 Hey, hey section three They are not winning now. This is my message to mainly to the ladies, but this goes for the fellas too and We'll talk about that. See a lot of times we look at other people's life and we say man, they're winning man They're winning remember the guy who um the actor. I think he called AIDS Charlie Sheen and he said winning, you know, and he had this thing and everybody just kind of went viral winning and A lot of times we look at other people's life and we think they're winning like I may look at this guy who Smoke sweet all day. So he's always high. He's drinking. He get you know, he's in the strip club He's partying. He is traveling the world He has all of these different women and literally he's casting for women I see guys that literally cast for women say hey me and my girlfriend looking for a girlfriend Send me a DM and women will really write in Women who are broken and confused and hurting. They've lost their identity They've lost all their self-worth They will write in and say hey I would love to be you and your your girlfriend's girlfriend As long as you take me on some of those trips y'all go on and so a person who was in the dumps They'll write in and I see guys take these responses and screenshot them and post them and because of their Immaturity because of their insecurity. They post that to show all the other guys who look up to them Look, this is what it's like to be me. This is the life. Oh, you're married. You're faithful That's stupid. You're lame. You can have so many women. This is the life They are not winning. You know how I know they're not winning Because that's painful because that you do that when you're miserable You do that when you hate yourself You do that when you're insecure or you're trying to compensate for your insecurities That is when you do that. That's when I used to do that when I live that life It was because of my insecurities. It was because I didn't know how to be a man I didn't know who I was so that's why I did those things Now on the other side ladies, I want you to think about this. So many women Ask me and they say, you know this term holds be winning Hose be winning and you see this going out there and and what do you mean by that? You mean that this woman who shows her butt online who bends over, you know, she's practically naked She's oiled down and she's showing butt cheeks all day every day on Instagram. She always has a man She has a rich baller who flies her to all the best islands in the world She gets to see the seven wonders of the world And so you look and then some of those women actually get married and they get married before you so you say they're winning No, they are not winning because a man who wants a woman Who is insecure and hurting and broken and lost Who doesn't understand her private parts are meant to be private and she gives and shows her body In every way to the whole world, you know, like a porn star or escort these women who live this lifestyle When I coach them, there's some confusion there. There's some brokenness there. There's some pain there There's some hurt there and they don't know their value and they've never been told their value or their worth From someone that they actually respect and look up to so they continue to perpetuate the cycle of Brokenness and then this man who was hurting and broken and confused He takes and he reinforces her brokenness with his brokenness and now they become this broken couple And they are depleting one another. They're breaking one another down and we on the outside We look and say man, they look happy man. They're flying all over man They're living the life man. They don't have constraints. They three some four some strip club. They're doing it all man That looks fun. No, they are not winning. They are losing. They are hurting They are lost. They are confused They have a lot of insecurities that they have not confronted and they're struggling and they're really going through a lot So I'm telling you this even though you may not believe it. I've been behind the scenes I've coached these individuals as a professional life in relationship coach. I've heard the stories I've seen and witnessed the broken this firsthand. They are not winning Actually, they look up to you They look up to you and say wow You have a piece you have happiness I know you may want love or maybe you want a better relationship than you have But you know who you are and you're actually at peace. I want that So stay the course Take your time Remain who you are don't compromise your self-worth or yourself respect trying to just have someone don't settle They are not winning