 I need to tell you something about yourself because you may not have realised this up until this point but when I explain it to you in this message it's going to make perfect sense because you are knowingly intimidate a lot of people and you don't even see it you don't even realise it because you are not even thinking in that way and yet you wonder when you talk to people when you go out and you try to have relationships you try to make friends it's like all of a sudden they suddenly turn against you they no longer want to be your friends and they become your enemy or opponent because they feel threatened they feel intimidated by you they feel inferior they see you as being better as being greater than them and why am I having to get on here and explain this to so many of you it's because I already know you don't even think that way you are not seeing it as a competition if it is a competition of any sort it's just you competing with your past self who you were yesterday the week or month before that's how you are seeing it and you are always striving to be better because of course you are not just being lazy you are not just not doing anything with your life if that was the case they wouldn't feel threatened they wouldn't be intimidated you are the type of person who if something needs doing it's going to be done you are going to take care of it not only that but you are going to go above and beyond to make sure that it is resolved to make sure that it is done right and if it's not you are not going to feel good about it you are going to want to do it again you are going to want to make sure that this time you are giving out your best shot that's just the type of person that you are you want things to be right you want things to be correct you want things to be the way that they are supposed to be and you would think that other people would see that and they would be on your side they would be on the same team because you would think that they would be about that as well but actually it's just all about them it's all about their image how they look to other people because that then affects how they see themselves and yet when they get around you they feel inferior they feel intimidated they feel like you are better than them because you are so self focused you are so determined you are always on it you are always ready to do something big to do what's right you are ready for the chosen ones, the game paths you are so self focused you are so determined you are always working towards something to make stuff happen to make things right but unfortunately for you a lot of people in this world are very insecure they can't match your energy they can't be about what you are about because they just haven't got it they haven't got that energy that determination, that focus to do things big to do things right to do things with the interest and for the benefit of other people other than just for themselves all they are concerned about is their self image how they look to other people and yet at the same time they are very lazy and they are motivated they are not concerned about actually doing anything for real they may want to talk about it they may want to brag and boast about certain things but it's never actually anything that they have done it's more just their manipulation it's more just things that they are talking about but they never actually go out and do it well as for you it's like the luck of you and your life you have got everything taken care of everything is together, everything is organized and just to give an example when they look at you, your appearance you take good care of yourself your skin, your hair your nails, maybe you get a manicure and the way you dress you look put together you are presentable and then there is your confidence, your charisma you know how to talk you communicate yourself effectively and then there is things such as maybe your home, everything is organized there you make sure that it's clean you have got a clean space it's just everything you do it's almost like you are a perfectionist you pay attention to detail everything is just right everything is in good health everything is in good shape in your life and it's not because it just randomly fell into your lap one day but you work towards it to make sure that things were that way because you couldn't rest you couldn't feel comfortable unless things were like that so you wear now and you put in the time the work, the effort, the energy it's making sure that you got that result that you wanted where everything was together everything is organized everything is the way you wanted it to be and that's good, I mean that's what we are here for we are here to create a healthy functional environment and not just for ourselves it's so that when we can communicate effectively and we present ourselves well and you've got a clean space, a clean home that's so you can invite other people in but it should be other people who are on the same level you don't just go inviting anyone off the street into your home, that's clean it's organized, it's well taken care of you don't just invite anyone when it's someone who doesn't take care of themselves someone whose home isn't also clean and comfortable like yours is because otherwise what do you think they're going to do when they get around you of course they're going to cause problems they're going to cause commotion because they don't take care of themselves like that their homes aren't like that so when they get around you they're just going to cause problems when they get around you they're going to feel threatened they're going to feel intimidated they're going to feel inferior many of them will feel envious and jealous so what do you think they're going to do they're going to want to steal from you when you're not looking they might go into your bag your wallet, steal your money steal your possessions, your mobile phone or you invite them over your home they might start going through your stuff and this is just how it is because they may feel inferior, intimidated envious and jealous because with you you look great, you feel great you take good care of yourself you look after your home you take care of the people around you maybe your family members and friends maybe they're good to you so you're good to them and people see these things they see how you've got everything working for you you've got everything set up right for your success, for your future for your happiness they see that and then they compare it to their own lives because maybe they never managed to get things figured out they never managed to sort things out for them and yet here you come you're like this beacon of light you're looking happy, healthy, you're glowing because you're taking good care of yourself you're looking after yourself and there's nothing wrong with that that's what we're supposed to do we should be practicing self-care self-love we should be looking after our physical, mental and emotional well-being this is very important because if your physical, mental, emotional psychological health is in critical condition how are you meant to care for or take care of someone else how are you meant to have their interest in mind and that's why it's so important to start with ourselves just like when you're on a plane and if there's an emergency I mean, before the plane even takes off they tell you in an emergency you need to put your mask on first before you attend to someone else even if it's your own children you must make sure that you are taking care of first because if you can't take care of yourself how are you going to be in a possession to take care of anyone else you have to make sure your own cup is full because otherwise if your cup is empty you've got nothing to pour into anyone else so this is the mindset this is how we progress in life this is how we take care of not only ourselves but other people as well because you can't take care of anyone else if you can't even take care of yourself but this is the problem when you get around these types of people because they can't take care of themselves so when you get around them you can't even pour into your own cup it's not even about you, it's all about them it's all about what are you going to do for them at the expense of yourself and your own health so you get around them they use you up for all you've got all of your energy and resources they take up your time your money and by the time you've finished with them making sure they're happy they've got what they wanted then you just have to forget about everyone else then everyone else has to take a fall you can't take care of anyone because you've already dealt with them someone who couldn't even take care of themselves when here's the thing they even be getting around these types of people because if they can't take care of themselves how are they ever going to take care of you they're just going to weigh you down they're going to leave you in a possession where you're unable to care for yourself which means that you can't care for anyone else after being involved with them this is how damaging it can be but this is the thing when you get around certain types of people like this immediately when they see you it's like and they'll never tell you this they'll never show you this but in their minds they're literally looking at you like OMG like where have you been all of my life you're like a dream you've got all of this life, all of this energy you're like a walking energy bank a walking ATM they're just looking at it like you exist just to serve me that's why you're here that's why you're in this world is to give me everything that I need everything that I never had that's literally how it is that's how they're looking at you especially the ones who feel intimidated by you they're intimidated because they recognize your worth and they're seeing what you can give what you can bring to them and that's fine I don't preach against giving to people sharing improving other people's lives I don't preach about against that at all but the problem is the types of people that you're doing this for because if you're giving to someone who can't even sustain their own existence they can't even do anything for themselves and clearly that means it doesn't matter what or how much you give to them it's not going to make a difference it's not going to sustain them because they're not self-sustaining so no matter what you give to them it's just going to go into a void and then they'll be back the exact same condition the exact same state that they were before and then if they're not coming back to you they'll be leaching off someone else this is the thing and it's not always this way but I would say nine times out of ten you don't want to be around people who are intimidated by you and I know they can seem exciting sometimes if maybe they're shy and they're like in awe of the amazing wonderful person that you are but really you've got to think how they're looking at you they're looking at you like a meal ticket like this person that's going to change their lives they're not looking at it like yeah this person's on a certain level I'm on a certain level too or maybe I could be there at some point in the future just imagine what we could build together they're not looking at it like that they're looking at you as a crutch as someone who's going to carry them through a life because they can't even take care of themselves they're like big babies and they're looking at you like their caretaker or their parent being around someone like that is never going to be anything good for you all they're ever going to do is bring you down they're going to hold you back in life and become the best version of yourself because what you're dealing with it's like a toddler and an adult body you get around them and you've got to feed them burp them, change their nappies but it's a grown adult you shouldn't have to do that for them they should be able to take care of themselves and it's not always that they come into your life and you're in a relationship, a friendship or whatever it may be sometimes this could be someone that you see it could just be a narcissistic person at work or it could be at a restaurant maybe you work there, you're the waiter and it's just a narcissistic customer and the way that they are, they're so demanding so arrogant, so entitled and you're having to deal with that and it's draining you emotionally so they just come into your life nowhere and it's like they don't even know who you are you don't even know who they are and it's like already they're trying to establish this bond with you even though they can't connect it's like they're trying to attach themselves to you and you don't even know who this person is and they've got nothing to bring to you they're just leaching on to you because they know that you have what they want you can regulate their emotions you can make them feel better about themselves you can temporarily relieve them of their pain and distress and I know many of you have come across people like this in life in your everyday life as a chosen one as an empath because for whatever reason they feel drawn to you and really the reason is because they know that you can take care of their needs they're feeling a certain way in the moment and they look to you and they know yeah your cup is full you can sustain yourself you can regulate your emotions so they're looking at it like maybe you can take care of them maybe you can manage their emotional needs maybe you can help them to regulate their out of control emotions even though it's not really helping them it's more they just want to use you as an external regulator and these people are everywhere in the world today everywhere you go you may come across them all the time because they're really everywhere and they're just latching on to people sucking off them like an energy vampire that's draining you you get around them and it's like your energy meter is like a fuel on a car and it's just going down your energy is just going right down every minute that you spend around them you're being depleted because they have a void they're unable to sustain themselves so they've got to get around people like you and they have this predatory success they know immediately if they're around a person who's going to be able to take care of them emotionally and yet I know what some of you may be thinking you may be thinking what I've been through a narcissistic relationship I've had my energy depleted I've been invalidated, gaslighted I'm not feeling too good about myself right now I could do with some emotional validation I could do with some support but there's a big difference between someone like yourself and a narcissistic energy vampire there's a big difference between the two because you get around someone like let's say you book a quotient session with me which by the way if you want to do that you can just go to my website snarksviby.co.uk I am available for you whatever you need me but yeah just as an example if you're having a one-on-one with me you may be feeling down and validated gaslighted your energy has been depleted been invalidated but I know if I'm dealing with a relatively healthy person who's maybe just been involved with a narcissist in a relationship or family member I know that all I've got to do is just give you a little bit of my energy a bit of my time validate your experience listen to you give you that space to express yourself and then you're going to be able to reciprocate some energy back to me and you're going to be able to validate what I'm saying to you and we feed back off each other it's like a game of tennis we hit the ball back and forth but when you're with a narcissist you're hitting that ball and they just drop it and then it's like you've got to get another ball hit that one again, they drop that and you're just hitting balls all day none of them are going to hit back and you're just getting drained, getting tired while they're just standing there they're not even breaking a sweat so you're all going through it you're getting depleted you're feeling validated you're being gaslighted so there is a big difference between the two and this is how you know exactly what you're dealing with this is how you know when you're dealing with someone who has a voice because with someone like that there's never going to be that reciprocation they're never going to have the strength within to hit that ball back to you they're just not going to be able to do it and instead you're going to be exhausting yourself all day, every day, do everything you possibly can make them happy to make sure their needs are met but nothing's ever going to come back to you and in fact they're still not going to be satisfied you're still going to get all of the chaos, drama all of the fights and arguments because no matter what you do it's never going to be enough they're never going to feel fulfilled and they're just going to run you into the ground if you let them they will literally bury you they will drain the life out of you and once they know it's done you're gone, you're finished then they're going to walk out, they're going to leave and they'll just find someone else to do the same thing too, all over again all over again and then when you start to rebuild yourself you replenish your energy here they come, right back to do the exact same thing back to you again and you don't even realise it you don't even see it, you may not have even noticed until now I decided to point this out in this video but this is the thing this is the reality you intimidate a lot of people unknowingly you don't even realise it because they're looking at you and their lives have been in shambles and going through all sorts of things and it's not just that, I mean none of our lives are perfect we all have ups and downs but as for us, we know how to get through it we always find a way out and we deal with it calmly we don't experience too much stress we know how to manage it we know how to regulate our own emotions and then they look at us after everything we've been through and it looks like we haven't been through anything I mean, many people say even about me I've seen it in the comments I've talked about my story everything that I've been through in my life I've experienced narcissistic abuse since childhood and it's very rare that I ever even talk about it I don't really like to victimise myself or see myself as a victim I am a survivor but yeah, it's very rare that I talk about it but to be fair, I have been through a lot in my life I've experienced many narcissistic relationships narcissistic family members friends spear campings several spear campings gang-stalking as well and yeah, as people have mentioned in the comments they look at me and it's like they can't even see it I still look young, I look youthful I've got tons of energy even with all the energy vampires all of the parasites that are leaching off me every day I still manage to get through it I still look good, I feel good I'm disciplined, I'm motivated I look young, I look youthful even though right now I'm actually 35 years old but many people they say I look about 25 so yeah, what I'm saying is that we go through these things and yet we still manage to come out of it we manage to re-stabilise ourselves because of course we're getting involved in toxic, dysfunctional and unstable environments where people can barely even keep themselves together they're all over the place it's kind of like if you imagine I'm speaking to you now on the slide video and I'm just moving the phone around as I'm talking to you and it's like how are you even supposed to make sense of anything I'm saying when I'm doing that and it's like the same thing when you're involved where these types of people they will spin your head around and gas like you make you feel like you're crazy because there's no stability everything is just all over the place so you're going to feel like you're losing your mind and you just can't keep track of yourself you may have a short-term memory you can't keep track of anything that's going on at times you can't even remember your own name you can't remember your age, your birthday some of you may not even know which way is up or down and yes, believe it or not, but that is a thing that does actually happen sometimes that's how bad that it can get but you're around people who aren't even grounded in reality they've got a false character that's in this alternate world because they gave up on reality a long time ago and you get around them and they will spin your head in circles you're not even going to know which way is up by the end of it you will feel like you're losing your mind and why? because when they get around you and it's not just around you, this is in general wherever they go but especially when they get around you they can't be themselves and they can't let you be you because they feel intimidated by you they feel like they're not good enough to even be in your presence but then at the same time they want to be around you they want to benefit from your energy from your emotions from your life force they want to benefit from all of that but at the same time they don't want to give you credit they don't want to give you props and I'm not saying they have to worship you or even compliment or praise you but at the very least they should accept what is standing before them what is in front of them the person that you are but because they feel so intimidated and threatened it's like despite everything that you've put into yourself and your life all of the work that you put in everything that you did to become the person that you are today they just don't want to give that to you and it's not even like validation it's just like common decency really when you get around someone you have to accept yes this is who they are you have to accept their characteristics their qualities, their traits they may be quite confident they may have a lot of self-belief a lot of determination they may be self-motivated they may have good qualities such as being honest trustworthy maybe they're intelligent maybe they're physically attractive as well but these types of people they get around you and you're like that and they have to be in denial they have to deny you of that of who you are they just can't accept who you are as a person they can't let you be you and not only that but when they get around you they don't want to be themselves they want to use a false character they've got to put on an act the chameleons, their shapeshifters whatever they go they've got a different character for everyone but they will use that tactic as well it's common with narcissists it's that they won't need to think that it's like yeah they can't be themselves around you or these problems that only happens with you and there was someone else in any other situation everything's fine everything's perfect there's no problems but then you go look at them and it's like so why are you so unstable why can't you keep things together why are you all over the place why can't you even have a normal conversation because of course it doesn't make any sense if you've got that experience in life and you're able to interact with people I mean of course back to if you've been involved in narcissists yeah things can happen to you if you're around them they can make you shut yourself down to where you lose that confidence you can't communicate effectively you can't even piece words or sentences together that can happen sometimes as well because you're around someone who's like that as well and yet they cover it up under a mask under a false character and they steal your qualities and traits and then they give you theirs so then you become more like them they become more like you but this is just how it is you get around them and they they feel intimidated by you and that's why immediately they're thinking how do I crush this person's confidence how do I make them feel bad about themselves how do I bring some sort of negativity pessimism into this situation because I'm intimidated I'm not feeling good about myself when I'm around this person they feel threatened so they're looking at how do I remove this threat so that I don't have to feel this way about myself because that's within so without if they're confident in themselves their own qualities and abilities and who they are as a person they're going to operate with that confidence around you they're not going to feel self-conscious to where it's like alright I feel intimidated, I feel threatened now we're going to bring this person down I'm going to make them feel bad I'm going to make them feel small I'm going to make them feel like there's something wrong with them a confident person is not going to do that but they will because they feel intimidated by you they feel inferior they feel like you're far greater you're far superior to them but that's just how it is anytime that you get around these types of people they will belittle you they will make you feel small they will make you feel bad about yourself even though there may really be nothing wrong with you at all I mean you could be fine but they've got to find a problem there has to be something wrong and you may experience that with a nitpick in the fault it's just constantly in your year they've just got to find something no matter what you do there has to be something wrong and maybe you're in a relationship with an narcissist, in a marriage it could be a family member, a parent and it's like they go out of the house they ask you to do 10 things they have to get back and maybe you didn't have enough time you've got 9 of those 10 things done and yet when they come back they'll focus on that one thing that you didn't do because they're just so negative they're pessimistic they always have to find something wrong and it's because of how they feel about themselves inside they lack confidence they feel insecure, they don't feel good about themselves so they've got to put that on to you because they feel threatened, they feel intimidated they don't feel good about themselves and if they don't feel good about themselves how can they ever feel good about you? this is why whenever they get around you they feel threatened, they feel intimidated and yet when you get around them it's like you recognize this person they're shy, they're intimidated, they're insecure and you're looking at how can I make them feel better how can I help them? because you're thinking like if I was in that same position what I would need is maybe just a little bit of someone's time a bit of their energy, a bit of their validation and then I'm back to myself, I'm feeling good again but it's not that way with them you get around them, they may be a bit shy a bit insecure or so it may seem but then no matter what you do for them you can give it all, you can give all of your time all of your energy, all of your attention it's never going to be enough they're never going to feel satisfied they're never going to feel good about themselves no matter what you do and that's really how you know that it's not you because normal people we require very little we don't need too much from someone but they do they're constantly on you, they need, need, needs it's always more, more, more and it's never enough they're very greedy, they're insatiable they're literally like pigs they will consume anything from you no matter what it is, it doesn't matter they will eat anything and they will always want more and more excessive consumption no matter what it is and even if it's making them sick as long as they're getting something and they just always need more so whenever you're around them you're going to feel drained you're going to feel confused and that's how you know that something is wrong but not that something is wrong with you because think about it like this if you're around a normal person when you get around them things are going to make sense there's going to be some level of understanding you're at least going to be on the same page but when you get around them you're completely confused it's like your head is all over the place you feel crazy that's how you know that it's them because here's the thing even when you're around someone who's going through something no matter what it may be you can always find some way to comfort them and to make them feel better but you can't do that with them and that's why when you get around them you start to feel that same way you start to take on their energy and you may have been perfectly fine before you got involved with them but that's the thing because crazy makes you crazy and that's why when you see people and it's like they may be acting strange they may seem crazy it may be like something's going on with them what you got to look at is the people that they're around because that's usually what it is just as with us when we're going through something we're not feeling good about ourselves we've lost our confidence what people need to do is look at the people that we're around but then many of us we get blamed, we get looked at like we're crazy, of course we do because what do they do? they blame us for everything at the end of the relationship they gaslight us, they start smear campaigns they isolate us, turn everyone against us I spoke about this in so many videos this is what happens pretty much at the end of every relationship with a narcissist this is just how it is and it's because every time because they feel threatened, intimidated they feel insecure when they're around you they feel like you're greater than them they're inferior deep down they know they are and that's why they act in that way that's why they're always trying to bring things down make everything worse the negative, the pessimistic well as for us it's all about conclusion, resolve bringing things together making things better raising things up that comes from being insecure in ourselves having that confidence that self-belief they don't have that and it's because they're very insecure around you so they look at it like what is the point in me giving you that closure that resolve the validation, concluding things for you making you feel better and I'm still going to feel worse because I'm insecure I'm threatened, I'm intimidated that's how they see it so instead they just leave it alone and they try to bring things down I mean sometimes they can bring back the false character for a moment and they can act like they're normal and they can have a normal conversation for a certain amount of time but even then that's not really them that's things that they've learned from someone else they've seen something on television in movies and then they just play that out they just feed that back to you to pull you into the illusion and then to leave you holding on to this false character to make you believe that it's you but it's not you it's just they're intimidated they're threatened by you and you should know that because I mean for one thing you realize that there was a problem so you went to seek a sense of resolve you search for these videos on YouTube that's how you know that it's not you because they're not going to do that they love the chaos, the dysfunction they like things that way they thrive in that type of environment because if everything's normal and stable and everything makes sense it's going to look bad on them and it's going to look good for you because you're the normal one you're the sane one they're not so of course they do not want that type of environment but when you come on here and you listen to my videos you understand what I'm saying it makes perfect sense you're able to relate to it and your experiences that's a sign to you that it's not you that you are normal you're sensible, you're rational because what I'm saying to you right now is very rational it's very logical but when you get around someone who's crazy someone who pretty much belongs in a mental asylum it's going to make you feel crazy as well you're going to feel like you're losing your mind because all they can do is pull you into it an excellent example is the movie Hannibal there's actually a favourite scene of mine where this female detective she goes into the jail and she goes to interview Hannibal Lecter in his cell so you should definitely watch that scene on YouTube and it's really typical behaviour of a narcissist she goes in there she's got a very logical, rational, reasonable attitude and she goes in there feeling confident in her work in her job in what she's training to be and then he just brings her confidence down he makes her feel self-conscious he makes sexual comments as well to make her feel uncomfortable, to disgust her all of these things to make her feel off-balance to make her feel like something is wrong with her and not him but then she manages to turn it around and this is the really amazing part towards the end of the scene which I really liked because it's very much in line with everything I speak about on here at my videos she said about how he's so outwardly focused and always directing everything towards her and making her feel self-conscious because all it is is that Hannibal Lecter does not want to look at himself at the monster that he is because deep down he knows that so that's why he feels so threatened, so intimidated and he's just projecting everything onto her and if you look at these narcissists that's exactly what they do and not just narcissists, these toxic people as well everything so outwardly focused, they put everything onto you they're always pointing the finger making you feel bad about yourself making you feel like something is wrong with you and that's how you know that something is wrong because a normal person, a sane person just think about yourself you or I, what do we do in that type of situation the first thing we do is we reflect on ourselves because we have a self to reflect on they don't and unfortunately this is the case for a lot of people in this world today the masses are not to be trusted the masses are not healthy, they're not functional I've seen a statistic on Google that said that 96% of families in the world are dysfunctional and in a recent video by Dr Ramanee she mentioned that 1 in 6 people are narcissists of course that doesn't include COVID, narcissism toxic people as well and all of the other mental illnesses and personality disorders so a lot of people in this world are this way and I'm sure you've experienced this yourself in your everyday life the people that you get around whether they're strangers, family members or friends they're so outwardly focused and they feel threatened and intimidated by you to where they want to make you feel self conscious they want to keep you off balance because otherwise if you're grounded in reality and in your sanity, you're logical and rational you're going to be looking at them and seeing the mess that they are because a lot of people in this world today they're completely unstable they don't even know who they are until you get around these types of people and you think that it's you here's the thing, if you think that it's you that means most likely it isn't you because narcissistic and toxic people they never look at themselves they're always looking at you and expecting you to be more do more to fit in with whatever they need you to be in that moment to make them feel good about themselves but you can run on that hamster wheel endlessly for the rest of your life it's not going to make a difference nothing in this world will ever be enough for them nothing in this world ever will it's never going to complete them it's never going to fill that black hole inside of them many people have tried many people have tried no one managed to succeed no one ever did and no one ever will the only way we can complete ourselves is by going within you cannot do that for another person and if they can't do that for themselves or they won't do it you've just got to stay away from them because all they're going to do is pull you in to their baggage, their damage, their trauma their damage so they're going to damage you they can only give you what they've got if it's a healthy functional person they can invite you into a healthy functional space but if they're damaged, they're traumatized they can only pull you into that and this is how it is and this is what we need to be for other people who are at least near to our level because I had to do it myself I had to go within and I had for many years of my life already I had to heal so many of my traumas I had to learn to properly regulate my own emotions it took me years of self care and self love to become the man that you see today to where I now have the power and ability to heal people to invite them into my personal space and to help them to heal their traumas to regulate themselves from within and to develop that self love and that care for themselves and to raise their self esteem we can be that once we do it for ourselves it all goes back to what I said at the beginning of the video how I said that we need to make sure our cup is full first and then we can pour into someone else's so that's really what we need to do but when you're around people who feel threatened, intimidated and they react in a negative way if they're threatened or intimidated and they react in a positive way that could be something you can work with but when they're threatened and then they're trying to pull you down to their level instead of trying to go up to where you're at you can't deal with those types of people they're just going to drive you insane just from you being around them and trying to help them trying to converse with them so you've got to get away from them and actually when you're around these types of people when you're not trying you just give it up, you don't even care not trying to help them they have less and less of an effect on you this is why they act like they want you to save them they want you to help because when you're putting that out there and you're trying and then they're acting against it they're oppositional to it then it's like this tug of war they're pulling you into it and they're pulling you out of yourself they're destabilizing you but you doing that but you trying to help them this is why when you get around them you just got a grey rock just don't even communicate with them don't give them nothing because they're going to make you lose your mind they're going to make you crazy just like them and I don't want that to happen to you but it's like believe me I have been in it and I have been around these types of people so many times and I would say that yes on many occasions they have made me crazy they've destabilized me and then they get this temporary sense of relief for it's like yes it's you and not me you're the bad one you're the crazy one look you accept it because remember they're delusional as long as they can pull you into this false reality and as empaths yes we accept things we agree to them even though it may not be us it's nothing to do with us because we're trying to resolve it and if they don't take accountability they don't accept it then we will because we assume that that's the only way that we can make things better but that's wrong stop taking responsibility for other people's garbage that's their problem not yours but this is exactly what they will do it's like they will get a a kind of garbage you just tip it out right in front of you right at your feet and they'll be like here you go you deal with this as though it's your problem as though it's something to do with you and they could just come on to you like they didn't even know who you are you didn't even know who they are and they're not even trying to get to know you they're not even revealing anything about themselves and yet they have this entitlement this arrogance where it's like they just expect you to deal with everything for them it's like here you go like you're my caretaker you're my parent take care of me take care of my problems and it's like a baby gonna burp them feed them change their nappy but nothing you do is ever going to resolve it it's never gonna heal their traumas the damage they're traumatized and they're quite comfortable laying in their own filth just not doing anything about it and that's what makes us crazy because it's like we can't deal with that we don't thrive in that type of environment so of course we're gonna feel crazy in it but they don't feel crazy they feel quite comfortable in that it doesn't make them feel crazy at all it makes you feel crazy and if it does believe it or not that's actually a good thing it's good when you get around these people and you feel crazy that is your body and mind telling you to run away because you do not belong around crazy people you belong around something else people who are normal, rational, sane that's why you resonate with this video because I'm giving you this logic this rationality, this reason this is what you resonate with you don't resonate with out of control emotional outbursts with these mind games and just this crazy making you don't resonate with that because at some degree you are healthy functional you're not completely damaged, traumatized like they are so the very fact that you gravitate towards this content and you resonate with what I'm saying that's a great sign already you're on the right track anyway let's take a break and spend some time with this cat just notice this cat you I've got to take a break sometimes especially when I come out in public because when I'm around all of these people that's where my head is spinning around in circles I feel like I'm losing my mind and I know when you watch this video because I watch my videos back as well I come across as a pretty logical, sane, rational person and I get that but that's the thing, sometimes you think you look crazy when they're keeping you off balance they're destabilizing you but if you've practiced it over time you know to ground yourself, how to stabilize yourself it may just get you in the mind but then still the way that you present yourself it's still effective so that's great as well especially for me because then when I watch my videos back it validates me, it confirms to me who I am, what I'm about because as I said that's all that it really is they are living in a false reality they're not in the real world they're not grounded in who they are, the authentic selves many of them don't even have a self at all and that's where they come around us because we can generate this from within we can give them a false sense of self yes they get that from us and they get it from destabilizing us from keeping us off balance it provides them with a false sense of pride, comfort security and stability and that's what narcissistic people are looking for they want to feel stable and secure around people like us because they feel threatened and intimidated by us when they're around us because it just reminds them that they're not like us that's why whenever you get around them it's a constant fight it's a battle for power for authority because that's just how they feel when they get around you at how a person treats you the right reflection of how they feel about themselves inside they can only give you what they've got a person can't give you happiness joy, positivity if they haven't got that within for themselves if they're pessimistic, defeatist they feel like shit, demotivated they're not happy with themselves they're toxic, dysfunctional guess what, when you get around them that's what they're going to give to you sometimes at the beginning they can't reflect your own qualities and virtues back to you create this illusion as though that's who they are as well and I will admit that at times that can be quite effective if you don't know what you're dealing with but as with anything it's like time will tell just give it time and you will see whether or not they can sustain it because a lot of them can't and then when they can't sustain it they turn against you, they blame you for everything that's another sign of what you're dealing with because a normal person is not going to do that they're not going to do that at all instead they're going to give you space like okay you might be going through something right now but let's just give it time and they're going to give you that opportunity like okay when you're ready when you're feeling better let's talk about it let me help you, let me make you feel better let me give you that optimism that hope, that strength that you need because that's normal, that's functional you try doing that with them and watch what happens it's never going to work it's never going to work that way with them because they're never going to be that way they're always going to be stuck and to see that just look at the people they surround themselves with they're dysfunctional, fake family members and friends yes they're quite comfortable with them but they're not comfortable with you they feel intimidated, threatened by you and sometimes you're just going to look in the mirror and ask yourself why look at yourself, validate yourself realize what a confident, charismatic, wonderful person you are sometimes you're just going to stop and recognize that in yourself because they're never going to do that for you they're not going to recognize something in you but they don't even have themselves they might use it, take it, steal it for themselves but they're not going to recognize it in you they're going to separate that from you and they're going to be like yeah here's this here's this confidence, this charisma this happiness, this joy this self-determination, motivation, this discipline this hard work, the success, this money these resources, this energy and then it's like yeah separate that from you and then it's just for the taken they can just assign that to themselves this is how toxic people think this is what makes them so dangerous this is why you need to be careful of so many people who feel threatened and intimidated by you because when they get around to you all they're going to do is take and they're never going to give anything back to you they're just going to take, take, take and leave you feeling like less and less of yourself because they're never going to give you that they're never going to accept that you are, you are all these qualities and traits these possessions, everything belongs to you they're never going to accept that because then that means that they're losers, they're failures at life of course they're never going to accept that but that's literally how it is a lot of times so of course they're going to feel threatened about you because you are a winner, you are a champion you're disciplined yourself, motivated you work hard, you made it be proud of yourself remember who you are validate yourself because this is what I'm about this is what we're about on Q improving ourselves, becoming the best versions of ourselves, making things better that's what we do, we bring each other up we don't latch on to people and bring them down we don't do that at all because we have the power, we have the strength inside of ourselves we have the heart, we have the focus, we have the determination because we know that we can do it we know that we can be better so that's exactly what we do well as for them they don't believe in themselves, they're negative, they're pessimistic so all they're going to do is bring you down they're going to bring you right down with them but as for us, we're going 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