 the bus stop feeling just standing there side of the road looking to see if that bus is finally gonna come checking the app maybe but it's not always accurate might say five minutes then five minutes later it says five minutes or you're looking you know you see the light oh is that a bus nope it's not a bus just looking you know every you hear a truck come on it sounds like a bus but no just waiting and you know how many time how many minutes have we spent you know adding up to hours anybody that has had experience of this and guess you could say the same with trains too but I just there's something especially unpleasant about waiting for the bus maybe it's because it's by the side of the road there but just waiting for something to come so that you can finally move along to the next step and it's like this feeling of being frozen you you can't achieve anything you can't move forward in what you want to do you are just passively sitting or standing and just doing nothing and your mind is focused on trying to anticipate when this thing will come and kind of hoping that time moves quicker so that it can finally come and you can finally move on looking for external signs like you know is it coming or not and I always found this time to be very unpleasant I mean it just seems like such a waste of time it seems like the time that we have we should either be being productive doing useful things or having fun doing pleasant things if our time is neither productive or pleasant then what are we doing what is happening with that time so I don't like to ride the bus too much I try not to and you know with everything being online now with the lockdown that's been one thing I haven't missed all that commuting around but it also seems like this is something that we do in life I mean we can be waiting on external events to move us forward and it's easy to fall into this kind of state of just passively waiting for it to happen could be something with employment or a legal issue or could be dealing with other people waiting for them to change or waiting for them to do something and it's like putting our lives at the mercy of something external and then there's this feeling of you know yeah I'd like to improve my life I'd like to or just enjoy my life but I can do neither I can neither improve my life nor enjoy it until XYZ happens I simply am in a state of waiting suspended animation and I will everything that I want I will have in this future state and I've fallen into the state you know without even realizing it I think when you know when I was younger when I was a kid I thought you know there's all these things I'll do you know once I'm grown up and then you know when I'm an adult I thought okay well maybe I'll do these things you know once I have more money saved up or you know once I have you know solved all these issues then I'll do all these things always putting things off on with some external waiting on some external event so my thought for today is that I want to always avoid this and always be on the lookout for letting myself fall into that passive waiting state and if I find myself doing that I could for one thing think about you know do I really need to wait on this thing is this thing that I'm waiting for really so critical and if it is if I do have to wait on this thing in order to move forward in a particular area then that area will be put on hold but I'll do whatever I can without that thing every other possible thing that I can get done while waiting on that thing then now is the time to do it and then if everything is completely blocked and I can't do anything else until that thing happens then I can fill the time with other things to do and other other things that will somehow help me and if even there's still absolutely nothing else to do at all then I could simply I have to find some way to enjoy the time but I find that hard to do you know just like little entertaining time fillers when I'm in that state of waiting for something it's just not as fun but this is my principle that time should either be productive or pleasant either useful or fun and if it's neither something's not right and we have the ability I believe to fix it so I'd like to hear of course what you think about this idea what do you do when you're in that waiting state how can you change your mind in that situation