 بغناتكم ورحمة الله وبركاتكم Welcome to Ehqam SOS الشو that discuss Islamic duties and practices. Byouch's Eminence is the great ayat realized say Saalik Sharazy now for the Allah. Inshallah this season will be also looking at different other Marajha and their verdicts on similar topics. Joining me as always is شيخ علي مرح المغاوش. Salam عليكم شخشه. وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله. How's your Muharram going so far? شيخنا يجب أن تكون مجالسة ورسائطة شيخنا في محرم وصفر نقاح نقاح هل يمكن أن يكون نقاح نقاح نقاح نقاح لكي يجب أن يكون هذا الرجل مع محرم وصفر لأن محرم وصفر ليس really a month of happiness and joy but at the same time we know that even in the Battle of Karbala قاسب ابن حسن عليه السلام his mother wanted him married and was very very persisting that he should be married and so forth so on one hand we have the importance of marriage and even a marriage to take place on the Battle of Karbala and on the other hand we are there as the sheer community mourning and grieving over the death of Abu Abdel Al-Hussain during محرم وصفر can we actually have a small I'm not saying to go out and celebrate but I'm just saying maybe two people want to get married can we have the Nika ceremony done you know just say it I told her say it she's standing here for thought that does she have something to say on this regard إن شاء الله أعوذ بالله السميع علي من الشيطان الرجيم بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم الحمد لله رب العالمين وصول الله على محمد وآله الطيبين وطاهي الله مسل إهداء الله مسل إهداء بحمد وحمد عظم الله وجورنا ووجوركم would you go to this question about having the Nika contract or the marriage contract during the محرم وصفر season which is the season of عزاء and lamentation on the martyrs of Karbala and أهلبيت عليهم السلام أيطولا سستاني would mention that it is not appropriate for an individual to have such acts in these مناسبات and occasions in sad occasions which is not suitable for these occasions however I told Shirazi would mention that there is a hadith which says يحزنون الحزنة it says that the Shi'as are the ones who would be sad in our sad occasions in other words in their martyrdoms we are sad we establish عزاء and so forth so any kind of the scenes and such like of happiness should be not in these two months of عزاء but he says if it is just the act itself just to make this young demand to this young man Halal who is in Haram then just to act by itself without any kind of celebration in this case it is allowed yes there is no issue with it شخصا in the previous episode we were looking at backbiting and we discussed backbiting what should one do if he is hearing someone backbiting and so forth let's continue our discussion and what if someone says something in regards to someone's character like I don't know this person he is quite cheap or he is quite he doesn't like to spend money he is quite tight-fisted and miserly he is very miserly does this substitute for backbiting or is that no it's not backbiting you see even these type of statements is not permissible and because it may lead to insulting this movement and the mu'min has a has a sanctity so we cannot breach that stage in which this sanctity is in somehow taken away from this mu'min so we have to avoid breaching the sanctity of the mu'min and respect and the best way is to always use the وقول والناس حصنة as the Quran says and say good words to the people so slandering backbiting lying cheating and so forth these are we have to as a mu'min stay away from this type of اخلاق and this type of mentality of always trying to slander people talk against people you know our gatherings should be always bringing these individuals up and talk about it and we have to try to avoid talking against others so we talk about what is beneficial for us for the dunya and the akher شكرا وويف you know we're talking and we don't mention anyone's name so we're talking to a third party and we're talking about an individual but we don't mention his name so no one really knows who this individual is and then when we investigate they would easily be able to find out who was being slandered or who was being backbited about what is I mean does that constitute as backbiting as well there was no names mentioned as long as there's no names mentioned I mean even some علماء in their lectures or lessons would mention that someone said to me and he said such and such or I saw somebody doing such and such they don't bring the name of that individual so without the name that's fine as for us to learn the lesson that there was individual who committed this act of wrongdoing or sin and then you know there was a consequence afterwards so you just bring this story without mentioning the name that's fine but to mention the name either directly or indirectly that's something that you would have to avoid what if the individual gave permission for people to backbite behind him said yeah I don't care you can backbite behind me I don't really I'm not it doesn't mean anything to me it is still not permissible because that is against the حرمة of the mu'min the sanctity of the mu'min now at the end of the day he is a mu'min he's a believer although he did these things let's say in his private life but he doesn't mind people talking about it no we cannot spread the فاحشة the act of wrongdoing into the society that listen that individual did something in his privacy and he's happy with it to be said no no he can't there are limits there are red lines within the شريعة about these things even if that individual allows for these things to be spread and said no you cannot spread these things because that might cause for corruption for the spread of the فاحشة and the wrongdoing so we have to try to avoid again spreading these things even if that individual is happy with it and he is satisfied that his story is even mentioned in the newspapers no we have to try to avoid spreading this type of wrongdoing within the mu'min community what about if you are backbiting like a sinner someone who is a sinner but who doesn't manifest in his sins and his wrongdoing is backbiting allowed in that situation or not no you can backbite him except in the condition as the sage mentioned of forbidding evil and of course there must be criteria with the god that نهي عن المنكر so the one should try to revise the criteria of نهي عن المنكر for being evil that when I apply this so I can talk about this individual if it becomes for being evil then that's out of the boundary of backbiting otherwise you can't backbite this individual I've got someone wrote to me and says I try to consulate between two families but this required me to listen to both parties which included slandering one another is this permissible for me given that this is a precursor to making peace between them so in this situation we've got two parties someone's come to reconcile between the two normally it's a marriage but it could be anything two parties an individual's come to reconcile he goes to one party party A to discuss party A is doing nothing but backbiting and slandering party B he goes to party B to discuss and party B is doing nothing but slandering and backbiting party A is trying to reconcile and trying to bring two parties back together is backbiting in that situation acceptable what does the individual do because he is now open and he can hear the backbiting I have exemption with this regard that if you want to do and bring two sides let's say husband and wife for example back to each other then yes you can so in order to reconcile and bring those two parties together yes you can in this case there's no horma or forbidden or sin in this case because you try to bring to reform and bring those two parties together what we would Mean what we would lost and the responsibility what we did with the two parties that they they are what we are looking and what we are doing and how their And what was for Apple The �ge