 Now when I first started improving my life one of the first things I got into was affirmations and chances are if you are Also into personal development. You're also into the idea of affirmations But one of the problems with affirmations is something simple and it's that they often don't work Well in this video, I want to share my experience with what happens when affirmations don't work and what's the better alternative? What's up guys Alex Hein here author of the book master the day now one of the related practices Writing out an affirmations and reciting them that I do still daily is Journaling now journaling is a very strategic way of overcoming barriers and reaching your goals and I've included a free email course It's the first link right in the description box there below click that enter email You're gonna get this free email sequence over time. You're also learning about my journaling program now this idea of Affirmations being used as the BL end all of improving emotions and beliefs to me just doesn't work And it just doesn't make sense Like when I first started wanting to improve myself a lot of what drove me was the fact that I was a real life McLovin and never got any girls let alone the kind of women I wanted So imagine if I'm there little Alex look at encyclopedia salesman like 17 years old become 12 and I'm like I am utterly irresistible to women I am a sex God like can you imagine how ridiculous that would be and how ineffective it would be There's a saying by Jim Rohn that if you're broke the best affirmation is not I'm a millionaire The best affirmation is I'm broke and I need to do something about it So with me in my opinion Affirmations don't really change those core emotional patterns They're things that you either have to prove to yourself Through personal development through actually achieving your goals actually improving yourself or there are things that you have to really chisel away at and Look for evidence that's counter to that belief you have and when it came to building my business if I was like I am powerful and I have this huge audience and my fingertips that loves my work and I've produced amazing content And I make millions of dollars It doesn't really work because your subconscious honestly your conscious and your subconscious they both know that's not true Because it sees the reality it looks out the window and it sees the ghetto or it sees the dumpy apartment You don't want to live in it sees the crappy meal that you bought for three dollars because it's all you can afford right now You know the idea of saying an affirmation does somehow counter reality in my mind is a flawed idea What would have been a better affirmation is right now? I'm broke and I'm going to commit myself every single day to personal development and studying the habits of the wealthy So what do you actually do instead? So in my mind the best way to go about it is replacing affirmations instead with growth oriented actions So let's say for example the affirmation wanted to be around getting that exceptional partner Make the affirmation not that I will get this partner or I'm with this amazing person But that the affirmation is I'm committed to spending one hour a day improving this quality about myself And instead you become that exceptional person That's the mirror of the person you're trying to attract So if you want a person who's exceptionally generous you start cultivating that trait in your daily life And without a doubt if you are more generous more intellectual more curious more fun more adventurous You're going to attract more people like that if you want more wealth or you want to be more successful in your business You don't affirm that i'm going to be a millionaire except does nothing you affirm and commit to One hour a day i'm going to commit to these habits this process of becoming the millionaire Which may mean it may mean starting a business it may mean how you manage your money Earning money saving money allocating money so rather than i'm just going to become a millionaire and it's going to fall on your head What do I need to do daily to do that? Or instead of that like i'm happy i'm zen i'm peaceful even when my mom calls me a fat whale Instead of that the affirmation is that i'm going to practice these habits of daily happy calm non-reactive people so we're taking something that's like Really trying to convince myself of something i know that's not even true even though i want it to be true And instead we make it more practicality oriented now just a quick reminder again I've included some of this kind of Mental cognitive emotional restructuring inside the journaling program So check out that link in the description box It's going to bring you to a free email series on journaling how i used it to achieve goals improve my life Etc. It's the first link right there in the description box there below and punch in your email You'll get that right away and again my last two videos that have come out you can check out right there and right there You