 if you have elders in the family, if you are really tuned in and very, very clear and very coherent and solid, then you are able to stand up before them in humility, with compassion, and yet with clarity, and they will not mess, even if they are strictly Islamic, because the truth is felt by everyone, even religion feels the truth, so be fearless, bend down, go inward, that is where your answers are, and that is where your strength also arises.