 Ladies and gentlemen Let me see here Go ahead and get started now. No love life says you finna get her question in a God bless y'all Hold on one second commercial break. I had to invite the Lord in the room make so we Rockin with the Lord Q&A been together two years fell pregnant early in our relationship and We stopped being intimate A year after our baby. He makes every excuse To not want to sleep with me. We sleep in separate rooms Well being together two years You fail pregnant trip and fell and got pregnant and Now he don't want to sleep in the room with you Now I'm gonna tell you this now Okay, it's a couple. It's a couple things right there He either done caught something that he don't want to give you So one thing I always tell people don't ever beg somebody to sleep with you because somebody could have been tripped and fell into a STD So he couldn't contract that he'll okay. He'll his HIV or something else And so sometimes that's one of the things okay, that's worst case the other case he Hanzala Nasty movies. That's what he in his other room doing nasty movies Hanzala the other one He got another woman So while he in that other room he caught her on the phone on on the text or what have you so listen If you got to beg somebody to be with you That mean you need to be by yourself. That mean you need to go on go about your business Because he don't want you go on about your business. Don't you can't want somebody that don't want you, okay? Now hold on now somebody say they finna skip the line somebody say they finna jump in the VIP line pretty Tars. God bless you now dating one month one month in 30s he got laid off and had to move in with mom Ever since been distant with me, but on IG all day He postponed date night last week due to no money Hasn't rescheduled started smoking track shoes. Absolutely. Go ahead and leave one month. You ain't wasted no time It's still early. So gone about your business. It's still early gone about your business I'm Henderson. God bless you now Why would a man ask you to come back and you do then he asked for space saying he needs to work on himself Sounds like BS to me. So I left you did the right thing. That's exactly what it was You did the right thing Coach Chris God bless you. I rewatched your long distance relationship video and I have personally never done it until this Uh-huh 19 situation the joy vice change Due to this season or should we just not do it? Well, this season is a special thing But you still got to watch the signs the signs still can affect you. You still got to be just as creative With this here situation now I don't know why y'all can't see each other because of this hill, you know season unless y'all so far away That you can't fly or something like that Then that plays a part, but I'm gonna tell you, you know a long distance for a man is It's as close to non-existent as this is it's gonna be, you know You remember that movie the Truman show where they had the camera on the man life Okay flight shut down. You really almost got to have a camera on a man 24-7 So it's kind of like you just got to trust you just got to trust and you just got to be okay See no evil here. No evil what you don't know won't hurt you That's when this that's when this go in the play what you don't know won't hurt you You know, that's that's that long distance it take faith and listen We don't even do right for God, you know what what and we never seen God ain't never heard them audibly Ain't never seen them shook his hand and we'll do right for him human being See you know you but you ain't got no power. So We have to ask ourselves what make us think a person gonna be faithful to a human if they can't be faithful to God When God all knowing God all seeing God got all power So when that long distance there you got to be very creative and really on top of it for it to for it to work Shanika God bless you not known God since November talk on and off until April He comes back end of May and now more consistent with communication and coming to see me Should I be leery or do you think he's serious? Well, you definitely should be leery, but it's not like he juggling women He juggling women and he might be in between right now and you his hold me down one So you might get left again because I'm gonna tell you like this right here When a man want you You never off See whenever you say whenever you say off and on That's a red flag because a man ain't never off a woman that he want to be on you hear me Man ain't never off a woman that he want to be on so if a man won't you He gonna be there. So y'all met in November Y'all was off and on until April. So y'all ain't even make it five months before he was inconsistent You see what I mean? So that right now. That's a red flag me personally. I'll be lacing up them track shoes y'all go To Sheena God bless you been dating a guy for eight months Met his dad and stepmom and friends took me on dates and courted me on his birthday I got him a gift of going to a b-ball game and After he's gone hot and cold what to do y'all to go It's been eight months. So really when you get the eight months You in that time of decision, you know, where a person finna make a decision So you got about 12 months for a man to know if he's going to you know, want to marry you Or if he gonna want to move on with his life, you got about 12 months So it's eight months and now he want to move on with his life What does that mean? that mean that It's time for you to chalk it up and say oh glad ain't waste two years three years again What I just said to the other young lady applies to you a man never often on with a woman he want to be on Crystal God bless you now. Is it healthy to start dating a friend of the opposite sex? Would it be more beneficial? Because both of y'all know everything about each other or would it damage the friendship? Crystal, you know Anything is possible, but I'm gonna tell you from what I've seen I've never seen that situation work out and here's why you got to understand why it's dangerous to date a friend Because what you got to realize is that if a man want you you're gonna know it early on So when a man is okay being your friend that mean either He don't want you or he knows he don't deserve you. It's one or the other So when you you can't go from platonic friendship that mean, you know, y'all ain't nothing Y'all just strictly friends to romantic interest. That's not that's not smart. See it's different when your friends meaning your building a friendship but With a romantic interest meaning the two of y'all come in and you say, you know, I want to be with you I want to be with you both of y'all say that but you say let's be ill So now y'all building a friendship, which every relationship the foundation should be friendship But there's an understanding that y'all want to be together that you want to be intimate relationship or romantic relationship, but when you come in as platonic friends You should never go from Strictly platonic to trying to be together because somebody ain't want somebody and so When you take that risk what you got to realize is that people who come together With the intention to be together 90% of those fail so It coming together From friends to trying to be together When you fail if you fail now, you don't lost a friend too So typically what this happens is y'all get bored You get lonely not as 19 to hit so y'all talking so much and it's like all what the heck So it's kind of like adapting to your environment So to speak is kind of like when a man in prison a whole long time a lot of men in there eventually say well Okay, all right, and then someone go to tip and cross that line back from both sides of the plate That's the same thing with platonic friends. Y'all get so bored Being just friends and neither one of y'all finding love y'all start to look at each other like an appetizer You see what I mean? That's what that is. So you got to understand that now Shawanna God bless you now, baby daddy trying to act like we're together when I take our one-year-old to see him in his family I don't entertain him But now wants me to meet the women he cheated with so She can come over he's not an active father Mm-hmm. So, you know, he's wasting all your time. So what you need to do is just make it aware It's strictly by the baby, you know, it can't be nothing else just by the baby, you know, you don't don't get caught up Entertainment foolishness you already know that's foolishness. So it's a talk to him about the baby any question outside of that. All right, I got to go Thought see you later Got to go area Henry. God bless you now Child's father girlfriend Okay, now y'all with all these abbreviations CF GF Childfather girlfriend wrote posts on Facebook FB About the issue with me and my child's father have going on pertaining to our son Should I say anything? Me and him don't get along Well, listen, you know with that right there, I keep that issue with him. I keep that issue You talking about it. Just letting letting them know that they're getting under your skin But if a woman that childish, I really don't want my child around cuz you know what she doing your child your child over there That won't like your mama Thumb your child if your child old enough talk to yourself She thumb your child in the head while the baby sleep while the child sleep and then run out the room She she cooking for your child and he 10. Okay. He could talk. So when he sleep She gonna be thumbing them in the head Then when she cook for him, she gonna be putting too much salt and pepper in his food Trying to give him childhood diabetes because if she that childish to go on her Facebook To talk about the issue her man Your ex got with you So Facebook supposed to be her journal. She on there with your business She too childish to be around my child. I would have my child over there No, brother, you got to come on here and see your child with supervised Visitation cuz I ain't going around that nutcase Trying to tell you to Sheena. God bless you now. I'm 21 and just turn my life Back to God. I will be working on my three bees after throwing this man away. Thank you I feel like I'm seeing signs that I could be a life coach I want to but am I too young God bless you now see a life coach. You could go where you celebrate it So what I mean by that is I became a professional life coach at 23 But I went where I was celebrated, you know, the people who needed my message and what I was doing You could be a mentor to 18 year old women 16 year old women a lot of times parents want to hire a young life coach like Under the age of 30 or under the age of 25 to mentor their teenager So we got coaches on my mentor dot life Which the link might be in the description. I don't know on my mentor dot life. We got coaches on there Round your age, you know 25, you know, maybe a little younger and It's parents that a higher coach to coach day 15 16 year old So you could go where you celebrate it if your life story is convincing enough It could be people that's older than you that needs some wisdom from your story because you live through it before they live Through it and that's what happened with me Queen heart God bless you now was friends with a man for 10 years Intimate at times not serious Started working on me and became more platonic. He started an argument about me hanging with a new man and disappeared He was never serious. So what's the big deal? Well, that let you know that me and territorial So he saw you as his property. He saw you as his territory So it's kind of like, you know, you'll see a child have a toy and That's what sit over there in the corner all day every day Somebody else brain a kid over they go over there and pick up that tour And they go over there and want to grab that toilet like hey Touch that toy in three months. No, that's my favorite toy. And so that's what you was you was his favorite toy He touch you sometimes Okay, you want to change your life so he couldn't touch you now you dealing with another man But he saw you as his friend with benefits as his play toy now He see you like another man play toy. He got an attitude get on up out of them But it's also to show you that he never wanted to be a genuine platonic friend He wanted to be friends with benefits So he used that as an excuse to be mad at you so he could get you his behind the kiss So he can move on with his life without you saying, oh you nasty slept with me and then left stop talking to him Nicola God bless you down there. I see you down there Ebony bless you now my feelings towards my birth father is one of indifference I have completely cut him off from my life But my family keeps pressuring me to speak with him He has never been in my life by the way how to deal 31 Ebony you got to do what what you want to do Okay, you got to do what you want to do and you got to ask yourself is talking to him gonna bring you stress trauma pain Anxiety if it's gonna make your life worse because of the feelings that you're feeling then it wouldn't be healthy for you If it's if you're indifferent then you could be a blessing to his life You could be his flowers before he sees his grave You know, you could be the one that he looks in your eyes and he eventually sees his wrongs and he has a you know Come to Jesus moment so to speak for lack of a better term So you could benefit his life Even if it's not benefiting your life And that could be your gift to him and it helps him look in the mirror and see the error in his way See where he went wrong and regret the fact that he wasn't there for you And that he wasn't a better man and he can make that change before he go on the glory So it could be a moment of growth for you So when you keep distance that means that you actually are hurting Nicola God bless you now that that the thought of him to look of him and all that could be affecting you Lovely rose God bless you now men today say it's hard to find a wife But when they have a wife some were cheap men will also say divorce is not an option But well again cheap, please translate this man-glish speech into English Well, I'll tell you what lovely rolls. Let me ask you this. What does E equal MC squared mean? You don't know I don't know don't nobody know about our time you see what I mean So some of the things that men do It's not gonna make sense ain't nobody gonna be able to understand it You just got to understand so it's you got grown boys and you got grown men When you see a man saying something ridiculous that's stupid that don't make no sense That's a grown boy, and you can't get caught up In the weeds or wallowing in the mud trying to understand the thought process of a grown boy What you got to realize is that's just not your husband. That's not the man for you and gone about your business Natasha God bless you now keep up the word you change the lives every day a blessing Nicola bless you now I look like I've seen his name again Talking to a guy long distance. He told me he wasn't in us in a space for anything serious However, he still wants to visit me. What should I do? Cut your line off to him cut your line off When a man tell you that he's not in a space for anything serious and you want something serious Go on about your business because if you entertain that what's gonna happen is that man gonna come in your life And when he comes in your life He's gonna you gonna let him be a friend and the next thing you know You're gonna be on your back friends with benefits, but there's no benefits to being friends with benefits So guess what when a man when you hear a man say something That he wants or don't want and you don't agree with that for your life gone about your business Latina God bless you now dated a guy when we were 17 after that we both went our separate ways I had kids he got married for seven years recently saw him and he said They are about to get divorced. I told him we can't be until it's official You did the right thing you did the right thing stay out the way now Because sometimes a man will give you that we bought the divorce lie so you can get you on your back the weaver God bless you now bless you Had to cut off my ex after two years of manipulation. I now hate him and how he has made me feel I'm no longer interested. I've blocked him, but we have a seven-year-old together. I don't know what to do Well, you're gonna have to do the work spirit love You're gonna have to do the work because what you're not doing the work What this is on me? Oh, y'all see my head was a limp, but I thought I had a great health With you not doing the word That's just hurting you and your child So what that means is with you not growing you're not healing Because you're not feeling and so what you're gonna have to do is you're gonna have to heal your heart and Learn the lessons from what you went through with him and then seek to understand Then be understood when you look at him You're gonna realize his errors his shortcomings where he was in love where he wasn't trained where he wasn't taught and then you're gonna understand It's really not Something he had against you. It's just his lack of preparation And so you can forgive him and forget him what that means is forgive him and forget about being with him But if he's growing and he's man enough to be a father to y'all's child without being toxic Then that could benefit your child So don't hurt your child because you hurting and that's what you got to separate Because a man could be a great father, but not a good husband or not a good boyfriend or not a good co-parent But as long as he's not Abusive and toxic with that child and that child loves them Then you got to take your feelings out the way because see the way a man treat his child That's innate because that child come from him So he could know how to love that child But the way he treats you you come from a different bloodline you foreign to him You don't come from him. So he has to learn love in that area and so He may love his child and not love you and that's what you got to understand and don't make your child suffer and be Daddy list because Your feelings hurt Tasha God bless you now. I Had a session today and it went great. Are you supposed to send out life coach agreement? She was throw when I did I feel like I'm being extra. Um You you can if you want to I don't send I don't send out the life coach agreement But you can if you want to I don't do it cuz like you say some people be thrown off They'll be confused like whoa what we say I'm signing my life away What this is a contract what you think I'm gonna sue you because the thing about it I'm hoping they ain't got the money to sue you anyways and then to you ain't saying nothing worth getting sued over So if you see somebody take it like that, but then you're gonna have one out of a hundred that they wanted that agreement You know so you got to pick your style and what's comfortable for you If you feel like you being extra send that life coach agreement I'll send it out for the extra people the people who extra who be asking me About do you have forms for clients to sign and all that but I don't I don't use those The truth God bless you now my husband was hurt by his son's mother who left him With a newborn and disappeared now he is angry at all black women and takes it out on me How can I deal with this by packing your stuff and leaving? That's not your place to deal with his pain and his hurt that he taken out on black women You know user be a fool to stay there, you know, you'll be a fool to stay there Come on now what you post how you both deal with it. You're supposed to deal with it That's not part of the covenant for you to be his punching bag his all of that right there No, I'm up out of here play boy. You can't act right. No don't be don't you take this out on me and to be honest Which it ain't got nothing to do with what she did He just he just like that Yeah, man, he got all kind of childhood pain so you could call it out Let him know This ain't gonna fly This what we need to do by if he don't want to change gone about your business gone about your business none Candice God bless you. I've been with my boyfriend since June 2019 He's very emotionally supportive and we talk for hours. How can I slow down and remove sleeping together until marriage? well, if he Emotionally supportive and y'all talk for hours. You got a perfect situation because in that Two-hour conversation you could say, you know, hey, I Won't talk to you about something something I was thinking about, you know I feel like we built love and I think that we ought to you know Have a relationship without sleeping together Because I feel like that'll help us bond even more and build on true friendship and Affirm foundation so being here mostly supportive and being a hidden road the bicycle She is different when you ain't let him ride the bicycle, but he didn't roll the bicycle He didn't test throw the Porsche so now that he know he like how to the Porsche handle the curves And he like how you know it get up zero to 60 now It's like, okay, sir. You can't keep test driving is her Porsche. You're gonna have to Put down the money to drive it off the lot. So guess what when you pull that out of the relationship He gonna say, you know what you my wife. Let's get married Like a jagged edge Cool come Chris God bless you now Met a guy. He's 50. I'm 36 He's seeing cool so far. He wants to marry and have kids. So do I Gave him my number. How long should I wait for him to call before I delete him? Is he too old thoughts? Okay, now listen Now with the way people falling off the date with all these steroids and our food That man could be up out of here Before y'all second child graduate high school. You hear me? So listen You You young enough to be a daughter, you know, a lot of men have had a first child around that age around around 14 So I'm tell you like this. Yes, he too old He too old for you because he don't want to marry you. He gonna be trying to re-raise you and you're gonna have a headache So bad you gonna have to get a job at etc. You hit me like I told y'all the other day on the video You gonna have to get a job at etc. So you have readily access Come on now. You need to be with somebody that's in your same generation So y'all listen to the same music you're on the same path in life your body ticking around the same body clock timing You know 15 36 that body clock timing is totally different Okay, 10 years from now y'all are being on two different planet planets for a man now if you was if if The 50 year old was the woman women don't age as as bad as men in most cases So but in that case right there Your child will be be slipping up calling his daddy granddaddy Come on, that's your um, that's your papa like no they come from you Akira God bless you reunited with a man after 10 of no contact I'm 33 he's 37 said he was too immature and wasn't ready then and wants to try again What to do cheating was not a factor in our breakup? Well, listen It's a gamble, you know, it's a gamble you taking a gamble Me personally, I don't trust it sound like he bored. It sound like he wanted some 19 love making Because it's one thing to break up with somebody but for a man to let you go a whole 10 years of your life And not reconnect with you in the whole 10 years I don't think he wanted you to be honest with you And I think you just the best option right now that he could waste some time with And maybe shoot his shot and if he hit the jackpot he hit the jackpot if he don't you got a broken heart And he gone by this business and that God bless you now boyfriend of four years We are under 25 met at 19. He is perfect, but just a minute He cheated he cheat without me finding out because we are new Christians and want to start fresh This was before we gave our life to God should I run Now I'm gonna tell you, you know, he told you He told you to be honest with you 99.9% of men round that age that you want to date don't will have cheated on you He didn't told you because he want to get it off his chest But the flip side of that is is he really walking with the Lord? Because sometimes a man will tell you that he cheated on you just to see if you willing to accept cheating So to be honest with you if you're gonna be with him You probably at least need to pull back for a couple weeks no contact to say I need time to think about this and Then watch his behavior in them two weeks Because if you don't skip a beat and you just accept that cheating and you don't leave and you don't get you No distance to get no time to think and to pray and to talk to the Lord to see if everything else about him is right Then he could he could lose respect for you and say okay, boom Let me know I could cheat because she ain't ain't skip a beat. She ain't ask for no time She ain't ask for a break. She just was like, okay. All right. I'm gonna figure you cuz the Bible say forgive So, you know, he could use that against you Leah the warrior God bless you now, how do I ask the man? I'm dating where he sees this going without saying that exact thing I'm 32. He's 37. We've been dating since February. No red flags. Okay, March, April, May, June All right, so you right around this time right now to where he ought to be tell telling you where it's going You shouldn't have to ask a man where it's going. You should be able to see where it's gone So if you can't see where it's gone, then you need to see where you need to be gone You hear me? So if if he driving you and you got a blindfold on and You didn't been driving for four months and you still ain't arrived at no kind of destination It's time to take that blindfold off and say, oh, yeah, can you pull over at this next stop? I'm gonna catch a Uber bike this way here So it's time for you to make a decision because you can't ask a man where you're going Because that's his job to show you and tell you so if he ain't doing that He ain't going no, well, and if you following the man that ain't going no, well, you're gonna end up with no well Nikia Dunham God bless you my husband and I have been going through a storm He told the other woman we were getting a divorce. So he gave up the cookies So she gave up the cookies since then him and I've been communicating about our future. Okay All right Well, yeah, so it looked like now what you got here in the key you got a husband that's playing both of y'all So you you will be a fool to stay you'll be a fool to stay and that's why y'all were going through the storm So in the midst of the storm He didn't cancel he didn't cancel your femur trailer in the midst of him Causing a storm knocking the roof off your house off off your life. He done cut the funding the femur They let you just float out there and then go and gets another woman When her and that's just the one you know about could have been two or three and then I communicate about your future You were the dog You were the trash bag like what I talked about today in my video today watch that video from the day You were the trash bag because a man who want to work out with you. He's not going to go sleep with another one Come on now. Don't play yourself. Don't play yourself because see Reason why you getting caught up right now. It ain't bought love for him now. You compete in with her Now you don't want her to win because she didn't slept with your Cheating sorry husband now. You don't want her to win better check yourself. Come on now. Don't play yourself Cherise Garcia. God bless you now Tony. What does it mean when a guy says you're his future wife? nothing Nothing Don't mean nothing at all Don't mean nothing at all. What does it mean when a guy put a ring on your finger? Take you down to the courthouse sign that dotted line That mean you're his wife When a guy say you his future wife You know what that mean? That's what it mean Right there nothing That's all it mean The glow needs to God bless you when I think of my ex the next day or two. He tries to contact me I never respond. This always happens. It's like my thoughts trigger him to contact me Never had never slept together. Do you think this is a soul time? Hey now what you now what you just spoke on That's right down the whole nother level in this hill now look at old Bob proper look at old Bob probably not Bob I think Bob proper Christian now, but it's but it ain't it's something else about what you talking about You know, it just it's just a way to mind. It's a way to mind work That's the way to mind work because what you got to realize is like You know what Bob what Bob was talking about. I said well Bob making a lot of sense now I mean, I'm here on the phone and I doubt his number The China and I put that phone on my end. I hear rain and all it is. It's just a signal Bop-bop-bop-bop-bop going across the line and then my client in China pick up the phone Hello, and I'm like, hey, what's going on? Hey, Tony and so now we talking They way in China Yeah, me so that same frequency That that that right there that that phone on a lot of time. That's that's the exact way to mind work So it happened to me all the time I was just thinking about my homeboy that I grew up with you know, I'm thinking about him a whole day He text me the next day. It's just a frequency and and and you gonna notice this now That's too deep because a lot of people that's you know to say to to earth to heavenly mind it to be in an earthly good Don't understand that's really what the Bible talking about when it's such as a man think of so he is and to call those things That be not to be as though they were and that faith is the substance of things Hope for and the evidence of things not seen see faith is the substance of things hope for So see really what this mind it working all different kind of ways So the same way you could think about him and then he writes you That's the same way that you could be thinking about your promotion that you could be thinking about your raise that you could be thinking about your Husband because see when you think about your husband see stop thinking about your ex and start thinking about your husband And then your energy gonna be different You're gonna be smiling you're gonna be feeling good because you telling yourself I could meet my husband the day I could meet my husband the day and you walk past that man And he see that good energy on you. He see that good vibration on you. He see that you smiling you feeling good And he and he come right on up to you Because you've been telling yourself on wife ready My husband on the way now see people who to save don't understand that later wrote me about that Tom my energy and all that ain't in the Bible You could don't say energy Don't mean that ain't what it's talking about when it's telling you about your thoughts your mindset your attitude The way you love your neighbor. That's energy But it's just some folks, you know, but a that's on that's something else deep So what it need what it mean is you need to get the lessons from that relationship Learn from it write them down. You could write a book about it if you need to and then start focusing on your next instead of your ex Actually, God bless you now Was dating a guy for eight months with so many red flags from communicating with ex Smoked a lot of weed liquor wine daily. No car But kept the job will he ever change never slept together But not over him. Well That's just the way the mind work, you know, you not over him cuz you spent time with him You built with him But listen, that's too many red flags right there. Okay, don't worry about it He gonna change where you change where you when you go about your business. See that's that's one too many red flat right there You'll be that minute red flag. He got a fire station and All that right that what he got going on. No, I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you now You better stretch and take off running and don't stop take off running. Don't stop trust me when I tell you now So one of God bless you. Thank you. Bless you Tony in your family. Hey, God bless you now Christie John bless you now. Hi Tony. I've been dating the guy for over a month now He is consistent with daily conversations Going on dates and spending quality time together. He has one child should I buy him a small father's day? Give for a car. Yeah, get him a car What you've been dating for over a month now get him a card with a $25 gift card to somewhere that he might like like You know dick sporting goods or you know somewhere, you know, Xbox if he playing that or Amazon get him a car with a $25 gift card whenever you're doing gifts and this person's not your person like y'all not an exclusive Relationship you just do a car with a $25 gift card. Don't be the Thirsty with the tongue hanging out and go spend a hundred two hundred and fifty five hundred All of trying to show where your money at get a little 25 dollar It's the thought that count because you only know this man a month So that mean you could get a man at at the red light who be asking you for a dollar every day You give him 25 dollars because you know them the same amount of time. You see what I mean She won a God bless you now bless you bless you bless you Thoughts on letting a young child over her dad girlfriend house he changed every other month about If he will be getting his his own One year don't really know him See her every few months since the break up He only wants her when he was with me broken up since October 2019 Shawana you gonna need a coaching session because with all that right there all them slashes in there and all that that sound like That sound like a tolu pair sitcom right there So listen, you're gonna need a session with that right there I should want to cause and I'm gonna tell you this way this way you got to realize this right here Whenever it come to listen to the determination one and everybody on here with a child whenever it come to your child Don't ever let your child at your site if you not 100% Confident with where your child going if you got any reservations about your child whereabouts when you let that child go over there Then you need to require Supervised visitation He got to come to you and y'all can meet at the park if you don't want him in your house to make him think that you might Got a new man You can meet at the park and he could play with your child out there at that park But don't let your child go to another woman. How that you don't know that you don't care for that you ain't met and Your spirit don't feel right with it As my relative God bless you my son's Grandma is a white woman and I am black During casual conversation. She referred to her primary doctor as A black bee in front of our biracial kids I was livid. Do you feel that is racist? Absolutely, and I would have read her from left to right talk the bottom But what you got to realize is that if your son grandma white Then that mean that your Baby that it was raised by her So black of the bearer sweet of the juice, but your baby that it might feel some of the same way now Just cuz just cuz a person A person could be prejudice and still touch you. All right first could be prejudice still get some of that blackberry pie You hit me so listen, you might need to talk to him. And so what you got to do? That's him So you got to talk to him and he got to check his mama Cuz he got to check his mama and what you got to realize Me and sleep with women and and feel all kind of ways about women You just how some of these men talk about women, you know And so yeah, you got to talk to him and he got to check his mama You got to check his mama cuz listen my mom won't be disrespecting my chair Acting like that in front of my kids. She'll she'll get one that one that one opportunity ever happened again She gonna be at the house by herself won't even be seeing my chair So you got to talk to him and he got he got to check her special right now and he times Brittany God bless you now. I'm Christian woman Beautiful my own home 30 years old have a good job. Why don't men in church? Pursue me. They only stare. I catch them watching me worshiping but never approach But worldly men always want to date me. Well Brittany Okay What see beauty is in the out of a holder for one not to And now what you just said, you know, you know, I want you to focus more on the Lord Because you say you catch them watching you while you worshiping So you in huh? And so you in the church, you're supposed to be focused on the Lord How you catching me and watching you while you worshiping? So Now you're gonna have to work with the Lord now. So what the Lord is saying Come not my child So you can hear the sound of my voice because You in church and you got a little too much bounce on your booty Why are they saying an amazing grace? Because you think about catching your husband Lord telling you I supply all your needs So start worrying about these men Because when you peeking out the corner of your eye, why are you supposed to be in slain in the spirit? That's that spirit in you. That's attracting worldly men. So see it's you got to go to God See what y'all ladies got to do? Just focus on the Lord focus on your job focus on your grind focus on your business and don't worry about these men And then the other thing is some men he honestly they could be being Respectful because you in the house of Lord. So they trying to stay out of sin They don't want that lust station in their heart because they ain't trying to block. They bless them You see what I mean? So it get deeper than that So you got to go to the bowling alley when it open up with the singles group and then they might feel like Holler that you're on the way to the car from the bowling alley But in the house of the Lord they trying to keep that love station out their spirit So they can receive a blessing in the midst of this 19 October Octavia God bless you now any ideas. I Suggest I Suggest my husband overlooks he works and hustles seven days until nighttime put it home last Then when I question him, he says you must don't trust me. I'm working Octavia listen, you're gonna have to speak until you heard and if he don't hear you then he gonna have to see you Walking out that door So when a man won't listen to what's coming out your mouth He got to watch your feet slapping that ground So don't sit there and argue and beg and plead for too long And it ain't all it ain't about divorce Ain't saying divorce You might have to let them see your feet slapping that ground You hear me and then you go into your hotel And you in that hotel for two weeks. You let him know I need to think about something because I Don't know about this and you really sit there and you really process. Is this what you want? because he Sometimes a man get complacent he get low to sleep and he don't believe that you Love yourself that you going anywhere and he'll put you on the back burner because again, you like that toy That the child leaving the corner for three weeks pick you up when you want to and so you got to understand that and make sure that You don't play that role Latarsia God bless him God bless you. Hey, hey, why does X always throw up the fact that he's moved on and he's happy when I left Cuz he lying cuz he lying he ain't bit more happy than the man on the moon he line Tall girls rock bless you now met my future hubby. I know he's proposing soon He's wonderful said a few times. He feels I'm too good for him Looks wise I adore him. Is this a red flag how to build him up or is that something he has to do? Well, he lying to you tall girls rock He's just lying to he's just trying to make you feel good, you know I'm a man don't feel nobody too good for a guy on the street corner Who ain't got no place to live a hollet Beyonce and feel like they soul makes he so he think you look good He might think you look good, but he don't think you look too good for you know what I mean It's really it's him complimenting you he trying to build you up. That's what he tried He trying to be a Jew up, you know But he think you look good authentically Me God bless you now Brittany God bless you Good business you have $49 question, but God bless you you deserve it great wisdom Now did I miss another 49? Dollar question. Oh No, that's a sister that will You might be late now For the $249 question on the answer though touchy-none Touchy-none Patricia God bless you now dating a man for 15 months Had to check him due to battle of grown boy verse King I See progress, but my heart is not 100% in it. Does your spirit tell you when you met your husband? Well, see that I've never met my husband because I met a wife So I can't fully speak for a woman. You hear me because I'm a man I can't tell you as a man and just at the spirit is concerned Yes, you're gonna feel that Patricia because see you a woman and it's nothing really stronger when it comes to energy and Intuition it's nothing really stronger on earth than a woman's intuition. So here's the thing Women a lot of women Desire marriage a lot of women desire marriage if you dating then you may be dating intentionally meaning you want to be married So when a woman if a man is a lot of times the opposite a lot of men don't necessarily desire marriage They get married because the woman want to be married or because God instructs them to be married if they're gonna be sleeping with the woman so Not a not a lot of men actually want marriage, but it's a lot of women who want marriage So when the woman's heart is not 100% in it Gotta go Gotta go a listen to me Because the woman is created for love The man has to learn love but for women love and treating somebody nice in a relationship and and Loving somebody purely that's natural for 90% women But for me and you found it to be the opposite It's not a whole lot of want women who meet a man and he's just an amazing You know lover from from the job Anybody you talk to and so understand that NG I'm a member. How can I reach you? You just reach me right here. This is how this how you can reach me right here That's what the Q&A but see now look when somebody Everybody on here is a paid member But when somebody taking same one of them blesses up top I gotta address those first cuz you know they going an extra mile and that's that's what this hill set up for And then when those run out I come to the Q&A and I answer The other questions in here for as long as we have In here now, you'll see the moderators. They're deleting all the extra chat So in the chat for right now just only put questions and put hashtag Q Say your comments. We open up the chat the last 15 minutes of Of the session we go 90 minutes. So at 75 we open up the chat and y'all could just kind of you know chat freely, but before then I'm just answering questions. So make sure you put hashtag Q in front of your question Britain and God bless you now Dating a man for 15 months He's trying to okay now Patricia you asked a question up top Okay, yeah, see see now what Patricia did she put the question right here in the chat ain't see it So then she sent old monetary blessing up there Natasha hate on it. Can you talk about buying and owning the franchise? No Natasha? I can't talk about that cuz I don't I don't own a franchise So I can't talk about some own do Like like some of the YouTube guru be trying to tell you about stuff they don't do My guy has gone through tough times the past month I've been patient But now I'm feeling like a last thought when we spend time together I've been through to but still remain stable in advice well It depends on what those tough times is Kelly and you got to think about a man tough times because see what you got to realize Is the heart is built for tough times Me being a life coach, I don't heard stories that you would not believe Stories that you wouldn't believe no human whatever go through so one thing about men is We don't feel very deeply. We don't process a lot of feelings and when we do feel We want something to alleviate those feelings So some man it'll be smoking drinking or to be their woman But typically a woman always gonna be in the equation unless he's a complete addict And he's too addicted to whatever it may be that he don't have the energy for a woman So you can't ever let a man going through stuff Become the reason why he puts you on the back burner because when a man is going through stuff That's actually when he draws closer to the woman in his life if he loves her because she is Constellation to him. She's his peace. She's solace to him so a Lot of times what men will do is they will use that that hard time as In an escape go to do what they would do what we want to do. We'll use that like right now in this 19 Every man it's so been a man Right now in this situation we in Hey, what you said that what they said the seven walls for the uh for that 19 Hey, I'm gonna have to go to my home warehouse and on quarantine. I'm gonna go to my mama house I'm gonna stay in the room So a lot of time men will take a tough time and use that tough time to get some separation So you got to realize that right now and and it's like, okay, okay, brother I'm gonna give you a few days. I'm gonna give you a week But after about that, okay, I need you to start talking start communicating start over Opening up. All right, talk about the laws talk about that right there when when a man go too long without that It's time to start looking Teodra. God bless you now. Hey Tony I'm a truck driver in a three-year relationship with another trucker hadn't talked to him since March 23rd His phone is off and quit his job All right, that's the Lord letting you know that you are free that you are free move on with your life You do not need a trucker who can't keep trucking Can't take a licking and keep on ticking is a quitter Let his phone get cut off Metro PCS is $40 a month So how did you let your metro and your cricket go and then quit your job? Just uh, you dodge the bullet you got to praise the Lord for that and keep on going Meet your trucker who gonna keep on trucking when it get hard times You see what I'm saying meet your trucker who he trying to be a owner operator You know, he trying to build business to the quit You know and let phone go off now. You need a man who go man up and be by hill So go about your business. See you got to realize not every loss is a loss David God bless you now dating a man one month. He is very infatuated with me face time He is all hot He is all hot No sleeping together yet. How to make him slow down. I want abstinence. Well, David. I'll tell you this now Okay, it's been a month. It's still real early Debbie. It's still real early. So you really don't know his true Intentions you can't tell the difference this early. Okay that infatuation could be chasing a check It's just a lot of men today dealing with women because they trying to see if you got a fold one K That you could tap into trying to see if you got a savings trying to see if you got some good credit That they could get on in that credit card and get a loan for they franchise Like somebody else were talking about see in a month. It's too early Check his energy about at the three month mark and then all you got to do just keep your legs closed Just keep your legs closed. It ain't it's not a big dissertation You got to have or nothing like that. It just he try you like that. Hey, I'm not ready for that That's all you got in every time. Hey, I'm not ready for that when you're gonna be ready. I know but it's not today. Thank you Alyssa God bless you. Hi Tony. I've been going to counseling on and off for seven years I used to see a lot of progress now. It's slowing down Could this be a sign that I'm ready for a life coach need help as to how I move on as a newly single mom of two Yeah, it's definitely time to try life coaching. You know, it's a different. It's a different application I have a lot of clients who are in therapy and some been in therapy 15 years 20 years 25 years and You know talking with that therapist and sometimes it could be like, you know, spinning your tires and mud She has a life coach. It's not our goal for you to just keep coming back and keep talking through it It's our goal to help you turn your pain in the purpose to turn your mess into your message To use your story for some glory for God's glory Yeah, if you're dealing on on the faith-based side of things if not then it's about progress It's about setting goals making a plan and then doing something productive if that's starting a nonprofit organization To help where you're hurting if that's becoming a life coach to help others who may be hurting worse Then you were hurting and you are two steps ahead of them And you can help pull them along with some encouragement and some real life experience of what they're going through You know, that's what a life coach is about So a lot of people do both you have a therapist and you have a life coach because a therapist has a treatment plan So they could use some life wisdom, but a lot of it and some opinion But a lot of it they fall in back on that treatment plan so that they don't get audited and sued a life coach It's not regulated by the state So as long as they ain't got you trying to drink no strict nine or jump off on the side of no mountain and you know I believe you could fly then it's gonna be productive in the sense of identifying your purpose and Being productive by creating so that you're not just spinning your tires So for all of y'all that want to become a life coach, you can take the certification program Right now is listed at 30% off So the link is in the description. I believe Tony gas in the academy dot com But we need more coaches and once you finish the certification You can join my mentor Sometime millions a month and they go into my mentor dot life to book sessions with coaches Alexandria God bless you now. Thank you as always for your time effort wisdom and the queen for sharing What could be her time a god bless you now? Tell you a little story the day me and my wife we went on some little car date and We was I was like man, you know, I did a live two nights ago and I said, I don't know if I'm gonna do one tonight ain't doing last night I said, I don't know if I'm doing tonight. My wife told me you better do that live Because you got the members of that blessed ride They don't stop being a member of the best drive you ain't gonna be doing lives So you better get on live. I ain't even feel like doing a lie tonight But my wife pushed me to it say hey go ahead do that live So we came home we had our little date night and we watch her little show that she like in the watch right now But these surgeons these doctors on Netflix with their little show So we watched that show cuz you know my wife got a master's degree in medical sciences and a bachelor's in biomedical science So she was going to be a doctor before I derailed her life and then God redirected our life all together So she would like to watch the little medical show but she got me on here and you're right me right now I want to be up under my wife. That's why I tried to get it at 845 so I could be done You know about 10 15 is so I get me some time before she fall asleep So I'd be trying to you know Get out of these some time and she'd be pushing me on here Why do people assume when you're not with someone after your ex that you're not over your ex I Left of you over a year ago. It still hurts. We have a son. He's a dead beat Well, you kind of just confirmed what you said why people assume When you're not with someone after your ex that you're not over your ex So it's kind of a little bit why right there, you know how you say you left it over a year ago And it still hurts the people who assume in that they could see your hurt They could see you still scarred they could see that you still hurting from that situation you left And so what you got to be doing is seeking healing and Seeking growth and doing the work genius do your coaching sessions, you know start your company start your blog You know get productive get active t. S. God bless you now. God bless you Tony. Thank you for coming online. Hey bless you Jacqueline God bless you. Hey Tony. I'm 25 years old and I've been working at a company for four years Any advice on how to go about asking for a raise? Thanks in advance, sir Hey Jacqueline God bless you now, but you asking the wrong man So I imagine you spend too much to ask me that because listen I work for myself, okay? So, you know being a boss. I really don't know how to ask for a raise. You see what was there cuz Me personally now I can teach how to start your coaching business and then get yourself a raise I can teach you how to click the link in the description Tony gasses Academy take the life coach certification Then you click on my mentor that life and become a life coach a youth life coach coaching the youth And then get yourself a raise when you like to but with that right there system I'm gonna have to tap somebody else in cuz Me personally I don't ask no balls for nothing and I retired at 27 so you 25 years old I retired at 27 from working for other people and so God bless you and not nothing But I'm gonna tell you what Jim wrong told me Jim wrong when I changed my life around 2223 what I started doing is I would put I was at work I put this here in my ear and I listen to podcasts and YouTube videos all Shift so for eight hours. I was listening to self-development and I heard Jim wrong say something one time He said if you want To be paid more you got to become more valuable So what he said was he said if you work in a job and you want to get more money You got to get another certification. You got to take another class He said you got to come to work with a smile You got to walk up beat you got to come early leave late You got to do more than what you asked to do do more than what's required of you And then when you add value the job add value to you So listen now even though I don't have the same situation Maybe you could use that right now Prayer and patience God bless you Tony. I agree. There is nothing a woman can do to keep a man faithful but What can women do to make it easier for a man to remain faithful? Well, I'll tell you this right here as long as you're not a headache in the sense of you're not trying to You know, you're not trying to Get on his nerves. You're not trying to be annoying You're not nitpicking and and just starting arguments When you healthy and you hold That's that's the best you could do for a man. You can't walk on eggshells You can't be afraid to speak your mind You can't be afraid to ask the questions you want to ask because a man gonna cheat Regardless if he want to cheat you could be absolutely all the way perfect. You could be better than perfect He'll cheat cuz the sky blue He'll he if he wanted to cheat he gonna cheat cuz the grass green You mean cuz the sun came up. Oh, man, the son came up Man, I'm finna cheat. Get on my nerve. Come on every day. He'll cheat For any kind of reason so you can't worry about You just got to be the best human being you can be that's all you could do be the best human being you could be And if a man can't appreciate that he don't deserve you Um Zanya join your god bless you. I am 50 never married Men I meet says I'm independent. How can the judge? How can they judge me? Off a car slash a home How can they just me? 50 never married well sister they write you 50 and You got a car in a house and so you are independent and you 50 And you've never been married. So basically what they're saying is you don't obviously need a man That you are all the way independent. So you just got the warner man And um and it got to be room for a man in your life But if it don't look like there's no room for a man and you don't even got the energy that say I'm desiring a man I'm desiring a husband That's essentially what the man is saying, but you can't really get caught up on that Miss people's god bless you. Is it wrong for me to cut off men who make Sexual comments toward me early. I feel as if it's inappropriate when trying to get to know each other I think they're only after When the convo goes there that quick you right you absolutely right it's very disrespectful and a man only says that when he is just nasty and rude and um Disrespectful and immature when a man see you like a queen. So he doesn't see you as his wife He doesn't see you as his queen when a man sees you like a queen. He's gonna approach you as such He's gonna come to you with respect. He's gonna talk to you slowly. He's gonna build slowly. He's not just gonna go right there He talked he won't talk about your favorite color your favorite food your favorite movie what you like to do for fun You know, where were you raised? What was your parents like your mama like your dad like your grandma your granddaddy? What was your kindergarten teacher like, you know what what you remember the most about grade school So he's gonna come at you just talking about every little thing when he go right there to the gust though Yeah, he he don't see you as a wife Shwana god bless you now i've been working on myself to grow in every way and keep healing from a toxic relationship Moved out of state back in town to visit took me back emotionally a little Just booked the coaching on my mentor. Thank you again. God bless you shawana. You really doing that thing You didn't park in the q&a quite a few times tonight and now you don't win on my mentor dot life and book your session Everybody who need a coaching session is several coaches on my mentor dot life that could help you out Kb. God bless you move the broad for work and fail for him at work He was married got pregnant. He never saw my baby He was married two kids got divorced and remarried While i got with him don't know what i was thinking baby two now uh sister, uh God bless you sister god bless you i really don't know what you were thinking either sister. I really don't know what you were thinking either That's a real deep story. I would recommend you get at least four coaching sessions with somebody Miss lala's world god bless her may god continue to bless you tonic Do you think an x will lose respect or never want anything serious if we ended up sleeping together too soon too soon after Talking back for three months. I really messed up my no sleeping together zone for nine months Yes, he he may lose respect in the sense of it's really he just feels like he got you He feels like he on you he feels like he could do what he could do, you know um, so no Uh, no, i'm not a queryist And and that's what i tell y'all don't be worrying about them signs and all that because y'all be looking up at the stars and be the ran into a brick wall But no i'm not a query So that's what you got to realize a lot of time men believe that if he sleep with a woman he owned a woman So when he sleep with you and then he come back to you and could sleep with you again And he didn't and you've been absent for nine months You just told him he owns your body And that's what a soul tie is a lot of times when you have a soul tie with somebody They own a piece of you they take a piece of you you take a piece of them And so that's why a lot of men ultimate goal is to sleep with the women because with a woman because For a man, that's like a dog peeing somewhere marking territory, you know Uh boob on somewhere marking territory So it's for a man when he sleep with you That's him in his mind marking his property his territory And then when he can leave you and then come back and sleep with you and didn't even do everything He need to do to get back into your life properly Then you just told him you own me And i don't know who i am and i don't love myself Because i love you more than i love me and you can do what you can have your way with me That's what that's what you telling him without without opening your mouth Precious god bless your height Tony What are the benefits of having an LLC and should each owner of a non-profit have their own LLC? Well, the LLC is just a for-profit company And really it's just something to where you can write off A lot more stuff than if you just an individual And as a non-profit you don't necessarily need an LLC unless you want to do some things That's for-profit and there's no limit on how much you can make so with an LLC You can sell t-shirts and make a million dollars with your non-profit You can sell t-shirts and make a million but you can't pay yourself that whole million So you got to have a board and you vote on your salary and it has to be Under a certain percentage it has to be a reasonable salary Whereas an LLC you got unlimited earning potential And so it's a few differences, but I would recommend talking to a CPA They'll go a whole lot deeper and they're going to get deep in confusion so that they could cut themselves in a check on You know out your business But and you can also google a whole lot too because it's it's a it's a lot of blogs and information out there But they get real deep now That's why CPAs got to go through all they got to go through to get where they get because they take a lot of knowledge in that stuff Dear paula god bless you. That's why I'm single Widow never dated black No Never dated black. I don't know if you're talking about you or him now No ex-wife or kids Both black 53 I'm 48 Shared black seduce him while wet Said male cousin Sad with black Ask god Of me god said no No consult god before Oh dear paula I'm gonna need to do a session dear paula I'm gonna need to do a session because I know you're trying to get that out But um, yeah, that's that's a little too deep. I really don't know where we're going then I don't want to do no injustice. I don't want to have myself sounding on here crazy for somebody to be calling Somebody house on me Libra davis god bless you. Why did my fiance tell his mom on me? I broke up with fiance for calling every other day. He responded. Wow This is serious. We need to fix this now. He calls daily when I'm barely awoke Well, I mean his mama. That's his life coach, you know that that that's who that's all he got to talk to about it His boys don't want to hear about that Because they gonna say man stop being soft And so that's all he talks with mama and you know, she might want to keep them to herself but um Yeah, a fiance calling you every other day Y'all relationship over sister y'all relationship over A fiance ought to be now back wanting to live with you You know, that's what most fiance trying to do trying to move in together And you got to be fighting them off from moving in together because you want to stay You know living in your own places till you get married. So a fiance calling you every other day That's your ex Cherise god bless you now Tony for god loses respect for you. Can he gain respect for you in the future? um Yeah, anything is possible now, but that's gonna be real hard like you say First impression, um It's a lasting impression and so That's gonna be hard and especially with a man because a man's heart is not really wired The way a woman's heart is a woman's heart is is different, you know more of an empath more You feel deeper you have more emotions a lot of times That's why a woman could hear her baby crying in the middle of the night and a man might snore right through it Most men will snore right through it But that woman that that baby crying is like a siren It's like that part of your brain that senses emotions and feelings is is larger, you know, it is It's more developed than in a man So a lot of time men are more cold a little more standoffish we feel now But society and everything we've gone through we put that wall up So when a man loses respect for you It's it's it's gonna be mighty mighty mighty hard to get that respect back. I'm gonna tell you that now Sharon god bless you. I was not able to put a rating on amazon as purchase had to be over 50 dollars great read and a blessing. Thank you both so very much. Hey god bless you now. I don't know why they did you like that Won't let you leave jazz and god bless you now bless you Now moderators, I thank y'all for y'all work tonight y'all could take a break to my moderators That came on here tonight helping me with this here. God bless y'all. I thank you Is it childish for a 31 year old man to send a text that says hey stranger lol, what is that about? um You know, it's just it's just an icebreaker. It's just an icebreak. I wouldn't look too deep in it. I mean what what you know You don't want them to write you or you probably want to write you hi. Hello. This is charles and Wanted to reach out to you to whom it may concern be it do all that may Would love to have some time with you. You said I mean so for a man. It's just it's just an icebreaker I wouldn't read now if he said, you know, what's up shawty drive like a hot, you know, or something crazy disrespectful that's different, but that's just like Hey big head I'm 55 dating a 65 year old for eight months. He stopped talking to me because of cutting off Sleeping together. We argue constantly in couples theory therapy don't feel like it's helping thoughts You're right. It's not helping it's not helping and he cut you off for stopping sleeping with him So that means that he's not really looking to get married. He's 65 years old He really ain't trying to be married again or married for the first time and um Also Y'all in couples therapy. It's not working the reason why it's not working because he's 65 years old 65 years old He's stuck in his ways. Ain't nobody gonna be able to tell him Other than the lord coming down in person and slapping him in the mouth Anything shorter that 65 year old you really ain't gonna get no breakthrough with him unless he come down with something That had him bedridden and now he needs you to be a cna And other than that you pretty much barking up the wrong tree So I I wouldn't worry about too much though No, um kb I don't really remember your question right now But if I say it's too deep it could be because it wasn't very clear And not enough room here And I you know, I just I don't take shots in the dark You know, I talk about what I know what I'm confident about but I don't just I'm not no guru I'm not an expert just you know, I never call myself those things So I give you what I feel comfortable on answering But I just don't be giving our answers just to be giving our answers You know, I take people life serious and I know people make life changes based on some of the stuff I say so I'm real serious on it So if you ask a question on here and I tell you need a session need a session Go on do that session and it ain't got to be with me. We've got plenty coaches on my mentor dot life But um, I don't really play around on here by stuff that I really don't feel a unction in my spirit that I could answer honestly ml being god bless you What does it mean that a guy in a relationship? But goals and guys trip tells his girl she can't go but allows a girl He was seeing in the past to go even though he hasn't been with the past girl in years Um ml being uh, what it looked like to you what it looked like to you Cheating for 500 alex Absolutely, you all already know it. That's exactly what it means. That's exactly what it means. Don't mean nothing else It means exactly what you think it means that he invited her so he can knock her down Okay, he wanted to get back in with his old flame. He wanted to get back in with his old flame And what better way to introduce her but then old exotic vacation And then tell you The girlfriend to wait at home because he thinks you don't love yourself. You don't respect yourself You ain't going nowhere. So hey lose booty. Come on over here from the past fling from the past Knock her down then could come right back to you because he know you sitting there Looking like who shot john and forgot to kill him looking broke busted and disgusted So when he come back, you got to have some some news flash for him Uh, i'm going Gotta go you want to play play the fool want want um Treat me like i'm crazy got to go So You got to go on about your business. I'm gonna be honest with you I'll be honest with you. Hey y'all. We've got about 10 more minutes on here Tony is two times a month good for new clients to book sessions Or is once a month enough once a month is enough Two times sometimes y'all be about to run out of stuff to talk about And at the most the most severe cases you might have four sessions in a row like Four weeks in a row and then it'll go to about once a month but um Typically once a month is Is sufficient For life coaching My ex-husband Wants to curse me out When my daughters tell him things about when I correct them But he wants to come at me like i'm doing something wrong. Why? He just want to use anything to come down on you Really is he mad at his failures He mad that he failed in a relationship with you He mad that you was able to move on without chasing him sniffing his booty He mad that you don't need him He mad that you're not chasing him and begging him And so he's looking for any Reason to take out his anger on you Because he really could not care less about you correcting them and he knows that's what they need Tough love motherly love and that correction that instruction, but he wants to do that Just so he could have a reason to take out some toxicity on you Bell god bless you. Thank you for everything Working on the three B's and feeling great finished my last term With all A's only by the grace of god and your wisdom healing god bless you That's amazing. I'm proud of you now I'm proud of you Was that the red light? Let me see. I thought I had a question now, but I'm not let me grow out wave is naturalisa Tony is it normal for grown men to have sleepovers? My ex had his best friend over to sleep while I was out of town I left because I was highly suspicious But I'm curious No, that's not normal That's not normal Thali god bless you that video today Was fire. Oh child Hey god bless you. Thank you for watching that Thank you for watching that Was at the red light with my baby in the back child's father pulls up beside me acting like He didn't know who he was pulling up next to Hasn't seen our son since February 2018 our son is two. He takes care of girlfriend sons who was six advice Go on about your business. You got to do what you got to do now The question is is he on child support while he got while he got the time and the money to take care of somebody else child Is he getting that child support check? Because if he ain't on child support I'm being the first thing tomorrow morning. I'm gonna be Helping them open. Let me hold you key. I'll help you get in first thing in the morning I'm at the child support office. You hear me because that's one thing He's gonna be doing is paying the child support if he won't do nothing else because you don't pay that child support Them license getting suspended Okay, your passport getting revoked Okay, act up get too far behind. You're going to jail. I'm putting one at child support because if you can't be a man on your own I'm gonna let that man stick it to you and make you be a man if you can't be no man on your own You finna be on that child support I've learned so much from you and now I'm engaged Meretta. God bless you God bless you. All right. Now, let me see now. I'm got Lost in here my chatter love Froze Tony, I just finished your book a woman's influence loved it. I cried and received revelation Now I am starting Mrs. Right tomorrow. Thank you for the nuggets and jewels Thank you so much for reading the book If you have not read the book a woman's influence me and my wife wrote it together Make sure you get it anywhere books are sold wherever you buy books from Sometimes people ask me where can they get the book from wherever you buy books from they'll be able to get it to you Meretta. God bless you now All right. I got six more minutes on here My phone just said 20 battery left Make sure you put a hashtag queue in front of your question now if I ain't answer you just the time to drop it in there What if they are on child support and still don't pay over 18,000 behind Well, you on your own you got to take care of yourself. Me personally I'll be trying to send a little tip in to the tip line to the hotline of back child support You know, I get my family lawyer for a few dollars. Bridget. God bless you Family lawyer for a few dollars to see if the state to give you some of that Give you a lump sum payment now sometime they'll give you that lump sum payment. They're going after him Be honest with you now Well, a man be low-key mad at a woman because She does all the stuff The woman he was in love with and broke his heart would not do No No, he won't be mad at the woman He that's old time from that past woman might be messing them up that might be messing them up Can a man be interested in a woman who is 11 years older? Yes, he can Yes, he can Anything that look good to a man, he'll be interested now Does that mean he a good fit not necessarily? Okay, carolin. Thank you for getting that book Now I'm trying to see somebody I ain't seen yet. Let's see Tony why is it so easy for a man to ghost you and leave with no contact or response to why It's not actually easy and that's actually why he ghosts you because telling you Why it's not going to work is too hard for him So he ghosts you because that's a little easier than actually telling you But ghost you is not actually easy because it leaves a open wound in the man heart He still got to deal with that and he ends up drowning himself in another woman Trying to get over the nastiness. He just did to you because he knows that Anything that go around come around so he know that it's coming back to him one day So it's not as easy as it may seem Just because you don't get to see him go through that thought process or what he just did Do you mind telling me where you from? You have a strong southern accent Florida I'm from Florida, but my grandma from Alabama. So I learned how to talk from a grandma She won't sell my Alabama And um, I just chose to talk like her just because I ain't want to talk like other people You know, who didn't look like me because I just felt more of a connection Talking like my grandma All right, now now listen, I think I done got majority here question I know that some of y'all might have popped in but I need to go ahead and Close on out Let me see Now to wrap up for the night. Let me see what the night was going on I'ma tell y'all bridge your God blessing. I'ma tell y'all one thing You know, they say common sense ain't common But you still got to have Common sense and you got to use your common sense and don't let the fact that you can't get an answer From somebody else from myself or somebody, you know Don't let the fact that you can't get an answer from somebody keep you stuck in a relationship What you got to realize is that you got to leave as soon as possible As soon as you know that relationship is over as soon as you know that relationship is not moving forward And y'all just stuck in the mud or you in quicksand and you sinking you got to pull yourself up and you got to go Do not waste time because listen you only get to do this life one time So when you stuck in a relationship, you wasting time that you will never get back So you have to make a decision Knowing what you want knowing who you are and you got to be willing to go about your business If you realize that this person is not serving you and you serving them you got to understand that My walk to the wonderland how to forgive my husband for cheating No sleeping together kissing and touching Married for almost eight years with three kids lasted four months met Over 15 times january through april You're gonna have to get coaching that you know, you could read Make it work Which is the marriage book But that's a little too deep for him a little too deep for him You're gonna have to get coaching though You're gonna need at least four sessions of coaching with any relationship coach on my mentor dot life And it's gonna be the normal process as forgiving somebody for lying to you But it's just gonna take longer and it's gonna be harder and you got to ask do you want to forgive because now You got the grounds to leave according to the holy bible now you got grounds to leave with that infidelity So you got to ask yourself I mean do you want to stay because you could forgive him and you could forget him? So it may be understanding that your relationship was over seven years ago And you just hung in there So when you sit down and you get with yourself and you start to evaluate this thing you may see where this thing went The other way Years ago and you you toughed it out So hey, thank y'all so much. It's 90 minutes. I got to go try to go catch my wife Oh, she go to bed. Get my little qt in god bless y'all. Um tomorrow. I don't think I'll do a lot of moron Let my wife tell me to get on here but um I'll probably put a video up tomorrow For the fellas if if some come to my spirit Shakita Harris god bless you now. Shakita say man. Let me hit you with the buzzer be the toner Shakita be bless me now. There's a few of y'all to bless me in the blessing hall of fame Hey god bless. I really appreciate you and um I'll see you tomorrow on that our video lord willow Happy Juneteenth tomorrow everybody