 Can we just have a minute and laugh Because sometimes life is not easier And we have to laugh on credit Sawa and pleasure to be with you and to host this girl talk. So we are talking about life lessons. We started this conversation last week it is a conference of female. No me, we just want female and try to communicate with our younger sister. So, komo kona k inventory e swali. Pahaps maybe or you want to know something in depth or you want to share something that has happened to you again at 0254 on Facebook at 0254 on Twitter. Hashtag is why? In the morning my name is Valentine or at kwa u 길a received t่amati al monkeyalom hum hi Welcome back. Kwa jye? Kupura. Wa mbeo nito nan? Nito, if you're a tondo, high school graduate. Waiting to join the university. I love to endelena maisha. Kali busana. And today we have a very, very, very beautiful specialist in the house. Welcome to our shop. Thank you. What is your good name? Belinu Dede. I'm a communication expert. I work in the senate as a communication assistant director. That is senate Amigori County, Dr. Chivayako. So you're empowered. I was told not to say empowered, it might scare men. So you're a woman of value. A man. How can we find you or maybe on what platform can we find you? On Facebook? Belinu Dede. You will find me there. Online. 24 hours. Wow. Because that's what I do. You have a team or it's just you? I have a team behind me. Guys, greatness. This is what greatness looks like. Braimsel 1, Braimsel 2. Amani wili nime cekasana. Ha, not today, Titan. Alright, so I promised, I did promise and I will live up to it that we'll talk about relationships because we didn't touch it last week. And the first thing we should get into is maybe, why do we as females get so excited when we're in a relationship? Kuna mem kadha ni meona. You've just been seeing someone for maybe two weeks, alafu unam text, I love you. Bakana kuhi pili, relax. Relax, just to layer. What's the problem? The problem, it is just in bond. It is natural. It is biblical. We were born weak. That's why God even said that we should be helpers. There's the honor of the project. We just come to help because God knew that we don't own it all. So we are weak, naturally. Most of the time, a woman will always go into something with her heart. When you want to love, you do it, you give it your all. Unlike men, if you concentrate on watching TV, it's TV. A woman will be watching TV, a woman will be breastfeeding the king, thinking about the kitchen. So that's a woman. So it's a mixtap. How do you feel about this? Because when you have a campus life, you come and it takes you. Okay, in relationship, once you're there, you got it all. But that's not a fact. In relationship, you just need to take your time. You just need to think about it. Okay, you have a crush on someone. That's very okay. It's okay to have a crush on someone. It's okay to say I love you, but take your time about it. Because whatever has its advantage, also comes with its disadvantage. So you ought to be careful, you ought to be on the watch because you'll have your self to blame at the end of it. You won't blame anyone, of course. We are here also to educate Effie because we want her to understand a kind of campus kuna rendeflani. I don't want to name names. Right now, they are saying it's kina kevo, nabirayo, wo, sujuwi, but maybe we'll kick a campus takwani generationia kina moha. I don't know. But you gotta be careful. You need to guard your heart. Kwanza ni innocent? Innocent. Why is it that guys like to play with girls like this? So innocent. Oh, is it to manipulate? Lotu kwa na viral video. Mtu anafanyi vim ki aya dogi, alafu ina kibia. You look so complicated. You need to give money. But this one? Just a plate of chips and you're done. She's happy. That all can make her happy. Just a plate of chips. But you? Oh, your shoes, lipstick. Too complicated. But this one? My younger boy can manage her. But it is an assumption. She could be more complicated than me. Have you had any experiences with guys? I don't want to put you on the spot. But maybe a crash. Mama come to come and put you on the spot and sit and get to story story. How has it happened? Eh, we are sort of kujah. Kwanza kujuh ma leza foam for her. Weh weh weh. This is our kujah. Umwa foam goli a platform. Na jod. Kwanza kujah? She platform. We are kujah. Okay. Okay. It's like they are taking advantage. You know, she's done with high school. Bada jajama isha panje. Uyu utita wangu kia. So they come. But being a lady. Na do you really have to fall for them? No. You just have to. Kwa tu yani ataka wujui. But at least kwa umtumene yani uletaf. But see, nini, unneza kwa, ma oneza kwa ma beshte because you'll need them. See, Maisha, you need someone to help you na epe na kuitajum seide. But it does not mean that you'll fall for everyone and you'll fall for everything. Mtu na kukujah the first time and you're like, yes, I'll do. Kaisu tu kongezia volume mama iikosa wakum ma le uko. Hashtag is white in the morning. Alright, so we have life lessons as we continue to be doing that. So remember at WhiteFive on Facebook, at WhiteFive channel on Twitter. We are trying to figure out how to react or how to deal with certain situations. And one of them is, imagine having a crush. I don't know about you guys. I thought I was sick. I was feeling hot and cold at the same time. Na uus juimiku na skesji aje. Aki pita pita. You want to look but you don't want to look. You don't want to do it yourself. How do you deal with a crush? Okay, personally crush is something obvious. It happens. But for me, I believe it's a feeling. It fades. So I just take my time. Just hold on. Mucha pite. Na toa api self ninii vo self-control. Okay, na zi-control because I know despite nama crushia, I recognize it a niko. So why should I drag myself about someone who doesn't care at the end of the day? So it's where I feel it. So when I have a crush first of all, mimi si fichangi. Okay, you look good. That is it. And then one thing I like about myself, it fades. You know, it fades. So like ni wekwan alo na penda. It's so like you look cute. Kesho, it's different. Makwa ni mi shift. Uia kona leo. See shift it because mindset is on one person. If you love that person, okay, you're in a relationship. Personally, I'm in a relationship. And I think I got all what I want from the guy. So like feel it's having some less. So I just look the rest here. Just my brothers. Wow, in Christ. Walking. I was actually brothers. Wow. Why is it... Okay, maybe I should ask you. How did you handle your first crush? My first crush? Where? Idukwa tuka well. Idukwa. Utaki kumuangaliwa. No. Onata kakunotis na Utaki katia ni you just don't know what to do. But, nili ji leta tu ni kase manu. Acha tu ni iki tutu hi praidi ama dem tu hi. Mbaka tu ni kwenayu no. Acha tu hi ende. Acha tu ni ache. What kind of response was that? Was that okay? Because, kuna mwenyanesa kuja ni ya bei in 2020 and the lady should go get what she wants. But, that's much taking away the hunting from the man. Yeah. They pretend to be so persistent. If he comes to you, you think that the only one he's thinking about is a chain of people. When he comes to you, you are the only lollipop that he knows. He goes to the other girl. Avocado. Avocado. The other one will be, I don't know what. So, when he leaves you, you think, oh, I mean the old world to him. My friend, you don't mean, you mean nothing. Tukwangese volume. Ama kusawa mahali. Uko. Continue. You mean nothing to him. Yes. That's one thing I know. So the only thing we ladies should do, the young ladies that are coming up, please get, I'm very happy with this lady. At least they have that sense of self control, which is not mostly, it is not there. Yes. You understand that somebody tells you that I love you. Now the text may say that he sent you yesterday and you keep on reading it. Oh, you say I love you. I love you. That's only pain. And then there's a certain pride that comes into you. Am I telling that I love him? Yes, you love him, but you don't want to tell him. You feel that you should be persuaded, you should be pestered, but deep within your heart, you're burning. You see. So the only thing, come back to yourself. When you receive such a message, breathe in and breathe out. Take your time. This is the word I love you. Our mothers and our ancestors, they've heard of it. You are not the first one. I'm not the only one in that pool. So you must have it at the park of your mind, that you're not the only one. There's Angelin there, Washiko is there. All of them, he loves them. A man doesn't love. I have a question. Why is it that Wa Stanawote and Nairobi nikawa kwa in a relationship? But all the men in Nairobi are single. Are they in a relationship with themselves? What's going on? Exactly. You are in love with yourself. So you better respect yourself. You better love yourself. Do something that makes you happy and makes God happy. Then the man will come at number two. Make yourself happy first. No, make God happy. Do something that you know will give God happy. He will smile at you. Then you, then let that other God come behind you. But if you give me my priority, you will have to cry. Problem. Oh my gosh! I need to put the date. I want to be posted on the date. I want to be posted on that. I want to be posted on the date. I want to be posted on the date. You can't be posted on the date. We're two women. You can't see the post. We go together. You're the idea. Oh my gosh! We know the settings. We know these settings We know what type of settings We know to new to these things So to layer and work on your dreams Just relax There's a meme that I saw that says Wastana please don't just bring in hips to the relationship We need to bring something else We don't just be mothers We don't just be mothers We just think of printing king, queen Actually we need dozens We need to bring something else So I think we need to print king And we need to bring valentine As we move on To the next slide We need to drop the mic We need to drop the hat As we continue I also asked How do you know when you're in love Let me be very honest with you guys I say love nowadays Very loosely because I'd say to my viewers True, I really do love you Just not like the way I would tell someone I'm actually doing life with I love you, it's a different kind of love And have accepted But what happens I really like this person Or I love this person How do you know when you're in love Are the stars going to align Is the wind going to blow Is the wind going to blow Is the wind going to blow Is the wind going to blow How do we really know it's legit Okay, in the first place The first instance What is love? Love is a four letter word Parabas a word that is real meaning has not been established You can't even understand it But there's a kind of a feeling That comes with it That you know I love I love David Now David Is David Oh it is David Who is this David And what is it all about You can't even describe But there's a feeling that you can't even sleep So it is inborn, it is a feeling It just comes naturally But you are given an authority to suppress it Control it If you don't control it, it will control you Uta shitu ke ome gongwa na piki piki You are thinking about David David doesn't even know that you exist David is thinking about Karu You are busy thinking about David You must think about yourself first What am I getting into this thing Okay I mean love What do I get in return Because at the end of the day There are things that we need in life You need to go to school You need to eat, you need to socialize It is not about love So you have to think What is this love in the first place The real meaning of love so far Hasn't been established What do you think Effie is love Love Okay there are different types of love But you know Mother to child Friend and the relationship one Okay what I understand is that love It's a strong affection Towards someone Let's say And Yani love is just something Crazy Ya it's something crazy Because you see someone And you feel something and you are like Ah what is this You've got it all What do I need Is it you, is it the other one It's just something crazy And you just have to control it Aki My favorite thing about you Effie Is your innocence Answers are so sweet Watcha upatare na boy child Who will sleep with the entire Nairobi And then come tell you why you sad Happiness is an inside job They are not nice out here Please guard that beautiful heart of yours Talk to me Have you ever been in love Love ya kampo wama e okuelo Kampo Kampo miskewoneza kwen love na boyfriend Sponsor na wali piya rent miwote And a lifestyle It's not love First of all love is the ability That you will get to know someone After you've known that person You understand the person When you understand value that person After value invest on the person So Kula kama boy child That's the process We invest kama uje drum tu Una pato aju kuka stage na lafu Una tkakulipa fe Una jwa tana enda wa So the first thing about love You just got to know who you are It starts with your self as you've been told Because if I love myself I'll want the best for myself So na there is no one who can come Apatena jipia zile muhimu Okia nipatemi na kula kapitza Iwi na kula tu vizuri Anakujakwangu ameni visit I eat like vizuri nyama And then utu atatatu api Kariji akuni baya skuma Atatu api so it starts with your self Ujipende give yourself the best Akifika nauna tu apa He won't give something less That you can give yourself Kinesu itatu nani pima I'm talking about that love Kufanya ukule eya bagas na ushide At just because you want to be with him Unalala berzi takwa flow Cause I love him That's not the way to go Take your time Jitambu wa waninani Obvious kama una jipenda There is no need There is no need to waste your time here Una ji waste your time here Maybe you're not meant to be With that compass Kitu yiko that compass boy So kitu yiko ako He's just there to western you Use you and buy you craft like chips What is chips? Kut na meme piliadi Na meme na memes Ati uchali piliadi He took some fresh first year For lunch Lafwa kambaya chipo So the next day Na mkana jipata pata nation Ati uchali piliadi Nibaya 2 chips Ati kulala vizuri Chagulia koko The whole time But I'm learning as I continue to grow That you can have affection Strong affection for more than one guy How do you now start solving What kind of problem is that Okay Okay There are people who can even more than 10 And you claim you love them all Yes, when you think about David But there's something that pushes you towards him Lakini kevo venyo You come with kevo There's something also pushing you towards kevo Na braio lakini yoni bayama movi Na kwa ambi ya Na na joa was as you work Was as you uncle So there's that kind of a thing So in this scenario It's only that you've forgotten about yourself That think about braio what What and who and who You've forgotten about yourself Where's belino didi in all these things As I think about braio Where is myself And at the end of the day Does braio feel the same about me No, he doesn't Sometimes he doesn't Or maybe he doesn't But now where is my position In everything Nowadays they say That what you bring on the table Or you cannot just bring your hips And whatever on the table Find that's good Where is the table I have to set the table first before I know What to bring on the table So the table must define me I must place a table Just like God says that I'll place a table Before your enemies and whatever So that table must be there Before I need a box I must define the box The box must be there first Who is iniweka to box Any box to anything Or you say I love you Or you say I'll marry you I'm marrying you Because it's not about just you It's about me first Once I define myself Everything will fall in place But when you go in the wave of I love you It doesn't work nowadays We have a break And it's okay if you missed this one You can find us again at WhiteFive channel On YouTube to repeat Pause, maluma, fachura, diagram Kiweze, kanando, welewe, vizuri We gotta communicate today Alright, so the next question Was very important So now you're trying to discover if you're in love or not But we've said it first Because love starts with him But if for example you find yourself Caring for someone else While loving someone else How do you think that's possible On WhiteFive channel Once in a way we do a story Ya Was tana Mimika mamstana Mimika mamstana When I started appreciating the opposite sex Mi kwa kichungu Nitu penam tu na tapu nfresha Yani I just want you to be here It's my joy to see you happy But it's not enough for me I'm not giving myself attention I'm giving it all to you Namini kyu mea Bona uni pigishi Bona uni baivi tu Like there's no reason to fight It's just that I'm not loving me first How do you think you can do that in a relationship In a relationship It's not 30 Ya ma swalingu mungu 20 marks Me si You should not lose yourself Because you care about someone You should be yourself You should love yourself Jipende tu ya ni As in if you give someone else your time And they care And everything else You should also remember That I'm here And I should also do it to myself Na juwakini Sometimes people don't understand The right decision can hurt Like the right thing you're supposed to do Amma to be good You might be hurting yourself So for example No na vizuri ni ya kyesi poa Na wewa niwa na tkakusema pana But kuna kata mua po But na juw na fakusema pana How do you remain firm? Na semaji na yo baki Yo noi kwa tu no no matter how you feel Ok, leik Kado niya kwa? Let's use kaisu Kaisu comes and drops lines Tells you you're amazing Me niwapi And he has serious plans for you And then Katkati maybe vituzi happen Maybe he finds someone else Amma he moves away How would you handle that? So story na lines Nimi kwa mihikzoni vituzi na fade Give yourself time Practically you can do this Maybe you want to buy the lines But for some Because there's something you want to know The reality behind Jaribu kwa had to get E lakini kumasa zni na wana guzanga Apo nini You just want to believe You want to say Ok Juwatu E niya kwa ko Lakini kwa ke mambia tu no Mambia I'm coming back with a replay for you That can still work for you Lakini give him time Those vibes will fade It will start from Good morning princess How was your day? In fact muna toka sijuu Uko conversation from pins Amma inetwa pin chat Muna kuja normal Umemtoa pin normal Kido go kido go Status viewer Lili to contact Delit is Report block and delete So now we read the message I'm so sorry we have been having way too much fun here on set So again at www.twetfireforfacebook.com www.twetfireforchannel.org Is why in the morning So let us go over there We have an man James Your best close friend can be your biggest enemy Tomorrow take a look at what's happening Ah ok we will be with you shortly Mwandia chams msa fia sijuu Vijay patis life Cut to be patient I like that Lorsch kish egnal rol Weh life many funza kuna kukuli wafia hadia Woy Hadia ptolewa woy Watana mna kula fia Woy Mosetapa kai I see you Eh we put a Man James never show your secrets to your family members Wono eza kuroga U kajpata matachani Rosi baby Love you first then focus Always be you alone These friends and family can lead you It's me to decide the kind of life to live Ryan mukhabwa says hashtag When the money watching from Rironikiyambo county Because his family first trust no man Love above all Is on the lesson zango ni kutund kuchoka umwa Is this the real Ryan umbege heva Hebobo life teaches you the lessons you agree to attend Eh Rwanda so for the wrong people and you learn a lesson Again blood is no longer thicker than water these days Some friends help us more than family And some evil relatives Actualy some relatives make part of the hand Lessons we life in We gotta talk about relatives soon Locked from tika It's George you keep panga life Ita panga inia you just focus locked Nikiwa I've been kawes pukut county kama Ha kuna gara reaga I see you Balazi can artists like many funza koa Kwa boanandem chungaji wangu Hey man Namuangi Balazi X says Maisha niveni wewa mone kwa moa okimakushive masa Okimakukopi Wait Jerry you ma pesa hi guys Love the Form 4 Maliza but madem moa ceku Ati kupuaskari sana Badem nikuringa Atu wezi change your settings Ni factory settings na ni Okimakushive masa Okimakukopi Manzakon reta kwa mbumu sana Babuote hatu fanani Hey man Migos Rapa says Kwangori sayote Na nankolokro mbo kote wa sewa Mbo waende joba na Aya ya say go on say money And I want us now to wrap this up Maybe I want us to be the final one I want you to advise the girl child To come on yako Is to real relationship In a nutshell Ok my advice to them is just to take their time I will still say and take this Na I hope volume is up Take your time The person mnachezana kwa gram sayizi Much not to be the one meant for you So always good is takes Good time So take your time Don't rush, skia better fly sayizi The next minute will be ok Life nifani umuanya una monati Na skia bepeu kundani Next ataka kuna rikia Saki kubo Now why? Tell us what you think About Ok relationships is not Bad but It's how you do it How you go it And it's Relationship is something that Ok it has to be there So you have to be Yourself For you to know Where you are heading to Ok your innocence makes me Super In finality Finality Love is so sweet It is nice to be loved And to love back In fact you can even feel satisfied Without food When you just know that somebody honestly Loves you But before you get into that madness Please define yourself Know what you want And how you want it done Because always life will give you what you desire Even God says that I shall satisfy your desires So desire what you want for yourself first Before you give it to somebody Don't pretend that you care about somebody so much And then you forget about yourself Check yourself if you have time to give somebody Do you have that enough time And you also have some back for you Because I cannot just give you all my time The whole day it is you It is you David it is you No I must also get some time David is my father anyway Wherever it is So you must also get something back for yourself If I'm giving you my love Please you have to love me back Because when I give you something And it doesn't come back And then you don't receive it You don't reciprocate it That baby I love you The message is red Because nowadays we have the blue ticks And then you just be there thinking what's wrong with me And it's online Why doesn't he love me It's online he's not even responding You say oh God you come again with Baby talk to me Nothing But surely you are hurting yourself Because the thing is not being reciprocated Thank you so much Kenzan lisa manajwa Kuna unga ya kusiyagi Ya maindi alafu nenda Kwa pojo mila alafu na nini Alafu pige 2 gali For around 20 minutes like this Guys it's like Hug from the inside That is just wonderful That is the cure for heartbreak Ushai onamlu ya cure na heartbreak No because they know what's up Hashtag is white in the morning Thank you for being with us Thank you for staying with us all the way We are 10 nzi morning We are daily show That means Monday thru Friday And we have a repeat from around 2pm to 4pm later My name is Valentine We strongly urge you And insist have a good week ahead Now weekend nakwona Come here to me Bye