 How and when can I communicate to a guy that I can't and don't want to have more children? This is something that I'm scared of telling, that I will scare him away. I have a daughter already, she's 12. Are you with somebody already? Because if you're, you know, if you're dating somebody and you're seeing somebody and it's some, because one of those, it's what you're talking about right now is a deal breaker. It's a deal breaker for a guy, right? And so it's not one of those things where you want him to like really get to know you and like you a whole lot and then, you know, try to convince him that he doesn't need children or he shouldn't have children. A lot of guys, if they want children, if they're like, hey, I want children and they talk to you and you're like, I'm, I don't want to have any children, then that is a total deal breaker for most people, right? And he needs to know pretty early on that that's one of your deal breakers. Otherwise you're gonna get yourself into a situation where he's gonna be like, well, I think she's really awesome but I also want to have kids and it's just gonna turn into a situation where you're gonna both have more heartbreak the more that you string it out and don't tell him about it. And so you want to communicate that earlier on because if it's something that's a deal breaker for him then he has to know. He has to know.