 Happiness is one of the most sought after things in life. We also have money, houses, cars, and sometimes women. But why is happiness so important to people? Happiness is important because people don't feel complete without being happy. In many ways, people seek all the things they desire in the hope that getting them will make them happy. But as reality often shows, this is seldom the case. According to Forbes, happiness comes in so many different forms that it can be hard to define. Unhappiness, on the other hand, is easy to identify. You know it when you see it, and you definitely know when it's taken hold of you. Unhappiness is not something anyone should indulge themselves in for too long. It can lead to depression, and depression leads to health challenges. Being unhappy can literally kill you. In today's video, I'm going to share with you 16 habits of chronically unhappy people. If you are new here, consider subscribing to this channel for more awesome videos such as this one. 1. They wait for the future to be happy. Do you often catch yourself saying, I will be happy when… Stop it! You are merely postponing your happiness to another time. It means you can't be happy now, only later. Why wait if you can have it now? 2. They complain. It is easy to call out people who complain, but it isn't easy to avoid complaining yourself. The world can be an interesting place with interesting experiences. Sometimes you will feel like switching roles with other people, so that maybe you would be happier. But life doesn't work that way. The only way you can truly be happy is being grateful for the things you do have. 3. They don't have hope. Hopelessness is a recipe for unhappiness. Take a good look at yourself right now. Do you think you will be rich? What's your response? Be honest. Is it yes? Is it no? Whatever it is, I want you to know that all you truly have is yourself. You are your greatest asset. If you can't believe in yourself, you can hardly convince other people to believe in you. 4. Acquiring things in hope it will make you happy. Have you ever spent a year saving and making money to deal with a breakup? What did you gain in the end? Did it make you happy? Happiness isn't something that material things can bring. You can't buy your way to happiness. If you are not at peace, you will never be happy. You will, in time, come to realize that buying things and giving them away will make you happier than keeping them without using them. The feeling that you are making someone else's life better is a comforting one. This may explain why billionaires give a lot. 5. Exaggerating events. Everyone goes through tough times. You have every right to mourn in your own way if you lose someone, but you need to try to keep it simple for your sake. When you start to think about all you could have done with a person and all the memories, you may not recover at all. Getting fired too is a sad event, but try to treat it as one of the things in life. You will preserve your happiness that way. Some people take bad news very badly. They can feel so distraught and stay silent for days. If you want to be happy, don't react this way to bad news. 6. Staying home. There is nothing wrong with staying in, but when you do it too frequently, it can create challenges. Going out means you mingle with other people. You interact and feel less alone. Social people tend to be happier than lonely people. Human beings are social animals by nature. If you don't socialize, it can have an adverse effect on you. When you are in the company of your friends, you can also share what is going on and receive useful insight and feedback that can solve some of those challenges. 7. Striving for perfection. If you keep striving for perfection and everything, nothing will be done on time and you will be very unhappy. People are not perfect. They make mistakes all the time. Having this type of habit will make you impatient and intolerant. And because you are this way, people will not like you and this will make you further unhappy. According to a positive blog, setting the bar for your performance at an inhuman level usually leads to low self-esteem and feeling like you are not good enough, even though you may have had a lot of good or excellent results. You too are not perfect. You are human. Hard work may not always give you the results you want but decide to make it a way of life. It ultimately does. People who are successful today are very experienced in feeling. They have a patient attitude to life and try as much as possible not to worry. Everything will not always work out. Making peace with this reality is key. People who make up their mind to try nonetheless are usually very successful and happy. 8. Hanging out with sad people. Anyone who desires to be free from unhappiness also has the cut of ties with people who are unhappy or at least make them unhappy. Some people are toxic. They only bring out the worst in us. Is there a friend you always fight with whenever you guys meet? Is there a friend who always makes you feel like you're a horrible person? Such a friend is not suitable for you. They can mess up your head and keep you unhappy. Our enemies don't have this power over us because we expect them to attack. Only your friends can really hurt you. 9. Overthinking about the future. Let the future worry about itself. Worry about your present only. It makes no sense but it can save you from unhappiness. How many people do you know who worry and are happy at the same time? The answer is no one. Worries and happiness are mutually exclusive of each other. If you have one, you can't have the other. Spending much of your time in the future and imagining how things could go wrong at work in your relationship and with your health can create self-doubt and build into horrifying nightmare scenarios and playing over and over in your head. Be in the present. Enjoy the presence of your friends, your family, your colleagues at work and your youth. No minute that passes ever comes back. 10. Comparing yourself with others. This is a destructive habit. What do you gain from doing this? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. People are always going to be people. There is always someone who is going to be richer than you. There is always someone who will be smarter than you. Taller than you or more good looking. Learn to love yourself just the way you are. 11. Recalling the past frequently. Another habit that keeps people unhappy is continually thinking about the past. The past is gone. What you have is before you. Why not make the most of it? Sadly, not everyone gets this. To be able to make progress into your future, you need to make peace with the past. If you used to be the least in class, let it go. You create your own reality. Don't let the past get in the way of your great future. 12. They accept other people's negative opinion about them. No one can impute on you what you don't accept. If they call you dumb, ignore them. You only start becoming unhappy when you accept what they tell you. This is why your mindset is so important. If someone says you are incapable of doing a job, prove them wrong. Don't argue. Let your results speak for you. The more you assert yourself, the more confident you are going to be. Don't ever let anyone's opinion put you down. What they say is their business. And not yours. Smile. Relax. You have it all on the control. 13. Being selfish Unfortunately, some people think this is supposed to make you happy, but it doesn't at all. You see, when you focus on yourself, you also exclude others. You concentrate on gratifying your desires and in the process hurt your loved ones when they withdraw. You will be left alone and unhappy. Being selfish is self-destructive. Selfish people don't keep friends for long. If you want to be happy, you should avoid selfish tendencies. People hate the feeling of being used that may not forgive you if they find out you exploited them. 14. Holding back because of what people may say You have to realize that people don't care too much about what you do. They have their hands full with worrying about their own lives and what people may think of them instead. Go ahead and do you and not mind what they have to say. You will be happier and more fulfilled this way. It is far easier to gain acceptance with your success in your area of interest than to justify mediocrity. 15. Making everything complicated Try to simplify things. Life is not a war zone. No one is out to get you. It's all in your mind. Sleep well, eat well and rest. You are going to be just fine. 16. Having too much stuff to do at the same time If you haven't had a presentation to prepare in one hour before, you will not really know the stress of working really hard and feeling lost. My advice, don't take on too many things at the same time. Take a break, rest and continue. Always say no when the deadline is too close. If you lose one client, you will always have another one. Trust that you are making the right decision every day and reflect on them. Continue to smile and be happy. Life is not that serious.