 أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاة والسلام على أشرف الأنبياء والمرسلين حبيبي إله العالمين أب القاسم المصطفى محمد وعلى أهل بيته الطيبين الطاهرين قال الله تعالى في كتابه الكريم بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم ولكدرا ودوه عن ضيفه فطمسنا أعيونهم فذوقوا عذابي ونذر صلو على محمد وآله محمد واحد من أفضل الأحيان التي الله سبحانه وتعالى قمت باستخدام أفضل الأنبياء وقمت باستخدام أفضل الأنبياء ولكدرا ودوه عن ضيفه فطمسنا أعيونهم إذا كنت ممتازة كيف ستأكله؟ هل ستأكله أيضا؟ هل ستأكله أطلق؟ هل ستأكله ومشاكله؟ هل ستأكله شيء مباشر؟ لا! أي شخص who is saying that they go and watch what they eat and how they eat the type of food that they eat and where they got it from the same goes with all other desires including the physical desire when it comes to satisfying and dealing with that physical desire how am I supposed to deal with that desire? do I just go anywhere wherever I can find the fastest way to deal with that desire and immediately deal with it or is there a special way or is there a specific way that I am ordered to deal with that desire and satisfy that desire when we look at the religion of Islam we see that it is not just a relationship with Allah سبحانه وتعالى the religion of Islam is not just about spirituality the religion of Islam is a way of life and a part of that way of life Allah سبحانه وتعالى teaches us how to deal with all of these desires that He equipped us with therefore we cannot transgress we cannot pass the red lines when it comes to anything we cannot pass the red lines in order to satisfy our desires Allah سبحانه وتعالى speaks about the physical desire in numerous verses in the Quran one part Allah says Allah سبحانه وتعالى tells us who is haram what type of relationship is forbidden and what type of relationship is okay now someone might read this verse and they might say okay this is the obvious why does Allah in the holiest book that was sent down by the prophet need to tell me that your mother is haram upon you this is common sense this is logic anyone would understand this the answer is that no it's not logical it's logical when you are in the state of sanity but when you're in the state of insanity it becomes illogical and Allah سبحانه وتعالى describes the obvious because when that desire it takes over someone you see that this person becomes an animal the person becomes an animal and Allah سبحانه وتعالى describes the desire when it's at its highest peak Allah سبحانه وتعالى describes it as a sakrah a state of intoxication maybe someone is not intoxicated through alcohol through drugs but when that desire kicks in when that desire when someone is seduced when that desire is at its highest peak you see that the smartest person the most successful person maybe this person is a leader of a company a CEO a president of a country a king whatever it may be whatever he may be or she may be you see that when that desire takes over this person is completely intoxicated and their desires take full control of them Allah سبحانه وتعالى describes a group of people in the Quran a group of people whose desires took over them and because their desires took over them in a way the punishment of Allah came upon them but Allah سبحانه وتعالى describes that they were in a state of intoxication لعمركة إنهم لفي سكرتهم يعمهون Allah سبحانه وتعالى swears by the life of رسول الله لعمركة إنهم لفي سكرتهم يعمهون they were intoxicated they were intoxicated not through alcohol not through drugs but they were intoxicated by that desire when that desire kicks in there is nothing that stops it this is why the religion of Islam has ordered the men and the women to practice modesty and practice the Hijab so that you don't reach that level of intoxication where you will not be able to control yourself anymore you know Hijab Hijab acts as a perimeter around sin when the Hijab is being practiced when modesty is being practiced that is so that you do not go straight into committing adultery and committing sin and fornication just like when you're driving in the highway and there is a car accident when there is a car accident the police they come two miles before the accident they come and they start placing cones they start turning on the lights merge get on the left lane get on the right lane why? so that you don't drive into that accident so that you don't suddenly just see yourself in an accident in a situation where you're going to harm yourself the same goes with the physical the physical desire Allah سبحانه وتعالى has placed rules the Hijab there's a wisdom behind it modesty there's a wisdom behind it and that is so that we do not harm ourselves you come and you look at societies you look at countries where there is no modesty you look at countries where there is no practicing Hijab you see that no one feels safe and this is what the statistics say this is not what we are saying there are statistics that say for example according to the US Department of Justice every two minutes someone is sexually assaulted in the United States it is estimated that every 1000 women attending a college or university there are 35 incidents of rape each academic year and the study says that the ones that are not in the university the risk is higher we're talking about one of the safest countries in the world we're talking about a country that doesn't have ISIS roaming around that doesn't have terrorists roaming around like you see in other places in the world this is one of the safest countries in the world but yet you see that every two minutes someone is sexually assaulted 33% of women say that they have been touched at one point in their life against their will this is the safest country in the world and this is happening does it make sense? yes because modesty is not practiced and Allah سبحانه وتعالى gives us numerous examples where modesty should be practiced in the Holy Quran and one example is the story of Prophet Abraham and Prophet Lot عليهم السلام these were prophets these were prophets sent by Allah سبحانه وتعالى Allah سبحانه وتعالى describes an incident that took place these angels they come down in the figure of men in the figure of good looking men like many of the young gentlemen that we see here they came down but they were angels they had a mission they had two objectives the first was that they were sent to tell Prophet Abraham عليهم السلام that he is going to have a child اسماعيل this was the first thing that they came and they told Prophet Abraham and then they go to his nephew who was living in a village in a city nearby and his nephew is Prophet Lot عليهم السلام this prophet of Allah he was dealing with a group of people that practiced sin a wrong sin the abnormal sin something that has become very normal in society today where the supreme court just voted yesterday they allowed homosexual marriage to be legalized all over the united states Allah سبحانه وتعالى describes in Surah الحجر وجاء أهل المدينة يستبشرون these angels they came whenever anyone that would come to their city anyone that passes by their city the narrations the hadith that Tafseer says that they were greedy people so in order to make no one pass by their city they would go and sexually assault the men and the women that come in their city until it became a habit until it became a habit where men would sexually assault another man so these angels they come and they are passing by the city وجاء أهل المدينة يستبشرون the people of the city they became very excited you have new men that are coming they are passing by they became very excited قال these are my guests do not humiliate me he would go and he would try to protect these guests they told him oh loot we have nothing to do with you let us love, let love prevail let love win who cares we are doing our thing and this is exactly what is going on today my dear brothers and sisters they come and they tell you love win but in reality they are being involved in your life and in your family's life and in your children's life and in every issue of your life because it was not illegal to carry out that ridiculous act in private but then now they are trying to come and impose it upon me and you and I they are trying to impose it and may it be the law when it is abnormal and of course it is not only the Muslims it is not only the religious people that are saying that this is an abnormal act 1973 1973 before 1973 حومosexuality was seen as a mental problem it was seen as a problem that they had to go to psychiatrists and they had to go to doctors to get a cure so now suddenly after 1973 the world figured out what is best for them and what is best for all of society and every citizen of the united states so this is what they told prophet lute they told prophet lute they said اولم ننهك عن العالمين we have nothing to do with you we want to carry out our act and you go and do whatever you want قال هؤلاء بناتي ان كنتم فاعلين he told them there are women in the city either my daughters or he is a father of everyone in the city he says there are women in the city you don't need to do a sin you don't need to do this this act and then Allah says Allah says by the life of they were intoxicated by their desires when the desire overcomes that's it a person is intoxicated this is why the religion of islam makes sure this is why the religion of islam stresses on the issue of marriage stresses on the issue of family on the issue of protection and modesty yes we have to protect ourselves we have to protect our families at a young age we have to know who our children are speaking to where they are hanging out who their friends are who their teachers are and what they are teaching them today the challenges that we Muslims are facing today are very different from the challenges that we were facing 10 years ago or 15 years ago today the challenges are much more difficult this is why we need to be extra vigilant we need to be very watchful know where our family is what's going on right now you turn on the tv almost all movies almost all soap operas all shows it has types of indecent behavior being performed and being shown and being promoted on television now this act this abnormal act society is trying to make it seem like it's something very normal you know there was always a division between some type of evil act in society and religion but now today you see some people in the name of religion they come and they say yes I'm practicing I'm a priest and there are also some Muslims I'm a Jew I'm from this religion and promote this type of behavior and this is something that I was shocked to see yesterday on some social networks you see some Muslims some Muslims in order to show that they are open minded in order to show that they are welcoming and they accept everyone so what do they do they come and they abandon their teachings and their belief and the Quran and the message of رسول الله and logic they abandon that and they come and they put that rainbow flag as their icon on their twitter or facebook or instagram account now it's understandable if you cannot say no and you cannot show your voice your opinion against an act that's understandable we don't want to get you in trouble and it's only one of the conditions of أمر بالمعروف and joining the good and forbidding the evil is that if you're not going to be harmed in any way some people say ok we're going to be harmed ok that's understandable but letting go of your own identity and going and promoting something if you feel that you really have a passion to promote something go and promote the rights of palestinians promote the rights of the innocent people all over the world if you want to be an activist there's so many things that you can be an activist about you left all of them and you come and you want to choose that foul act so we Muslims need to be extra vigilant and we need to be extra careful and this is why we see the religion of Islam it has provided a solution it has provided a solution that I want to go through it quickly and that is marriage the right type of marriage not the marriage that was defined yesterday by the supreme court the marriage that is defined by Allah a marriage where Allah says I have created two spouses from the opposite gender for one another because this is the only way that it will work this is the only way that there will be a reproduction this is the only way that humanity and society could carry on otherwise it will not carry on Allah says in the Quran marriage is the sunnah of رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله it's the tradition of رسول الله where he says ازواج سنة فليس مني marriage is the sunnah of رسول الله this is why scholars say that if someone delays marriage they are doing two things one of two things the first is that they are delaying a recommended act delaying something that is مستحب or if they are not delaying something that is recommended they are doing something that's حرام because marriage originally in its original rule it's recommended but that rule of recommendation it could turn into واجب it could turn into an obligation when does it turn into an obligation it becomes obligatory when someone starts to disobey Allah in order to satisfy their desires in a حرام way in a wrong way so then marriage becomes obligatory and this is why we see that the religion of Islam compared to all other religions it sees marriage as a sanctuary it sees marriage as a sacred institution as a form of immunity a form of protection there were men during the life of رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله يقومون بإمكانهم بإمكانهم to fast 365 days out of the year they chose not to get married they decided to pray the whole night as soon as the sun goes down up until the sun rises they are praying and they are fasting and they are doing all of these acts so they sat with each other and then they said you know what we are praying more than رسول الله sometimes we see رسول الله when he is on a break or we are not married and رسول الله he spends time with his family we are fasting every day while some days we see رسول الله he is eating so they concluded amongst themselves that they are أعبد they have reached the level of obedience a higher level than رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله so they came to رسول الله and they told him we fast every day we are praying the whole night and we are not married because we are devoted only to Allah and we don't want any distraction رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله he told them I fast some days and I break my fast some days of course not in the month of رمضان other days I pray some hours of the night and I sleep some hours of the night I get married and then he says because marriage is my sunnah and he who leaves that sunnah is not from me and then رسول الله tells them I do all of this and I am closer to Allah than all of you why? because الله سبحانه وتعالى wants you to have a way of life الله سبحانه وتعالى didn't just send us a religion so that we are just praying 24 hours and devoted to Allah سبحانه وتعالى Allah sent us a religion so that we can live a life a productive life because when you are with your family this is a form of عبادة when you are getting married this is a form of worship when you are doing anything for this life as long as it's not haram it also counts as something that is good for you and something that is recommended for you so marriage it solves many of our problems الله سبحانه وتعالى created us with that desire with that sexual desire that physical desire الله سبحانه وتعالى gave us a solution for it just like there is a problem there is also a solution and that is the solution مارج it helps you socially it helps a person socially in society the hadith says استكثروا من الأخلاق فإنهم ينفعونكم في الدنيا والآخرة try to have friends try to broaden your social circle because the more friends you have this is going to benefit you in this life and in the afterlife and this is what we see the religion of Islam is a very social religion you could pray by yourself in the room or you can go and pray in جماعة and congregation with everyone and your reward will be multiplied you could eat by yourself or you could eat with a group of people in the month of Ramadan you could eat by yourself or invite others and inviting others is very rewarding and we see that marriage it solves that social problem it solves the physical problem it solves the physical problem emotionally every single one of us we need someone to speak to someone to talk to someone to socialize with someone to feel a sense of belonging with someone to trust and tell our secrets to that is the marriage الله says in the Quran when you are married there is a form of trust with one another it's as if they are closed closed serve as a form of protection they serve as a form of beautification they serve as a form of immunity from anything around you and this is why when we look at the marriage of أمير المؤمنين فاعتمت الزهراء عليه السلام عليههم السلام he says لقد كنت أنظر إليها فتنكشفوا عني الحموم والأحزان he says as soon as I would look at فاطمة as soon as I would look at the face of فاطمة الزهراء all of my sadness all of my حموم all of my miseries and problems would go away and today we should also remember one of the wives of Rasulallah where today is her death anniversary and that is خديجة بن تخويلد the wife of Rasulallah صلى الله عليه واله the wife of Rasulallah that was the first to support Rasulallah the first to help Rasulallah in times of need it was her that it was خديجة that believed in Rasulallah when no one else believed in him this is why we see that رسول الله was loyal to خديجة many years after her death رسول الله yes he got married of course while he was married to خديجة he did not have any other wife then after her death there were reasons social economic political reasons that Rasulallah decided to get married but then you see that he would always remember خديجة always he would remember her sometimes he would slaughter a sheep and then he would give the meat to the friends of خديجة some of the wives of Rasulallah some of the other wives they became very jealous and it's funny where one of them becomes jealous of a dead woman خديجة was dead she was in her life but they were still jealous from خديجة and from the children of خديجة فاطنة عليه السلام she comes and she tells رسول الله why do you keep remembering that old woman when Allah gave you beautiful women rich women powerful women that are helping you right now رسول الله صلى الله عليه و آله he says Allah did not replace the position of خديجة in my heart خديجة still has a position in my heart why because she believed in me when no one believed in me and she gave me when no one gave me this was خديجة عليه السلام and this was one of the marriages of رسول الله صلى الله عليه و آله that was an exemplary marriage رسول الله صلى الله عليه و آله he was in love with خديجة he would constantly remember خديجة and today is the anniversary of the death of خديجة so we remember خديجة the wife of رسول الله صلى الله عليه و آله this forgotten wife of رسول الله many people today many Muslims they remember the wives of رسول الله and they neglect خديجة that honorable woman the favorite wife of رسول الله صلى الله عليه و آله و الحمد لله رب العالمين و صلى الله عليه و آله و يطيبين الطاهرين