 وَأَقُولُ فِي القُرْعَانِ مَا جَاءَتْ بِيهِ آياتُهُ فَهُوَ الْكَارِيمُ المُنزَالُهُ وَأَقُولُ قَالَ اللَّهُ جَلَّ جَلَالُهُ وَالْمُصْطَافَ الْهَاديِ وَلَا أَتْ أَوْوَالُهُ وَالْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ رَبِّ العَلَمِينَ وَالْصَّلَاتُ وَالْسَّلَامَ عَلَى عَبْدِ اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعين فهذا هي المؤسسة التي تساعدت جدًا و here the first thing I want to establish is I want to establish that Bir al-Wali Dayn is one of the biggest obligations that Allah has placed upon a Muslim male and female Allah told us in the Qur'an وَعْبُدُ اللَّهِ وَالَا تُشْلِكُ بِهِ شَيْئَ وَبِالْوَالِ دَيْنِ إِحْسَانَ worship Allah don't make any partner with Him and have ihsan towards your parents and the basic position is that this should continue in all of the situation of the life of a Muslim male and female married and unmarried that they should continue to have this spirit towards their parents but the real question is here when there is a clash between what the parents wish for what the parents want and what the husband asks which one of them should be put ahead here there is no doubt that the right of the husband takes priority for a married woman and that's why Imam Ahmed was asked this question about a married woman who had a sick mother and he said he said that obedience to her husband is more obligatory for her than going to look after her mother unless he gives her permission and this unless he gives her permission I think this is essential to understand that the basic concept is it has to do with the parents she has to look after her mother however the husband ultimately if there is a clash that's when it takes priority so what is the position of that husband in that situation of course that husband wants to cooperate with his wife upon goodness he wants to be able to help his wife in doing good and keeping away from sin so if he sees there is an opportunity to support his wife to be good to her mother then I think he should take that opportunity if that opportunity is available to him however when there is a clash that's when we ask the question okay which of them goes first there's a clash the mother says you have to come I need you here the husband says you have to be here I need you here which of them now gets priority if the wife isn't able to convince her husband or convince her mother and it remains that there's a clash there's a تعارب if that تعارب that clash is there then the husband has to have priority and that just shows you the right of the husband in Islam and how important it is but having said that that doesn't mean that that right should be abused and that doesn't mean that the husband should be sort of stopping his wife from a good deed doesn't do any harm to him doesn't do any harm to him and it's sad that in this day we have seen that from some husbands we have seen that mentality that you have to cut off your wife from her family in order to make a heart completely for you or to give her 100% focus upon your rights but ultimately that's not going to bring her nearer to Allah or you nearer to Allah in reality they are letting each other to do good and the husband looks at the situation and he has the right if he sees that he requires or needs his wife at that time when her mother needs her or her father needs her and he isn't able to find a way to reconcile between that his right comes first once the woman is married there's no doubt about that however it doesn't mean he doesn't want to emphasize that simply to show that he has that power rather he should be wise and gentle and kind and look for opportunities for good deeds سبحان الله عز و جل described something wonderful about the companions و يؤثرون على أنفسهم و لو كان بهم خصاصة they give up their rights for other people even though they're in need of them so that kind of idea that kind of concept of إيثار of giving up your rights sometimes you know you see for example that her mother is unwell and her mother needs her daughter to be with her and you see that to be honest the husband is able to be with her and she needs her daughter to be with her and she needs her daughter yet to be honest the husband is able to give up that and to expect the reward from Allah then there's no doubt that is more befitting than for him to simply exercise his rights without thinking about how that would impact upon other people so yes the husband when a woman is married the husband's right takes priority over the parents right but that doesn't mean that she is excluded from the obligation of and it doesn't mean that her husband has to exercise that right at every moment in time and Allah is our best السلام عليكم ورحمة الله how can you do a two second action right now that will give you a share of the reward of everything we're doing on this youtube channel simple like this video and click subscribe why it will allow youtube to recommend our videos to other users and imagine a reward that could be waiting for you on the day of judgment if you 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