 So there's a story in the perfume garden which says that once upon a time there was a man who had a very beautiful wife. Not only was she beautiful, she was accomplished, she was skilled, she had good manners, she was honorable. In other words, she was perfect in every way. The man loved her dearly, he made love to her every single night and he got great pleasure from doing so. Unfortunately, however, the woman never got any pleasure from this love making at all and as a result she was always in a bad temper. Now, as you can imagine, the man has absolutely no idea why she's always in such a bad temper and so he literally goes from person to person trying to figure out what he can do to improve this. But finally he gets to an old woman who says to him, have you ever tried any other ways of making love or are you just happy with that one position that pleasures you? Go and try every other position till you find one that makes her happy and you will find she will not only be in the happiest of moods but her devotion to you will be boundless. The man thus admonished went off and tried every single position known to erotic science till finally he came upon the one that had his wife in transports of alarming intensity and she said to him through lips bitten with ecstasy, now you have hit on the real way to make love to me and she was in a happy mood ever since. So what is this magical position? It's basically just the sitting position but that's not what I want you to take away from this story. The real moral of this story is that everybody's pleasure is different and there's a million different ways to access that pleasure so don't stick to just the one thing. Experiment, explore, figure out what suits the two of you best and then follow through with that.