كانت متعة قام تكاء اللهم القضال حوائج الشفاء المرضا ولكشفها دي الغم عنا دي لوم ولتعجيل فرجمون لانا صاحب العسرو والزمان إلى الروح مواتنا وأموات الجالسين والحاضرين والباذلين والمساهمين والمؤسسين والشهداء والعلماء رحم الله من يقرى السورة المباركة الفاتحة مع الصلوات