 وأقول في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزاله وأقول قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي ولا أتأوله الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاة والسلام على عبد الله ورسوله نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته نبدأ مع العلم ونسأل الله لتكلم المسجد للمسجد محمد صلى الله عليه وسلم ومسجده ومسجده نتحدث عن المسجد من المبارسين ومسجدهم ومسجدهم ونحن نأتي إلى هذا المشكلة التربية المشكلة التربية تتخيل and educating and preparing your children for their life which is to come وعلى المج Philip to religion ومج Philip to their worldly life in the light of Islam In the light of Islam وهذا التباق من تربية ، كما نقول ، يوجد تباقات جميلة ، ونحن نتحدث about the example of Luqman with his son. ونضع بعض المشاهدين that are found within the ayat that deal with the advice of Luqman to his son. ونحن now, إن شاء الله, سنرى أن نرى an example of the tarbiyah of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم أبنى عباس رضي الله عنهما was a young boy when the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم was alive and the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم used to give the children a lot of attention ونحن نرى عباس رضي الله عنهما because of the closeness, they were closely related to one another because of the love that he had for Abdullah Ibn Abbas and because of the fact that he saw in Abdullah Ibn Abbas that knowledge and wisdom that was far beyond his age even though he was very young at the time the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم was alive ونحن نرى عباس رضي الله عنهما and we have a Hadith in which Abdullah Ibn Abbas narrates the advice that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم gave to him and this is full of benefits and points relating to a tarbiyah islami, a tarbiyah islamic nurturing and raising up of children and educating them ونحن نرى عباس رضي الله عنهما so the Hadith of Abdullah Ibn Abbas that he said كنت خلف رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يوم he said I was behind the Messenger of Allah صلى الله عليه وسلم one day and this is from the habit of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم that he used to people used to ride used to ride رديف I mean with someone on the back and we have the Hadith of Mu'ad Ibn Jabal the well-known Hadith in which he mentions this that he was behind the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم on a riding animal the Prophet says he was to share his riding animal that's from the humility of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم that he would share his riding animal and used to give attention to the young boys and the young children and give attention to advising them and nurturing them and ultimately look at the benefit that that had as it relates to Abdullah Ibn Abbas that Abdullah Ibn Abbas became one of the great scholars of Islam he became one of the most knowledgeable among the Sahaba in the Tafseer of the Quran in matters relating to Fiqh and Hadith رضي الله عنه أرضا and the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم invested in him when he was just a small young boy and that shows you the value of Tarbiyah really doesn't it that you have a very young boy a very young child a young boy or young girl and you put that effort in and you put that you give them that time and attention in order that you reap the fruits and the benefits of that much much later on and it's even narrated with regard to Abdullah Ibn Abbas that some of the he had a friend from among the Ansar and his friend from among the Ansar kind of used to make a little bit of fun you know as to why he was so studious and why he was a friend would say we have among us at people like Abu Bakr and Omar we have from the major Sahaba you know nobody needs the young boy who is Abdullah Ibn Abbas and that young man from the Ansar he said that he passed by Abdullah Ibn Abbas in Taif when he was teaching the people the people had gathered to listen to him and many of the Sahaba had passed away and Abdullah Ibn Abbas was there teaching the people in Taif and at that time that young Ansari he realized the value of all the effort that Abdullah Ibn Abbas was putting into learn and study but one of the benefits we can take from the story is the investment the Prophet ﷺ placed in Abdullah Ibn Abbas to teach him and educate him even though he's a young boy because he now the Prophet ﷺ and his job is to convey the message and he realizes that one of the most important aspects of conveying that message is going to be the young people because they are the ones who are going to hear from the Prophet ﷺ and be in the light of Allah and live for a long time to be able to convey that message directly as Abdullah Ibn Abbas did when many of the Sahaba had passed away and he continued to narrate the hadith directly from the Prophet ﷺ that he had heard so this tarabia it shows you the value of investing in the tarabia of our children the young children they are the ones who are going to represent us and convey from us when we have passed away and they are the ones who are going to continue إن شاء الله that righteousness and the lessons of Islam and teaching it to their children and their children and that's the Sadaqة جارية that you want from your offspring that's what you want from your offspring and that's why we ask or we find in the hadith that when a person dies all of their deeds cease except for three and we mentioned وَاَلَا دُنْ صَالِحُنْ يَدْعُوِلَهَا أَلْ رَيْتِسْ شَيْلْدَ مَيْكْسْ تُعَى فُوْدَمْ وَاَلْمُنْ يُنْ تَفَعُوْبِهَا and knowledge that is benefited from we mentioned Sadaqa جارية a continuous charity so all of these things can come together in the tarbia of a child a tarbia of a child can be Sadaqa جارية can be a continuous charity as people continue to benefit and offspring more and more their children and their children and they keep on benefiting from the lessons you gave it can be knowledge that benefits and continues after you pass away and it can be a righteous child that makes to A' for you and some of the scholars expanded that statement وَاَلَا دُنْ صَالِحُنْ يَدْعُوْلَهَا A righteous child that makes to A' for him to include even the students of the teacher because he is like a father figure to them and so they make to A' for him like the child would make to A for the father so all of this is it shows you the value of tarbia and giving attention to the young kids and it shows you the error of those people who say that don't don't give attention to the children that you know for example they say to the Islamic teachers are you giving your attention to these little kids anyone can teach the kids anyone can teach the small children this is not the prophetic methodology of tarbia the prophetic methodology of tarbia is to focus upon all the different components in the society but to give that time to the young children and to give time to educate the young children so ibn abbas narrates that the Prophet ﷺ he was riding behind him and the Prophet ﷺ turned to him and he said فقال يا غلام he said oh young man اني علمك كلمات I'm gonna teach you some words the scholars of tarbia they take from this that from the etiquettes the usloob of tarbia from the means in which you can give tarbia and the etiquettes you can use is to tell the child that I'm gonna tell you something important I'm now gonna tell you something important so that ibn abbas was ready to memorize it and to understand it and to implement it the Prophet ﷺ said to him these words he said to him احفظ الله يحفظك he said احفظ الله احفظ is a command from الحفظ احفظ meaning to preserve to protect to guard to keep safe and so on so how does this command work احفظ الله because الله سبحانه وتعالى يزال غانية الحميد he doesn't need anyone and he is worthy of all praise so الله سبحانه وتعالى doesn't need anyone so how do you implement this command احفظ الله meaning God everything that Allah has commanded you to God God the commands of Allah God the limits of Allah like the statement of Allah عز وجل حافظوا على الصلاوات والصلاة الوسطى وقوبوا لله قانتين God your prayers especially the middle prayer especially the middle prayer the asr prayer and stand in silent obedience to Allah سبحانه وتعالى so here احفظ الله God all those things that Allah commanded you to God God the rights of Allah God the limits the حدود of Allah عز وجل be careful to stick to the things that Allah has commanded you to stick to like the prayers and if you guard those commands and those limits of Allah عز وجل then الجزاء من جنس العمل the reward will come that will be similar of a similar nature to the action that you did احفظ الله يحفظك احفظ الله يحفظك Allah will guard you you guard Allah's commands you're careful to follow them you guard your prayers you guard the limits you stay within the limits set by Allah you guard all of those things and Allah عز وجل will guard you and protect you احفظ الله تجيد وتجاهك God again احفظ الله God the commands of Allah the rights of Allah the obligations of Allah the limits that Allah has put for you and you will find Allah to be in front of you you'll be upon the سراط المستقيم the straight path and the destination you will reach that destination that you wish for that destination of paradise تجيد وتجاهك and Allah سبحانه وتعالى will guide you upon his straight path until you reach Allah سبحانه وتعالى and you reach what is with Allah from his paradise and his reward اذا سألت فسأل الله and then he taught him if you ask, then ask Allah and this is a wonderful advice that relates both to an act of worship and even you can relate it to the معاملات with the people the way you deal with the people as for the acts of worship then it is to make all of your دعاء and your استعانة all of your seeking help to be from Allah سبحانه وتعالى ايا كنعبد ويا كنستعين you alone we worship and you alone we ask for help اذا سألت فسأل الله if you are gonna ask then ask Allah سبحانه وتعالى and that is in those things which only Allah can do as for asking a person who is alive and in front of you to do something that they are able to do like asking the person to help you with something could you help me lift this could you help me do this then this is not forbidden but the more you avoid it the better and that's why we can even expand the statement of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم to cover even the matters of where it's not forbidden for you to ask someone but it's not good for you it's not healthy for you to ask people like that but the main meaning here اذا سألت فسأل الله that if you make du'a make du'a to Allah if you seek help seek help from Allah اذا سألت فسأل الله if you ask ask Allah وإذا استعنت فاستعين بالله and if you seek help seek help from Allah and here like we said that it contains du'a to Allah alone and that isti'ana is for Allah alone ايا كنعبد ويا كنستعين but it also contains that concept of self-reliance that we have in Islam والاعتماد على النفس which really we shouldn't call it الاعتماد على النفس self-reliance we should call it trusting in Allah and then trying to do as much yourself as you can and that's a principle in Islam and it's something the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم taught strictly to the Sahaba رضي الله عنه that you put your trust in Allah and you try to do as much yourself as you can and not to ask other people even though the primary meaning of this is the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم is indicating to him التوحيد calling upon Allah ازواجل alone seeking help from Allah ازواجل alone إذا سألت فاستعين الله if you ask then ask Allah وإذا استعنت فاستعين بالله and if you seek help then seek help from Allah and how many people fell into شرك بالله ازواجل because of this so many in fact if you look at the Muslim Ummah the majority of the issues in the Muslim Ummah of people falling into شركات actions of shirk and polytheism it happened through this because they didn't ask Allah ازواجل alone and so they took to making دعاة other than Allah as a means of reaching Allah and they didn't seek help from Allah ازواجل alone so they sought help from the things which Allah had not permitted them to seek help from so this really is a vital lesson for every Muslim and it's a vital part of the طربية that the Prophet ﷺ is giving him a طربية in terms of a توحيد إذا سألت فاستعين بالله وإذا استعنت فاستعين بالله if you ask then ask Allah and if you seek help then seek help from Allah and also a تربية in terms of his أخلاق المعاملات with the people that when you deal with the people don't be with the people who is always asking don't be from the people who has your hand out to the people when you want something go and ask what you want from Allah ازواجل and that has an aspect of the عبادات which is a توحيد and it also has an aspect of the معاملات the actions and the dealings with people and that is that a person tries to avoid and keep away from what is in the hands of the people and to put their trust and their reliance upon Allah سبحانه وتعالى alone then the Prophet ﷺ he taught عبد الله بن عباس وعلم أن الأمة لو اجتمعت ألا أن ينفعوك بشيء إن لم ينفعوك إلا بشيء قد كتبه الله لك and know that if the whole أمة came together to benefit you with something they wouldn't be able to benefit you with something except that Allah had written it for you ولو اجتمع على أن يضروك بشيء إن لم يضروك إلا بشيء قد كتبه الله عليك and if they all gathered together to harm you with something they wouldn't be able to harm you except with something that Allah had written against you رفعة وجفة الصحف the pens have been raised and the scrolls have become dried the hadith is narrated by Tirmid رحمة الله تعالى in his جامع but here we see the prophet so I'm teaching Abdullah Ibn Abbas the practical essence of the belief in القدر و القضاء practically understand that if everybody comes to benefit you with something they're not going to be able to benefit you with something except if Allah and if they come to harm you with something they won't be able to harm you except with something that Allah has written against you look at how the prophet is preparing Ibn Abbas for the things that he's going to go through in his life and the difficulties that he might experience in his lifetime and the fact that he puts his trust in Allah he asks Allah he turns to Allah and he seeks the help of Allah and he doesn't concern himself with the people either in benefit or in harm and he detaches his heart from the people and touches his heart to Allah so there are lessons in this that are both practical in terms of Islam and Tawheed and Ibadat and there are also lessons in terms of how you deal with the people and how you behave towards the people and there are narrations in other than at-Tirmidhi in other than Jami'at-Tirmidhi in which the prophet Ibn Abbas احفظ الله تجده أمامك God the rights of Allah you'll find Allah in front of you تعرف إلى الله في الرخاء يعرفك في الشد come to know Allah when things are easy and Allah will know you when things are hard سبحان الله look at the benefit that he's giving to Abdullah Ibn Abbas both in terms of worship and in terms of living your life and just preparing him to survive in the world that know Allah when things are easy and Allah will know you when things are difficult in other words if you take to worshiping Allah and being firm upon that worship when things are easy for you Allah will be there for you when things are difficult for you so he taught him that you're going to experience difficulties you're going to experience troubles don't seek benefit from people don't worry about harm from people and make sure that when things are easy for you and you're in a situation of ease that you turn to Allah and then if you do that then Allah سبحانه وتعالى will be there for you when things are difficult and the prophet continued his advice he said he said and that's another a different wording of the same concept that the people if they gathered together they wouldn't be able to benefit you with something except what Allah had written for you know that whatever happened to you was never going to miss you whatever missed you was never going to happen to you and that gives a person it gives them confidence in themselves and it gives them trust and reliance upon Allah imagine how settled your heart feels when you understand this concept you just feel completely and utterly settled and completely and utterly at peace with yourself that I know that what is going to happen to me I'm going to go out and try my best I'm going to go out and strive and struggle and work and try to find a means to get near to Allah and find a means to benefit myself in this world and in the hereafter but if something happens to me I know that there was no way I could have skipped except to try my best put my trust in Allah and then trust that whatever Allah has decreed for me that is what is going to be the right opportunity for me and whatever miss me or whatever whatever didn't happen to me I'm not going to start wasting my time in this dunya and using up these vital breaths that are the you know the the right Salma they are your capital that you trade with in this dunya those limited number of breaths that you have before you die so how am I going to waste that time by worrying about what didn't happen to me or I should have what would have happened if only I had got this job if only I could have done that if only I would have been able to do this if only I could have had that if only this would have happened if only I didn't go there and if only I hadn't done this all of these words of low and if only how I wish and how I would and I could have and I should have none of this is teaching to Ibn Abbas don't waste your time in this whatever do your best work hard whatever happened to you was never going to miss you and whatever missed you was never going to happen to you وعلم أن النصر المعصر and know that victory comes with patience if you want to be victorious and a نصر usually it means victory over your enemies and general victory you know the victory إذا جاء نصر الله when the victory of Allah comes and the conquest that victory it comes with a sabr it comes with patience and he's teaching him the value of sabr like look man taught his son the value of sabr وصبر على ما أصابق be patient what afflicts you and what happens to you know that victory victory comes with patience when you bring patience الله عز وجل gives you victory وأن الفرج مع الكرب and when you have hardships and calamities relief from those hardships and calamities comes along with it meaning if you're going to have a hardship relief is not far away understand you go through a hardship you go through troubles relief is not far away relief comes along with it وعن مع الأصري وصرا and along with hardship comes ease along with difficulty comes ease so whenever something is difficult for you know that it won't be long إن شاء الله before something easy will happen to you before ease الله will make things easy for you these are life lessons and this is why when we said that tarbiyah is about preparing your children for their life ahead this is the meaning of the word tarbiyah preparing your children and preparing the young people around you and educating them and giving them the knowledge and the lessons they need that they're going to need as they grow older and as they live their life and after you pass away and they continue on that job and that responsibility that you have given them and they pass on that knowledge and they continue to make to our for you that ultimately they need these life lessons and what a beautiful set of life lessons this is the victory comes with patience and that along with hardships and calamities there's relief every time every time you're in a hardship a calamity remember relief is not far away don't despair of the reef don't despair that Allah will never don't despair that Allah of the relief from Allah إنه لا يأسوا من روح الله إلا القوم الكافيرون nobody despairs that Allah will relieve them from their calamities except for the disbelieving people as for the Muslim they never despair because they know that no matter how bad the calamity is there will send them a relief Allah will give them the relief from that calamity and a person knows that when things are difficult there will come a time when things will be easy look at the seerah of the Prophet ﷺ let your children learn from that seerah and learn from the biographies of the companions the difficulties they went through and ultimately الله عز وجل brought back and brought it back to ease and an example of that like we mentioned that the صورة صورة النصر إذا جاء النصر الله والفتح when the victory of Allah comes and the conquest ورأيت النس يدخلون في دين الله أفواجة and you see the people come into Islam in crowds this is an example look at the hardships the Prophet ﷺ went through 23 years of hardship upon hardship and yet الله عز وجل every time there was a hardship Allah brought ease Allah brought ease until in the end Allah عز وجل brought the people into Islam in crowds so he's teaching ابن عباس these life lessons and preparing him in this way for the future things that he will experience the future difficulties that he will experience and also how to go on through his life and like we said whenever we're talking about the worldly things we're talking about them in the light of Islam what will make Allah pleased with you I mean for example poverty is a worldly thing it being poor or being rich it's a worldly thing but how do you handle that in a way that is pleasing الله عز وجل that's when we talk about تربية in the worldly matters we're talking about تربية in a way that brings you near to Allah in response to the things that you experience in your life so I'm going to conclude this episode here إن شاء الله تعالى we're going to go on to talk about principles in تربية so we're going to look at some آيات and أحاديث إن شاء الله that are وصول principles as it relates to تربية things you have to remember when you're trying to nurture and raise your children إن شاء الله تعالى I'm going to continue on to give examples of that إن شاء الله when you talk about educating your children in terms of Islam and how you educate your children in terms of the worldly life إن شاء الله all of that is going to come up in this course on the Muslim family brought to you by المدرسة العمارية that's what Allah made easy for me to mention and Allah knows best وصلاة والسلام على نبينا محمد وعلى آي وصحبي أجمعين السلام عليكم if you're enjoying these videos and you'd like to keep up to date with all of the courses we're going to be running for you at home.com