 Hello everyone, welcome to another NARC Survival Live video and in this one it is a different type of topic, not something that I've really spoken too much about before but yeah when they realise that they're not going to find better than you because this is something that I stand by, it is something that I believe in and the evidence is right there I mean it is pretty obvious that they are not going to find someone who cares as much about them as you did there's just no possible way they're not going to find someone like that again and how do I know that well the evidence is right here on my channel I mean you found my community you watch my videos because you are interested in the inner workings of a narcissist you're very curious and fascinated about them you want to learn more so quite clearly you do care you care enough to find these videos whether it's just to protect yourself or maybe you were trying to find a way to work things out with a narcissist so you clearly cared quite a lot and how did that work out for you where did that get you I'd assume it didn't get you anywhere because they just took you for granted it's like they didn't even take you seriously so what makes you think they're going to run into someone else who cares just as much as you did or more but then this time they're going to treat that person right and not take them for granted the reality is that anyone who cares about a narcissist anyone who is kind and helpful to them they're nice they're friendly any type of person like that is going to be used manipulated exploited deceived chewed up and spit out and that is a fact and I know that's a fact because all of the thousands of people who are going to watch this video I can guarantee that at least 90% of you can relate if not everyone who watches this video can relate with the fact that you are this person who cared more about them than anyone in their entire lives no one ever cared as much as you did they never even cared that much for themselves and then you came along and how did they treat you they took you for granted and a person like yourself is very rare I wish I had someone in my life who cared as much as you did for the narcissist someone like that things could go pretty well as long as you appreciate them and you reciprocate back how could that not lead to success but the narcissist took you for granted and the odds are they're not going to find someone like you again if you are an empath as I've said before only one to two percent of the world's population are empaths and even if in the extremely unlikely case that they did find another empath you've only got to remember how they treated you to know how they're going to treat the next person their disorder is maladaptive people with high narcissistic traits they don't tend to change they tend to get worse so they're going to go off try to find a new source they're going to go through many different sources each time it's going to fail it's not going to go anywhere and at some point I mean of course they're not completely detached from reality they're not completely insane so at some point of course yes I mean you cared about them more than anyone else in their lives you did more for them than anyone else and it did of course they're going to use you as a reference point for future supplies you're going to be that measuring stick for everyone else who comes after you and the reality is that no one else is going to measure up no one else is going to be what you were to them so it's going to conclude in their minds at some point they're just going to accept that the odds are they are never going to find better than you yes they will realize it but they can't entertain that thought for a long period of time especially if they know that they've burned the bridge and there's no way back to you all they can do then is just suppress that thought and act like they don't care even though they do care very much but they have to pretend like they don't they have to pretend like it's okay they can just move on and find someone to replace you even if it's nothing in comparison to what you were yes they have no choice at that point but to pretend but to act like it's not bothering them when the reality is that as I said everyone who comes after you and you may have seen this already everyone who comes after you they're measuring them to you to what you were to them you become this reference point for everyone that they're dealing with because no one ever cared that much no one ever noticed them like you did and they may have told you they may have given you all of this praise and compliments in the beginning they idealized you they put you on a pedestal because the odds are they probably never ran into anyone like you before they never found anyone at your level and I don't just mean your qualities and abilities your empathy but also just that special touch you paid close attention to them careful consideration you were there for them you listened to their hour long monologues two o'clock in the morning first thing before you went to work you really think anyone else is going to do that you really think anyone else is gonna be that person for them that you were I mean come on let's be real that's never going to happen there's no way there's no way anyone else is going to see them in the way that you did I mean you were at their beck and call you were everything that they needed you to be whenever they needed you to be it you went above and beyond and not only that but you were they targeted you because they viewed you as the best as greater than all of their other options and that may be because of your physical attractiveness your power your wealth your success your intelligence your connections whatever it was and not only that aside from all of that but you were there for them at the same time now that is rare because even if in the extremely unlikely case that someone else came into the picture and they were more physically attractive or wealthier or whatever it is more than you even then they're going to see themselves as being superior to the narcissist they might just treat the narcissist as their subordinate they're not going to be there for them like you were they're not going to care that much it's just extremely rare in this world to find someone at that level who is also a good listener kind caring loving nurturing all of these wonderful qualities that you possess you really think they're going to find someone else like that again no way even just an empath that's one to two percent of the world's population and even then how many of those are healed how many of those are awakened how many of those are actually capable or fit for being in a relationship all of these things we have to consider and on top of that remember that like attracts like they only managed to get with you because they tricked you in the beginning otherwise you did not naturally belong around them that's why when they began to devalue you you just wanted to get away from them you didn't want to be with them anymore so at some point yes they do realize that they are not going to get better than you they're going to realize that you are as good as they get and I'm not just telling you this to make you feel better after they have discarded you look back at my my portfolio of videos over the past five years I've been doing this for a long time I don't just tell people what they want to hear I tell people the truth and I will admit that over the past few years I have gone back and forth over whether or not the narcissist does actually feel regret over whether or not their past decisions haunt them and I can tell you that at this point at this level in my experience and research yes it most definitely does it does haunt them remember narcissists are shame-based people who are doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame if you take away the shame you wouldn't even have a narcissist anymore and the same thing goes for psychopaths as well take away the shame and they would just be normal people but they're doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame they suppress it or they deflect it they do anything else other than confronting it and that's why the shame continues to grow within them and it also perpetuates their abusive and dysfunctional behavior where they mistreat us so it causes them to mess up every relationship they get into and then it builds up even more shame which causes them to become even more abusive again so you just got to think this person who is so full of shame so bitter a resentful so abusive what chance have they got at finding someone like you again what chance have they got at doing that there's no way that is ever going to happen but they will get on social media and flaunt their new supplies to try to make it seem like it's something that it's not they did the same thing with you remember they took all of these pictures with you they put it on instagram facebook twitter what was going on behind the scenes while they were posting all of these pictures what was going on when they were doing that they were treating you badly they were abusing you while they're just putting on their show on social media to validate their false image yes it is all fake they're never gonna find better than you they're not gonna find anything close and that's just something they're going to have to accept and part of the reason why they're not going to find anything even anywhere near to what you were to them is because of how they treated you yes that becomes their karma because let's go back to the shame rage abuse cycle they feel shame from how they treated you no person is immune to this when you treat someone badly and you could be a narcissist a psychopath it doesn't matter who you are when you do that it builds up shame and you've got to think that narcissistic people they do not confront their shame they suppress it they deflect it they do anything they can to avoid reflecting on it so the shame builds up within them their past actions or behaviors haunt them which then perpetuates the cycle of abuse with their next victim so it's inevitable so it's inevitable that whoever they get with next no matter how great they are it's inevitable that at some point they are going to abuse them as a result of the shame that they feel for what from what they did to you so that makes it pretty much impossible even in the extremely unlikely case that they found another empath or that they found someone better than you because of the shame abuse cycle they're just going to end up abusing them and this is how you know when someone treats you badly when they disrespect you you're like an adult like oh they've hurt me they've damaged me i know they're getting away with it they're running off with their new life and they could be so much happier without me no that is not how it works at all if you really understand bullying and abuse and the effects that it has not only on the victim but on the bully itself as well they're running off with far more damage than whatever they inflicted upon you and there is no getting away from it the effects of what they did to you it builds up this shame inside of them it haunts them no matter who they are even if they're a full-blown psychopath it's still the same if somehow by magic we could take a full-blown psychopath and just take away all of their shame which is as a result of their past actions of behaviors the abuse that they inflicted on people if we could just just take that shame away that person would no longer be a psychopath they would become normal so i hope that's enough for you to understand the link between the shame that they feel and then how they end up abusing you and then that perpetuates the shame and makes it inevitable that they are going to abuse whoever they're off with next so there is no way i mean as i said even in the extremely unlikely case that they found someone at your level they're just going to mess it up and you should know that based on how they treated you and on top of that quite clearly they did not care about you so how are they going to care about anyone else they lack effective empathy they don't feel what you feel they don't care the way that you care they don't feel your pain as if it's your as if it's their own if they did where are they now where are they now why aren't they there comforting you they may look like they're off with someone else but that is fake it can't be real otherwise it would have been real what they had with you so they do not find anyone better than you and i want you to know that i want you to be aware of it and i hope that it does comfort you seen a few comments of the live chat earlier in a live video i did earlier today i'd also on tiktok i know some people saying that they feel alone i'm so sorry that you feel that way i don't want anyone to feel alone i don't know if it's the result of you dealing with a narcissist the effect of the abuse maybe you're isolating yourself or you've been isolated following a smear campaign just seen a few comments and i want you to know that you are not alone you've got all of us on here this community i post several videos a day i go live every day sometimes twice a day i'm available for a one-on-one coaching session which you can book anytime through my website it's narksafiver.co.uk and you can also follow me on instagram send me a message on there it's narksafiver youtube you still feel alone just book a flight let's all meet up together let's organize a meet-up for everyone who's feeling alone there is no reason why anyone has to be alone or has to feel alone we are all here we are all your company so i don't want anyone to feel like that i mean i'm doing this every day putting these videos out there i'm available anytime that you'd like to talk as i said we can even organize a meet-up in person if that's what it is if it's you know just the video you want more than just video that's fine i'm sure we can arrange something somehow just send me an email coaching at narksafiver.co.uk follow me on instagram it's narksafiver youtube there is no excuse for anyone to feel alone it doesn't matter what you're going through i don't care what it is smear campaigns gang stalking i'm not one of those losers and i know many people on here they're not a part of that shit so whenever gonna be a part of that we are our own individuals we don't join these silly groups and even this community it's about promoting individuality it's not about everyone being the same so no one has to worry about that no one has to worry about being alone feeling isolated you are not alone you got me i'm right here right now and anytime that you need me you can email me you can DM me on instagram we can even arrange a meet-up in person we can organize events we can do all sorts of things and no one can do anything about it no one can stop it we are together we are all a part of this community and no one no one is excluded i don't care who you are what you're meant to have done it in the past let's leave that behind now what are you doing now what are you going to do that's more positive let's talk about that all right so there's no excuse for anyone to feel alone i know i noticed a few comments on the live video earlier today and in my tiktok you are not alone at all we are all here with you and don't worry about that narcissist trust me i have been studying this every day for almost six years now there's very few people in this world who understand this disorder and narcissism as much as i do i understand it more than most i could write a book i could write a hundred books and remember the the shame abuse cycle that pretty much guarantees that they're not going to find better than you or anything close to you even in the extremely rare case that they did they would mess it up they would abuse that person just as they did with you until that person is no longer any good for them and then they would discard them and go off and find someone else so there's no reason to feel jealous when they flaunt this new source on social media there's no reason to feel like you're missing out so as though you should have done something different and then you could have got this better side of them there is no better side of them what you saw that is who they are that is what they had to give anything else you're seeing it is fake otherwise they would have used that to secure you to manipulate you even more if they really believed that it was going to be effective quite clearly they believed that devaluing you ghosting discarding you that was going to be more effective so that should tell you everything you need to know because if a person really believes that that great that that special especially someone who is narcissistic they're going to make sure they leave one hell of an impact on you so that you never forget it and that's how you should know you're not missing out on nothing the only thing that you're missing out on is the problem and yeah you're not alone but you know what having some alone time there's nothing better than that it's good it builds character gives you time to get to know yourself and like I said the best relationship or rather the most important relationship you will ever have in your life is the one you have with yourself no one else is going to know you like you know yourself no one else is going to care about you the way that you do even other empaths codependence I mean even then they're just trying to fulfill an unmet need from childhood where they couldn't please a narcissistic parent so even then that doesn't have so much to do with you no one's going to care about you more than you so yeah alone time is good I love being alone I had a great time myself driving in the forest here in Japan I went hiking to a waterfall it was such a peaceful experience I wished I could have just put up a tent and camped out there all day but of course I do have other things to do I've got to get on here do these live videos and I'm always working on other things as well behind the scenes so yeah I think that's enough to cover this topic but you know if you do have any questions if there's if there's anything you're not sure about I mean I can expand on this even more if it is needed if there are any questions I'm sure I can answer them whatever the question may be so you let me know if there's anything you're unsure about if you're still worried you feel like you're missing out you feel like the narcissist has something better without you whatever it is let me reassure you you just let me know in the comment section down below and I will I will take care of it for you and if you found this video helpful don't forget to give it a thumbs up down below as well very important as it helps the youtube algorithm to get this message out there to other viewers who may need it and hit the subscribe button and click all notifications so that you will be notified when I upload a video if you would like to book a one-on-one coaching session with me you could just go to my website it is knocksurvivor.co.uk and don't forget to follow me on instagram as well it's knock survivor youtube okay thank you all for joining me on another knock survivor live video and I will be back again tomorrow with another one but until then I do have a premiere that is beginning in about three hours so keep an eye out for that as well other than that you will have a great day and I'll talk to you soon