 Very, very big round of applause for the people who are controlling the music up there. DJ Brenda and your people, I can see you've been playing just women, women, ladies, ladies. Nime wa ona, very, very good job, since it's a quince Wednesday, we appreciate you also. Na students kumoja Brenda kwe WCW man say, sitawaza, ama fom, fom, yaa, I tried for Facebook, I tried for channel, on Twitter, hashtag is white and monika ibunisana studio. My name is Valentine or at color me val, ama val du kenileksana nomen yona in these hair streets. So you know it's about that time it's WCW crushing on our females and we have important things to discuss and today we're talking about dealing with pretenders. Weh, I can't wait for your comments, na jatustakwa too late, but in the meantime let us introduce our very, very, able panelists. How are you, Ni? Hi. How are you? What's your good name? Although, umu kwa kwa before, nuna kwa pwa ama uni toa pizwa, even in able to do like this so that they know you have me. Just, yaa, atu kiyongia today, yaa, uku e tuu kutu. Eh, you know. At least you are not taken, not engaged. Sasa, weh weh, but la kufokas on what you should be maintaining. Umu nangali apete. What's your good name? Uh, Praise Kende. Menda wapu, kwa apetu no kumili. Niki katushile kumalizia. How's that going? Amalizia iwi kariboni? April. Very soon, we can't wait. Praise Kende. On Instagram, Praise underscore underscore Kende. On Facebook, Praise Kende. And on Twitter, Praise Kende. Alright. Hi. Hi. You are new to our panel. You look very nice. Thank you. What is your name? Chayan Teji. Where where? Chayan Teji. Okay, for the sake of just shortening things, what would you like us to call you? Teji is okay. Teji is fine. Yeah. Where are you from? What side of Africa? That name is very exotic. Ha, western. We live here too. We cannot hide it from you otherwise. But where can we find you on social media? Instagram, underscore spicy dot 254. Where where? You even come with swag at a spicy. Hey, alright. Okay. Where else? That's it. Karibusana. Thank you. How are you? Yeah, I feel very, very nice, a beautiful lady says. Yes, yes, yes. To say enjoy too. Okay. Karibukosa. Wana kuitana niwe? Naitua Seriam Blaku. Social media sites you can find in Seriam Maestro Munda. All platforms. Alright. So should we just get, what do you think of pretend? Who is a pretender to you? Perhaps. Pretender is somebody who, okay, you present yourself to be something you're not in whichever way, maybe in person, character. Oja is straight surely. What do you think of pretend? Pretender is like a liar. Someone who tries to put a different front or something different from who they are for a specific goal or a certain aim. Akonani ya? Yeah. They are gender. Xavier, I want to ask you a different question. Do you think I understand, I don't know if it's biology, am I just some type of science, mi mi we na relate na wewe, si we enta relate na mitu kama kaisu tu seme. Yes, you're both my friends and I know you from work, but mi mi na eto na nga uge yasi when you meet uncleyeshakae. So is that pretending? No I don't think that's pretending, it's the way you associate with both of us. So it's the personal and it's the way I'm personalised and I pay the price who I need to pay but I'm too different to you, you cannot always do the same. So what really is pretending? To the ladies I always feel it's one abyss, to the guy with the hypocrite. So basically, that's the one one. 1 upiwa na pretend? Yes, 10-to-10, but 2 me na wasi. Because women on kujang daily the guiltiness. Oku ima sensei diya wa kwa fana kwa kwa wana kwa very guilty. Nyi, nye maminga haya gareya lafumu na na kujakutu pedelek around Io lap, moja, mukise ma ni yeno. Ya, nene o the heart on ikihana. Ya, fe kata mita kwa umbeya. Igo your garekwa. I just wanted to win your heart. Mita wana lady, she's able to continue continue to continue. Please don't hold it in No, please tell him why So why should you hire a girl to please a woman It's something that's not yours like you're lying from the first day I'm not even going to trust you You see, first of all if I wanted to impress her even to get her contacts even to take her somewhere to say you connected me to her first of all I want to please her I want to please her I want to treat her well You see, and then you are being my friend you will be honest with me and say I want to please her I want to please her So I want to please her I want to please her I really have to go as per So it's men do that just in place but not for the long term That sounds like a very tiring life but I know also of some people who pretend that they don't know but they themselves are upside down Have you ever heard of such an instance? In church I want to say church loosely because it depends on me but when I see them they are holy they are holy that is why I am here I want to please her I want to please her I want to please her I know of a story There is this lady she is so churchy she has been to a church So all along she wants somebody who is God fearing and she wants to live a life but when you meet because when she meets people all of them pretend to be what they are not what she wants So at the end of the day the true colors are together Which is true So you are on pretenders A lot of retailers on the religion side because your parents tell you that when you want to look for a good wife there are two places of getting a good wife either at work or in church So you see a lot of men going to church to look for women So you see a church where you can see all these avenues but she is not getting a right person So you can see a church because church you view it as a very holy place So you are going to get a very holy girlfriend to live with her So you can see a lot of men going to church and you can see a lot of women going to church But now there is a problem because men nowadays mostly like most of them go to church to get a wife material So when you see a church ladies that want to go to church to pretend so that somebody will also get a wife So we are pretending Niliyambuwa kani sanika hospitali the people inside some of them are still sick some of them are undergoing healing sihati utapata kanyo naitisha just be careful ok So here we have the first slide pretend the definition So it's an attempt to make something that is not the case appear true So something an attempt to make something that is not the case appear to rule that is what pretend is Ayasusa vinyuwa stanna tunajua pretend What is one way we know how How is one way we know how to pretend Why ladies pretend in all ways always So one I'll entangela kitu jeneru I'll entangela kitu jeneru Kitu jeneru I'll entangela kitu jeneru I'll entangela kitu jeneru kia and life in parcel Like people really pretend on Instagram kwa I mean it made me dangerous Onanda kupos kwa gariya wene I love wana sana Take me back Many people are always telling us wele ni goals, work hard Bible verses then Okiru kuhuma the story is completely different How do you think we pretend I think some ladies like in real life they are ratchet but when they're with the guy or someone they're interested in wana kwa pole and sweet kini tunata kuskia that's what you get At the south view, but it is Oh my gosh, babe How have you witnessed I witnessed what stanna kii pretend and it had nothing to do with you lakini wona wu stanna niya me tu pima wu yuehe Funny thing, men are really good to to know if a lady is pretending Hi If you are so good, that is a lie Men are really good Excuse me? No, excuse me This is why Kitambu ni kwa na shanga mtu wana semati Oh, he stole my man nama kitukayo And then they came and told me ok, men are a little bit weak So them tu akimuguzatu mahalifu lani anezamu nipaswe you cannot tell if a woman is pretending Please allow Just kubali to a delen na meisha Tu kuna kamaati And every after the date you will bring the report to the kamaati Squad And they will accept ah, uledema kusawa uledema kusawa lakini Kuna zingira tu chochu zingina na Funa lakini She is really pretending There is relief versus reality Those people pretend to to impress others But on the reality it is very open You cannot match those standards you are trying to pretend to be So how can you tell if which happens to be a next slide Can you tell if someone is pretending and how? First of all if you are not high class it can be any and cannot You are pretending to be high class but you are not high class Ah, jih First of all if you are in a poor situation and you cannot come and hear you are pretending Excuse me, I thought that if you were in a poor situation you would have never come and you are in a poor situation Me, I am a young woman I think that if you are in a poor situation you will be in a poor situation I always just keep quiet I don't know if you are in a poor situation but it is not the end of the day The way they dress I don't know some clothes don't match you What does that mean? I don't know how I can... Is there an example here on this set when a sissy takes out that one and a sissy does it because I am the one who does it No, she is very professional at this moment I don't remember if I am in a match and I am the one who does it Don't pay a spot light Don't pay a spot light Stop working as a spot light No, Fuuatura I mean these are goes to the people I hang out with them I don't hang out with them a lot apart from work so I can't really tell it's close really much with you but for now you are really beautiful you look fine You made your call because I had you Can you tell if a girl is pretending that maybe to some you just met them and they are not going to behave as in Gimali Can you tell if they are pretending? I think you can like according to how she acts now and other people like maybe waitresses and what you took as a treat kwa ko ata pretend but to other people when she is not trying to get anything from them hata kwa na yote mi aku difanya sana That's the difference So she will be nicer to the person who has something that she wants as opposed to How do you think you can tell a pretend if she has an accent but she has a passport I think you can easily tell when someone is pretending unless if that person is really a good pretender like a professional pretender otherwise you can tell when someone is pretending I don't know how I feel because no one can tell when you meet if you are pretending I think for me I think you can easily tell when someone is pretending kwa pesa Mr. Yana, don't say if you don't admit she really shows some concern that you are supposed to sell but at the moment it's like a little budget it's like a little budget it's like a little budget it's like a little budget it's like a little budget it's like a little budget that is a whole scheme from experience you need to come when you are in pitchment immediately can we please have our next slide because I will be giving a couple of scenarios this is a fact first and then a couple of scenarios so though most aged to admitted ladies judge each other on looks age and sex appeal please correct me if I'm wrong wasdana we judge each other by looks age and sex appeal my wrong and if I'm wrong why no I think you're right how does it make you feel entering a room when you go to a room but you model and go to a room it will affect how you feel how will the modeling one and this other one affect you so I think like when you judge women judge other ladies according to how they look how they dress in the age what you want to do because they think I can sleep and here ever since I got this hair color my friend reaction by this was very fascinated wow wasdana wengine wengine wasdana wu wengine wengine it's the same face just different colored hair I don't know why there is a problem how do you relate if perhaps maybe in a place who has rainbow yes when in rainbow but there is just a certain feeling wu kusha nga piliyoryYa piliyoryYa high ccityziu rainbow Because, for example, okingia place probabili kuna, like people say on a model, you know how willewako, maybe dressed, make up and all that. Kwanza, they look at your cave in, ya, like, me kama hau bila unaget, like you really have to be maybe on wigs and make up, on heels, ya. So it's, it's feeling poor. I think that is why it's very important to have high self esteem. Dokabu loko tena otwing, achan kwen bihata story, vee vee life story, juzit me kwa pameru university, they're having amista enumis. So send li kwa backstage, na mimi me va tisha tia wa itu fefu, na jeans, na life imende. Latas kwa na make up pa isi wei, kwa ni kwa kat. And then all around me, beautiful people and beautiful things, very different sizes, tall, a little bit like that. I even saw there was a plus size type situation for the models. And it, I would have felt bad kama singe jiju wa aki wa lai, kwa singe jiju wa nge jibu kiva. Ona, sasa, wuna make up ni sawa, uko job, sawa. You hear backstage because you're here to do a job. Focus. A lafu sasa wengine sa I can now celebrate you for being beautiful. But lapse came by. Can we do that? Is that something we can campaign for girls? Yes. So kuna shida mahali. Not siwa s'chana wengi wa rafanya iwa. Not for real. But it's so, if your heart feels nice when you do that. The problem is, most of them hawa jaji exit. Like kama hawa jaji kubali ningu mosa na kukupne situation, somebody else out there. That is why you'll see very many people shaming others online because of things like that. Why are you laughing? Why would you shave your fellow manomestli ataka ma? Ni ni may happen. I don't see. We all know everybody wants to outstand and outshine. So basically every lady will always want to outshine the stage. But at the same time, I always wonder, wana mademo wa super, wana tendu kwa appreciate madem sii wile wa super. And all the madem when you say wa super, they don't like, but ladies were very beautiful. I don't know why. Kuna wone zava na patem mtu anani beke atu attitude for no reason. Na ni mstana. Na na stakujana, bada stakujana accent. Uga kusungu mingi. But the way she's treating me, ki doga tani nivai nijifiche kwanza. Okay, do you want me to look bad so that you talk to me? Like, what's the problem? Have you had the experience? Yani mtu tu atu uga ungeya. You've not even presented yourself yet. You've just walked up to them attitude. For? I think ladies, some ladies feel threatened. But we cannot be beautiful like you at the same time. Yes. It's so imagine. Like, onna viet ma kaivi kwa. Kilam taka na utimbake. See, vieta na zata nga nyikiwa pa say. No one is feeling jealousy of anyone else. Ha! It's okay. Next slide please. Remember you can give us your two cents at Y245 on Facebook at Y254Channel on Twitter. Hashtag is Y in the morning. So, what can you tell your slide here next? Uhu. Do it question time. So how would you relate to the following? Then we immediately go to the next one. How would you relate to the following case scenarios? I have. I have the ones who pretend to be fragile. Shepata hastana. They cry in their emotional and they just blackmail it. So, for example, tkewa iwi watatu. Yani yongongo ya she's ratchet like illet. Ushai ona hastana ona sunda. Boflo easy ndo wa kule bisuri. Pa tichalia kikam. Oh my gosh! I don't even know I'm going to get home. I'm going to pay for my Uber because. How do you do such a client? It's difficult. I hate such characters. At Tomsavia. Ntumetokana ea apashama hohotu kichira ka bezu. Sa, ea ata hoji ea ziku nyuaish. Can only take from mind glass. What's the problem? Simi na kuhetitu na reality. Ah, ya. If you're not like this and you're presenting, I'll just let you know. Sasi ya mebebo na crowd. For example, if there are like three more savias and she's all up. Ha ha ha ha. Awa ta kuwa. Oh mama. Sa sapa uta anza. In fact, uta kaita ukenza kongef. No, na kutu. I think da konga liya tu na. I'm done with you for real because. Nipu akua real. I think that's why you always see men really taken advantage of such characters. They always use such characters for men. Baba na de. How do you feel? That's why you don't know me. Oh so you know. Me na ne maga ubo tila wa katu. We will go to ta nipa yo. We'll pay. Touche nipa ma rambili na. Ha ha. But the moment you're done with you, ta kuna text, ya lenda za kudu na nga hubi. Mwabi. Miwa ya ning. We cut off the ones we've already used. Ikun da niya wanaume. Kwa so watu na feel ba ya. Where we reached, ta kwa ki na peyan baya wako. Anisha na me peya profile ya kote e? Nakudyu waka te? Yaku tende. only a few weeks ago was never out of our house to hold a game we pleaded to design your for us so you did it so I will go with you but I already know in my plans I am pretending what are your hobbies? bungee jumping what is your dream? my dream is a little more you say her name is Padamata Faww your friends give you a name I told them I am a padamata I am a winner I am doing this How would you deal with such a person? I can't pretend, I can't pretend. You just be a hater, it's okay. When the other men think you're hating on her, it's okay. It's just not right. I have a story. Kuna umstana fulani, mungu amu sedi. I honestly believe you're mentally ill. Kaunani skia, please get some help. Umstana lini kusia. I laugh, this is Val minding her own business as usual. Minding business. Aka kuja kuangu. Malili kuwani meka. Akan tafta. Vzuri. Aka ni explain ezo vitu zote amefanya. Vini amenitenda. Vini e. Atas ehi. Yani ezo vitu ali kwanani yambia. I was like, ehi. Yani you're just telling me, to my face, that's what's happening right now. How do you just, you don't even have a reaction. You can't even be angry. You can't even be upset. There's no for exploding. Uuna relax tuu naskiza. So this is what has been going on. Aya. So after that, I took the necessary measures. I cut everyone that I knew naieye out of my life. Kamsa. Aya. The next time tunapatana, ili kuwatu batinbaya, e streets ane robi. So nukamu ambia. Ona, since, I still come and you listen to me. I laugh. Ona. Sikai ili wukumeni ambia before. Oh my God. I just say for you to come here. I'm like, okay. I'm telling people. Oh my God. It's such a lie there. Ehi, ehi. Shora you're mentally ill. Mentally ill. Uneza jini tenda. Ukujo ni ambia. Alafu kana tenda. What is the problem? How do you deal with someone like that? See it's just for prayers. Prayers and cut you off completely. I will give you a drop kick. If you come anywhere near my physical area. Are we together? How do you deal with someone like that? Nak. For real. Like for real ako. Oh my gosh. Ba. Ni. Sikai ili wukumeni ambia. Did you forget? Did you hit yourself? Like why are you in an accident? I'm an easier. What is the problem? Vitu ni bili. Eda ni gondroa. I'm a jinga. What is the problem? How do you deal with that one? Actually both. Talk to me, sweetheart. It's perplexing. So, I can talk to you. Now, I insist if you want us to get physical, we can. Ba, let's beto it's not the answer, guys. Laki ni uchinga zingine pepeki ala ni. So, kai na mamama ako. I saw something, I'm paying here. Remember I tried 254 on Facebook. I tried 254 channel on Twitter. Hashtag is why in the morning. I have another scenario for you. But before that, let's start with the comments. I have 19. Good morning. Good morning. So, you opened your mind a little. Ok, one now. Chawa wumandani kwandani. Jihadani, not your money. We only live once. Ok, for those of you who don't understand and you're watching us on DSTV channel 276. He just said there are people who don't like it when you prosper. Ba, good morning. Good morning, pa. Double or one. Mambasat kondani as always. Jay Oswally ni a queen. So, we not say or add anything. Melody says good morning, guys. Good morning, kitty. Maybe, ok, we'll show how you have progressed in your life and you see the first expression you will be able to see if they really want what's best for you or not too. Eh, if there are snitches and go behind your back and attack you without you knowing. Kungoni. They are called kungoni. Namba 3. If you are planning to do something special in your life and you ask them for help and they come up with me excuses. That's how they don't want you to succeed in life. Wao. We have Neema Wambogo. She says watching from Nyeri. The one thing, the one you think he or she is your best friend. He or she is the great enemy in your life. Never open your heart for someone because most of them are the ones who think negative about you. Wao. Ok, let us start with kitty melodies number one. Hi. When you tell someone you've progressed in your life and their first expression. Eh, have you ever had a friend manzeu mbambika, something happened to you that was magical then you go tell them and walk on. Ha. Ha. Ha. You know what? No, it's not coming. It's not coming. So how, and they were your friend. How do you move on from there? And I don't know what's done and I don't know how to sumbo because what's done is said when they do how to sumbo via kili. So it's usually someone that we've called friend. Someone who's close to us. How do you deal with that one? You just cut them off. Um. Ya. Uta misa kii. So sumo misa kii kama hako takii mazyu rishueli. E tuwa chetna yos kuli. There are more friends in this life. In fact, at our standard kawengi kuli kwa nome. You'll make more friends. How would you deal with that? I think, because you're ready my friend, obviously, kuna vilechul kwa tuna saideana in some way. So I won't cut you off, but I already know like your intentions. So I want to cut poli poli but I want to convey what I share what I don't hear. I like that because umo jo ni had it wishi. There are some cases you should just remove. Kabisa toka. Leave it. But umba kata wishi we cannot alienate everyone. So just be careful what you say now. Just be careful. Umpe wongo. Wone malista kika. Experiment na ni. Sebe, what do you think about this conversation? I think you can use your innocence and try to assume jo utajende, and then wait for her to come and give you buddha and appreciate her. So just be smart and come jig. Kuna... Oh, okay. Can we have the next slide please? There's not the next scenario which is making me a little bit happy. Okay, not happy but it's the thought. All right, so we have the ones who act tough and usually have a lot of aggression in their timina. As in, but inside, very, very small. Very, very small. Adopt kanaizoma to sizote. Oh! Weba toji mi nani. Nya, nya, nya, nya. Nya, nya, nya, nya. Nya, nya, nya, nya, nya. Nya, nya, nya, nya, nya, nya, nya. Nya, nya, nya, nya, nya, nya, nya, nya, nya, nya. Depression. Oh! You are scared for life. How do we help those ones? Ya, nona ni sawa kwenbe kenye anatkak kwenbe ya wewe. Lakin ni wewe umgoze tu. We should let them know that vilewa wana kuguze evo. As in, kama wakona isu na uki respond the same with aided. You should let them know how it feels na respond evo nakizke weba umo ujerebu kumone. Sure, but that is how you make me feel too. Is there a way we can just use words instead of kudungana? A knife for an eye? Is there a way we can just sit and talk? Kama some people cannot just be talked to. If somebody you can sit down we can talk, that's okay. But if somebody that cannot be talked to then... Say, we won't know naji. Kablami fiki. If your friendship is really based with Zuri which is very hard to approach someone who will explain it. So I think to develop to relate to the trust that you develop you can say maze achaku jisukiya. Maze achaku preten. Which is very hard to kumbia muntu. You will spark another conversation. So I think if you can able to develop the less kids you can approach muntu that's why if friendship should be really based well. Kama iku based power una mombi atwe achaku nifana evi na evi. Wei ituna enda evi. Iyo for me. Wei ituna enda evi. But you see for ladies I can't tag along with you guys if you are going there. You see for the ladies but you come under wuku you see. But for the guys atwe to enda evi. But you see for the ladies you see. Ladies should also learn muntu kwe li. First umse mambia evi na evi na evi. How do you base a friendship properly manze evo? Una juaje is different iku kwa simiti not on sand. Iku kwa solid. Iku kwa friendship mimi kwangu ikama muli sumana mse for that while me jwa na juuku kwa kuhu sumana mse iskulu ma primer muka metiseka. Muka kwa raha. Muntu kwa ezi kwa na kulingia na ulu kwa na mijiwa hapum belemi kama kama it's high school based kama the schooling based kama if it's work apuni na kwa nga mbaju kazi wato me patanatu. Uju muntu wema liishi. If you guys come from the same place at home friendship can be based apu kama muli suma puma je it can be based apu kama you guys just met under some funny circumstances na muka jail, muka associate it can be based from there. Can I just use his example to ask your question. Pahaps me biniwote me toka place modus you at same location or area. So it just so happens that you've known each other for a couple of years. One of you does better than the other. Nasi and again I want you to understand it better than kwa gani quotes because it may be my season maybe it's my season or it's your season and it's not mine. But excited as we are to meet we don't have fast reaction so how do we deal with that? If you are the one pahaps maybe who was left a little bit behind tawana mwenzako ama fallu na she's going to do for whole day. I think I'm going to support her If she's a good friend, I'll obviously benefit from it. And then, you're a smart woman. Very, very smart. Explain benefit. No, if I was her friend that had done better, nani kwa dubai, mwa nani similete vi tu kava? Mwa mwa mwa mwa mwa mwa mwa nani dubai nani. In fact, why not? Okay, apu kwa dubai. It depends where I'm going with. Mwa mwa mwa mwa mwa mwa mwa mwa mwa dubai. I love to watch your Kenyans. This is what I want to do. I don't do Kenyans. I'm only doing dubai. Ideas, girls. Maybe I'm a serious person. Okay, the next scenario. The ones who pretend to be your friend only to pull you down when they think you're getting better at them at life. Actually, I don't know what to say. And it's it key to you, Mizamu, too. Because when they were your friend, maybe you were at path. You were doing things. Akiwana idea unamrushia. Nasa potia na kakuna gigu you chair lead, you know, and vice versa. But suddenly, kangu kame go through mahali manze. Maybe at any kwa na kushikam kona when they see water, but where piasa, niki kushikam kona niku inuawe unanini ni. So how do you deal with that? Okay, actually from experience, I've had a friend she's from Tanzania. So I knew her through another friend, a friend of mine in Kenya. So we became friends, like the three of us. Lafu vitu tunafanya zina. Ziko grounded as in Pomodzenik where environmental ambassadors were always plotting trees together like I do videography. She sings so tunafanya. Wow. So now, I decided also to help her shoot videos which she has not done before. So I decided also to help her shoot videos which she has not done before. But then, she goes to this other friend of ours tells her bad things about me and then comes to me, tells me very bad things about her. But then, this friend of mine doesn't know that nimi ambuizi vitu na Sripiaia miyandiyo. So like kia na kagi jizambona ui unanimbevi tunbaya kuliko praise mbona na mina juliza kumeksiju. But then there's something that she said that had us confront each other and she said to me, nimi nambia kumesema, nambia kumesema. So when we confronted her, she was like, I'm the victim. We know you. We know your handwriting. I said, oh, I blame her. I don't care what she says. She clearly told me that na najuwa na najuwa ni nambia. But then she's there all over. She's the victim. Social media posting everywhere. So she just cut them off completely. How would you handle that? Agree with her. Just cut them off. They know how to cry. I don't see why I really want to go anywhere with somebody. Because at the end of the day if my friend and I did not like atukua wajansi, we were like kningishi kumbebaiva kumasa do something to her because atukua wajansi na najuwa na najuwa na najuwa na najuwa na najuwa na najuwa na najuwa na najuwa na najuwa na najuwa na najuwa So I don't see why I blame somebody like this. I don't get the point of that. I don't get the point of that. If you don't want to be my friend and her friend at the same time, just let us know. You can be the victim of me. It's okay. It's okay. And what runs through your mind when you do such things? I don't see why I blame somebody. But I think it's really okay to be jealous. It's okay to be jealous but also try to come out of it because if your friend is benefitting and has an opportunity, maybe he's going to open doors for you. Maybe God will give you two ways of talking and enjoying him. So it's very okay to be jealous but it's also good to pretend sometimes. Sometimes when you pretend, it's beneficial. Pretending how? Ya, you see, if I always pretend misi na kazi, misi na nini, na teseka, someone is able to see that baby like cry from my side, na kani sa idea. But if I'm always like kutusa, what I'm doing kutusa, you see, someone who is able to help, I talk to an idiot, you want to say, kutusa ka pia, kutusa ka benafiqil. Other for the ladies, kia za kupretendivo, kujieka high class. Ako leti kua attract watu high class. Na kula wanana, na kumina, na kwangatua me potia. Potia wata kuchukuatuivo kwa hende le kuku pandish. Kuna wale bright minds kama sisaka. Ta kukanyagi atu kia kote, urudi sa sa ching. Ki what? I don't know if I agree with those sentiments. And this is a truth to na tumi angusha pavitu. Na wepe kia kundu jangusha. Kukaribu kwangusha story. So kuna umtu. Misha na atu, we're friends again. Mimi iniki pata rafiki to seme, sana sana was sana. I really like to share ideas. I'd really like to see ladies getting that money. Mina pwenda sana nikiyo na dey mame akondani agari kubakubazen. I want all of us to go there. Me hasot, me hasot, me hasot. Aki dop doguevi. Nika pata kitu maybe a little bit higher than her. Sasa this is where the amazement comes in. So to seme, maybe wame ni umgezea pesa yu placingi nesindo. Sasa ananzakuni tisha pesa because now you believe. So now unani pangia, ya angu. Nia tia tiwa ume ako because I know also you're her thing. So pesa zako mi zako. What is that? Saitan. No sense. Hashtag when the morning. How do you deal with that? Atimi alini amaze. By the way, alini amaze. Nali jam hadia kanzaku wambia watu wene mi nm Stingi. Excuse me. Are you not? Na oni mtotani yambia ako na machali watu faniya vi. I'm good for you. I feel like my intestines are aski aka zona. I don't want to do that to myself. For men, how to trap their fellow men. If you're a search character, make sure to ume mwamba na taku zami how much you want to take. Na kumia ok na kupia alone. So siya taju aki kupia alone, it's going to be difficult for you to pay jumezoa nana yura fukien. So the next time unata kukuzea, unaji jaze tu e by the umse ni kwa mi mwamba alone. Na kumia ok na jaze ni pado. Anakutu ako hiwa story bi basala. Anakupia hiwa alone nana taku. Then it's going to be difficult for you to come for the second time. So you can always trap this guy by oh nata kwa mancha shika. Ata kumia kikuzea ma rapili so nami jibutu wujane wujane lipa. Actually me do that for the lady. Mi wuku sa idea pesa. Na jibutu, then a second time unakuzea. I'm very confident. Ile wunana what's up, nana krua pili na wujane lipa ido bad. I thought to agree kini lipa nana kwa ungeza. Ndotuna. Aki jibutu, akia I'm standing and I'm going to say ok you just work on paying my loan and then I'll sort you out. Na oni watu wana kukuzea. Sija punyima, we are very okay. Haatun doa ata kupigia 10 times kuitisha. Ata kani punch. Lakini kuru deisha. Umpigia 5 times. Panch doi taku fanyu pigia evi maramingi. Uwani nani sumbo. I thought you needed it urgently. Now that it's me asking for it. It's me asking for it. But disrespect is okay. I hear we have Facebook comments. Please keep them coming. We have Nikola Sabastan. Says good morning Vihiga finance boy all the way from U.S. of Shiro. Mosina Tazama. Kaldinam Super says the way they react when you tell them like for instance ok and bear your good news. Mtu nona that good news is not so good to them. Eliza Steve says I will never introduce my mind to so called friends. Good morning from 18. Wanansi says watching from Tekaisi. Wanansi holy kapa lot watching from Kapsapet. Again Wanansi says always watching and good morning. So apart to mejuan. When you to nambia good news na wanakayo good news nikahimia omiza roho kidogo. Maybe I want to ask and this slide li kwa kuku conclude because I said to kianza kuwana vitu zawingine piatwana zato sindio. So that means at one point mimi personali mimi kama falantai na jo nisha ipretend. Maybe it was to make myself feel better in a place maybe nikwana feel I am not enough of whatever reason I was pretending. So how do we stay real? I think for me the people you associate yourself with if you guys are associated now a lot wana juwan. So just associating your kakuni na juwana na muntu and trying to improve others keeping the smile, being happy all the time it helps you to not to pretend kaw ko broke mimi ko broke. kaw ko na pesa mimi ko na pesa to learn to jibab kai kukidogo na kukidogo na kibuku isha kisha na kujia. So being real at the same time saying the truth all the time wana juwana uta pretend. But I also wanted to ask a question do parents pretend? How? What do you mean? In what context? Financially do they pretend? I don't think it's really pretending maybe because we said pretends is trying to make something appear real that is not. But I would assume me niki lelewa the times that we didn't have so much kaw ko na kalisha nga wana pesa mimi isha relax. Tu na tiza tu kasi si maratu na kulaugali na skuma like 5 times na wik na witi si nga maju na na tu the look on people's faces na na tiza tu chini but you my parents I knew had my best interest at heart. So at akaon na nifichia vitu sivi tu sta kujaku ni umi za mimi. What about kama mama ko na kumbe nivi le tu atasima na pesa jatagi kuna kama mimi kwa mama hali it is a myth african parents always have money sana fathers. How would you think parents pretend? At times. Ki aje. In very many ways. Okay. Perhaps. Sorry. Let us just conclude. How do we stay real? By loving yourself. Not trying to meet to other people's expectations because if you have your own standards and just be in your kabox it's okay to be you and you don't have to like do what other people expect of you. Kuna siku tu likot nongelia stori flani apa I can't know what county she came from and it's not important. Ali toka county flani mashambani a kakuja nae robi. I don't know what kind of peer pressure hit her. Akainda kwa duka akaibawig akaengizua kojinia kengizua jela. And then okay it has a happy ending because it turns out what to continue from home and then you come here it's like you're not a lady if you don't have a wig. So choose your friends carefully. Nasi wakwe katu post I'll be with you shortly. How do we stay real? I think we stay real by being honest accepting who we are and being okay with who we are and also seeing the kind of people you associate with because you are not a peer pressure in different ways. So think you just need to watch the kind of people you associate with especially people that are around you most of the time. So maybe you'd have started out not a pretender but because of the friends you have suddenly started pretending. For example when you have people that are always going clubbing to high places you're their friend you need to be there maybe probably and you cannot really afford that. So maybe you really have to probably when you go there you have to pretend that you're not first sayo yaku la the whole week so you need to stay with your friends. Oh no we are jekers. Stop laughing at your friends. I see those things a lot of times. But also when it comes to standards as you want to maintain your own standards ladies are very good even men are good to pretend on the higher standards but also let us learn to pretend also on the lower sides. The lower group na coldness they adapt flexible. It's very difficult to give advice on things that are ongoing. We're always learning and I'm probably going to have a chance to pretend. But I like to believe balance niki to poor in life so there's contentment and ambition be content with what you have and who you are but be ambitious enough to want more and get it the right way. I'm not getting my friends. That's why 254 on Facebook and 254 on Twitter. Hashtag is what in the morning Love you very much and thank you for staying with us the entire morning. We have a repeat today from 2 to 4 and weekend I can see you from a distance. I can't wait to meet you once again. Have a wonderful day and the rest of your week. Bye.