 hello guys and welcome to another episode on me plus you is us my name is Kwame and hi I'm Elaine and a month ago about a month ago we started this series that we're gonna be recording or we said we'll try and record every month yes yeah we're gonna play the game we're not really strangers it's a card question game and they have a pack that is a relationship expansion pack yeah so you have three levels so you have level one perception level two connection and level three reflection right so if you haven't seen our first video on that one you should check it out on the screen somewhere yeah pop up on the screen but yeah then you come and watch this one or you watch this one first then you check that one out that would be preferred so pedigame rules we have to look each other in our eyes or should we do it we should do it right till somebody blinks you're gonna win today good again I'm picking super competitive yeah so level one is perception so yeah I'm picking the first question here what was the first thing you noticed about me I noticed first that you were being a tough guy with the bus boys and secondly when I asked you why you played this lovey-dovey music then I saw your smile so if I were to rephrase it was the first thing you saw about me that you liked what's your smile will be the smile because the whole room lids up wow yeah it's true it's you being all mushy okay get ready all right on a scale of one to ten how open do you feel I am with you explain so you are very analytical let me just say on a scale of one to ten with ten being the highest you're probably you're probably at nine okay I mean that one percent yes you do have you know your own things that you want as a person to yourself which is very fine but you are a very very open person you discuss almost everything with me so I'll give it a nine yeah and do you like that or you don't like that I like it I like it because you you bring things to me that we're able to talk about and deal with together I see you when you do that okay and it's nice for me also to have something to listen to and care about and help you understand and also you know break down so it's nice I really really enjoy that so yeah you are you are open are you with me I'll give myself a six and that's high that's the highest person right like I get the highest score of all the people in the world yes I get a six that's high yes yeah because I'm more to myself a lot yeah I think Kwame really um he appreciates his solitude a lot yes and he's very self-sufficient so we had to grow I'm still learning to be much more you know vocal about the things some of the times I think that I process it and then I keep like I become okay with it and I feel like oh once I'm fine with it I don't need to share the process but I'm learning to also break things down a little bit more you know with her so yeah it's a learning process level two level two this is level two connection and how does one earn your trust have I earned it how can I earn more I think you already earned my trust I think one thing you really do is you make me a priority so I am on top of your list every day that's how you earn my trust because you generally care but not because you want things from me or anything you generally care about what I want and you want me to be comfortable and I never experienced that before I in my previous relationship I wasn't the priority yes say some more I think when I so I had I have a history of long relationships and I left my the previous long relationship before I was with you because I wasn't a priority and I didn't know if I would find somebody or find the love that I was looking for yeah I really didn't know well so but I was like this cannot be it I have to figure it out yeah and then you came along and you're doing everything that I I need well thank you so you're my my gift my surprise am I supposed to know you I'm going he's getting shy so he wants me to take the next question do you think oh good one you should come in frame a bit oh you're a bit out we are closer okay yeah do you don't read no wow do you think my job affects me positively or negatively how does it affect us this is very important because I just started a new job and we had a I had a tough time on Friday because I was super tired and I was worried that my job is taking me away too much and that I'm not being present enough so this is a good question yeah because I travel more and there's so many new things coming at me and I feel like I'm not well my flaw not doing enough that I feel I don't know if I'm being there enough for him so we talked about that so this is a good question do you think my job affects me positively or negatively how does it affect us he can be honest yeah so I think your job affects you both ways positively now with the new role you're in you absolutely love the new challenge you absolutely love being seen where you are and you absolutely love the fact that travel and you get to go to other african countries which is really really good so on a positive note yes but for you on a personal note as a as someone who gives her all in all when she has like a hundred percent of energy to give she gives two thousand to one thing two thousand to the next thing that's that's causing depletion so I think that's one of the negatives that is personal not the job you need to work on because at this point or even in your first month February is almost over no two months two months yeah you your your job as far as I know hasn't given you the amount of pressure I remember you getting from your previous job where you did a lot yeah so I've learned so yeah but then besides that you're also not giving yourself enough credit and enough room to acknowledge that you've done enough they don't give you pressure and how it affects us I I'm gonna say that I've always wanted you to go for what you're doing and I am not clingy to the point where I need you here all the time so it's also helps yeah I miss you I always miss you when you're gone and it's it's not nice but it's only a week and that's where I'm able to distract myself and get more self-sufficient and get into my projects and everything so it's not affecting us I don't feel neglected yeah no I don't feel neglected or I don't feel that oh you're giving too much to your new job now you're not away like seven months at a time no but I mean monthly no no it's you're here okay yeah can I add something I mean it's your question but yeah so I feel that because I am now in this job I think I allow you more to also take care of things around the house so like how you like I mean I'm literally not around so I will just support you with whatever you need or we will prepare for the week and all these things together but I think you do you know how you say step up to the moment and when things need to be done you already arranged it like yesterday I came home uh after my Saturday and then he already cooked like I feel like yeah I am more like allowing you to take care of me also in that sense yeah I think it's nice yeah yeah so you're doing well me still on connection I'm not reading read it have I helped you change your mind about anything oh my god about so many things have I brushing my teeth god how I should hang laundry I was just thinking about that what do you mean how you should add laundry because I would always use two uh knipers I don't know what pegs pegs for one item but then he told me how to make like one one one one one yeah you see it's connect yeah you save pegs so it's really small things I think um you're really good in speaking up so you're teaching me that it's it's okay to speak up for yourself stand up for yourself yeah in a polite but firm way it's okay to be firm I think that's something you taught me yeah um then you deserve yeah you made me aware you deserve the good yeah yeah so don't um diminish your order don't you know lower your light yeah yeah don't bend or no shine and take space yeah take up space definitely and I think honestly I think your creativity well it's not the question well I'll just gonna answer your creativity really shows like there are no limits yeah like if you want to do something just do it like how we're now doing this youtube channel you're just like yeah let's do it and I was like I don't know so if you just want to do it like I tend to overthink things so yeah I think you just do it uh mentality definitely it's good yeah yeah okay uh how does our age difference or lack thereof affect us if at all so I'm 29 I'm blowing no not blowing how do you say flourishing yeah flourishing and this dinosaur is 34 yeah I'm 33 to be 34 sorry in October you will be 34 I was a bit you're in a hurry why are you trying to age me I don't know okay you're 33 yeah so okay oh sorry it's your question why am I gonna answer um age difference so four years three years four years I don't think it affects us in any way yeah no no I don't have anything to say about the age difference because your person is who I I see I don't see a 29 year old woman I'm with I see a very uh mature mind yeah thank you yeah I see a very mature mind I'm with a mature minded person yeah so the age is not I don't see age I don't we don't recognize age here no so that's but yeah maybe in the beginning it did so when we met I was 22 turning 23 yeah that was quite young did you remember anything from there but then also I was surprised I was pleasantly surprised by how you thought of things and how you broke down things and how you carried yourself so that made it me not see the age yeah in that sense yeah so I was 26 and I thought oh you know when you're growing up you think ah you you're supposed to be with people your age or maybe older but no I yeah I've always been with older people so I'm an old soul that is so great you asked you you are asked right no I asked you so you can pull ah what's one small way can oh read it so are you being proved what small way can we improve once more way can we improve our sex I mean what is there to improve okay maybe once you're blushing I'm not blushing what I don't mind talking about it even on TV and I think you're more approved on TV but anyway yeah I wanted to do a small a small episode now I wanted to do an episode on intimacy but Kramer was a bit hesitant not intimacy as in the actual doing sex but more like yeah we showed intimacy did you see our vlog okay leave it back to the question you see you see I spent a Sunday with us vlog what's one small way we can improve our sex life so maybe for me intimacy is not only the moment when we are about to do it humping thank you for me for me the moment we really need to wow I'm trying to be very mature about this you already noticed we've talked about this yeah so for me it's I cannot just go from zero to 100s so I cannot do five minutes before we're going to do it then suddenly I'm in the mood so for me it's like it's way before throughout the day like we hug like we have fun together we hang out we're close um you know you grab my ass like these kind of small small things that make me feel like you see me you find me attractive you want me and then if it happens it will happen you know and I think you are more like you just have like this it can come from nowhere and I'm so like like we did even like really we weren't really together or where it's coming from and when I asked where it's coming from you never know the answer I never know because sometimes I just see you and I think oh my god like sometimes you just walk past and I'm just like oh that's that's snack right there so I don't have to like for me I don't have to have spent the whole day with you yes I do I do get this you know like it's not the whole day but it's more like small moments building up to it which I agree because that it happens in the mind before yeah very much agree with that but yes and I we're we're gonna work on that or we're yeah we're gonna do that but I'm just saying that my version of sometimes just you walk by I'm like oh yeah okay yeah that's it yeah I am I'm still surprised by that why like that you're sometimes you just passing like just normal just being yourself and I'm just like yeah I want to tap that right now we should put like a sensor thing for no it's not for kids that's what I select okay I think it's me okay so you're doing the last one last question level three reflection what about our relationship don't worry about that let's go again the food what about our relationship are you proudest of I think I would say our ability to work through things okay the communication the the need to want to work or yeah yeah yeah I think that's what I'm most proudest of why is that because it's what's keeping us going it's what's it's there the other things are beautiful they are nice they are quote unquote easy but what do you mean with that I know other things as in cooking together watching TV traveling the niceties but the real great is being able to go through challenges together yeah acknowledging communicating strategizing yeah and then implementing like doing those things together it's like you know the teamwork yeah when the work needs to be done is what I'm proudest of like we do the work when we have to do the work yeah yeah that's what I'm most proudest of yeah I think also we've grown in that because I think in the beginning we used to have fights that would really blow up you know because you don't understand each other well but now it's really rare and most of the times we are able to solve it pretty quickly like normally we would take distance like I would take maybe a day or two and you know coming back to it yeah and we know what to do and what works what doesn't work I think can I also answer the proudest thing or the thing I'm most proud of is outside of being like romantically involved I'm very happy that we also have a friendship that we are you are my best friend too and I know it's such a cliche but I'm also really happy I didn't know that existed like or maybe I knew it existed but you cannot really you cannot force that right yeah so I'm really happy because then I come sometimes something happens to me I'm like I really want to tell him but not because you are I mean I'm in love with you but not because only that like it's just like I just want to tell your friend I know you won't you know we'll really enjoy it same with like for work I had to travel and I went to really nice restaurant but I was with my colleague so and I just knew that if he was there we would have had a blast you know like a really nice evening laugh like oh this is so much fun fun fun fun and these kind of things so even if I'm away it's like oh I want to share this with you like that's kind of eagerness to you know yeah I like that and it's it's also work so we're doing it yeah yeah okay so yeah that's it for the second episode of we are not really strangers for not yeah let us know 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