 Mposter syndrome which basically is self-doubt so tell us about that well All of us it's at some point in life we really encounter that you reach a point where you are like struggling you have that the fear the fear again that we mentioned you feel like maybe upset very very ambitious goals and it is important to do so in light of Foma Liberian President Ellen Johnson Salif that if your dreams do not scare you they are not big enough they're not big enough so don't fear to dream big but at the end of the day believe in yourself there is a saying that goes believe is a strange thing it gives one the power to do the impossible so just believe that you have got this okay yes believe in yourself so someone said dream big and give god the bill oh nice one which is another one so talk to us about persistence the fourth p yes yes persistence persistence it's my favorite because as the author of bx matrix seven piece of success i really leave that p i'm very persistent in life i don't believe in getting a no for an answer you know no we'll simply mean next opportunity so to speak so i would urge fellow Kenyans out there and everybody watching us to really not never give up keep knocking that door if nobody is opening go back get a sledge hammer come and break that door you know if not go through the window yes so keep persistence keep getting up every day even if all signs are that things are not working like we're in a season of um uh kovid 19 people have lost jobs recently uh some have closed businesses so things are not good the economy is not very good but we have to keep persisting we have to keep sending more applications because there are other openings we have to keep hope alive and persist so whatever you do never give up on hope yes okay and here you've said if things don't work out stop complaining try again instead of shifting the blame to other people what is about what is it about you know people shifting the blame to other people people find uh shortcuts or uh becoming escapists you know you want to blame other people for your woos you want to blame others when you don't realize your goals it's important to take responsibility and be in charge on being charged yes and what is failure really because uh some people will see failure the end but some people see it as a means to where they're going failure is important in life we learn from failure we have failed at some point so failure is basically you know that situation or point in life when you you don't achieve the aspirations you had or like you take a detua you wanted to achieve this maybe by June then in June you are not even a quarter way there so I would advise that we strategize instead of just giving up so failure is basically not being able to achieve what you aspire to achieve within the set deadline so to speak so we should take failure as a stumbling blow as a stepping stone instead of a stumbling blow yes you take failure as a stepping stone as a learning point so that you don't get stuck with your failures so to speak but rise above that and take the lessons with you because it's very important to take the lessons because like this covid time whatever people have gone through if someone has not learned uh then maybe they'll never learn yes okay talk to us about the fifth P positive attitude good positive attitude again another very important P which is um as the P says being positive you know uh believing you can remember Barack Obama Barack Obama the 44th president of United States of America he rose to the presidency through uh positivity his slogan was yes we can so it is important uh for everybody to to be positive even if even if the situations and circumstances uh depict otherwise so keep hope alive keep positive be positive that tomorrow the sun will rise again it'll be the darkest hour maybe is just before dawn but dawn is coming okay thank you for that the sixth one the sixth P yeah sixth P is passion passion you know passion is basically that barely controllable emotion Stephanie I can see passion in the ways we are handling this interview because uh you are a fit to be a presenter being passionate as a writer is giving all you can in in your work like I do that in my books being passionate in the words of uh our former director mehirest in power Dr. Joffrey Griffin uh founding NYS and Founding Stareh Boy Center he used to tell us that when you are given a coffee cup to wash wash it like it has never been washed before that's about passion going the extra mile water boils at 211 degrees but at 212 degrees after one additional degree that water turns to steam it is about going the extra mile about that one extra degree passion that extra factor yes that's that's what makes you stand out yes your passion yes and I love how you do the review of every chapter and here you've written on our scale of one to four uh how would you where would you rate yourself with regard to your attitude when pursuing an objective so is it important for us to also just have that in mind when we are pursuing something what's my attitudes towards this thing and make sure that I'm in check it's very important to really review yourself and also rate yourself without being very hard on yourself because like we do this with the other side of my life besides being a writer and a corporate mc and marketing consultant we also train corporates and when you are doing team building we have a recap a set of activities after every activity we have a session to really reflect how have we fared in that activity so it's important to take stock at different intervals in life how well are you progressing on a scale of like one to five are you uh inconsistent are you outstanding without being very hard or being so generous with yourself it's very important okay yes and why is it important uh I was hearing a talk by Vosie one of the famous speakers and he was saying that you need to fall in love again with what you do and this I believe is still in passion so what do you need to fall in love again with something that you love doing because for someone maybe they went into they love cooking they opened a restaurant but you know there's a lot of things there's the budgeting and all that which you are not prepared for and you find that you're it's a burden to you so why do you need to go back and fall in love with that thing again because I would say there was the initial inspiration the trigger that gave you a hint that this is it you know when you keep finding what your purpose is what you like and you find it then maybe at some point you detour it will always be important to come back to to really hot you are good at and what you love doing there are many things in life you know finding the kuk in life so as much as you may go round about around it it's always good to come back and pursue what you are really good at and as much as you detour to continue being of great value yes so it's important to do what you're really passionate about yes it's important and for record I may also mention in the in the interim in the interim as much as let's say you are good at teaching and there are no teaching jobs or opportunities for the coming do any other thing make some dollars in between yeah yeah don't just constrain yourself and lock yourself out of other opportunities simply because you are a musician yet maybe you can also crack a joke or two if there is a platform to crack to do comedy please do comedy as you wait for an opportunity to to go back on track all right okay talk to us about the seventh p that is people good my all-time favorite maybe people it's all about connecting building your network because in the words of robot kiyosaki the order of rich dad poor dad and many amongst other books he mentioned that the richest people in the world look for and build networks everyone else looks for work exactly so it's such an important thing Stephanie to really grow your network no people and the reverse is so true those people should also know you those people should know and this is on networking and we talked with another guest on networking how important is it because people really uh don't understand the importance of your networks how do they help you well basically networks help you in every aspect of life and especially if you have good relationship and good relations with your network they'll come in they'll come through uh in your time of need when you are really in that tight corner and also in your moment of joy and it's important I mentioned this keeping in touch kids keeping touch strategies take to people flowers and chocolate it doesn't mean literally that way give them what they like or what they love if someone prefers to be emailed instead of getting a call do email you are in the book I've mentioned the 50 contact database which now moves to a hundred contact database okay so your 50 people do email them check on them at least once a month uh you know there's a Pareto principle 80 or 80 20 rule like you were uh 20 percent of the clothes in your wardrobe 80 percent of the time so why fokans of the 50 contact database these are the people if you are really in touch with them they can now lead you to a thousand ten thousand others so find these 50 people keep in touch with them regularly see ati wakati wu konatu na wuna wuna shtuki ati ehi wu na india kwa groupia kupanga rusi now we moved from jungia for the last five years exactly so keeping in touch is very important to nurture those relationships it takes time it takes energy it even takes resources because even at some point you may need to to buy your mentor or your friend some lunch so invest in building relationships and why is it important to have a mentor in you know achieving success it a mentor helps with accountability because a mentor is that a big figure so to speak he or she could be actually younger than you but more skilled and more resourceful so this is the person who will hold your hand you keep comparing notes with how you are progressing and they advise you because they are they are richer in knowledge they are richer in skills so it's important to have that fatafiga that big uncle so to speak exactly you could be the problem because maybe you haven't grown your personal brand of the world so you need to work on ourselves before blaming the uncle even the CV you are giving to the uncle needs to be a very well presented so you need to build on yourself make sure what you're giving out they because they're also accountable to you when they fire you right yes so you need to make sure that you are up to the standard or something and so you've said that networking is very important you've mentioned some quotes here as an individual I can smile but together we can laugh so basically networking will help you get through doors that by yourself you couldn't walk through I agree all right so thank you for the seven piece of success what are some of the other books as we close come to a close that you have written yeah the next matrix seven piece of success was my first book we did actually I did a DVD live recording of the same in 2015 and launched the book in 2016 my second book is titled a better tomorrow being positive believing that tomorrow will be better and then my third book is ready but not yet in the market it's currently with the publisher but will be out in the course of the year it's I may not mention the title okay for now when you launch maybe you can have another session okay sure yes so I have three books so far yeah and I'm also currently in a writing fellowship known as the african liberty to really own my writing skills and I also write for Kirat Africa okay quite something so what can people find you if they want to get your books if they want to just talk to you I am on social media my website is www.jamlikikogi.co.k my Facebook page is jamliki kogi aka mc kogi on Twitter at mc kogi I'm also on Instagram at mc underscore kogi even on LinkedIn you know that's your professionals meet jamliki kogi so if you search jamliki kogi or mc kogi on any of the platforms I'll be there and uh willing to engage okay thank you thank you for the insights on success uh any call to action that you'd want to tell the youth as we come to close this is your camera good my call to action to youths and all who are watching us this morning is to charge ourselves to really take that very first step you know that we stop procrastinating talking of that one day I'll achieve a b z but move from one day to day one uh believe in yourself get a mentor and instead of just doing something get something done thank you very much kogi for coming on board and for sharing this uh this insight that has been our interview on the demystifying success the seven piece of success and my take home from this is good intentions will be recognized hard work will be praised but only results will be rewired I don't know what you've taken from this but I hope there's something because I know there's something for everyone the hashtag we are using today is why in the morning at 2-5-4 at Stephanie Eta and at Ramaguku we take a short break and we'll be back with Val