 Hey curlfriends! I'm Bianca Renee and you're watching Bianca Renee Today and today just might be one of the most important curly hair videos you will ever watch especially if you're new to the curly girl world and that is choosing the best styler for you and your hair. So many of you are just grabbing stylers that say curly on it and then you're wondering why your hair isn't looking the way you want or why this product isn't meeting your curly hair needs. So I'm gonna break it all down today because some of you are using leave-in conditioners wondering why your hair is frizzy. Some of you are using oils wondering why it's not moisturizing your hair. Some of you need that extra moisture and you're using gels wondering why your hair is crunchy. I'm gonna solve all of your problems right now. So sit back, relax and you might want to take notes. I really only want to get into stylers today but just a little side note I hope you know that shampoo is used to cleanse your scalp you know make sure your hair is clean but mainly your scalp and that a conditioner is more for the lengths of your hair to give your hair moisture and help you to tangle. Then after you get out the shower that's when things get a little more complicated. So let's start off with leave-in conditioners. This is probably the most mis-conceptualized hair product there is because a lot of you will get out the shower you'll apply a leave-in conditioner and walk out the door like a real wash-and-go. Some of you that might work for there are some leave-in conditioners that are good at taming frizz keeping your hair shiny blah blah blah but that's technically not the job of a leave-in conditioner. A leave-in conditioner is literally a conditioner you leave in meaning you don't wash it out. A leave-in conditioner can be used in the shower as you to tangle and then you just get out the shower you don't rinse it out or you could use your shampoo your conditioner and then get out and then apply a leave-in conditioner especially if you're rinsing out the conditioner a leave-in conditioner will allow you to keep that moisture in your hair without having to rinse it out without having to worry about any type of product built up on your scalp if it's silicone free of course. Now to prove this to you we're gonna do what's called reading. I know crazy concept a lot of you guys don't like to read when most of the answers are smack dab right on the bottle on the back of the bottle in my description box in my caption but you guys just never want to read those. So here I have the Camille Rose lavender whipped cream leave-in conditioner. I've never used this as you could see it's fully loaded because I just really don't use leave-in conditioners but this one is silicone free if you guys are looking for a silicone free leave-in but I'm gonna just read the label it says that this product is used to soften, detangle and moisturize strands. That's exactly what a leave-in should do it does not say has great hold it does not say will prevent frizz it does not say anything else because the leave-in conditioner is not a frizz fighting styler it's just step one out of the shower. Another example is the Shea Moisture tea tree oil low-prosity protein free leave-in detangler keyword leave-in detangler so this one is really claiming to help you to tang your hair because they stuck it in the title they were so confident about it. It says that it's supposed to provide lasting moisture without surface build up it will leave hair smooth with a healthy shine nowhere in this description does it say it's going to prevent frizz or have any hold and that's fine because that is the only job of a leave-in make it shiny make it moisturized make it a little bit easier to detangle now if you are looking for something to help combat the frizz and make sure your hair doesn't get all fluffy by the end of the day you'd need to apply an actual curly hair styler which could be like one of these for example the Shea Moisture coconut and hibiscus curl enhancing smoothie it says this is supposed to reduce frizz define curls smooth hair for soft and silky feel because this is one of my favorite cream stylers I can say that that is true and it does do all of those things another one might be the diva curl super cream another personal favorite of mine it says to define and control looking to give your curls frizz free touchable hold that's what we're looking for this is the urizos curls curl defining cream creates bouncy shiny frizz free voluminous curls defines and holds without leaving hair crunchy that is the most beautiful description I've ever read that's exactly what most of us curly people are looking for we want all of those things it is on the bottle definitely go with it because that's what it's claiming to do if it is not claiming to fight frizz don't get mad at it for not fighting your frizz so if you want you could use a leave in conditioner first to get that extra moisture if you're very dry hair and then apply a styler a frizz fighting styler on top of it step one styler step two if your hair is already moisturized because you're deep conditioning once a week or maybe you just don't have very dry hair in general you might be able to skip the leave in conditioner like I personally do and just go straight for your stylers on its own and all these work great on their own and I don't think there's any need to combine them if you are using two or three creams that are claiming to all do the same thing why if it's claiming to do the job let it do the job and if it's not it's just not a good product try something else so if you are going to be cocktailing something you could do a leave in and a cream or a cream and a gel or a leave in and a gel but you don't need to be using more than one type of cream styler it's just unnecessary now I also recommend using a styling cream if you're someone that has very dry hair and you need that extra moisture or you're someone that hates hold hold is what we call that slight crunch or hardness that holds your curl pattern together I personally love hold because hold means I'm going to be able to hold this look this curl pattern all week long and I need that hold to last you throughout the week and I need that hold to help me diffuse without creating frizz but if you just hate the crunch you hate any stiffness you want your curls to be as soft as possible just use a cream but if you are like me and you like hold that's when I would bring out the gels and usually even a mousse now sometimes mousse can give you different types of results my personal favorite as you guys should know by now is the not your mother's curl talk mousse this baby right here will give me hold definition and shine all week long and same with my other two favorite stylers in the whole wide world is the curl keeper ultimate frizz control gel which actually claims to fight frizz even in humid areas for those who live in humid areas and my other favorite they did be to do girls with curls jelly sold at select marshals for only 599 now these products right here as amazing as they are for my curls like these are my three favorite stylers ever they will create a slight cast which is another word for hold which is another and easier word for crunch on your curls I like that hold because it lets me know hey we're a little hard right now but when you diffuse we're not going to get frizzy because we're kind of stiffen in place so we're going to give you that volume and then you could just scrunch your curls like this and that will break the cast as you do this just with your hands or as you do this with the diffuser it's going to make your curls even softer and then that cast is gone but you had that first initial hold that you needed to get to that place I hope that makes sense not with me if you're following me so far okay good now on the contrary if your hair is extremely dry and you're using a mousse or a gel and you're wondering why your hair is so hard well that's because gels aren't used for moisture darling it's not their fault it's yours for example this bottle reads that it's going to have ultimate holding power without flakiness it's going to give you support for any hairstyle for several days and will leave no product build up this is not claiming to add or give your hair any moisture and that's fine because that's not the job of a gel the deputy do girls with curls jelly it's good for shaping smoothing and separating your curls and helps eliminate frizz nowhere on the bottle does it say it's going to add moisture and that's fine now one of the last things that I have to explain to you guys is oils so many of you are applying all this oil on your hair because your hair is dry and you're assuming that oil is going to like grease it up well you're not a car darling we're not going to just lube up the way you do your motor our curls are a little bit more gentle and that's because there's different types of oils I have a whole video on oils I will link it below in the description box so we don't have to go over it all again today but there are two types of oils there's penetrating oils and there's sealing oils the penetrating oils will actually penetrate into your hair which can result in giving you more moisturized curls for example coconut oil olive oil or avocado oil are just three examples of oils that will penetrate into your hair these are also going to be the ones that are most useful to apply to your scalp because it's actually going to absorb into your scalp and moisturize your scalp and or your hair now sealing oils sealing oils help to lock in that moisture and actually sit on top of the hair these do not penetrate into the hair shaft so they're really just adding some shine and locking in the moisture that's already in there so think about it like this first you would apply your leave-in conditioner or maybe your hair mask because now your hair is filled with moisture now to make sure that that doesn't come out you want to close the door and lock it in there and that's where sealing oils would come in handy because it's going to kind of coat the hair and make it shiny now I know what some of y'all are thinking the wheels are turning this sealing on sitting on top of the hair cuticle thing sounds pretty similar to silicone which is true contrary to what many of you believe and you think that I just hate silicone even though it does nothing for my hair I don't need it I don't miss it I think my curls look just finest when then your business is my hair not yours but oils are going to be a little bit more easier to rinse out than these stronger non-water soluble silicones but jojoba oil jamaica black castor oil grapeseed oil these are all examples of oils that do not penetrate the hair shop they just sit on top and add some extra shine so if you have a really dry scalp and you're wondering why these oils aren't like helping moisturize your scalp it's because they're not getting in there they're just sitting on top looking shiny and every oil has different benefits way more benefits than a plasticky silicone wood because these are more natural ingredients and that's kind of why I personally don't apply sealing oils to my hair ever now of course there are going to be some exceptions to the rules for example the can-to moisturizing curl activator cream this is claiming to be a moisturizing cream so I could see why you would get this and expect your curls to be moisturized in my experience because the best way to know if a product works for you is to use it on your hair which I have done and this actually does have great hold any product that has hold that kind of gets hard or crunchy I wouldn't really recommend for moisture because it's kind of getting hard and moisture usually means your curls are soft now although I love this product because it does create hold this is not a product I would recommend to give your hair moisture the can-to coconut curling cream for example that one is just straight up moisture probably why I don't really like that one because I need some type of hold which the activator gave me so once again the exception to some of the rules it says moisturizing on here but it's not that moisturizing another example would be the shea moisture miracle styler leave-in treatment this one is a leave-in conditioner but it's also claiming to be a styler so because it says both I could definitely see how some of you would use this all on its own as your styler and as you're leaving and have beautiful results without having to add another cream or gel so the moral of the story is reading is key reading is going to be the greatest first step in deciding which product you should use of course not every product is going to live up to its expectations on the bottle and some are going to work for you in some art but at least now when you go to the store or you order new products you know not to order a gel for moisture or not to order a leave-in for frizz fighting hold it's just wrong as always my personal recommendation would be to find products that are sulfate, paraben and silicone free also three words that are commonly found right on the bottle if not you might have to do some digging within the ingredients but it'll be there I have a whole video on how to read the back the labels if you guys need help I would use a leave-in for moisture a styling cream for styling and a gel for hold and definition and only use oils when necessary if you enjoyed this video make sure you give me a thumbs up and subscribe I post two new videos every week once on friday and once on sunday and make sure to hit that bell so you're notified as soon as I post a new video I give you guys daily tips on my instagram and my instagram story so also follow me on instagram at Ms. Bianca Renee I'll see you guys next time thanks for watching Bianca Renee today