 And I would go into preschool and I would see the little magic circles that they would have where they would come and they would start talking about their feelings I would say oh, that's a wonderful thing or when you go to different groups a a or different groups and hear people talk about their feelings That's wonderful. But again, it's what's the purpose behind it You even in the little magic circles or in a a groups or churches and course of miracles groups If it stays at just talking about the feeling of joining in our misery Again, that's not helpful. So to me. I just like oh, this goes even deeper than just the simplicity of talking about feelings, too You know, if they're commiserating whether it's little preschoolers I Hate this play You know, you think you had it man, let me tell you about my story, you know, that again would be an ego emotive Certainly that's sharing feelings. There's no doubt about that. But What's the intention and really let go and let the Holy Spirit take it? Well, yeah, well, this is how I felt but I Have this change of mind or a different I saw this differently now. I feel like this that's helpful I mean that's inspiring The whole point of it is to say how it was what happened and how it is now when you know No, those are the basic guidelines for getting a read I always got you were you? Yeah, you're always supposed to include what what happened change But the emphasis is on the fact that there has been a change, right Mm-hmm, right and the old-timers tend to not focus very much at all on how it was Oh, it was they really get into the spiritual principles and how it how it is now Our children are much more open to these ideas about death than an older person Who has a cell there? They're very hurt Children are different, but if we make that those categories again, then you know, you can come up with your different modes of dealing with things and It's really has to do with the readiness of the mind and nothing to do with the age of the body or the sex of the body or I Correction made at any level, you know in but it has to be in our own mind I'd like to read some lines from the course in chapter 16 The first section is on true empathy and I think it addresses some of the things that perhaps are in your mind about Dealing with children who in your perception are are in fact feeling along and how What I experience is that when they initially come They they are, you know, they're unable to talk about it and in the group setting Hearing that other children their age have had that same experience Does in fact change their perception of it? They don't feel like they're the only one right exactly That that is the purpose is to help them realize that you know Like they won't go on they're not alone and it appears to work Just a few things Well in the first edition it's on page 307 and I was just I was just gonna read a few lines that I have underlined That have been most helpful in that part Do not use empathy to make the past real and so perpetuate it All you have learned of empathy is from the past To empathize does not mean to join in suffering for that is what you must refuse to understand That is the egos interpretation of empathy and is always used to form a special relationship In which the suffering is shared The Holy Spirit does not understand suffering and would have you teach it is not understandable Pain is not accomplished by delusional attempts to enter into it Healing pain is not accomplished by delusional attempts to enter into it And I think that's the whole point that you know we want to get to is that To be truly helpful in that kind of situation and to bring about the healing that we want We have to do that by not entering into the delusion of pain