 Hello and welcome back to another haughty time live stream. How are you all doing today? And it's been um I'm happy to report. It's been a somewhat Good week for me somewhat low mental health week somewhat executive functioning being manageable week had a good week so far and Been doing a lot of stuff getting everything ready for the next month if you didn't know I do like a Sort of a week every every month to like batch all of the content that I'm gonna put out on social media and stuff so I've been doing that this week and it's been a lot to do got a haircut and sorted everything out so Things are going well things are going good How are you guys all doing today? Hello, books, right drawer nice to see you again really enjoyed your questions last week Looking forward to some more Hello, I'm a Suzanne. Welcome to the stream To do so if you have not been to one of these streams before This is basically an opportunity to ask any questions that you have about my content about autism about mental health about self-improvement fitness whatever you want to Want to ask me about this is the chance to do it the time to do it So I'm not always and I know the most responsive when it comes to messages and DMs and things of that nature, so That's why we do these Hello, Angela. Lovely to see you. I am actually doing great today. Actually Ray That was rude Yeah, sadly, I am somewhat on a Semi main road my house. So sometimes I do get some people zooming past on the motorbikes. Oh Is my mental health my mental health's been pretty good this week actually which is You know, I'm like I'm gonna tell you straight if I'm not I'm not having a good week And then I'm having a good week, but this week has been has been good It seems like I'm pretty on top of things. I've been going to the gyms many times of as I planned on doing the work that I plan on doing I'm just kind of chilling. So it's been great I hope you guys are all prepared for the festive season Don't know if you ever everybody celebrates it, but if you do I hope you've got all your presents For other people sorted out and ready Would you say that autistic people have ups and downs depending on the weather and season? I think Everybody tends to have somewhat of like an impact based on the weather It's very strange for me because I do I do show signs of somewhat having like You know, like seasonal affective disorder But then again, it's it's sort of separated by my like natural ebbs and flows of mental health So I'm not too sure if it's if it's accurate for me one thing that I have thought about Because if you you as an autistic person have like seasonal affective disorder and you really struggle with like the winter months and the lowered light and I did get a Like a sad a sad lump as a present And those things are super super super bright I could not use it because it was just too much of like a sensory input for me. It just ramps up my anxiety too much So I don't I don't I don't really know like It'd be interesting to hear if you you guys have any experiences with Like sad lumps and stuff like that because I don't know it just doesn't really Doesn't really seem like an option for me Hello, Mr. Austin lovely to see you dude. How's things going? How's the gym? Went Christmas shopping today nice very good How was it? I imagine quite busy. Yeah, it's like man. It's like three days to Christmas craziness madness It's creeping up on us Bells it says how do you go to the gym when you are mentally and emotionally exhausted from being exposed to a lot of people and sensory things Good question. Um, I Think it really it really depends on the day Like I very much have the mentality of trying to look like overall reduce the amount of sensory Experiences like negative sensory experiences or input that I experienced during the day Through things like noise cancelling earbuds Taking breaks, you know some glasses if that's something that you you enjoy Having the oral motor stimulation doing one of those things generally Just on a daily basis helps helps me quite a bit and then I try and somewhat manage like How I'm fit like if I'm if I'm not feeling very good and I'm still planning on go to the gym I don't I don't not go Sometimes that there are particularly instances where I've had like multiple meltdowns or like panic attacks and like high enough anxiety that impacts my overall functioning where I haven't gone to the gym but those are very rare and If I do plan and go to the gym when I'm not feeling great feel a bit overstimulated I'll try and fuck, you know go go at a time where it's a bit quieter, you know So that I don't necessarily have to rush myself That there's less people there's less noises and such to try and deal with And also like just having a rule just in general that if Things are not going well and you're struggling to not just just Push push through it and like give yourself a meltdown or a panic attack But take a break like go to the toilet playing a plan your phone listen some music Do whatever you need to do to chill out and maybe try again And if it doesn't work then then go home and try another day and there's no shame in doing that of sort of Resetting I think a lot of people including myself can give you give you give them give yourself like a hard time for not doing exactly what you said you do and You can kind of carry that over to the next day So it's it's kind of like for me if I'm if I'm having one of those days. It's like damage control Okay, I Admit life life has gone on top of me today. I can't do stuff Things are not going great My priority is to make sure that the next day is a little bit better. So Reset give you don't give yourself a hard time about it try again tomorrow And just say oh life screwed me over today. It's okay. I can try again tomorrow It's having that mentality and it's there is a fine balance between like pushing through things and being stoic and being You know strong-minded and I think that's a great thing But I point you do have to kind of think rationally. I'm like is this this worth it or could my and energy But my energy my mental stress my emotions be Put towards them something else, you know So it's a bit. It's very much like an overall strategy combined with you know, as and when Adjustments which can be hard granted because you are basically changing your routine So just try not to add to that by giving yourself a hard time. I would say I get sad when my girlfriend asks Junior, why do why are you talking about this? Like you've mentioned this quite a few times in the last stream, so I Like to do leg day in a bit. Oh my god. Good luck. I Used to have the loomy lumps. They're very bright and you have to sit close to them to get the mood lifting benefits Yeah, that's the issue that I have with the The the sad lumps, you know Glad that it's over. It's always crazy and people like it's my it's my personal Yeah, there's the period can be stressful for for some I know what would you recommend when you're feeling down? What do you recommend doing? There's the difficult one because there's difference between like feeling sad and just feeling generally sort of deflated and down and feeling anxious and you know having a depressive dip or like a Recurrence of like depression So I can't really give like general advice for that and I'd say that for most of it is You know, there's so many factors that go involved in Go into that but I would suggest if it's an abnormal level of feeling down then just try to do the tried and true methods of just trying to alleviate some of the pressure on yourself for the day try and do something that's relaxing some self-care and Reset and try again tomorrow and see how you feel But if it goes above above that and it's kind of into the late depression territory of things Definitely like ask a doctor ask a psychologist I'm not a doctor, but For me, it generally tends to be that I kind of sit between like mild and moderate most most days of my life But if I do have a severe dip, it's basically nothing really that I can do other than self-care and alleviate in pressure How do you manage everything about feeling overwhelmed? I Don't know. I mean, I don't really manage. I'm not like I think I think sometimes when you like see other people doing things and because I've had a few conversations like other like creators and autism Influences, whatever you want to call them and they they similarly have this experience where people think that they're like on top of everything And I like the woman stuff out and nothing gets on top of them and they're just not overwhelmed and they're just kind of Smoothly moving through things, but it's not the case, you know, like we're all humans Unless you have an ungodly level of emotional stability with things are gonna be Difficult depending on like what goals you set yourself. Well, dream you I I I mean, I don't really know what to say I don't really know what to say I mean, usually when you are in a romantic relationship with somebody they want to spend time with you That's just kind of a given usually Unique says I actually got to catch this live being binge watching your content. Oh, that's so nice I like to I like to do stuff like that because it's like, you know, obviously I have my own sort of YouTubers and creators that I look at and and watching like binge and so it's very It's very lovely to I guess. I hope it's not to like a detrimental extent. I hope it's been helpful Ready for the holidays is a socialized socialized with free new people and The next day my mom called me and we fought for a quick 45 seconds. Oh my god, I Hope you're okay How would you fix your routine if there were days you missed in your routine? That's a good point it does happen to me quite a lot actually I mean, I don't want to like rehash what I've said but Usually I'll just I'll try and get as much as I can do that I set myself to do and I'm notness and then like Wait until like the next cycle of my routine and try to sort of do that and Usually I'll try to do stuff for the next week that I didn't get to do Usually try to do stuff like ahead of time to like make it a little bit easier for myself and just kind of maybe Reset reset the week that I'm doing at the moment if that makes sense Hello, Icra. How am I? I am pretty good actually pretty pretty cool Brett had it. I had an all-right week actually which is this Very different to me different for me doesn't happen often Thank you, Angela for joining the Auti Legion. You're much appreciated. It's always lovely to have you in the lives I really appreciate the support Would you say having autism makes it hard if the jobs because Because it's for neurodivergence to to set up neurodivergence Hmm. I Think I know what you mean. Yeah, I think in general jobs can be harder I mean you only have to look at that you like employment statistics to Realize that things are just like jobs are just not really like most jobs are not accessible to us or it's At least not adjusted for in a way that we can sort of sustain it long-term. I Have heard a lot of people having success with part-time jobs But that's more of like a consequence of Having difficulties sort of with the full-time experience You know, I did do a podcast with Think Nathan Hall or we're talking about like self-employment and it does seem that that could be a good out But also a bit unreasonable to expect every single autistic person to set up their own business Do the things that you know? I say in my experience some of the best places to work up Tending to be places where Autism is somewhat included in what they do or social inclusion or disabilities or somewhat included what they do things like charities can be Usually quite a good shout. I mean, it's not going to be absolutely perfect And it's obviously dependent on your boss and the culture around it and the expectations and such but They generally do have a bit little bit better of a Sort of a mindset towards employing people who are different which can be it can be really good I'm currently waiting on the orders and assessment in March being diagnosed with ADHD, but it's killing me Wondering if I am or not related a lot, but still like what if I'm not well? Yeah, I understand that I mean, I haven't even there is a possibility that I made a SD as well but I mean, there's there's a stronger possibility than not Just going going off like the stats and sort of the co-occurring things and stuff, but I Mean if the thing is even if you don't necessarily get the diagnosis And this is assuming that you get someone who is like Confident and good and doesn't kind of push you to the side because of small minor things But Even if you do even if you don't even if you find out that you're not autistic That doesn't mean that you can't benefit from being a part of the community like I Don't I don't know I don't know many people many of many autistic creators In general who will like push you away just because you're not autistic If you find that the advice that autistic people give for managing different parts of their life helpful And you enjoy being a part of the community. I don't see there's anything anything wrong with that, you know It can be helpful when it comes to like disability support workplaces reason adjustments and such But it's not the end all be all you know of things Although it can I can imagine, you know, definitely like Impacts stuff related to life and self-identity and stuff. So I Wish you luck with that I do create a writing and it's hard when your other special interest is tempting you to research about that subject instead Yeah, I relate to that What changes do you think would help ASD stick to job reason adjustments? Around communication and sensory Sensory things particularly It's like very minor things I would I would say that that most organizations could do that they don't do Which are not necessarily part of the reason adjustments model, but they definitely help like bullet pointing what you want them to do in an email You know instead of giving like a long email or having like a long chat about it Just making sure to bullet point exactly what you want them to do Helping with communications is also a really good thing to try and Of course, if possible sort out the sensory accommodations Perhaps give them a bit of a handle hand on You know Specifics of getting to the workplace and getting back and things of that nature Yeah, now having having an advocate within the workplace as well like having someone that you can go to who can sort of Advocate for you if you don't feel like you have the capacity to do so I Said that those are all really good things that you can the workplace just should implement Very very basic things. I don't think require a lot of like In-depth like training like how to support is it people in the workplace is very very Small things that make a big impact. I would say And you say that a medical field is worse for people with ADHD to work in because it's fast-paced Possibly, yeah That's I'd say so. I mean the thing is I know a lot of Particularly autistic people who work in like emergency fields and that that is somewhat a fast-paced But I think due to I mean, it's something that I Learned a little bit more about in terms of alexa fire me from I'm having my interview of autism from the inside Paul McCallough and he was saying that You know Autistic people can be good in emergency situations because because of that alexa fire me up, you know It's um, it's pretty pretty cool thing and it's something that I have seen I think As these people do better with self-employed Yeah Love to be here. Love the content. Keep up the great work. Thank you so much, Angela Yona says hi glad to catch your live chat. I'm a vet and I'm suffering from major depressive disorder It's horrible thing to go through at the same time being auditory and OCD watch your life advice Well, thank you very much for being being a member. You know, it's nice to nice to see you in the chat Do you mean like just general life advice or do you mean? sort of advice about like You know keep keeping on going Let me know Oh, the advice is helpful even bought some debuts. Thanks to you being really helpful. I'm so glad I'm really good. Thank you for the supporting as well. That's it really doesn't mean a lot to me Trying to make it on the online world Autistic people like Pepsi better than Coke I mean, maybe we could do a poll on that Hi for ghee nice to see you keeping going The thing is with Depressive disorders is that it's like The but by the nature of it and it's not necessarily always caused by your environment, you know For a lot of people they might describe themselves as having like situational depression whereby life gets overwhelming they have a burnout or They have specific life events which have you know really impact to them When you have like major depressive disorder and you have it for like a long long period of time It's kind of just like I mean obviously like the black dog analogy is it's a pretty a pretty good one For like explaining what it's like And I'd say that for me that the best the best results that I've had in order to like Sort of manage my own mental health over the long term is focusing a little bit less on Like my own happiness it sounds a bit weird but like Do it doing things not necessarily with the The I mean obviously there's little things like you know self-care and doing things that you enjoy are great But you know overall I think having some compelling meaning Is really really important to sort of keep on going whether you are feeling good or Feeling bad you still have like a purpose in inside you that kind of drives you when you're doing good it's kind of like You know you don't really need that I guess of internal mental support, but When things are bad, and it's it's pretty much impossible to feel good having something that Gives you a meaning into all of the difficulties that you're going through is definitely like Very very important So for example You know if I was going through Particularly a depressive period I would be trying my best to not feel depressed trying lots of things to feel better And that's just not something that that works for me like long term It kind of just adds and flows as it wishes sometimes But for me, you know like knowing that I've got like a job to do that I can try and help people in in some way Even even throughout not feeling great about it that has a really sort of positive impact on like Encouraging me to kind of keep on going You know, I know it's there. There's not really like it's it's a difficult one, isn't it because it's not like If you have like that disorder, it's pretty It's pretty difficult to To feel good and that's that's what everybody wants they want to feel like you know things are Great and you're happy and you you sort of content and search but When you do go through that it is quite difficult to To Feel like that. I hope that's somewhat helpful This was been what's been helpful for me and usually like trying to focus on other people and Focus on other things other than myself and how I feel It's kind of how it's like a knock-on effect to making me feel bad It's from my experience Do you draw all right? I do right. I don't draw though. I'm awful with my friend motor skills Would you recommend stating your autistic on a resume? That's a difficult one. I don't know if I can like Say one way or the other I'd say if you wanted to it might might be a bit more Applicable to you getting those room reasonable adjustments, but also People can be a little bit stigmatizing discriminatory. So I'd do that at your own discretion. I would say Being stressed and I stupidly went into Tesco's my brain hurts now. Oh my god If you're okay, definitely Pepsi. Yeah, I'm a Pepsi person. What is it people have? to fuck if you Experience stress sensitivity and emotional dysregulation. How do you manage that because it's tough for me to control my stress levels? I'd ask you do you know when you're getting stressed or do you do you only really are you only really aware of it? Once it gets to a point where it's unmanageable And because that that because if it is if it is that that case But that was the the main issue for me when it came to meltdowns and stress and panic attacks and such It was not necessarily that I didn't have the tools to do it I just only really picked up on the fact that I was getting anxious. I like that the top end of You know crossing out meltdown panic attack line Once once once I did a bit more sort of reading into like it likes a fire mirror and found found ways to kind of Get round it understands My emotions through like bodily cues and thoughts and like behaviors and such It was a little bit easier to pick up on the fact that I needed to like rest and chill Once I did that it's just about Sort of embedding it into my brain that that's that's something that I should do and I should stop focusing on like something that's going wrong or trying to do you know finish something that's not going right or you know, just taking a bit of a step back and Okay, reset and reassess. I suppose I feel like I'm giving a lot of different forms of reset and re-approach kind of mindset, but Yeah, I Understand that it's it's it's definitely and to be honest like it's not always that I catch it and I've been pretty good with it the past Past few months. I haven't really had that incident of having like an anxiety or panic attack for quite a while But that's because I've been doing those things quite well. I would say I mean obviously you can manage your stress levels through lots of different ways that you know people on the internet have detailed extensively and you know I'd just be rehashing things that everybody knows Awesome what bro. Thank you very much, Sam Beholder says hey that tomorrow is my birthday. Nice to see you. Well, happy birthday for tomorrow Maybe I have a good day You're going to be doing something social or you're going to like Chill and like do you special interest stuff? I'm always talking myself out of self harmful things Thank you so much for your advice Yeah, I mean, it's it's it's hard isn't it and it's it's it's not necessarily like always like an outward directed thing It's not like Life sucks kind of mentality. A lot of the time it's life sucks and also I suck Yeah, I'm bad and all everything that I do is bad and the people that I'm talking to you know Burdened by me being part of their life and and such and I Think I think to a certain extent people can find it hard to support another person who's depressed but like It's never as intense as what it feels like when you're in it I'm thinking of like maybe setting up like a little notes page on my phone to like talk to myself when I'm Talk to myself when I'm in like a depressed state To my non-depressed person and then my non-depressed person to my depressed person Depending on like what mood I'm in and such and seeing like what the difference is in and the way that I think and talk I always find that quite illuminating you know Because it sometimes feel it feels like a different dimension, you know, it was like you're a different person. It's very strange you know, they're the deviations and How you work and think and perceive Sort of in different states. I think being aware of that also is quite helpful you know It's being aware of like the little things that tip you off that maybe this is not An unbiased sort of perception of what's going on Doesn't stop it from like affecting you emotionally, but it definitely like tempers your mind a little bit my experience Josephine asks my parents have a lot of trouble understanding my sensory needs and struggles. Is there any way that you? Recommend explaining the overwhelming effects they have on me Yeah, there is a really good analogy that I think someone at the workplace that I'm an associate to I came up with it's it's called the roundabout like roundabout analogy like For most It's hard to explain necessarily about like a the the diagram that they drew, but I'll try Basically like a like a roundabout and this roundabout is your brain's processing and Things that things that go into it are like the flows of traffic For neurotypical individuals people who aren't autistic who don't have like sensory needs Those what those roads are really wide and so they can allow a lot of traffic to go through and if it's like a rush hour It can handle it a lot better than we could Whereas for us depending on what our sensory profile is These roads these inputs can be either really really wide Or really small like country lanes they get jammed up really really easily And once once your roundabout is jammed up It makes it difficult for any of our like processes to go on because everything's stuck everything's like At a standstill and like maybe you could imagine like the panic attack and the meltdown as being somewhat Like you know, there's like an accident happened You know and and your brain is trying to Cooper it and you've got like the AA van coming in to sort yourself out The AA van being like the shut down trying to get you to sort of just associate and perhaps sort of temper the the input that you're getting I think that that could be a good explanation I think if you can if you if you if you're struggling to like try and get across what it is like I Mean that there's there's more simple ones like you know, just imagine like the volume on everything has Increased but like amplified in your brain or the the lights amplified and the brighter to you Sort of helping them to sort of put themselves in in your shoes a little bit Could be it could be somewhat helpful or you could just send a video You know send a video from someone who you think explains it quite well Doesn't necessarily have to be me Something it's something that you feel explains it well. I think that could help It is difficult because it's hard for people to sort of empathize with an experience if they don't want is like You know Feggies is happy birthday. I Have a friend with awesome really care for him But one thing that gives me a lot of anxieties is inconsistent texting. He doesn't really initiate it But when I text he responds fast. I try to understand sometimes he doesn't text for two weeks It's the reason girls can't handle him. They feel rejected and he thinks nobody likes him. So it's so sad. I Mean, I imagine I'm kind of imagining situations in my life where I've perhaps been a little bit like that It's it's kind of it's kind of what I described as like watering the plant And all the stick individuals tend to be a lot better at that And watering the plant basically being like Making small amounts of effort when it comes to communication in order to make that person feel somewhat like socially validated and wanted or Light and it's not something that I'm great at and the the reasons for why is a lot to do with My focus my routine, you know, quite often I do have a lot of things on my mind and trying to sit through Sometimes related to executive functioning, you know, I look at my day and There's lots of little things that I have to do and it stresses me out And then I add in like a couple of more little things to do which is you know contact this person at this time and It becomes a bit overwhelming. I Mean one thing I would suggest to any autistic people who are struggling with this is either to Self-advocate a little bit more or ask the person what they want what they want and you can somewhat set like some reminders Now in your calendar in your routine to remind you to sort of make that consistent kind of communication Yeah, I think it's a lot. It's and it's a lot to do with like social batteries like we just tend to not need or want as much Sort of transient sort of interaction with people We like to have designated times to like see people and meet people and socialize and then when that's over, you know That's kind of done dusted and Some of some of my best friends in my in my life like they understand that and It's it's it's quite easy because we just you know, it's kind of like one of the situations where we don't even we hardly ever talk But then when we see each other, it's like, you know, nothing's changed really. It's kind of nice Say that my mom influences me a lot. Yeah, I Have an ADHD diagnosis and a strong suspicion of autism want to get tested at some point Completely understand where your friend is coming from. I like to use a spoon and that spoon analogy is also a really good way of explaining it I would say Yeah Thanks so much. Don't worry Mia Would you say that having like that dissociation feeling in reaction to overwhelming sensory input is a shutdown I don't think I've ever had an external meltdown, but I've plenty of that association Yeah, it's um I mean a lot of people kind of compare it a little bit to like an internal meltdown, but I do believe it's somewhat like a Um a coping sort of stress response that we have Um to stop us from going into meltdowns So that that sense of dissociation where everything kind of comes a bit echoey and you sort of Focused on like one spot and you you don't talk as much and Um You know you you're a lot slower I you know for me that tends to happen when I'm overwhelmed and it kind of prevents me from having meltdowns Um, the only time that it doesn't is if people like press me and try to take me out of it And don't give me time to kind of sit to the side and regulate and do what I need to do to feel better Um, most of the time it does sort of end up in that shutdown experience, but Um, I have an instance is like like what I just described um, and they have like Caused me to have like meltdowns and stuff I also feel stress when there's too much around me like sounds or just info. Mm-hmm Do you leave the family christmas party to breathe? We have so many guests over help Yeah um Do it. I mean if your family's Understanding and they know that you're autistic then you can sort of self advocate and say that I need a bit of breathing space To regulate and I'll be back in like a certain amount of time If not, just go to the toilet But your head burns in just say that you just need to go to the toilet people don't really ask much about that And if they do it would be a bit weird By the way, the tank top looks fantastic Fantastic on you. Oh, thank you very much It's um It's from uh, I although I don't really like the aesthetic of gymshark. It is from it is from gymshark this one Um, I wish they did it a little bit wider though because it is my size, but it's You know As with any clothing that I get it just tends to look a bit small for me a bit annoying Cats hats crochet says hi everyone thomas that was a very helpful explanation to be shut down That's exactly what I experience. Well, I'm really glad it's um I mean, it's not it's not comfortable But it's a reaction to uncomfortable being uncomfortable rather um frustrating when my mom Can't see what is happening, but still in complete denial of vatism Yeah I'm sorry to hear that What tips do you recommend to make it easier to self advocate? Um, that's a difficult one. I think it really depends on the person Um, just having having social scripts in minds can be can be helpful You know having things things to point to ways of explaining things that people understand better Can also be quite helpful Lol the bathrooms Might go to place shut down or melt down even at home. I have kids and the bathroom is the only place I can lock the door and be alone Build yourself a shark cage for coming when you go out in public I mean, I'm not I don't think I could carry around a shark cage I got a pretty good overhead press, but I don't think that I don't think I'd be able to overpress that When there are big gatherings, I tend to make sure I have my room to retreat To just stare at my lava lamp. Oh, I love lava lumps. They're so cool They're so cool Mm-hmm. What have you guys been up to? Have you guys got any specific plans for Christmas? um I mean for me for me and my my family is probably just going to be like a Same thing that we do every year So of presents and food at like my mom's and then have a little bit of a party at my dad's house It should be cool. Hello gene. Welcome to the life The live stream You just remind me of how amazing it feels to leave a party after I get overwhelmed Even if I'm having a good time and with people I like I love the peace and quiet of leaving Yeah I mean I the the thing is I don't actually like to leave social events. I really enjoy them but Um, sometimes I do need to regulate So I will go off for like half an hour to an hour just uh put my earphones and Play some marinescape on my phone just like Chill out a little bit eating too much sleep Sounds like a good Christmas to me If you have executive dysfunctions and trouble to organize your words, I'd recommend drawing to explain your thoughts It's a good idea. It's a good idea Alternative ways of communicating my boyfriend spending Christmas with me and the kids very nice Hey, Thomas. Hello, ha What what language is that? Also, I just found your channel that we spent two or three hours ago. Let's really like two or three hours ago I can completely say that I will be pinching your podcasts Um Much appreciated. Just be aware. They are quite long. I do have some short eclips on my youtube channel if you want to have a look at them, but um Yeah, they're they're they're good. They're good long episodes. They're pretty fun though I've got some some interesting guests from different areas of the world different Sides of different bubbles within the autism world too I'm going to work at Christmas Um, so I'll be taking care of the elderly The sweetest things cookies and coming. Yeah, that's really cool I'd I'd love to like if I had like That time I'd love to I'd love to like do some some caring or like Teaching work on the side because I do I do somewhat miss like interactions with With others I really do like those kind of caring roles. It's just that I can't necessarily manage it as like a full-time job so it's um Yeah, whenever whenever I used to leave like Schools that I worked at for a while. I would always feel like really down and be like, oh my god Just like you build these relationships with people or the kids and it's it's it's difficult It's difficult when you've got to let go of it, you know Hi from the golden coast, australia Thanks for sharing mary x mess. Thank you very much is Hello, how is hawaii for hello? I know Hello Um, has it has saying says hi from pakistan. Nice to see you hussain Is it hussain or hussain? Please correct me Thomas don't forget to stay hydrated like your trim now. Thank you very much Yeah, I I've not been the best with hydration today. Um, I did have a You know a bottle filled but I've drunk it so I need to go get a refill after the stream Um, but we don't have a hydration reminder person today. Where is he? Where is he Slacking uh tips for keeping our house clean and organized while in burnout and struggling with executive dysfunction Uh, my god, that's a difficult one. Um Hmm I mean obviously like the the best thing would be to get support for it That's the ideal um, either from family members friends um, support organizations the government Things like that can obviously help um, but personal things that you can do yourself Try and minimize try and reduce the the amount of small things that aren't necessarily that important And focus on like one thing at a time one thing a day Like try to fit it in somewhere within a routine that you already have set up so Like um, for example No, maybe you need to clean your shower Um, we'll get some get some cleaning supplies and stuff and put put them next to you Have your shower at the end of your shower cleaner that kind of thing Uh, that that seems to be the best way that I can Manage things myself just by like stacking things onto a routine. That's already sort of a part of my day Uh, but it is difficult, you know, I'm not saying that's going to be like the the magical formula. Um But that that has been helpful for me somewhat I love the longer episodes because you get because I get to see all the small interactions between house and guests In other words, I'm already done with something funny and informative Well, it's definitely it's definitely a good old, um Good old long episode Lots of smaller interactions. That's too sure I just can't help myself This is like my brain's just designed to to go on for at least an hour and a half um, any any Episodes smaller than that. I just feel completely dysregulated. Oh my god. I've got so much that I needed to say in that I just can't or like um Yeah, it usually takes me a good like half an hour just to get into like the flow of the conversation But once I hit that like 30 minute mark after that It's kind of like my words just flow together and I don't really have to think much Drink water I know I need to drink. It's a hydration for a month reminded for everyone here um Stay hydrated Not like me who's not gonna drink next to another man I've been pretty good with it, but I need to fill out my big jug I'm bad at cleaning up keeping the house clean Tends very quickly to chaos If you could wish for a present on Christmas, what would it be? Oh I mean anything I probably want to like a mic upgrade or like a better camera I think that's what I would go for. I don't really need many things I'm pretty solid with like all the leisure things that I have and items I don't really need much else but Having something that can like improve the content that I make that would obviously like be really cool but That's what I would ask for Santa I've been drinking those meal shakes. I've been forgetting to eat and drink the past few days. I've been playing too many games. I think It's difficult when you're so hyper focused. You're like, I can't leave it alone 100% yeah I relates I relates Thank you miss darsden for the super chat hydrates. Okay, mister. I will I will go get some water Although how long have we been on live for We've got we've got about eight minutes left. I do I'll I'll I'll definitely have a drink after I will post a picture of me with my with my big jug on the on the story Well, thanks. Thank you, Austin What would make Christmas easier for someone of autism? All love and apologies the first step on someone's toes by asking. I don't worry about it Uh, it's no no wrong questions. Um Hmm I think um a plan of what to expect um You know being aware of The impact of social of too much socializing and having breaks between things not trying to pack it full with too much Um things of that nature. I think would be would be good, but it's again like Autistic people are so different from each other that one thing that helps one person is not going to help another person Something else might be a little bit more Apt for them, I would say I have everything labeled in organized storage now, which makes it much easier to tidy and quick Much quicker That is a good idea Do you like to watch christmas movies? Um I'd like I like to watch like One christmas movie I I enjoy the actual I enjoy actually like christmas for Pretty much everything about it apart from All the like the this the stuff around it Like the adverts the music the movies there Do you know I mean like I actually enjoy christmas I don't really enjoy Socializing and seeing my family and having an excuse to all like come together and have food together and stuff Um, but when it comes to like all of the marketing and stuff that's done around it, it just gets on my nerves If I'm honest It's cheered me up really starting to like these live streams. Oh, I'm so glad Hello Rita nice to see you too I was like a bit concerned when I started doing live stream that I would not like remember people But I definitely do like You know, I was I was like I watched other live streamers who could be like, hey This is here's one of our regulars We're like, how do you remember people like names? So I'm not very good at that. But um, I do I do remember you guys I stress about how to react to gifts. I hate it. Um, yeah Yeah, some people can can like A really like banking on the reaction that you're gonna have to to a gift And if you don't reach their expectations of You know, what is considered to be like, oh, that's a great gift and same. Thank you. Just Just smile at them and say, oh, thank you for the gift. It's really really cool. Thank you And go and go and give them a hug or something Or something like that Say thanks so much Just keep it short. Don't don't try and Don't try and like say, oh, this is gonna be good for this situation and that situation and this is this is grand I mean like what reaction are you supposed to get when someone buys you like a pair of socks? Great, this is gonna be so good for when I go outside And my I need something to put between my my feet and shoes Um and and look it's got this this little attachment like it's kind of overkill, you know It's got a bit it's got to be somewhat tempered by the the extremeness of the present I would say if someone's bought you like a Rolex or something like that You're obviously you need to like really really like react to it but um You know, I mean that's best Oh that's somewhat helpful How is the ASD community represented in the UK versus American culture? Have you noticed the difference? um I haven't really looked into that too much uh I can say that the representation Um across different like spheres of autism stuff Um is is quite different in terms of like language and mindset And things that they talk about and that would be Autistic adults parents uh researchers and organizations they all tend to have very different So, I mean organizations are somewhat like tying themselves a bit more to like other spheres, but Um, they can be quite quite different in the way that they sort of approach autism Between those groups True to autism not everyone has their own way to function I get it spam the email 12 times two thousand nine hundred percent Are you looking forward to this year's Christmas? Do you want to give your loved one a special present? That will light up their life This this one thing that they'll probably not use This bar of soap revolutionize your loved one's life and they will Stay forever grateful I have actually got I've got a really interesting post coming out um soon on autism and bias And within that I'm going to be talking about the strange phenomena Whereby autistic people seem to be very resistant to marketing and advertisement It should be pretty cool Valley red says hello americrismas How could you help change someone's dark mood? Struggles to see the join things I have I've talked about that a little bit earlier in the live stream if you want to Go and re-watch it um, I just don't want to repeat myself, but Um, I'm sorry. They're they're having a bad time And so when I explain what he's saying about me Is it am I difficult to understand? I didn't think so Same he says any sense for regulating yourself for grief and change as an autistic person I recently moved here separately from my partner and it's for a mean dysregulation for months months hmm I'd say I'd say the the golden thing is to try and set up a routine If you're feeling dysregulated and try and like add things slowly don't add everything at once um Humans are creatures of habit and as autistic people we do tend to Be a little bit more amenable to that Sort of habit mentality those routines I would say If you haven't already you should watch some of PsyPops videos about autism they're relatable and funny PsyPops Oh, yeah I think I've seen them on instagram awkward autistic animator Yeah, I should do should I I'm gonna give them a subscribe. That's a good there's a good suggestion Having a social media addiction Yeah, I think those those would be pretty cool to watch. Thank you for suggestion I find it hard to smile on demand. It feels like I get pressure on me Smiling has to be natural so bad presence no smile I mean you can do it that way and I completely understand them that mentality I think for the for both the sanity of yourself and for other people I would try and like You know white light smile you yourself throw it a little bit Just in my opinion Even if you don't particularly like it She says haha in marketing Um, do you are you marketing towards autistic people? Thank you routines are important for sure 100% What's your motive motivation to be active on social media? Um, I want to help people mostly um That's my that's my main goal, but You know, I'm wanting to spend more time In my main goal. So it is somewhat trying to like Grow my platforms to a point where I can sort of survive off just Doing that that makes sense Those are my goals Thomas, thanks for all the streams this year has taught me a lot Help me get close to my best friend my best friend My flatmate You're like a Christmas gift in person. Oh, thanks so much I'm really glad that they've been helpful to you. I hope you found them um Maybe found my strange personality somewhat amusing as well Well guys, it has been an absolute pleasure and um, I'm gonna go Get a drink as um As demanded by mr. Austin um and uh, yeah, I mean, I hope you guys have a good Christmas and uh Let us know how it goes One of the the next streams. I'll probably do the stream next week as well Why not just keep things keep things rolling. I don't don't necessarily like want to change my whole life Just for the Christmas period You know get rid of my routines and such but um Yeah, I hope you have a good weekend. Good Christmas and um I shall see you later. Yes. Merry Christmas to you all. Thank you much. Can An angela. Thank you and thank you Rita and h2 bros Mr. Austin's well And so it's creative It's been a pleasure See you guys later but later my god See you later everybody