 what are telltale signs for us to identify and come to an understanding that we have wounds that need to be dealt with? All right, first one is reactivity, which kind of feel like every human has this one, right? It's like, you can't really put your hand down on this one, but any place where we notice ourselves reactive is a very good sign that there's ear resolution here, meaning, okay, what are we getting activated about in this conversation, in this conflict, in a boundary being crossed, whatever it might be. It's like, our reactivity is the neon sign, it's pointing us in the direction of something that is unresolved in our past, kind of the same thread, but blowing things out of proportion, right? When you feel like, ooh, that did not match what happened here, whether that's you and you are recognizing that for yourself or whether it's somebody else having a really strong response to something where you're like, this doesn't line up. That's a really good indicator as well. One of my favorites is being able to give advice that you can't take. Anybody ever be able, yeah. It's like, oh, yeah, we know the right thing to say to this person, don't text your ex when they text you, and then when your ex texts, you're responding immediately or just be confident or go in and go for the job interview and believe in yourself and you can't. Or like, oh, you're such an incredible human or don't alter your photos on Instagram and you've just spent two hours face-tuning or whatever the kids do these days. And it's like, when you can speak the advice but you have a hard time integrating it yourself, it's like, ah, okay, there's something that's missing there. And then any place where we sabotage, sabotage we know is a form of self-protection. There is something that's protective about it but when we are behaving in sabotaging ways, there is an irresolution that's going on. And then the dysfunctional patterns, like I was saying before where I led with is like the unwanted patterns that we have in our lives that we cannot shake are pointing us. Patterns are pain's way of trying to grab our attention. If you take it in for a second, it's like patterns are pain's way, pain is clever, pain's really clever. That's pain's way of grabbing at us, pulling at us. Saying, please turn around, please look at this. I will find clever ways to keep bringing this unwanted pattern back into your life over and over and over again until you will acknowledge me and address me properly. And so when we can shift, right, like that reframe instead of oh pain is out to get me or oh here's my life doing its thing again and again, it's like no, it's an offering for us to turn back and acknowledge something that we have been avoiding, something that we've been distracting ourselves from.