 Well, I'm gonna speak to you a message today called simplify your life It's worth showing up just for that title simplify your life This has not come to me cheap it did not come to me easy So don't be fooled by the casual delivery to think this is not a massive thing that's been said in this next 30 minutes This message comes to you really courtesy of Gertrude Peacock There she is isn't she beautiful She's the oldest person I know that we know she's a hundred and six She's still alive She was about a hundred and three there when she was much younger We have known Gertrude and she was in her mid 70s How weird is that to say about anyone and we've known her for 30 years plus since her mid 70s She used to babysit all of our kids and and the fact that she survived that I'm surprised. She's lived this long We'd say to our kids. How did it go? We said a Gertrude How did it go when we came over and you know came back and she went home? Oh, it was great. The kids were no trouble. We knowing the kids were probably were trouble So the next morning we said to the kids. How did it go? Were you gentle? Were you kind were you obedient for Gertrude? She's old and they said oh, it was awesome. We had a wrestling with us on the floor We we got her to take her teeth out for us Oh my gosh And Gertrude never told us all the abuse that our kids put into her life She was amazing and beautiful and of all the people we continue to visit when we stopped passering She was the one that we kept visiting and dropping into her world And I figured that she's the oldest person I knew so when she was nudging 90 I said to her Gertrude is that anything you could tell me to help me age well, you know, you might as well ask Haven't you you're not as well somebody that 100 plus gonna be living forever. I said what what do you think? Could you tell me anything? She said Paul sit down. Let me tell you something. Oh, this is great She said at the start of every decade I sat down with a pen and paper and I wrote down a number of things that I should not do anymore And a number of things I should do more of and she said I believe that in that list was the key to my Surviving and living and doing well for another decade. She said you should do that You should sit down at the start of every new decade And make a list of things that are things you need to do more of or do less of and she said I think if you just did that that you would age well and live a long time and I said wow Well, what kind of things do you mean? She said well, I just turned 90 and I decided that I should not be as independent as I have been in my living Because she fell and broke her wrist on the ice going to get a cab to church Because she wouldn't let anyone give her a lift because she was so not wanted to put anybody out She's that kind of lady So she broke her wrist and decided okay, I cannot risk this in my old age Walk in on the ice. I am going to get some help. I'm going to go into assisted living and at the age of 91 She also decided on her list eventually to give in to all the nagging of the family that she would have a pacemaker fitted in her heart These were things that she felt would give her more longevity than the 90 And when she was 99 100 ish years old she had to go into hospital for surgery Guess for what to change the pacemaker batteries Yes What a thing to have on your social media and your cv. I Lived those duracell pacemaker batteries The surgeon said we have never done surgery on anybody as old as you to change pacemaker batteries She's 106. She's so tired. She's so fed up. She so wants to go to heaven those flipping batteries are keeping her alive And I want to speak to you about Seven things that I wrote down when I began my 50s, you know a few years ago. I'm still in them just That were seven things that I thought would help me to simplify my life and may help you Simplify yours too. You need to make up your own list. Some of these will apply to you. Some of them won't but these are my seven Because we need to know all of us complexity is not neutral complexity is costly You know in the corporate world complexity costs the corporate world billions of pounds every year are wasted because of unnecessary Things that leaders and bosses and companies allow to get involved in their business And everything that's unnecessary and non essential requires funding and resourcing and management and meetings And all those multiple layers on something that was not required in the first place Create complexity that has massive financial implications complexity Is like fat and stress There's good versions and bad versions of both This church has developed beyond where you began and your life now as a church is spread out multi faceted multi venue Multi campus multi locations here around europe and the world that brings with it its own kind of complexity We don't mind that We welcome complexity in our lives that is serving our mission of our purpose our vision We don't mind that but there's another kind of complexity That hides in the shadows of the good complexity. It's right next to it It's so similar to it that we don't sometimes recognize the bad version from the good version this unnecessary unhelpful complexity That does not help your life to stay simple is what i'm after Exposing and helping you figure out in your life today in this session with you and i'm going to give you Seven things there's more but here's my current top seven that have served me well for the last few years of my life you already All right number one here goes number one key to simplify your life reduce drama Hello Hello Should we just stay here for 30 minutes? Should we just stay here now in this next few minutes as i speak about drama everybody looks straight at me I'm on my phone already. Where are you? Are you in the room? I hope you're listening because you need to hear this. Oh my gosh drama. Thank god someone said it Now I would have said remove drama, but it's hard to remove it if you're married to it or or or If it's your boyfriend Or your girlfriend Or if it's your parents or your kids or your best friends or your boss Removing it becomes more difficult when you're attached to it So I decided to downgrade my language to be more realistic and talk about reducing drama If you can remove it good But if you can reduce it then at least do that if you will commit this year To go on a drama reduction campaign You will simplify your life and you will survive not just survive You will flourish this year in a drama free year We would like to say to all of you who are the drama queens of our life Please take this year off We would like you to take a vacation from bringing so much stress and drama to our lives because drama is not neutral Drama is very very costly and what we want to say to you who we love in our lives Because we can't remove you so we got to love you We love you and want to say to you That your gift to us your greatest gift to us is that you would this year become a long maintenance person Oh, yes We would like you to be emotionally Inexpensive Yes Of all your new year's resolutions Forget it get rid of them all because the one that matters the most to us is that your resolution this year is I am going to have a drama free year We would love you to practice that this year because drama is costing you drama is not neutral It is expensive and drama. Here's the thing about drama This is how easy it is to have one it needs three ingredients It needs a victim A villain you And a conspiracy theory Oh, do you know what you see the way she looked at me? I'm telling you now. She looks at me like that all the time that woman has got it in for me You know what you know why I think she looks at me like that because she was talking to son So over there last week, you know what they were doing talking about me You know, you know, you know why they didn't you know they invited you they never invite me You know why they don't invite me because they hate my guts that against me Do you know why because I'm a threat to them because I'm so brilliant And I put them in the shade when I'm there and they're threatened by my company in social circles because I'm so quick-witted and smart and cool and fantastic Conspiracy theories. I've got to tell you Hollywood are making blockbusters on those three things And some of you are involved in your own blockbuster Because drama is all to do with listen to this carefully drama is all to do with The story in your head You all have a story in your head And various people have various parts in that story and various lines are allotted to them And they always say there's lines because they're the villain. They're the bad person So that's their lines and you have your drama and your actors and your script and in every single scene You are the victim. They are the villain and it's the same conspiracy theory and here we go for another year We would like you this year To go on a drama reduction exercise because we think if you will do that This will assist you in aging well and simplifying your life And so we would like you to stop being the renter of the group The exaggerator The one that Overreacts to something that when you analyze the facts everybody say facts What happened to them? Can you just calm down and can you tell me the facts? What do you mean the facts? What's the facts got to do with it? Everything and if you could reduce the story in your head to the Facts then you might realize you know what? That wasn't worth the drama was it? Now I do not stand here myself immune from drama I am known to have my own drama queen moments Especially if you're in the room with me when i'm trying to cancel something online You think you're a drama-free person? I dare you ring sky tv Uh, they'll get your blood pressure up in a heartbeat Drama tv drama I rang sky and I said I want to cancel five quid of my subscription. I don't want that channel anymore I'm not kidding you. It took me 20 minutes to get to a real person I'm then 10 minutes to explain to them what I wanted after they tried to keep selling me stuff, which I didn't call for You know stuff online is rigged against you. Don't you it's rigged to lean on and benefit from our laziness Because they know ringing is such a drama and we have too much drama in our world that we don't bother ringing And if millions of us don't bother ringing and it's all three quid ahead whose pockets that going to see So there's a lot of money in complexity There is a lot of money in you staying with your complexity There is a lot of money that benefits others if you don't commit to simplifying your life And I want to ask you this year to think about giving us the big gift of reducing drama in your world There I said it At the london playdium on a stage that's filled with drama normally I know what a place to say reduce the drama Number two learn to say no N No I know I don't need these pair of shoes, but they're so beautiful Oh, they suit you. They suit you. You look amazing stunning How are you? Hang on. I mean, let me get you something else that goes with it. Hello Can I sell kind of kind of kind of pack these up? Can I can I can I get them ready for you? You got to practice in the mirror saying No, no, no, no, I don't want them. No, I don't need them. No, no, it's such a short word But it sticks in some of your thoughts so badly if you will learn to say no You will simplify your life because I tell you something Every time you say yes, but you meant no It complicates your life Every false. Yes is not neutral Because every time you're doing something involved in something Go somewhere in convenience yourself for something you should have said no to It builds up inside you a resentment And now you feel used now you feel taken advantage of but the truth is that you keep saying yes And some of you especially are prone to this because you are a people pleasing person You're lovely, but you need to get stronger this year because by personality you You just want to be liked and included and thought well off So no gets really difficult for you. You don't know is the first word we learn as kids But sociologists tell us and I think it's true from my own experience in life That the older we get the harder. No is to say Because the older you get the more the more the are the more friendship relational societal Barriers we hit we feel we hit when we say no because no when you're older sounds like you're not helpful You're uncooperative. You're rude. You're unloving You will not be understanding. You're not compassionate So saying no as you get older to people that really genuinely you'd like to help sometimes Gets more difficult. So we say yes, and we say yes, and we say yes all those yeses pile up Uncomplicate Your life. So I decided in my early fifties I am going to learn to get much better at saying no I'm going to get good at saying no To people in the church who believe they're called in life to waste my time overfed under exercise Christians Who want to keep coming to me telling me their problems and take my counsel who have no intention of changing go figure Some people that have so many problems with the devil the devil this this is the conspiracy theory the drama The devil this the devil that here a devil there a devil everywhere a devil devil The best thing we can say to some christians is Come out of that demon and leave it alone You should be on a percentage because you represent the devil so well You're the best agent he's got in the world You've got to learn to say no I'm going to learn to say no well some of you don't like saying no because you don't know how to say it well I read a great book recommended to you. It's called the power of a positive no The title got my interest And the book will help you to learn how to say no well because some of you it's not It's not that you don't know you should say no You just don't know how to say no really well this book was helpful because saying no really well sounds like hey You know what I'd love to help But I got to tell you this is not a good time for me. I'm really in a busy season of my life And maybe two or three weeks time call me again Um, but I'm really busy right now and I'm sorry that I can't help But you know so-and-so person that I met the other day. I know they're free at the moment You haven't used the no word yet But we get the idea you're saying no, but didn't use the no word That is a skill that many of you can develop in life to become brilliant at saying no without saying no Add that skill learning to say no is a skill and saying it well is a skill worth investing in as you age Or you young people in here. I wish someone had told me this when I was your age We somebody told me a lot of things when I was your age. I had three kids by the time I was 20 I know you like My wife and I had three kids by the time I was 20 she was 21 because we got married at 16 and 17 I know Our oldest daughter Charlotte who some of you know was Five months old when we got married Then we had twins Shocked face emoji Twins, I know I didn't sleep for three years We got our twins home At different times and we got the first twin home and she went to Glenda's side of the bed and she just slept awesome Little Ruth she was just such a placid calm sleep through baby A couple of weeks later when she put enough weight on we got Bethan home Bethan came to my side of the bed. She didn't sleep at all I was working in a carpet warehouse in the laboring job started early in the morning worked all day came back late at night These were the days before disposable nappies. Okay Some of you don't know I'm talking about some of you're thinking are you telling me somebody wasn't in jail? I'm talking terry towering nappies Uh, come on And the stuff we the solution we soaked them in is the kind of thing you'd see on breaking bad Now somebody will be in jail for selling it But it was in our house that whole house was toxic as we sterilized and baptized and immersed and cleaned and all this stuff And so I got so desperate one night Because I wasn't sleeping When she wasn't looking I swapped the babies I put the sleeper at my side And put the crier at her side And when she was up all night, she said to me, I don't know what's wrong with Ruth. She's just not sleeping I said, you know what that's really strange, but mine's sleeping great at the moment And then one night She got suspicious and thought there's something not right here You could only tell them apart then by pulling up their little baby grow and one of them had a little birthmark here Ruth had a little birthmark here the sleeper And she pulled up their baby grow in the night and saw that Ruth was at my side I was in the doghouse for a few nights from then on But you got to do what you got to do, eh fellas? Where's the man in here? Bit of support from the men. I know you were all kids and up parents You don't know what I'm talking about, but hey, if you ever have twins, there's a heads up for you right there Number three be yourself Oh, we should have had a drum roll or something then we should have had angels rivet dancing on the stage then For what it's cost me to tell you that Be yourself it is exhausting Not being who God intended you to be You know, you know, don't you every single one of you were born a complete Original and a complete genius You know, that's the good news. The bad news is the day you were born Is the last day of freedom you'll ever have It's the last day God had you to himself After that he entrusts you he releases you to family or to guardians He releases you to experiences and voices and influences in your life and to contexts and environments and cultures All of which start to get busy Turning you into their idea of who they think you should be You get to your 30s or 40s and Have a job you hate Live somewhere you wish you didn't live Out of built a life Around an identity that was never yours in the first place And the longer we leave this the harder it gets to go back and fix it That's why i'm saying this now especially In this service in the prior one where more of the youth of the church I am told are here and I want to say to you young people whatever you do As soon as possible in your life try and make this commitment this decision however it occurs to you to be you I pray for every parent that you have and every guardian everyone that's entrusted To lead us that they will give you room to be who God made you to be I've got we got eight grandchildren the whole grandchild thing is out of control by the way I've told my kids enough no more Because they all live five minutes from us and we are sitting ducks This big old farmhouse where it's sitting ducks for random grandchild invasions The age from 13 down to nearly two there's two in the middle brother and sister Jonah and sienna he's seven she's five already these two kids are showing the potential right now That when they're older they will be outstanding Criminals is the best thing I could think they should do with their lives right now Because they lie and they deceive and they manipulate and they're they they they plan and plot together They're geniuses And he he is a little bit, you know ADD whatever you call it, but he's got a forensic memory. He's genius on minecraft He remembers numbers. He's got he's got a photographic memory for numbers asset to his parents Listen, whatever happens. You owe me this at least this when he's 20. I'm taking him to las vegas Ah Just a weekend in vegas my little rain man. I call him You owe me at least that for all the free dinners. I've given him and the babysitting nights we've done His sister called sienna. She has a different problem. It's called being a diva For the moment she wakes up. She is Elsa I'm not kidding. I'm I'm not talking just the dress. I mean crown I mean wand shoes the whole deal. She's Elsa. It's that or naked That's it. You're a good-look parent in those two criminals When I think of sienna the word that comes to my mind is unreasonable Taking her for a walk is a nightmare. She won't hold your hand. She won't cooperate She walked where she shouldn't she sits where she shouldn't she sits down In the middle of the pavement because she has a stone in her shoe Not where people are whizzing by on bicycles and all kinds of stuff It's crazy and I look at these kids and I said to my kids, you know my Your gift to them is to somehow see what part of that is Original and unique and part of their god-given flair and brilliance and trying to protect that because you know what? The education system in this country is killing our kids It is I hate it Even school teachers now it's an all-time low in morale Amongst our school teachers who went into teaching because they love the kids But now themselves are enslaved to a system that's obsessed with tests and grades that tell you nothing about that kid It worries me for my grandkids Where is me for their they're battling that system because it's a systemic narrow mindedness About one particular form of intelligence called academics and the question is not How intelligent are you? The question is how are you intelligent? Because there are so many ways that you in here are intelligent that aren't even on the school radar But they'll make you they'll make you feel bad And they'll call you remedial for not being good at maths or science or history But at the same time they'll hand you something else back to say but you are a genius with animals Or you have massive emotional intelligence Or you are a brilliant instinctive leader or you're great with picking up languages. They will find you They will slap a fine on you for taking your kids to see a whale in alaska Because they want you to look at one in a book at school They will find you for going to another country being surrounded by spanish-speaking people because you miss spanish in school Or it was taught badly by someone that didn't enjoy the subject themselves Because they're driven by trying to get a test pass for you rather than enjoying teaching that language to you I've got to move on don't get me started on education. You didn't I started myself It was a little rant. It was a little drama moment then i'm back in the room Be yourself be yourself was only a few years ago that I decided to have the courage to say I am an introvert I love people, but I have my limits I don't recharge in groups. I don't recharge at social events. You know what? I have been dragged to parties all my life I said to my wife listen I'm going to go to the party, but here's the deal if I go to the party I'm going to spend all night in the in the corner with neil who doesn't want to be there either Because he's also an introvert was also dragged there. So we text each other. You're going tonight. Yeah, you're going Yeah Let's just stay in the corner and talk to each other all night about motorcycles and stuff because we're both in the motorcycles And then just hope no one tries to talk to us with small talk introverts hate small talk And I realized that Because I've grown up in a charismatic pentecostal church All the extroverts in the church have been trying to fix me all their lives We need to help him bless him Bless him need to get him out more get him more social bless him. We need to help him. He's so withdrawn. No, no freaking leave me alone He's in a world of his own. Yes, exactly We put all the clappy shouty people on stage. Yeah And all the introverts like oh god, I could never do that. Is that what leadership looks like? Oh count me out Jesus was a massive introvert Ooh Bible says he often withdrew to solitary places Party animals don't do that They avoid them party animals can't stand being on their own They don't like their own company. That's why they're on the phone texting all the time because they're on their own on the bus for three minutes Number four get organized Ooh, this is a biggie get organized if you want to simplify your life You have to get organized. You know you young people in here You've got a big dream and vision for your life and you've got this great idea and the destiny Great, listen to me. It's hard to change the world when you can't find your keys uh It's hard to take london for jesus when your phone's not charged Because you keep forgetting to plug it in and you're on your third phone this year and it's only february Because you keep losing them dropping them down toilet and stuff And the screens cracked again because you sat on it because your jeans are too tight Because you're committed to skinny jeans. You're the slave to fashion So so you ram that phone between your backside and your back pocket It even changes the way you walk because it's so tight And then you sat down and crack Third one this year. Hey Get an elasticated waist and just get over it and just Get some room in your jeans because You know been disorganized is not neutral. I hope you know been disorganized complicates your life Been late all the time. Hello You know when you're disorganized you spend all your life saying sorry Sorry, sorry. I'm a bit late. Sorry running a bit late. Sorry be there soon. Sorry You start without me. I'll be there soon. Sorry. Yeah, here's my order order my food for me I'm running a bit late. Sorry. Sorry. Sorry. I'm so sorry. Hey everybody. I'm here. Sorry. I'm late. Sorry. Sorry shut up and and please Just this year maybe for us who you keep telling us you love so much. Maybe show up on time Even better. This is pushing. I know Early early If you showed up somewhere this week early, I promise you Everyone that knows you never show up on time always late if you show up early. I promise you They'll be so surprised. They'll need medication To deal with you being early on whatever you did whatever you did to be early repeat repeat repeat While they only set off 10 minutes earlier This is the key to becoming more organized and been disorganized costs you money. It costs you friendship Because we get fed up of it Because you keep being late and we're attached to you because we're the ones picking you up. So we're late as well So everyone in the cars late because you were late as we all waited outside for you to do something you could have done 30 minutes earlier If you want to simplify your life If you want to go to the next level in your life It depends often on things people don't tell us like just get organized organization Is not about tidiness It is about committing to live well It is about committing to add that value to your life That just lets you Decomplicate your life number five margin put some margin in your life Who I wish someone had told me this when I was younger If this hand represents Your sweet spot of where you function really well This is where you consistently function well your sweet spot in life and this hand represents The limits of you as a person where you start breaking down and you start losing it and getting short and Getting stressed and not sleeping well that this hand represents the limits The closer this hand The closer this sweet spot Starts to move too far towards the max and the limits the narrow of the gut gets between these two places That's margin that space is margin and the more you start to live frantic burn the candle at both ends Don't rest don't relax. Don't turn off Don't and by the way, you know, if you know this don't you there's now proper rehab programs For people that are addicted to their forms Oh So the more you are in touch we thank god for progress and the beauty of progress is the blessing And the curses were always in touch And the curses were always in touch Some of you can't bear being out of touch. So you're Obsessed and you're we've said live life to the max. That's a bad thing to tell people Because that narrows the narrows the gap and you see it gets so small does your margin that now you have no financial margin Because you're living in debt spending what you don't have and you've moved away from your sweet spot financially And now you have no financial margin. You're always behind the curve worried about certain colored envelopes coming through the door Always behind And now you've no creative margin. How about a new idea for a long time? I've not a creative conversation for a long time. You have no relational margin Can't fit people into your life can't see anybody can't hang out You're always behind the curve and always max time. It's like driving your car down the road with all the warning lights on You keep going anyway Put some margin into your life. That's why Jesus did often get away often withdrew To solitary places. What's he doing? He's creating margin in his life. Isn't it amazing that Jesus came to reach the world? He had three years to do it and despite having a short time to fulfill his mission He still stepped away from people Because he came to heal the sick. He didn't want to become sick And you become sick when you give too much of yourself to people and don't keep enough of yourself back That's between you and god So you have to put some margin into your life the band the back up here to give you hope that we finish soon Every service needs that hope I've been in a lot of services what I wish the band had got up a lot sooner I'd abandoned all hope that it would ever finish But not in Hillsong Margin in your life Number six you all okay Learn to play play Learn to play Some of you need no encouragement about that Learn to play because sociologists, psychologists tell us this is fascinating to me and I think so true That the older we get the less we play especially men We get so busy doing stuff get so important. We're in touch. We're needed building our career our life We just stop playing. You know why because play has no intrinsic value at all It is it is not in our dna to play because our ancestors if they had a played would have been killed by a saber-tooth tiger They're busy just hunting and gathering and providing something of that is certainly ingrained in our western existence You have to commit to learn to play Because we don't stop playing. Here's the thing. We don't stop playing because we get old We get old because we stop playing Did you get that? We don't stop playing because we get old we get old Because we stopped playing because we stopped having fun because we stopped being stupid When I say play I don't mean the competitive goals Some of you play when you have a bad day if you don't win it's like I don't mean that that's not play. I mean the kind of play that only grandkids can get you to do My grandkids would come and get me rolling on the floor and the gift of grandchildren Amongst other things is grandkids teach you to play again in midlife I did this with my kids, but now I'm in my midlife And now again, I'm rolling around on the floor and I'm doing Lego and I'm doing dollies and girl play I know But we have six granddaughters and two grandsons and we have four daughters ourselves. I got the girl played down When the boys came I'm like, yes Now I can buy guns and knives and stuff and we can we can kill stuff and we can watch stuff on the tv That the girls are squeamish about when I got stunning laws in my house. I'm like, thank god I've got I live my life with five women I'm in hormone central for years My stunning laws are like, yes I've got I've got watch a movie in silence friends You girls don't know how to watch a movie and be quiet What Let's watch a movie. Come on fellas. Let's watch a movie lights out Screen set I invest in a nice big surround sound nice big tv Good stunning laws. You're a big choir. Don't talk. Yeah. Come on guys tv on movie Oh, I'm like 50 minutes in this is awesome. Not a sound Not not a conversation just nothing. I'm like, this is awesome. Yes. Thank you lord for these these brothers these band of brothers Hang on 15 minutes in I feel a leg Come across my lap A bear leg Then I'm like Now in my hand appears Some massage cream From my wife that says, what are you doing? Nothing else. You might as well rub me leg I'm like get lost. I'm not doing that. That's banned. You can't do that. And then it's like Oh, somebody's opened some nail varnish across the lounge See now it's turned into a spa a girl-ified atmosphere And we're just trying to watch the freaking movie You've got to learn to play you got to learn to play I'd play into your life Researchers said little researchers brain researchers said this already interestingly. They said research shows that many people are suffering from PDD Play deficit disorder Commit to being playful. You can't you can't you can't look at creation. Can you and not conclude that god Isn't playful I mean who came up with a giraffe What happened that day? What I mean how how unnecessary Is that neck it's ridiculous Who needs that you can't look at creation you can't see dolphins And animals playing and and doing crazy things on these instagrams that you follow You know animal videos instagram right there you are give my big plug Always animals doing crazy stuff. You think god is so playful and yet we become so serious And you could put jesus down now he can walk all by himself He doesn't need you to run the world and stay up at night and help him to change that you're not carrying it all God is he's giving you room to be playful because he is playful It is in your spiritual dna to be playful. I've got to stop because the band are getting louder and louder like get off Hello get off Seven and finally manage expectations, and I'm done. You've got to manage your expectations. Oh gosh Listen to me You cannot stop people promising you the earth and delivering nothing You can't stop people promising you the world Over promising and always Under delivering some people do that in your life all the time and it's killing you Because they're close to you You have to manage your expectations because if you don't you will manage your disappointments And you're suffering and your discouragement and your confusion and your anger. You're going to manage that anyway Because you set yourself up to manage that But if you will be proactive and say you know what as they're promising you the world You know what you encounter me. I love you No one you know, I'll never I'll never let it as they're saying it to you be saying to you liar I don't believe that I don't buy into that great They're fantastic and inside yourself dial it down put it somewhere else it realistically can be You hand yourself a massive gift if you will manage your expectations expectations are a huge gift from god But they do not come with instructions So you have to figure out when peter said jesus You can rely on me. I will not deny you jesus said peter Before it gets dark. You'll deny me three times You know what jesus did? He managed not to believe him Knowing he will go to the cross alone Knowing he would die alone and so when he's on the cross alone. He wasn't in resentment He knew he'd be alone. Why because he managed his expectations to a place that he wasn't battling that on the cross He knew that they wouldn't be there Where this year Can you take charge of your expectations and not set yourself up again for somewhere taking for a ride? Because they overpromised yet again and under delivered There i'm done Let's stand together come on