 I know many of you have become pseudo therapists for the men you're in relationship with. It's a great opportunity for men and women to vent to one another, to replace either therapy or to replace a personal confidant in your life. And yet many men use their work and their children as their excuse for not developing deeper intimacy, for not developing closeness in a relationship. They use it as an excuse. I'm too busy. I'm too busy with work. I've got a lot of things going on at work. Work is really hectic right now, okay? That's an excuse, and I'll explain why in a moment. That might be a valid truism for this person, but that's still an excuse. Or you know what, my children are my priority right now. My kids need me a lot.