 Let me ask you a question. How many cases do you have? Natapiyan ni tawaliza. Wajan ni nga zinae. How many cases do you have ya muna ume na sema? Swezi ya chawdem tu li safana e sana? Nimingi. Nimingi sana. How many cases ladies do you have ya wajan na ona sema? Ku ni li safana e? Ata kama na kitu sa iju ni li safana e na mimi ni kusawa? Wajatu wende lebukana e. Watsup guys and welcome to yet another episode of Friends Vibe right here on SPM Buzz. In case you haven't subscribed, please make sure you do. We are already at 60k subscribers. So make sure you know we get to 70. But today I'm joined with a panel. You know on the panel today I have kawaiida guests. But also I have a guest over here. Excuse me. Ate kawaiida guests. Excuse mwa kawa kawaiida bossi. Ya ni malimadarawi mefika. Ya ya ya ya indafanya butita. Mesama watua kawaiida guests. So it is the great Eddie butita as you know. My sa Abdi. And the passionable MC Antoni. Wow okay anyway so my good name is Miss Kitingchi and today's discussion is Is it a guarantee that if you hustle with someone right from the beginning they have to marry you? Or rather if you hustle with your partner should they marry you? That is our topic for today. So should we men, women, what are you guys saying? Ladies first. Ladies first. Naisa una se maje. Ya it's only fair I mean I've been there since you had nothing. Why are you laughing? It's only fair. We took care of her more. There are chances that I met people who are more wealthier than you and I still chose you. So that means I believed in you. I was there for you. I believed in your dreams until now they are coming through. And then all of a sudden you want to change? That's unfair. That's so unfair. I feel like that's so inhumane. Come on. Begini kwa wajiku mwenda bash, kuna bufe, kuna kukumu buzi ni ni, nasasati. Nova tia kamaa. You are going to die. Pwaja kwa wanza, waja kwa wanza. You have to be in God. If you get a demand for wealth you'll listen to how you look. I don't want to lay you down. We shall not compare. We shall not compare things. I admire you because we are clicking and you are on the same page. We are aligning to get married. Not because I hustled with you. So let me ask you a question. Mono me nyeka all this time, all this time since you like wukwiwa, wukwiwa geni, wunana weka... Promi nili kwa nili stepping stone. Una jwa stepping stone ni nama nisha Buu wazaia wawea That's what I learn in your life. Let me take you guys back. Let me educate you. Kidovotu, with a little education I know. First of all, we need to understand what a man is and what a woman is. We are two different people. Okay? Is one who's patient? Is one who's not patient? Get my point. Geni wais. I'm asking a question. Geni wais. Men and women, we are two different people. Is one who's patient? Yes. Is one who's not patient? Who is patient and who is not? I didn't categorize and say it could be a man or woman. We did say it could be a man or woman. But my point is simple. It doesn't mean that if you've hustled with me for 20, it could be convenient. You could be with me because you are seeing buti ta akuna potential. Yes. So you as a woman, again, you're being materialistic from the beginning to the 20 years we have. Excuse me. Yes. You're waiting for the right time. That's why sometimes, and it's happened, even right now, the cases of the ghost are so high because at this world we're living in, you're not patient as a woman. Men go through a lot. Oh, do you think we don't go through a lot? By the frame of... You know you don't understand what it means me living in my house at 8 a.m. coming back home with money. The things have been through apokatikatia so many. So it does not matter. It does not matter. Oh, my work does not matter. So whole na fanya kazi. Oh, my work. So your money can be ours. So let me ask you a question. We can answer. This is... We have to make our 20 years. We have 20 years to do this. 20 years to do this? Thank you. Thank you. Nini, we have 20 years to do this. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes, you know... But we have just 20 years to do this. We will focus on that, on the liberal things we have. I will tell you the truth, I will tell you the truth, to have the right to walk away. I will tell you the truth. And leave, if you have made your money ...and you realize that I'm stalling ...me ni na kudisha nyuma ...you see, if you're my woman and I've been there for 20 years ...ata kumipua loyal kuwango, ata kama ujiwa ichit ...and the virtue is that you're not working extra hard ...your work is not ...and you always say that your work is not to sit down in the house You know Anthony, you're driving selfishness in this condition It's everybody is selfish Everybody is selfish Let me explain Everybody is selfish ...kujiwa kwa relationship na mimi First of all, let me make this point ...let me make this point ...the time you come to a relationship with me ...you decide to settle with me ...ata kukasema apasai, I've left a man in other men ...so meaning, you mentioning other men is a threat to me ...are you trying to threaten me like saying ...mina is a live anytime ...the way she left other men, now you are seeing other men ...yes, yes ...mean is one thing I don't understand with men ...what you guys want ...we believe in their vision ...if I believe in butita ...if butita doesn't achieve ...so we should not believe in the vision ...that is what you mean ...a famous gospel artist ...got into a divorce ...came my point ...they've been together for so long ...and one day she chose to work ...not that the guy was ...not that the guy was doing all these things ...not that he was cheating or anything ...I don't know the story ...but the thing is someone walked away ...left the man ...left these things and left our children ...and all that thing ...that's not what I'm talking about ...these things I'm talking about ...but you've mentioned the vision ...so this guy had a vision ...probably someone in the middle of this gospel artist ...lost the vision ...not because he lost it ...we're bringing it up a pandemic was it ...but you know ...you're job as my partner ...Antonio ...my job is ...you're job as my partner ...just to help me get back on the loan ...you help me as my partner ...you feel like I am not doing the right thing ...so you ...you don't know how to communicate ...so you know how to communicate ...you know how to communicate ...no no no...it's not about money ...it's about ....sitia ...we don't know how to communicate ...we don't know how to talk ...it's about boys child ...and it's important ...what are you guys doing for yourselves as men ...wait wait ...we are working hard ...because we're doing things as women ...you see one thing ...why are we making marriage I want marriage to be a reward for us Thank you my brother No now it is not timing one It is companionship thank you I need you this is it let me use an example that I am seeing the two of you can decide two align and decide you want to live together regardless of the hassle factor thank you so now you when someone hustles with you for 20 years or 10 years alapa kuwache So, Kwa kumbewewe? Uli kol na takakuteti? Ia. Ia. Ia. Ia. What is the problem with having a preference for tita? See, unaskea, emelettuki a prepping. What is the problem with having a preference? Mama 你en lupo, I want to live in a stable relationship, and a stable program. So this stable relationship, you want it through hard work or you just want to find it? Sinpukueshiqo? Sinpukueshiqo for nesaen beti? Aman is rich, very rich for, like, ten years, straw Zkill no maf wurde wm Omu Ummu treats na Para demon Bila kukuwa na adimansi Of kwa tu onim tu mwenyea, ame kwa kitengeneza pesa So this means this is a hard working person Who is likely to get back You know, you cannot do that for long You cannot do that for long Utawa na moka ya kwaza beti, moka ya pili uta kwaa Pia wiya na kwa pa nichi Nkwa ni mkwa ni mkwa kwa rialiti Beti, we are living in a strange world right now Atawa mwenyeo me sema niraisi Sana mitu kuchuwa bwana yamutu Before twanzi Niraisi bwana yamu Same things Ata, ata, it's vice versa Atawa ni Nairobi It's vice versa Wacha ni wambi eki tumoja Do you atia kuna bwana wibiwa So mimi ni bwana yamutu, niki kwa approach wewe Niki kuna mado Niki kwa approach Utawa sema apana Utawa mimi me kuiba So wewe, wewana juwa niki kuna bibi Wewana juwa Wewana juwa Women were not born to pass up there It's biological, what can we do about it? So she's accepting that fact It's biological Science has it that one Women are material Get my point That's science Science Material Material ni nama nisha Every week Bro, me and you will spend 100 bobe in Kenyuzi Less 300 Now we are rich, you can spend 500 No, we spend 80 Or 500, niki yamna Who you dem? Her body Her body physical Her body physically is a lot of women Unoma That's one aspect of material And she has to maintain that She has to maintain that Maintaining this thing is like having a A woman is like a V6 engine V12 engine Wanu na tega When you have V6 na V12 engine You bro there, it's high maintenance Unoma The reason why there is no traffic right now is because of high fuel prices Unoma Because people cannot maintain You, you are high maintenance If you have a Knyuji, you are high maintenance Actually But if you have a Knyuji, you will have a high maintenance Aha, so I am a good example So we are going to see So we are going to see You are going to see Where will you be? Where will you be? Pawee apart from kaku Na shuguliflani Onaminimam labda unezakuna Okay, tunaza guess Where? What is your second guess? Pawee ka naza wana 25 Kya Ntuna 15,000 Imaenda pwa aspekti ake Imaenda pwa aspekti ake So we are going to see We are going to see So we are going to see We are going to see We are going to see So ye ye Apate mtu Anasafa Do you think she loves the patients? Yeah Wacha u jamaa Kunata imata fungukiawa Kama ya kusawa If I see The reason why No vision The reason why So, this thing does not make sense. We are talking about, we are talking about us. Imagine there is no way you can grow when you don't have someone who is challenging you and it is not necessarily financial. When you have a vision and I trust your vision because I believe I'm not dumb, if I trust your vision, trust me, I can stay there because I know there is a day atouta me, pita mimi with whatever I have there. Do you know there is a gift you people are given, a gift of knowing if someone is heading to a success. Do you know them? To food and health care, but to take it easy. I would say I am praying for a future. Till I get it I will throw up and I will get out of it. But no. If anyone was in trouble, I would believe they have re-listed to Mogul. At the time when you have that instinct you are only saying if you are angry, you will get hurt. So, you did not suffer together. So, you did not suffer together. So that… Tu ligewu za iqonvazesion kabiseju wa luku wa mesewa Wata wa moka wa wata wa tesewa wa ngao If Iqo wa rizo na tiju, di safa namutu Na jua, ati sasa tuwezi ya chana Na jua, kwa mi ni? Do you know why people are not happy in marriage? In the current dispensation, people are not happy in marriage because of things like this You passa via ati because, muli kua pamo anya Sasa usimu Sasa iso maa risote tu metenge niza ni edawapi Sasa basu ni ati ya angu mi ni edewa So thank you Tya tia ati teseke, kwa ni? Mimi, mimi Mimi, mimi, mimi kwa muka subuisa tuwe na moja Mimi kwa chakwa niumba Umetesekana mimi aje Why you there on stage with me, MC? Excuse me, I was at home waiting for you Waitin' for me Waiting for me So do not say that now Do not come and tell me ati for 20 yas We've been together, now if I feel like Näi nikumal ni mweni mawa umjata kufuan Mweni mawortik mestu na? Mama you existi theories Tikiwa, Pabe mt ранuünkomol naญろう Nyumanttheu nizaw包u reactive Nyumantheu nizaw ab입u Sijetan, cig�u karju oben impe kut Canvas we never do this Ata kama na kitu sa ijunili, safanae na mimi niko sawa, wachatu ondele bukanae. Miki. Wakotu wa. Wakotu wa. Wako. Wako. No, show me an exam. Imentim, they are there. People who... That is public. That's your example of the public domain. But you've seen women who stuck with their husbands who've been poor their entire life. They're still poor. They've stuck there. Their men have nothing. But you know me. You know me, I prefer. Let me be honest. Guys. Guys. Personally, personally, personally butita, I prefer a woman who would stick with me for broke, for broke, for life. That's a loyal woman. But not for broke, for rich. That's a woman for life. See how they're talking? That's a woman. Let me tell you something. Let me tell you something. Let me tell you something. I'm just telling the same. A woman who is genuinely for love. Yani, we men don't ask for loyalty. We ask for loyalty. That's for loyalty. What's that for? That's materialism. We want them to bow in front of us if we know the truth. Yes. Because you're leaving me because they're gone. Because they're gone. We're not going to have white people. So if I'm broke right now. No, please leave me. I've heard instances where I've had my friends who are ladies. So mwajibu na, na. Aa. What you mwam say? Sinil muatiss. Yo haeri aili sota. Ya li sota nikamuacha? It's the friends you keep bro. It's the friends you keep. So, mi my point is very simple. Nabutitam niiisema. Let's accept the fact that you guys come to a relationship looking for something and this something is not deeply at your heart. Men love. Let me change the script today. Men really love. And when a man like let's say miyam is popular and popular. Yeah. We have popular friends. Ka gini, izanani ni matia oemi kwa ya yako masinga na umi. Me maungu moha mi maongu. Me maungu kuikati ya nakimangu na mubili. Waka moutu. Bukili na kwa. Kizi ni mafufumilega, haja ni mafufuilega. Nwa kuikati ya na kö편a. Waka muha kwa. Kwa mi mafufuilega, mafufuilega, mafufuilega. So mafufuilega, mafufuilega. sanatinaima na mashako mahiwa kutia rheto mahiwa kwa ni mahiwa kwenya na mahiwa kwenya na mahiwa kwenya nang운i, na kujiha kwa kruja na mahiwa mwenya na mahiwa na mahiwa na mahiwa Chans is a high beti right now. If I pack my beautiful mark X out there and someone else packs a new AMG, chans is a high. Chans is a high. You get my point. So I want you to understand. That's my preference. That's your preference. So you can prefer a pro box. That's because you see that this is the mentality. A person in the pro box has 65 acres, 6,000 acres in mere mobile land. A guy like me has a must-see disability. Only. Only. But that's what you see. So what I'm trying to say, So what I'm trying to say, No, no, no, no. It's easy. That's you. That's you. That's you. It is. And I've given an example here. It's easy for you to be blinded by the little things you see. For example, say we are having a discussion with Kido. How long have you been in this industry? Say 15 years. How long have you achieved? Those are the questions we have asked. And you know, but it's... In fact, me personally... What do you do for a living? So me when I bought my car. When I bought my car. I mean I need to see potential. When I bought my car. One of my friends told me. But you have money. Why do you buy this car? So you just buy a new one. So women see it different. As if you can't afford it. You can't afford this dream. Miss Lesotho, I want you. If we start a YouTube channel. And you will make money for a couple. I see potential in you. So funny. But they are not chasing love. No. The other side. Do you know? To be sure. We don't chase success in women. Unless we are calling them. Thank you. Unless we are swinging you. My friend nowadays men are looking for women who are... No, they are there. They are there. We take a successful lady, Harper. And a successful man, Harper. Yes. Anyway, I would like to talk to the men outside there. Because I don't feel like we can have a conversation. With these two guys. I don't feel like I can have a conversation with these two guys. But let's end the discussion. The point is simple. Let me say this. Antonio, let me speak now. This is the thing. For me, I just want to tell the men, please stop thinking the world revolves around you. It does not. We don't dress for you. Probably there women who do that. Nobody has said that. We don't dress for you. Nobody has said that. We put on makeup for you. Nobody has said that. Another thing. One so women. Stop thinking the world revolves around you. Let me finish. It does not. We need equality, guys. Let's have equality. Let me finish. And another thing. Please allow us to speak for ourselves by telling us that women come to their marriage and you're not women. I do not know what you're talking about. It's all experience. Stop speaking on behalf of women. We have not spoken in on your behalf. Those who do that did it. They did it for you. No. They did it for them. You didn't do anything to them then. They did it for me. You did it for them. I wouldn't do it, did not. Do it, up to you. We've got money so please cut it But you must accept the fact that it's what it is Do you what you're doing? Show them that you can learn how to say things Let us get the opinions Let us know in the comments Maybe we're too mean or We're too Chinese T.S. What was the problem? Tell us down below the comment section I'm stressed out There is no, what is it called? Rewind in suffering? Ya, that's why I respect poligamasine. There is no reward for suffering. That's why you see this is the excuse. In your excuse, there is no reward for suffering. But you know, for me to get up there, thank you. Thank you my brother. People love it's love. Good bye. Guys, good bye. Editor, editor. Ladies, focus on love. A man will always, in fact, a man will always submit. Whether you are a man and you have 4 wives or 5 wives, for real, women need you. Let's buy your lawyer. I mean you've been buying it so. S-P-M-Bot.