 Hello my YouTube family. Welcome again to another Narc Survivor Live video. In this one we do have a very interesting topic and I will be going very deep into this. This will make the narcissist go crazy. As you may have noticed it's very easy to get them to react, to make them go crazy. And in fact all you really have to do in an argument or disagreement with a narcissist is just say this one word. Yes this one word will really set them off. It will really make them go insane. And this one word is whatever. If you're arguing with the narcissist they're constantly just trying to prove some point to you. When really it's just word salad and gas lighting it really makes no sense. Just say this one word to the narcissist. Say whatever. And watch how they react. And here's another one. Another three words that you can say. Say I don't care. And watch the frustration build up inside of them. Watch how it drives them mad. Watch how they just can't stand it. And then examine how confused it makes you feel. Because everything they do it's like they're always trying to act indifferent. They're very dismissive. They act like they're above you. They're greater than you. They're superior to you. They're more intelligent. They know more than you. And you're bad. You're crazy. You've done all of this stuff. So why would they care about what you think? If you're the one who is wrong. If you're the one who is crazy. Because we know what we're dealing with. And we couldn't give a damn about what they think. That's why we come on here to communities like this with people who actually do understand. So why does the narcissist act so indifferent and dismissive? But then when you say whatever or you say I don't care. Then they blow up. Then they lose their minds. They go crazy. Then they want to take you down. They want to punish you. They want to destroy you. Are these really the acts of someone who does not care? Clearly not. These are the acts of someone who does care a lot. They care a lot more than what they've led you to believe. And in fact narcissists care far more than the average person. They are hypersensitive, paranoid and hypervigilant. They're like loose cannons. It doesn't take much to set them off. But what do they care about? Do they care about other people? Clearly they don't. Because if they did, then they would be focusing on those other people. Instead of engaging in these pointless arguments with you. They wouldn't even waste their time doing that. And instead their time would be spent on other things. That they say are more important than you. And yet they managed to spend all of this time arguing with you. Bringing you down, devaluing you. What is the purpose of that? If you're really so worthless and insignificant, why would they devalue you to begin with? You see when we look at this tactic devaluation, the whole point of it is that it's taking value away from you. How can you take value away from someone who has no value? That doesn't make any sense. And another thing, why would someone who has more value than you look to you to take value away from you? That also does not make any logical sense. Because if you're seeking value or to take value away from someone, you could do that with someone who has value. And not only that, but someone who has more value than you. So that is why they devalue you. And yet they act like you're beneath them. And as though they don't care about you. But when you argue with them, it's clearly obvious that they are heavily dependent on you. They're heavily dependent on what you think, feel and believe. That's why they manipulate and gaslight you. In effect, they are actually trauma bonded to you, to where they're seeking your validation. They care a lot about what you think. But even then, they manipulate and gaslight you into seeing situations differently than you normally would. So in essence, they want you to be like a puppet on a string and they're the puppet master. To where they're getting you to think, feel and believe, whatever they want you to think, feel and believe. So they're creating a false reality. And they're imposing a false character on you so that they can medicate and regulate themselves. When that character isn't even you. You are manipulated and gaslighted into being that way. And yet they're so heavily dependent on this character that they have imposed upon you. So that they can use it to regulate their emotions. Because yes, they care a lot more than you might think. But they don't care about other people. They don't care about you. What they care about is themselves. And every action and behavior, when they're manipulating and love bombing you, they're seeking your validation. And even when they're devaluing you and they're trying to destroy you, they're trying to punish you. Again, they are still seeking your validation. And it reveals that they are trauma bonded to you. And why are they trauma bonded to you? What is the trauma? What created this bond? The trauma and what created this bond, it's the fact that you disapproved of them. You invalidated their false character, their false image, their false reality, which is meant to be perfect. This reality that they've constructed, this character, it's not meant to have any flaws. There's not meant to be anything wrong with it. It's meant to be perfect. It's meant to be safe, stable and secure until you came along. And you revealed that there most definitely is not just one flaw, but many flaws. There are many things wrong with it. Many things that they fail to recognize, that they fail to understand. But that's not something that they're going to accept. Because do you know how difficult it would be for them to go back on everything that they stood for? Everything that they constructed in this false reality. It would take far more work than them simply manipulating and brainwashing, gaslighting you into submission and making you validate the false reality. It would take far more work than that. Because the reality is that they have been manipulating people for a very long time. It's not just you. They have been brainwashing a lot of people. They have ruined a lot of people's lives. People who just like you lacked awareness, knowledge and experience. People who didn't even know what was going on. And yet the narcissist who has done this many times before you or before those other people, they knew exactly what was going on and what they were about to do. So essentially it's like a predator and their prey. And why is it a predator and their prey? Well it's because their prey lacks the wisdom and experience. They don't realise what is actually happening. Their prey is possibly seeking understanding, a resolution or maybe trying to escape. And the predator which is the narcissist is seeking power and control over their prey. They're trying to exploit them for their own personal gain. And this is why they focus so heavily on the revelation and the gaslighting to keep this process, this cycle running. The last thing they want is for someone like you to come along and reveal the flaws in this system. To reveal that it really is nothing more than an endless cycle that doesn't lead anywhere good. The last thing that they want is for you to do that because they are quite comfortable with how things are and they want to continue in this direction. You don't. That's why you confronted them and at times you even threatened to expose them. The last thing that they want is to be exposed. They don't want anything to be revealed about them. That's the whole point. Because you've got to think why would they manipulate you? Why would they brainwash you? Why would they gaslight you? I mean you're meant to be the crazy one. You're meant to be the one who is all messed up in the mind. If anything you should be doing that to them. You should be the one who has constructed this false reality. That should be you. So why aren't you doing that? Why are they the ones who are manipulating and brainwashing you? Not only that but why do they do all of these things where it's like they constantly try to make you feel uncomfortable to where you're always walking on eggshells. They deprive you of sleep. They got you up late at night arguing with them in the middle of the night. First thing in the morning. Waking you up at 3am. What is the purpose of all of that? What is the point in it? I mean if they are someone who stands for truth. The true reality. Facts. If they are someone who stands for that. Then their greatest standpoint and where they should be firing from. Is from a place of logic. Truth. Reality. I mean that would make a lot more sense if what they are saying is true. But they don't do that. They go straight to the manipulation. The lies. The deception. The brainwashing. All of these deceptive, underhanded tactics. Like something that criminals do. I mean if you look at any psychopath. Any serial killer. Rapist. Wherever it may be. They all do exactly the same things. They all love bomb, devalue, discard, hoover. They manipulate, lie, future fake, deceive, brainwash. And they engage in these exploitative, underhanded tactics. And then they like to leave little clues. It's like they like to leave these riddles. These puzzles for you to figure out. And at the same time they are wearing a mask. They are not showing you who they really are. That's their false character. And they hide behind it. They hide behind this mask. Because they believe that it protects them. They believe that it absorbs them of any duty or responsibility. As though as long as they are wearing that mask they can just do whatever they want. It's like that movie, The Texas Chainsaw Massacre. I can't remember the name or the character. But I remember that guy with the chainsaw. He murders people. He soars off their face. And then he wears it like a mask. And then he then uses that mask to kill people. And this is often what criminals do. They wear a mask. They hide their face. They don't show you who they really are. But the narcissist sees exactly who you are from the very beginning. What I mean, you show them who you are. But what they do is they project an idealized image onto you. In that moment you are perfect. Until later on you begin to threaten them. Because they have this blackaway mentality where it's like if you're perfect then they must be flawed. They must be inferior to you. They must be inadequate in comparison to you. And that's when they then have to devalue you. They have to take value away from you. They have to degrade and publicly humiliate you. Because all they really do is seek in validation from you. They want to keep you down so that you're looking up at them. And you're seeing them as an authority. As someone who is superior to you. Because like I said, they don't really care about anything. They don't care about you. They don't care about the relationship. All they care about is validating their false self. And in the beginning this false self may be attractive and desirable. As long as you're susceptible to their manipulation. But then as things go on and you start to realize that that's not who they really are. They're not perfect. Then that's when they begin to devalue you. That's when the abuse starts. And then instead they use you to make themselves feel powerful and in control. Because they're actually very weak and insecure. They act so arrogant and self assured. I mean when you think of an arsonist it's like they're all knowing, they're all seeing. They know everything. They know everything that they need to know about you. They've got you all figured out. And in their minds you're so predictable they already know what you're going to do next. And yet at the same time they're so insecure and hyper vigilant to where they've always got to be two steps ahead of you. They've always got to be in control. And they will even try to isolate you and start to be a campaign against you. Which really doesn't match up with this image of them knowing everything. And being so confident and self assured. It doesn't really line up with that at all. So it's very contradictory. It doesn't make any sense. I mean the only possible conclusion, especially if you're able to observe their previous targets, is that they do recognise that there's something very different about you. Of course as I've mentioned in previous videos, those of you who make it onto my channel, especially those of you who regularly watch my videos, it is likely that you may be a chosen one and an empath. And their previous sources may not have been that. So that's one thing. But then of course they don't recognise that. They don't see that. Because to see that they would have to know it. And they don't know it because they're not that. But in the beginning they saw you as ideal. And there was time they had to devalue you because it was either you or them. And then when they devalue you, all they're really doing, and pay close attention to this, all they're really doing is disowning parts of themselves that they don't like. And assigning them to you. Because remember they don't see you, they don't know you. They don't know who you actually are. And that's why they're often very surprised when you reveal certain things about yourself that they never even knew to exist to begin with. They never even knew that about you. They never even predicted it, they never expected it. So all they're really doing is disowning these parts of themselves that they don't like and assigning them to you. And that's why they're often getting you to carry the blame, you to carry the responsibility, often of their own actions. Things that they are guilty of. In many ways they scapegoat you. They hold you accountable for all of their wrongdoing. Because the truth is that they actually have no identity of their own. I mean how could a person have an identity of their own if they're disowning parts of themselves that they disapprove of and then just putting it on to you instead of them owning up to that and taking accountability for it. Does that sound like someone who likes or accepts themselves? Of course not. And if you've watched until up to this point in the video, you should have connected certain things by now. You should have concluded upon what I'm speaking about. And why it bothers them so much when you say whatever. Or when you say I don't care. Because yes this false character, this false reality, it is heavily dependent on you. They disown these parts of themselves that they don't like and assign them to you. And then they have to get you to accept it, to agree with it. Even if they have to manipulate you, even if they have to gaslight you into submission. Even if they have to destroy you, if that's what they have to do to get you to agree. So that they can then continue in this path to exist as this false character. Who doesn't have the flaws that they would otherwise possess. Because they've already dumped that on to you. And many of them don't see this, they're not even conscious of it. They don't even realize what they're doing a lot of times. But this is exactly what is going on. Now that's why with time, I mean you take on all of these extra unnecessary duties and responsibilities. You take on far more accountability than you need to. And that's why with time you begin to surpass them. Because they're dumping all of this baggage onto you. All of these parts of themselves that they don't like. And you're taking that and you're turning it into gold. You're turning it into something greater. Because they're essentially handing you the power. The power over them. When they're doing that. Because that is the whole point. Is these negative or undeveloped parts of ourselves. If we take accountability for those things. It can be turned into something great. And that's something that they have failed to realize. Because remember a lot of these behaviors are unconscious. They don't even realize what they're doing. They don't even know that they're disowning parts of themselves and assigning them to you. But that's exactly what they're doing when they are unjustifiably blaming you and scapegoating you. And that's why things then pan out in the way that they do. And this is why it bothers them so much. And this is why every action, every behavior. Everything they do. It's designed to get you to care. It's designed to get you to think of them. To ruminate over them. To worry about them. To worry about what they're going to do next. This is why. Because by doing that you're acting in accordance. You're agreeing with what they're saying or what they're putting out. So then in that moment you're making it seem real to them. When you disagree. When you act indifferent. You say whatever. You say I don't care. Then you're triggering them. You're pulling them into reality. Because they've got to get you to agree. Because it's dependent on you. It's dependent on what you think. Because they're actually very insecure about it. And not only that but they're actually very insecure about what they're doing. Yes of course they know that what they're doing is wrong. Deep down. They know that they're bad. They know that they're evil. They know that they're crazy. They know all of that. And that's why they rely on the manipulation and the gaslighting so heavily. To distort your perception. And to get you to accept it and agree to it. Because this is how an abuser's mind thinks. If you accept it. If you choose to stay. You agree with it. Then I'm not doing anything wrong. Because if I was doing something wrong. Then you would say something about it. But that's the crazy thing because even when you do. They just manipulate and gaslight you even more. So there is nothing that you can say or do. Either way this process still goes on in their mind. Where it's like. You're here. You're right in front of me right now. While I'm saying or doing this to you. You're still present. And even if you're not I can just try to pull you back. The point is you're still here. So that must mean that you're okay with it. You agree to it. Because otherwise you wouldn't be here. And this process. This mentality this way of thinking goes on in their minds. Despite what you do to fight it. It doesn't matter if you try to run away. It doesn't matter if you say no. If you set boundaries. What do they do? They'll stalk and harass you. They'll try to track you down. They'll isolate you. They'll start smear campaigns against you. While acting as though you're comfortable with it. You agree to it. It's like a rapist mentality. They're in denial. They're telling themselves that what they're doing is okay. And that you're okay with that. As long as they can get you to care. If they can get you to care. And this is why they sensitize you as well. Because then you're still reacting. If you're reacting that tells them that you care. That tells them that they can keep going. What they're doing is okay. But when you stop reacting. When you gray rock then suddenly there's a problem. Because then that triggers them to reflect. And then it's like okay so what I'm doing is not okay. Because why am I not getting a response? That's when they will typically ramp up the abuse. To get that response out of you. Because they need that response. That's what tells them to keep going. Even if you're resisting it. Even if you're opposing it. Even if you're fighting it. That reaction is all they need. That's validation. It's telling them that what they're doing is okay. As crazy as that sounds. And their disordered mind is set up in a way. Where it's like they're constantly scanning you. And you may see it. The way they're scanning your facial expressions. Body language and tone and voice. To where you could just outwardly say no. You could decline. You could refuse. You could say no I'm not interested. And yet they're so. They're so just scanning you. Insignificant things. Responses. Signs of agreeance. Just any little thing they can find. And they will twist and distort it. Which then in their minds give them. Some permission to continue doing what they're doing. Yes this is how predators think. This is exactly how murderers and rapists think. This is how they justify it. And this is why they need you to care. And they will do anything to make you care. Whether it's something bad or something good. As long as they get that reaction out of you. Even if that reaction is you telling them. That you don't care. Even then they can still twist that around in their minds. But when you say I don't care and. Your body language. Your energy everything. Tells them that you actually don't care. Then that kills them. That invalidates the false character. It destroys the illusion. It all falls apart. And in that moment you need to be very careful. Because in their minds it's like okay. If you don't care right now. If you don't care about what I'm saying. What I'm doing in my efforts to provoke. Or to entice you. If you don't care that doesn't mean I've got to stop. If I stop then the false character dies. The illusion falls apart. I lose my supply. So if you don't care. That means I have to make you care. That means I have to do something to provoke you. To get a response. To make you react. So that you do care. And then that gives me permission to continue doing what I'm doing to you. And then I can continue getting that validation. I can continue getting supply. Yes. This is exactly how they think. This is exactly what is going on in their minds. And quite possibly it is the result of extreme abuse and neglect in their childhood. I mean not quite possibly. I'm pretty much 100% sure that that's what it is. Because from all of that abuse and neglect. They had to develop this mentality, this way of thinking. To where they have to twist and distort anything and everything. To where they then see it as a sign of response. As an act of agreeance. So that they can then continue what they're doing. Because with any person, even a psychopath. When they know that someone doesn't agree to something. They can't continue. If a person does not agree with something they have to stop. This is why they objectify you. They dehumanize you. They infantilize you. This is why they do all of those things. And this is why when you gray rock they ramp up the abuse. To get you to react, to respond. To validate. So that they can twist it in their minds. If though it's some form of agreeance. Then gives them permission in their minds to continue. With their behavior. Because otherwise it's not possible. Otherwise if someone says no. If someone says this is the line do not cross. This is a boundary. This is me and this is you. If someone says that. They can't continue. So they have to distort it in their minds. So that they can continue with their behavior. They have to blur the lines. They have to extend themselves. And have power over you. To where it's like. You can't tell where they end and you begin. Or where you end and they begin. There is no boundary. There is no dividing line. Everything's just enmeshed. And this is why narcissists like enmeshment. So that they can do whatever they want to do. Whether you like it or not. As I said we were going to go deep on this one. And yeah I think we've gone pretty deep. This is how a narcissist mind works. This is how any abuser's mind works. Every abuser has an excuse. They have a justification. Otherwise they could not do what they do. Our minds. This system. This world is not set up in that way. Because this world was created by God. We were created by God. And God quite possibly did not design things to work in this way. So these narcissists, these abusers have found ways to go around it. By distorting things in their mind. By having these justification, these excuses. And viewing people as objects or as extensions of themselves. So that they are then able to bypass this natural order. This natural way of how things are supposed to be. And how it was ordained by God. Because yes this is a perfect system. It was set up in a perfect way. To where we would all live in harmony and in accordance with each other. But these narcissists, these abusers, they found a way to go around it. To where they could force themselves upon people. And do things to people who didn't want those things done to them. Which in my opinion rather is the worst thing that you can do. There's nothing worse that you can do than that. I mean if someone says no, if they say they don't appreciate something. They don't like your behaviour, they don't like how you're treating them. Then you should stop. You should walk away, you should leave them alone. If not then what you're doing is evil. And you will be penalised for that, you will face justice. Because you have gone against the natural order. You have gone against this system that God has created. And it's no coincidence why things are set up in this way. And why narcissists have to behave in the way that they do. In order to get their needs met. Because a long time ago, as I've said in previous videos, they have sold their souls. And I do believe that they had an option, they still do have an option to reclaim their soul. But they chose not to. They chose to go on this path. They chose to do things this way. That is why they are the way that they are. That's why they're always so miserable. Because they're ego-tistical, they're not connected to a soul. 245 live viewers, if you're finding this video helpful please give it a thumbs up down below. It will help to get this message out there so that other survivors will see it as well. And I do believe that this is a very important message. I haven't gone this deep on this topic until now. But also I'd love to hear from you, let me know what you think about this. Do you agree with it or not? What are your thoughts? Let me know in the comment section below. Hit subscribe, click on notifications so that you will be notified when I upload new videos. And if you would like to donate, you can leave a super thanks in the comment section or a super chat in the live chat. Or you can go to my paypal, it is paypal.me. 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