 Hello everyone Welcome to another Narc Survival Live video. I just checked into this new room Getting ready for my flight I'm going to be going to Japan very soon, and I thought I'd just jump on here and Do this video. I know this is a question that many of you may have Whether or not the narcissist feels any remorse, but before I begin Please give this video a thumbs up down below So that it will get this message out there and then other survivors will see it and Become aware of this information So do they feel any remorse and when I say remorse, I mean Do they experience any guilt? Do they ever feel bad? for their actions and of course the simple answer Would be no as you've probably Experienced They never come to you and genuinely say that they feel bad Or that they feel any remorse, I mean I just came into this place today Parked my car downstairs in the car park in the basement And I just noticed above my head There's quite a lot of spiders and when I say a lot I mean Hundreds of webs Hundreds of spiders and thousands of flies Caught in these webs That could be likened to the narcissist and their victims The narcissist is like a spider They spin these webs and they trap you in them And then they feed on you and many people never get out of the web But when you find my videos, it's like you're being freed from that web You become an awakened empath, but that's the thing what people don't consider Is that this narcissist who is spinning the web In order to catch its prey, its victims While we can free ourselves from that web The narcissist is stuck in a web for life They're trapped in a web of their own making Because that's how they survive emotionally So while we may be able to free ourselves And it's not so much that we free ourselves in the external world We free ourselves by going within And then we regulate ourselves But narcissists can't do that So they're forever trapped In a prison of their own making But they are heavily dependent on And yet it looks like they spin one web They catch a few flies I hate to compare us to flies but this is just an analogy But myself I do respect and appreciate all living life Regardless of it's an insect or whatever it is But yet they spin one web, they catch a few flies And then before you know it they're working on another web Catching new prey, new victims I don't look like they just forget about the previous situation They just move on It's all over, it's done, they forget about you But actually that's not completely true And yes I am about to go into something That very few if any people actually discuss On this, on YouTube But this is actually very true And remember I am a narcissist expert I've been researching this now every day for Almost six years I know exactly what I am talking about And although they may not openly show that they feel guilty For their actions Now this is something that is Commonly known and accepted By psychologists, therapists, coaches The fact that narcissists are actually full of shame Even psychopaths, they are all full of shame And they are shame based people who are doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame So everything they did to you When they manipulated you, they devalued you They put you down They future fake, they lied They abused you They started a smear campaign, they triangulated you All of these things It's just the narcissist Trying to deflect their shame onto you That's all that there is And in fact If they weren't shame based people They wouldn't be doing any of that at all Everything they're doing it is because of their shame So maybe you're not consciously they don't feel remorse To where they feel bad for you and they come into you Apologizing Or trying to make things right They may not do that It's more that they feel bad for themselves It's still all about them But yes it does affect them emotionally In a negative way It just perpetuates the growth of their shame Every negative action Every hurtful remark That stays in them So that's where they abuse That's why they do everything that they do It's all because of their shame No shame Means no narcissist It means no abuse This is why they get worse as they age It's why they become more abusive More covert It's all their shame This is what shameful people do And I know what some of you may be thinking As you're watching this As you're listening to me right now You may be thinking What about us? We feel shame We don't go around abusing people And instead we self-love We feel bad We feel bad For anyone that we've hurt And we want to make them feel better But that's different Because we have a fact of empathy The ability to feel another person's emotions As if they were our own But narcissists cannot do that They cannot do that at all So when they're abusing you And they're hurting you Yes, they can read into your emotions They know that you're hurt But the difference is They don't feel your pain As if it was their own You know, like if you were driving down the road And you saw an animal crossing And it was just about to get hit by a car It's like you feel it in yourself You would flinch You just wouldn't be able to bear it And if you were walking on the street and you saw that You would probably jump out and try to save it That's your affective empathy You're sharing another person's experience As if it was your own But narcissists do not have that So that's why it's different for them And unlike us, we can self-reflect We can manage We can deal with these painful emotions They can't That's why they project and deflect them onto us And they expect us to deal with their emotional baggage Because it's too painful for them to deal with it So that's what we become to the narcissist An emotional regulator An emotional tampon An emotional punching bag Whatever you want to call it That's what we are With this vessel for them to project Their unhealed traumas Their painful negative emotions Because remember a person Is truly happy and at peace with themselves They're not going to feel the need to abuse anyone Or to make anyone feel bad Happy people do not do that And that's why Although I may go through some things In my life I don't get on here and start taking it out on you Can you imagine if I did that If I just got on to make a live video And then I just start insulting all of you I just start trying to make you feel bad about yourself Can you imagine how ridiculous that would be It just wouldn't make any sense Of course I don't do that I've never done that I'm never going to do it Because I'm not a narcissist I don't need to use other people to Regulate my emotions But narcissists they do They do need to do that They have to project and deflect onto their victims Because they can't deal with those painful emotions on their own If they could do that then they probably would But they can't So that's why when they come around you It's all about just trying to deflect it onto you To make you feel bad But then saying that If a narcissist had a YouTube channel They probably wouldn't go and take it out on their subscribers anyway I mean that wouldn't really make any sense It is an interesting comparison when you think about it Because of course in many ways I am dependent On my subscribers, my viewers I mean this channel wouldn't be anything without you And I wouldn't have made any revenue If I didn't receive the nations or People didn't book coaching sessions So it can be compared in a way as well Because of course the narcissist in your life I'm sure they were dependent on you Maybe not just emotionally but financially as well And yet at the same time They're abusing you, they're putting you down While they're using you And yet they still manage to keep you around And I think it's more because It's just you and them In the relationship Of course even if there was a narcissist They're not going to get on YouTube And start insulting their viewers Because they would be talking to many different people at the same time So of course then they have to present an image But this is what the narcissist does to you one on one They're using you for everything you are Everything you've got While they're abusing you at the same time And they're doing that because they're full of shame Which they can't deal with So they try to project it onto you Through their abusive and manipulative actions I can promise you that if they were happy If they felt at peace within themselves They would never do that They would treat you with love and respect And this is how we know It's a fact, narcissists can never be happy If they could be happy The first thing they would do is try to come back to you And make things right for you Without expecting anything from you in return But that's never going to happen Because they can never be happy Remember to give this video a thumbs up down below To get this message out there to other survivors It helps you to algorithm But yes they can never be happy No matter what you do No matter what anyone does It's not going to make a difference And they're never going to feel bad for you They do feel bad For all of their actions It stays inside of them We are all hardwired in this way For when we do something bad We feel bad And narcissists, we all know what is right and what is wrong Everyone knows deep down We all know the difference Narcissists feel entitled At least on the surface They think that Yes, the behavior is wrong But it's not wrong for them to do it For them it is justified Because life is unfair to them You did something to provoke them They always have some way to justify it Every abuser has an excuse But deep down we all know what is right and what is wrong And we all feel bad When we do something wrong Which includes narcissists and psychopaths They may not feel bad for you But they feel bad The shame continues to grow within them So they are haunted by their actions And the older they get The more victims they have The more failed relationships Their shame just grows and grows And they feel worse and worse Even more bitter and resentful as they age And they typically become even more covert Because they start to learn that the way they behave It's not normal It's not even normal for them to do that They start to accept that So that's why they tend to become more covert as they age But they're never going to stop Because their behavior perpetuates the cycle Keeps the shame growing And of course the shame is what causes them to do what they do But luckily for us as empaths When we do something wrong we do feel bad We may feel guilt, we may feel shame And we reflect on it And we try to make things better So luckily for us we can change, we can grow We can become the best versions of ourselves While narcissists, if you see a narcissist in old age It's no different to when they were younger They're still the same They're just better at hiding it So while they may not feel any remorse for you It never goes away These bad feelings that they feel inside So by knowing this you should know that They never get away with it Everything they did to you, no matter how small No matter how insignificant they thought it was It affects them It greatly affects them And there's nothing they can do to stop it This is just the law of the universe It's the law of exchange, karma The law of cause and effect The law of cause and effect What you do to another person You do to yourself So anything they do to you You don't have to punish them You don't have to try to get revenge Because even if you try to do that that's going to affect you And in fact it will probably affect you more than it affects them Any type of bullying It affects the bully more Studies have shown that Bullies are 10 to 25 times more likely Of developing a psychiatric condition Than their own victims This is why when someone does something bad to me I just leave it alone, I walk away I don't get involved, I don't try to fight back I just leave it because I don't want to be affected And I already know From all of the research, the studies that I've seen This is factual information It's going to come back to them 10, 20 times more Than whatever they did to me And they may not know it They may not make that connection That link That what's happening to them right now It's an effect of the things they did to me Or other people They may never realize that But that is what is happening That's why they feel the way that they do And that's why I feel the way that I do That's why I have so much energy But over the last four or five years I've been traveling around the world I've been making videos every day Live videos that are sometimes one hour, 90 minutes And I do it with ease, I've got tons of energy I've probably got enough energy to power an entire city And there's very few things that are on my conscience I sleep easily at night Because I don't do what they do I don't punish people, I don't seek revenge So I can sleep easy There's nothing that plays on my mind from the past Of course I miss my daughter and my cat It was a difficult situation with both of them I don't want to talk about it too much though But I did the best that I could I mean sometimes I lucked back And I think that I could have changed some things But I was going through a lot But when I lucked back Through the situation, throughout my life I can honestly say that I gave it my best effort I did everything that I could I gave all of my energy I always had good intentions Very rarely did I ever have an intention to harm anyone In my life My intentions were always pure And that is all that you need So never mind about trying to punish them Or take revenge It's not worth it Doing that will affect you more psychologically And if you want to have tons of energy like me Like how I do to travel the world And make all of these videos For the past five years If you want to sleep easy at night Just know that you gave it your best effort And you know that you did That's how you ended up watching my videos Because you knew that you did everything you could You couldn't do anymore So then you were seeking outside support And you can't put a price on your happiness These narcissists may have done things to you They may have stolen from you But what difference does it make to them? They're still unhappy Well, for us we don't need anything to be happy All we need is to know that We did the best that we could We had good intentions We tried to do the right thing And that's how we can sustain Our feelings of happiness and joy We can find inner peace You know what I really enjoy Is going hiking Just going for a walk out in nature Being on my own Is a great feeling for me I love just being alone with my own thoughts For a narcissist that is hell That's why they flaunt their relationships When they triangulate you Because to them that's happiness A fake relationship Or the closest thing to happiness that they can get It's where they don't have to focus on themselves Where they can be distracted by someone else Because in their heads it's just pure misery The last thing a narcissist wants Is to be left alone by themselves That's the reason for the triangulation And all the smear campaigns Because they know they've done a lot of bad things And it's haunting them It's making them feel bad So they seek constant distraction Escapism And can you imagine that Doing all of these things to people When you just can't even be by yourself You can't even be left alone to your own thoughts That's their karma That is their punishment It's never knowing True happiness, true love In a peace And these are the most valuable things in life If I could choose to have anything in this world I'd at least just want to have This inner peace This inner harmony But that's something a narcissist is never going to find They're going to keep seeking new supply But it's always going to be external They're never going to find anything good within themselves Which is why they seek constant distraction So that's my answer to this question Do they feel remorse? No But they are haunted by their actions They do feel bad They feel so bad that they just can't ever be alone If they were ever to be alone for long enough They would probably go insane or They would become suicidal You think you don't like their company They despise themselves The last thing they want is to be alone By themselves That's why they hold on to you So thank you all for watching Remember to give this video a thumbs up down below I'm seeing 140 live viewers But only 44 thumbs ups It is very important It helps you to algorithm And it will get this message out there To help other survivors So please do give this video a thumbs up down below And also subscribe and click the bell icon So that you will receive notifications for my future videos If you don't click the bell icon as well You may not get those notifications Also let me know what you think in the comment section I will be reading your comments tomorrow And if you would like to book a one-on-one with me You can book it on my website It is knocksurvivor.co.uk For all other inquiries You can send me an email Coaching at knocksurvivor.co.uk And also you can follow me on Instagram It's knocksurvivor youtube Thank you all for watching And I look forward to talking with you in another video very soon