 Hi, my name is Val or Valentine and you can find me at ColourMeVal on all the social media platforms and my job is to entertain you. So please let me know if I'm doing my job correctly, yes? I need to do it. Why do I form Facebook at Why24Channel on Twitter? Hashtag is white in the morning. So allow me, since it's Man Crush Monday, to crash on crash, crush on three, three guys, three, one, two, three. Now their name's Ahad. So please forgive me if I make a mistake. But one is Eric Abumayang. I don't know why you're so handsome. It's a long hard name. I love food. Thank you. And then we have Mane and then we have Mo Salah. So these three guys won the golden boot. Congratulations. Job well done on the Premier League. So we have here the handsome Abumayang. Yes, that one. There he is with his shoe and there's Mane with his shoe, golden boots. And then, yes, Sadio Mane, Mo Salah. I like him. He's so nice. Not that we're the friends or anything, but anything can happen and he could be watching Why254. So let us just appreciate you. Good job guys. Well done. All right, I'm done now. Now we can say hello. Hi guys. Hi. As you can see, I like football. I'm a little obsessed. Yeah, just a bit, just a bit. It pains me to say this. Mane is number six. It's touch here. We had 56 points and then we're number six. So side tonight was 66. Six, six, six. Yeah, of course. Number of the devil. I love what you did to the devil. It's okay. We're going to be all right. But let's now get to focus on you guys. What's your name? Oh, hello. I'm so sorry, but I like to Georgia. Okay, thank you. You're okay. Yeah, I'm a sub-chariot. Yeah, this week. What do you do? I'm a student, law student, African-Azalean university. Yeah. So you're about to drop some torts on us at any time? Oh, actually, yeah. Sure. Yeah, what are your social media handles? Oh, Facebook, cancel, a sub-chariot. Twitter, cancel, a sub-sian, chariot. And also in this account, it surprises him. Okay. I like to finish with the queens because you're special. You're the only one here. Hi. Hi. How are you? I'm good. You look like you're about to give us a run for our money. I'm going to take it easy today. I'm going to take it easy, very easy. It's not going to be like last time. Oh, okay. Yeah. What do they call you? My name is Arjun Karyuki. Yeah, and I'm a student at the U of N. Hey, you're a cool kid. The ones who come from U of N say, the University of Nairobi. All right. What do you study? I'm doing mass communication. Yeah. You enjoy it? Very much. You want to do what we do here? I'm going to come and take your job. Okay. First of all, we can shine together. Yeah. Cool. It's okay. Cool. All right. High five on it. Social media handles? Okay. You look fabulous. Thank you. What is your name? My name is Chilang Adfaith. I am a law student at African-Azarin University. That's why he's scared. I am a feminist. I am a professional mediator, and I am here. Wow. So next time, just before the handshake, we should be calling you. Please do. Okay. So guys, since it was Mother's Day yesterday, we are kind of bringing the party on to Monday and talking about guys and their moms. How much do you love your mom? I love my mom. I love my mom so much. Yesterday, we spent the whole day together. I made a breakfast in bed. There's one thing that I enjoyed. I did. And she's been with me. No, no, no, no, no, no. It was like really special. Like nice toast, toast, toast my eye. And then there was some passion just over there. Where? Where? So, yeah. Sausages. Should we conclude that he's romantic? No. Excuse me, excuse me. That's no. Why? Why? Why do we have to take the standard test of showing your mother love to being a romantic lover? Because it's a psychological test that's been proven. You can tell how you're going to be treated by a guy depending on how he treats the mother. I thought you just said you took half full. That's nothing to do with psychology. It's physical. Surely, it's a thought account. There's no way that I can repair. There's absolutely no way. It's a thought. It's a beautiful gesture. These guys out here could be treating their mothers like queens and not doing the same to these girls. Is it a choice? Do you practice what you preach? We do practice what we preach, but we don't depend on what we preach or what we preach. Too fast and you cannot always reciprocate what you're not getting. It's tedious. How much do you love your mother? Thank you for the question. Absolutely, like 100% I love my mother so much. Is this the kind of love that you actually go ahead and communicate and call her house, your day, or is that the kind of relationship you have? Okay. To some extent, yes. I do call her. But it's that we're not in the same place. She's not cool here at school. But when I go home and make sure I spend much of the time with her, most of my time just being with her in the kitchen, talking with her. I love being with her. That's all. So it's true what they say that mothers have a bond with their son? Of course. A monumental bond. Wow. And you see, let me take you back to like one of the greatest ballads ever made by Tupac. He sang about his mama. You see, it's not about it's about the mom. So there is no way that you can expect us not to have like that exceptional bond. And you know, and also another point to consider is the roles of our fathers in our lives. And that's why our relationships with our moms are that great. Are they absent, the fathers? Not absent, but obviously, of course. Of course. Of course. Come on come on. The beat of this is something to change. You're doing something else. And mothers are contrary to that kind of, that kind of a pattern of parenting. And that's why the bonds are like this. Yeah. So I don't think this conversation is what you expected it to be because we have a video ready for you and I think it's important we check it out. Woman married her own son yesterday. The woman and her son claimed to be in love with each other and they decided to take their relationship to the next level and get married considering that the mother, Betty Brickle, from Munitsaay in Mass Vingo, is now 6 months pregnant and expecting her son's child, and her grandchild, Brickle, 40, has been a widow for the past 12 years and has been living with her 23 years old son Farin Brickle. She confirmed that she is 6 months pregnant and that she has decided it is better to marry her son because she does not want to marry her late husband's young brothers, whom she says are coveting her. Betty stunned the village court last week when she said the affair with her son had begun 3 years earlier. She said after spending a lot of money sending Farate to school following the death of her husband, she felt she had a right to his money and no other woman was entitled to it. Look, I struggled alone to send my son to school and no one helped me. Now you see that my son is working and you accuse me of doing something wrong. Let me enjoy the products of my sweat, she told the village court counsel. Farate said he was more than prepared to marry his mother and would pay off the Lobola balance his father had left unpaid to his grandparents. I know my father died before he finished paying the bride price and I am prepared to pay it off, he said. It is better to publicize what is happening because people should know that I am the one who made my mother pregnant. Otherwise they will accuse her of promiscuity. But local headman Nathan Mopularwa says, we cannot allow this to happen in our village, Mashhoreche, I will ay, ay, ay, this is a bad omen indeed. In the past they would have to be killed but today we cannot do it because we are afraid of the police. He warned them to immediately break off their marriage or leave his village. They chose the latter and have since left the village. I told you it wasn't what you were expecting, I told you, I told you now, put it on Facebook and put it on the hashtag Israel in the morning. So we started with the question how much do you love your mom? Apparently there is somebody out there who really, your thoughts, they are traumatized. Talk to me mom. I was waiting for this opportunity. From the first point he said that it is all about romantic loving but I totally disagree. Now let's see what romantic loving has done to these boys. Why do you have to live with your mom to the age of 26 and above where you can actually get a woman and marry, then end up marrying your own mother? This is a totally forbidden thing in Africa. She's pregnant. She's pregnant, imagine. I just want to imagine how the kid would look like. That's not nice, I'm sorry. At 254 on Facebook, at 254 on Twitter, tell me about it. That's a really painful experience to look at and even to just imagine. You can't understand. My thinking to what it is, maybe the dating scene over there is just too tough. I might never know. It's really difficult. You've got to excuse the behavior but hey, we need some background information as to why this man of Kassatin for two years when he was young, he wants to keep up that behavior which is a full grown adult with 32 teeth. Seriously, I don't think you can justify that act. We just need to say it's outside and public wise and say that it is forbidden. Let's not act like we should listen to the background story of it. He has motivation to marry their own mother. No one. I wouldn't be motivated to be married by my own father. Why? What do you think, sir? Wow. It's down shocking. I've been almost lacking so much to express this. In our society where I come from, we cannot even imagine this and I believe so too. In African societies and even in the Bible, this is our bullshit. It's never happened. It has never happened. What I can say from it is even we cannot blame only the man considering the fact that he is the mom. The mom also around. So the mom, despite the fact that when you are born, coming to the earth, the first thing you touch is like you touch your mom. Your mom is the one to lead you, guide you, give you some moral values. It should not be the one misleading you. The argument in the video was that she has been working hard to pay off her son to go study all these things, keep him proper fed and everything. So she cannot contemplate another woman. If I can ask, is that like the mom or the step-mom? It's a little bit strange. It's weird. It's like rich and multi kind of stuff. Definitely a cookie. So there's this complex called the Odi Pus complex and we're going to touch on it in a little bit. But before we do that, I want to ask you another question. So we started with how much do you love your mom? Like quantity. So can I ask you how much do you love your dad? I love my dad very much. Yeah? Yeah. Like you're open with him. He's my best friend. Oh, that's so sweet. The opposite of Odi Pus complex is electric complex. Do you think there's a danger of electric complex coming through? I actually think it's how the society raises you. You know, if the society raises you knowing that this is a father whom we should love and respect as a father, then that's it. And this is a mother whom we should love, respect as a mother. So there's no need to get these terms confusing like I love my dad in such a way that I can actually get married to him. No. No. It's, you know, let the society draw the line between a husband, love and the kind of love you show to your father or your mother. I like that. Yeah. And there we are together there. We should be. Yeah. But you want to butt me, don't you? But before you butt me. Now, how does your relationship with your mother affect the relationship with your significant other? Well. Like, are there two other women who have children? Does she have to have the qualities that your mom has? And not physical at the end of the day. Like, is she going to be, if your mom is extra loving, is that something that you're going to look for in a girlfriend because you have gotten such love and reception from your mom? Of course, that's always going to be in my mind. I'm used to a certain kind of loving, a certain kind of pattern. And if I don't really see it in you, maybe I might try and throw hints at you. Like, this is what I'd like and this is what I wouldn't like. See the dangers of that. Why can't you be more like my mom? What is the problem? She is like, she has been with her for 20 plus years. And it's difficult when someone else comes with their own total way or different way of reciprocating love. So, yeah. Can I just say something? Say it. This is mother showing love to a son and your mother shows love to her husband. Find your own wife who can show you love the way you want. Stop setting standards. It's a bit difficult, you know, because our mother's love is as I hear, because I'm not a mother, it's unconditional, you know. I don't think we have the same kind of love. Why is it supposed to be different yet? While you're marrying each other, it's till death to a spot, through sickness and through health. So what's so different there? What's so different? Because the interpretation that you're having of the mom is the same ones we are going to take at the altar. Are you agreeing with your gentleman? I want to converse with my brother here. For real, I can't talk of us men who don't like our mothers. We like that love, that compassion that they are showing us, even when we do our own. Oh, OK. So wait. You just had an epiphany. So is this why men just randomly treat and expect the woman just like this? Because you think where your mother is, eh? Yeah. And like some things like, you know, there's that demarcated line when you do a wrong thing, you don't talk like this. You go up on issues like what? So then when we see our mothers, OK, the way they're acting and the way they love us, and also the values they have, like when they show that love to our daddies, you see these are real love or relationship. You know, the first thing you know after growing up, when you go to school, you have been to a family, then you're like, oh, a family, love, yes. It's like between my mom and my dad. OK, you see those values and how they work it out. So then when you want to marry, get your cheek like, then you like to see the kind of relationship your mom has to your dad. So like, sometimes it cannot favor the lady side, but they have to accept this. This is opening my eyes, yo. So what happens if your dad was absent or if your dad was abusive or if your dad was not the kind of figure that you should be looking up to, to be, you know, to someone else? Does that mean you're going to treat your woman or your wife or your girlfriend the same way that you see your mom? Like, hey, it's so deep. So like, ah, for real? So if your mom is loved, then in turn you will love your wife. So if she's abused in turn, you will abuse. That's what we're saying. No, no, no. That correlation doesn't really stick. But how will you learn how to treat a woman if you don't know how your mother is supposed to be treating you? So first of all, it just comes from you, you know? You are happy. Already you're here complaining. We can't understand. Women's do are from Venus. Dreamers, aha. It comes from inside. Whether you are loving your mom or whether she wasn't treated so well by the dad, it doesn't really change how you're supposed to treat your wife. But what do you have to look to? Like, monkey see, monkey do. Let me answer that. We're talking here of seeing your mommy and like taking what all your dad is doing to her. But seeing the love the mommy has to the daddy, to the husband, you see? So then, you know, okay, to me, I know that woman or mom loves that more, more than the daddy loves her. And so we want to, yeah, we expect that. For the relationship to proceed, yes. Let me just say something. It should be on top. This is just typical and it's a hypothesis that is not working. But it is reality. It is reality, but I want to believe you're living in your own head if that's what you expect, honestly. Because I don't see why I should set a standard of the way my dad treats my mom is the way I expect someone else to treat me. No, that was in 90s when they got married and whatever they decided that's their own. Whatever we are deciding in the 21st century should be just different. Their relationship should actually inspire you, not set a standard of how you should actually act in your own marriage. I don't think so. What I can say about that. Her vulnerability in that situation will make you aware or will make you more compassionate towards your wife. The vulnerability that your mother suffered or any other female in your life, it will inspire you on to ensure that any other person who comes in your life will not face or feel the same way. So that's going to act on your psychology as well. The kind of way he put it is a bit, I feel those are very high expectations. So if you've seen your mom being very, I want to say something that's very soft, like she's never raised her voice or anything. And then you find the Valentine who expresses herself as wish, the way I wish to. So now you're going to give me pressure to be more like your mom. Let me just support you a hundred percent, you know what? What we feminists say is, a weak man will never know how to handle a very strong woman like you or myself. Whenever, when we try to speak out, they think we're trying to project attitude on them. But that's not the point, we're just picking out our minds. That this is not the way I want things to happen. This is how things should happen. And if you want things to happen this way, then we should have harmony here. It is not like we're projecting attitude or anything. So if acting in submission is supposed to show love, then no. I'm going to go back to the Bible and say, that man is always ahead. And I will still go back to the same Bible that when God made Adam and Eve, He did not say that anyone should be superior over the other and no one should impose authority over the other. How can I miss that? Let me go back to the Bible. Let me go back to that. You see, the system on gender, not gender, but on the lady and my gentleman side, the feminist can say it was corrupted at the end, at the beginning. You see, when God created heaven and earth, He created man. And out of that man, He created a woman. And the man was given the responsibilities more than a woman, like naming the animals in the garden of Eden. Really? To add on that. You're lying. You're lying. Wow. You don't know that. Man wasn't given responsibility. We were both given responsibility. Okay, but naming. Naming. Naming there. No. Let me go to chapter 2 verse 9. It's talking of a lady, a wife submitting to a husband. And for the system to move smoothly, we should accept that. But you see, those who don't accept, you see the breaking families. You see what is happening in the country. A lady would like to compete with a man, like, okay, you're doing this to me, like I will rebut. Then you see, like the man can get hungry, like the lady can kill the man. So if we accept this and move smoothly, the system itself. Can I just pick something that you've said? What you're saying is this. That's your bottom line. Exactly. Imagine you're trying to justify what is illegal. Because we're then not submitting. That is why these guys are doing this. That's so illegal. Okay, let me make that again. You see what's happening is that men was, like, you know what a man can do. The man can dare, like, even hell. So a lady can just come and compete with, like, you see, when there is some play out, let's say the chick has played a man. You see, the man, like, this is not submitting. Like, the chick playing, the man will just come and it can be upset and provoked and killed. And, like, when the lady do it, we all agree that it's not that offensive. Wow. Considering the fact that polygamy is accepted almost everywhere in the world. Okay, there are so many things I have to say to that. Let's just start with the message. Hi, Val. My name is Mike. My mother is saying, Slay Queen can't come between us. I can't go back single forever. I can't go back home. I can't go back home. Okay, so we did get a couple of news clips ready for you. And I think there's one more video if I'm not too wrong. So I'm hoping my amazing directors up there will play it for me. But we do have to wind up, not already to a conclusion, but what's out of the conclusions? Can I start? Where should I start? Yeah, you're going to start with me. Look at him. I'm going to give you one of the greatest combos ever in the Bible. And this is going to illustrate why, like, the bond between a man and their mother can never be broken. Like, when, in the household of Isaac, when he wanted to bless us all, the mother of her had the conversation. And then he went to Jacob, and then she was like, hey, Dad wants to bless us all. So quick, quick, quick. Well, I thought I'd go and get some goats, and then I'm going to cook the gift people that he likes. And then Jacob was like, Okay, so I'm going to cover that. Let those blessings, those curses that are gonna come, if you're found out, fall on me. If my spaghetti is usually cooked with minced meat in, why would you want to cook it with minced meat and spaghetti? See, it's just like... See, it's just like that. If you're used to... Give me your conclusion, sir. Make it brief, please. Okay, I'll try. I want to conclude by saying that we should all accept the system instead of fighting to do the system. Submitting is not costly. I don't mean like submitting, like nailing down, but just submitting. When you submit, then all things will go through. Like the man will also submit. Yeah, that's all. Thank you, Queen. Thank you. I totally agree with him to some point. The fact that he said if you submit, he will submit too. That's okay. But the fact that you're trying to set a standard for relationships high, so high, that you're comparing me with your mother, that's not working. So let's try and scrap that out and live in the 21st century. Yeah, because for the longest time, men have been telling us with the eyes of high expectations. The expectations are out of this world. They carry so high in the moon. Okay, I'll laugh. Women have been told to respect our husbands. And husbands have been told to love their wives. It's a difference. So, where does it come from? Which is hard already because I have a mouth. Yeah. Wow. I revenge my man loving his mom too much by loving my father in love too much. It worked miracles and he came back to love me. Okay. To be continued. That's why 254 on Facebook and 254 on Twitter. Thank you so very much for taking this ride with us from 7 until 10 in the morning. Tomorrow is money making Tuesday. You really don't want to miss it. Thank you again. Have an amazing day and have an amazing week. We'll see you on Wednesday.