 Hello everyone, welcome to another Nox Fiver live video. Today I am out at this park and yes in this one we're gonna be talking about what the narcissist will do in the end. Because yes, it is a guarantee if you were dealing with a narcissist or pretty much any cluster B disorder from all walks of life, from all parts of the world, they're always gonna do the same thing. And what they're going to do in the end is blame you. And it doesn't matter how much you did for them. It doesn't matter how many years you were loyal to them. All of the things you did for them, maybe you helped to raise their children. You did all of these things for the narcissist. You took them on trips, you spent lots of money on them. You did all of these things for the narcissist and they may not have done anything for you in return. But despite that at the end, yes, they're still going to blame you. They're still going to do whatever they can to bring you down. Because you have to remember that narcissist, they have this false character. And the illusion is always present. And they're doing everything in their power to support the illusion. That power comes from you. It comes from you believing in it or not having the power to do anything about it. That is what keeps the illusion going. So of course, when you consider the false character and the illusion, of course, they're going to turn around and blame you. I've said before that a narcissist really has two choices in the end and what they can do is either choose you or choose their false character. And of course, I think we already know they will always choose the false character. They're not going to choose anything else other than that. That is the only thing that they're going to do. And yes, you may want, you may desire that they would choose you over this image, this false character that they've created, but no, they are not going to do that. They will always hold on to the false self. And you have to remember that this false self is invincible. It's perfect. In their minds, there is nothing wrong with it. If you see something wrong with it, there is something wrong with you. And now they have to go around and enforce all of their little flying monkeys and start the smear campaign. Until everyone that it was all your fault, it was because of something that you did, or didn't do. But in actuality, the reason why they turn around and blame you is because for one thing they fear rejection and abandonment. And on top of that, they fear exposure. The last thing a narcissist wants is to be exposed. That is the whole point of the false character and the illusion. That's why they do that to protect themselves. Because underneath the false character is someone who is underdeveloped, someone who is very emotionally immature. And you may have seen that already when they take the mask off. You will have seen this very immature version of them, which is actually who they are. The one who is always arguing with you, that always fighting, that always blaming you for everything. They've always got a problem with you. The row is on your case. And it's just that side of them you see that is very angry behind closed doors, of course. In front of everyone else they display this false character, which is what you saw in the beginning and you believed that it was real. You thought that was who they actually are. But of course with time you began to realize the truth. You began to realize that in reality they are very different to what they portray to you. In the beginning they came across as very friendly, agreeable and easy going, as though you would have no problems with them. It was like there could be whatever you wanted them to be, whenever you wanted them to be it. But once you had been around them long enough, it wasn't long until they began to devalue you. They began to turn against you. And the reason why is because they realized at some point that you were everything that they portray themselves to be. The entire time you were that friendly, agreeable and easy going character. Yes, that was you and they portrayed themselves as that in the beginning to you. They made you believe that they were about that for real. And of course the reason why they did that is because they were reflecting back to you who you actually are and everything good about you, all of your qualities and abilities, all of these things. It reflects back to the narcissist that something is wrong with them, that the false character is not real. So of course when that happens and it goes from the love bombing to the devaluation, the only agenda after that point is to show you and everyone else that you're not who you say you are. That is the whole objective after that. And that is why in the end they enforce the flying monkeys and the smear campaign. They blame you and they try to turn everyone against you to support this false reality. And yes, I have spoken to many clients who have gone through this. When the narcissist blames them in the end and turns their entire family and friends against them, sometimes even the entire communities. And yes, of course, when this happens it's very sad because I speak to my clients and of course I know I recognize instantly. But yes, they are telling the truth about the entire social circle. And communities, yes, they are believing a lie. But a few stories where they stalk the victim, they show up at their home, at their work, they follow them to the shop, they do all of these things. And yes, it's very sad. This is just typically how it goes with narcissists. Never underestimate a narcissist. They would happily turn the entire world into an illusion, into a false reality. They would happily make everyone fake so that they blend in, so that no one can trace it back to them. And of course that is the whole point of why they always blame the victim. And yes, in every situation the victim is just further victimized by other people. They experience other forms, secondary and tertiary forms of gaslighting from their friends, their family, their social circle, the communities. And by the end of it, a lot of them, they don't even know what is right or wrong anymore. They don't even know who they are, who they were supposed to be. Because narcissists, if there's one thing they do, yes, they distort realities to the point where people can't even tell what is real. Though it's so much work to even find out that no one even takes the time and effort to find out what is real. So yes, this is just typically how it goes with narcissists. I know it's a bit of a touchy topic, but yes, this is just how it is. It's a guarantee that they will always blame you in the end. And there is no way out of that. That is the only way that it's going to end unless you manage to get away in the love-bombing phase. Then there's not much they can do about it. But once you've been with them long enough and it goes into the devaluation, there is no getting out of it after that. Once they have devalued you and they've assigned the parts that they hate about themselves onto you, that is it. Now you are an extension of them, a negative extension. And they will continue to push these traits onto you and to try to get everyone to see you in the exact same way. And yes, there is no way out of that. That is something that is never going to change. And I need you to be aware of that. I need you to know that. Because unfortunately, yes, it is the truth. Once they start to blame you and they've already assigned you to that role, that's it after that. There is no going back. And this can happen in relationships, friendships, even with narcissistic parents. And when that happens, yes, that is pretty much it for life. There really is no going back after that. You can try and get back on their good side again. You can try to feed their ego. But all that's going to happen when you do that. You're just going to end up feeling completely lost. You're going to end up feeling like you're detached from reality. Like you don't even know who you are anymore because narcissistic abuse is a very serious thing. Yes, it will erase you at a core level. It will destroy you in the end. And that is why I preach and so many other coaches preach as well. But once you have become the target, the victim of a smear campaign, and people are turning against you, they're blaming you, and you can't approach it with a logical argument. People are getting very emotional. The only thing you can do after that is just leave. You have got to get away. That is really the only thing you can do because, yes, it is indefinite. I've spoke to many clients and, of course, I've done a lot of research myself over the past five years. And I can tell you that there isn't a single situation where the smear campaign has been turned around and people have began to believe the victim or target over the narcissist. That never happens. And I can pretty much guarantee that it will never happen. Because you have to understand that narcissists, they have a lot of experience. They've done this many times before to a lot of people. They've managed to turn friends, family, social circles, communities against other people before you. And if you paid attention to the things they said in the beginning in the love-bombing phase, yes, you would have recognized that. They've already driven other people crazy as well and turned everyone against them. So, of course, when they come on to you, it's a piece of cake. They've already had that experience before and it's been very effective. So there isn't much you can do about that. The only thing you can do, as I said, is leave. Yes, that is the only thing that you can do. There is no other way out of it. I don't know, you may think, maybe my narcissist is different. Maybe they will listen to me. Maybe they will change. Maybe the people in my social circle, they've known me for such a long period of time. Maybe they will understand me. No, they are never going to understand you. Because you are the victim. You are the target. And once you have been targeted, you have been victimized and they've done all of these things to you. There is no reverse in that. They've got so many skeletons in the closet. There's just no way back. What can they do about it now? And of course, they know that, they recognize it. That's the whole point, because once they start the smear campaign, they already know they understand that it's gone too far. They know that they've burnt the bridge already. They already know that you're never going to see them in the same way ever again. And if you look back, you will recognize, yes, you said certain things to them. Maybe you did certain things which reveal to them that, yes, you're on to them. You know exactly what they're about. And you're not going to believe in their lies ever again and you may even go on and try to expose them. Yes, once you've done that, it's all over. It's too late. There is no going back. And it doesn't matter how great of a supply you were or thought you were to the narcissist. That is completely irrelevant. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter how much you did for them. They can replace you very easily once you're on to them. Once they fear that you'll begin to expose them. Especially if other people are starting to notice on their own. If other people are starting to recognize that you're being abused. And I've had that in my own experience. Sometimes we would go to restaurants and the narcissist friends or coworkers. They would just notice straight away. They could tell. But it was being abused for a very long time. Like I didn't even smile anymore. I always had my head down. And sometimes they would just come up and say, Yes, they know exactly what's going on. But even when that happens, you could be sure that you will never see those people again. That's how they support the false reality, the illusion. They do it by ignoring or cutting off anyone who believes something else. Anyone who believes that you're not bad, evil, crazy, wrong. Anyone who believes that you will never see them. You will not be able to contact them. They will be too afraid to come anywhere near you. You will never see them. Of course it does depend on just how extreme the smear campaign is. It depends on how powerful. The narcissist you are dealing with is. Because of course, yes, there are some narcissists out there. They don't have too many connections. They're not very influential. They haven't had a lot of experience at millibillion people. So with those types of narcissists, there's only so much they can do. But what I'm talking about is. Malignant narcissism. Even psychopathy. These higher levels of narcissism. Yes, they will stop at nothing. To control and to destroy you. The lower level narcissist, there's not too much they can do. They will just use you for as much supply as they can. And once you're not working anymore in the way that they might like. Then they'll just cut you off. They'll just get rid of you. And they might make the occasional phone call to your job. Trying to get you fired. But they're not going to put too much effort into it. It's only the narcissist who really. You know, they see you as that extension of them. Once they start seeing you as the extension. As this possession, something that belongs to them. Of course, yes, they are going to be extremely controlling. And they are going to do whatever it takes to bring you down. To destroy you. So yes, you do need to be aware of that. But yes, if you have experienced the end of the relationship already. The narcissist. Blamed you. They turned everyone against you. As I've mentioned in this video, you've just got to leave. That is the only thing that you can do. I know it's very difficult. I can understand. Especially if you spent your entire life in a certain place. You may have had a lot of friends there. A job, all of these things. I know. But seriously. If you are going through. A smear campaign with a higher level narcissist. And it's been going on for some time already. Trust me, that is never going to end. It's always going to be like that once they see you as an extension. As this possession. Because that already means that. They don't even see you as a real person. They don't even see you as a separate human being. And that is why they will. Dehumanize you. They will do everything in their power to bring you down. Because. Yes, they see you as less than a person. They see you as just an object. And once they see you as that. There is no going back. I mean, with narcissists, they're only ever going to see you as that anyway. But it just doesn't happen where someone objectifies a person. And then later they see you as a real person. That never happens. Yes, they may try to manipulate you and make you think that. Suddenly now. Yes, they've had this epiphany. They recognize all of these qualities in you. And they're so sorry they mistreated you all of that time. All of those years. Don't believe it. It is a lie. People do not change. Contrary to common belief. It may appear as though someone has changed, but actually. They were that way the entire time. They were always like that. People can be very good at wearing a mask. Maybe they think that who they actually are. Is not appropriate or not welcomed in certain situations. But that doesn't mean that it isn't actually who they are. Just because they hide it. Like narcissists, they wear a mask. That does not mean that that's who they actually are. As we know, that's not them at all. Narcissists are very different to how they portray themselves. As many of you will know. And that is why these smear campaigns can be so powerful. Just remember in the beginning how they managed to manipulate you. You spent all of these months or years with them. And they lied to you. They future faked. They made you believe in this possible future with them. Where you would get what you want. Yes, they did a good job at manipulating you. And you've got to think just how powerful that is. For their flying monkeys. When they're manipulating them. They're very good at selling a dream. And making people believe something that isn't true. But for you, you had a completely different role with a narcissist. You were the victim, the target. Flying monkeys are typically narcissistic as well. They often have at least one cluster B disorder. And just because for you, you think, oh, I started to catch on. I started to wake up. I started to realize what was going on. It's a completely different situation for flying monkeys. Because many of them are narcissistic. Or they have some other cluster B disorder. So they're never going to have that epiphany. They're never going to wake up because there's no incentive for them to do that. I mean, clearly if someone is going out of their way to target and harass you. That should instantly tell you that they lack empathy. They're self-centered. They're self-absorbed. So they're not concerned about you. And many people think that these types of people, maybe one day they'll have this epiphany. And they'll suddenly change. That's just not going to happen. Not with these types of people. They hold grudges for life. Once you do even one thing wrong, you reject or abandon the narcissist. You threaten to expose them. They're never going to forgive you for that. Never. And yeah, you can let me know down below. I mean, I don't think I'm going to receive even one comment. Where anyone can say that once they were blamed by the narcissist, the narcissist came back, forgave them, let go of the grudge. The smear campaign just finished. It was gone. Everything went back to normal. I'm very confident that no one watching this video will be able to comment down below and say that. Because it is indoctrination. It's brainwashing. And believe it or not, but indoctrination and brainwashing is most effective on narcissistic individuals. Because those are the ones who are very gullible. They could be sold a dream and they find it very difficult to let go. Remember, they don't attach properly. So they also don't detach from things as well. It develops into obsessions, addictions. As we know, narcissists always have some addiction. They're all very addicted to people. And aside from that, there's also drugs, alcohol, gambling, shopping, all of these things. So yes, they get addicted very easily. These types of people do because they're missing a lot of things within. They're missing a lot of things within. They lack a strong sense of self. They're literally at the mercy of everyone else. Easily influenced and you will recognize that when you were dealing with them in the beginning, they reflected back to you whatever they thought you wanted to see. And then it was almost like they became that. And then they discard you, they find someone else and create a new identity for them. So, no, they will never see the light. People do not change whoever they are, but that's who they're always going to be. If they're a genuinely good, kind-hearted person, they will typically get better with time. As they begin to learn new things, they have more experiences, they gain more knowledge and wisdom. They will generally get better with time. But narcissists, they get worse with time. They become even more manipulative, even more deceptive and abusive, more bitter and resentful with each failed new relationship. So with time, they only get worse. It's never going to go away. And I do not take any pleasure in saying that. I mean, I wish I could tell you something different. I mean, as you know, I do believe in free will. I believe that everyone has the right to live their lives how they choose. But unfortunately with narcissists, once you've got involved with one, it's really a big mistake. One of the biggest mistakes you will ever make in your life. And I'm sure many of you will regret it. You may wish that you could go back in time and make a different decision and not get involved with narcissists because they get you caught up in all of this stuff. All of these problems, they bring you down. You may have had no problems in your life until then. You may have been fine. But then they pile all of this stuff on top of you. And it's just too overwhelming. You don't even want to deal with anything. I know I've been there. I understand. But this is just how it is. This is just how it's going to be. The best thing you can do is just move on as soon as you can. Leave the situation, the environment, because once they get too dependent on you, they're not going to be able to let you go. Even if you move to other cities or the countries, the narcissists may have friends or family there. And they'll be watching you. They'll be stalking you. They'll be bringing information back to the narcissist on how they can further manipulate you. It's just not going to be better. These types of people, they always get worse with time. Abuses, manipulative people, they always get worse. Well, people like us, of course, yes, we tend to get better with time. And that's also what they're afraid of. Because the more experience we have in life, we start to learn new things. And we just become better people all around. And of course, yes, the narcissist knows that. That's the last thing they want. They don't want to see you doing better without them. That is the last thing they want to see. The narcissist just wants you to be whoever they want you to be. And they want you to do what they want you to do. And it's never going to be any different other than that. It's always going to be that way. They're never going to let you be you. They're never going to accept you as you actually are. Because, as I said, they've had a lot of experience with their manipulation. And it's been very effective for them in the past. They've broken people down. They've driven them crazy. They've done all of these things to them. If you listen to them talk about the Rexes, I'm sure you already know that many of them went through a lot with the narcissist. Maybe they were driven insane as well. A few situations where victims of narcissists die. They lose their lives. And in the end they are still blamed for everything. No one ever knows the truth. So yeah, the best thing you can do is just get out as soon as you can. Don't stay in the relationship with the narcissist. And don't let them know that you're on to them. Because that is the biggest mistake you can make. Don't confront them. Don't try to expose them. Because that is automatically what will begin the smear campaign. And I've experienced this so many times. I've experienced multiple smear campaigns. And I've always noticed the exact same thing. When you start to blame them, you confront them. And they already know you're not going to have a change of mind. It's the end for you after that. They're going to blame you. They're going to turn everyone against you and try to get everyone to see you the same way. It always ends the same. With all narcissists from all walks of life, from every part of the world. The only thing they're ever going to do is manipulate you and everyone else. And that is how you should already know exactly what you are dealing with. So yeah, that's really it. This is what they do in the end. Looks like we've got a few trolls in the live chat. As usual. Amazing YT to take off your shirt. I don't think I'll be doing that right now. But yes, this is just how it is with these narcissists. All they can do is manipulate you. And why? It's to get your attention. It's to get other people's attention. They just want people to do what they want. They want to have an influence. They want to have power and control. And that's not always a bad thing. It's just, what are you using it for? I mean, clearly on this channel, on my TikTok, everything. I have a lot of influence. I have power. I have control. I have all of these things. But again, what am I using it for? I'm using this to motivate and inspire people, to change people's lives. But with narcissists, it's the opposite. It's self-serving. They just want to control you for their own benefit. And it's never going to be any different to that. Even when you may think that they're beginning to change, they start to learn more about themselves, their insecurities, all of these things. No, they've just heard you talk about it. They already know what you think is wrong with them. And they look at it like, yes, it would be wrong if someone else did that. Especially if they were to do it to me, but for me to do it, no, that's okay. It's justified. I have a reason, I'm hurt. Life has been so unfair to me, so now I can do whatever I want. Yes, believe it or not, but that is exactly how narcissists think. They believe that the world was against them, life was unfair. So now people owe them the world. Now they get to do whatever they want. It's crazy, I know, but this is just how it is. And you'll never get any compassion or understanding from them. They lack empathy. All they care about is themselves. And unfortunately, as you've probably noticed, this is the reality of the world today. I think it's fair to say that, yes, we do live in a narcissistic world. And to see that, you've only got to look on television, social media, dating apps. It's everywhere. Everywhere you look, you see narcissism. And even just in day-to-day life, you may find that people are not as considerate as they once were. But I'm sure most of you will watch my videos. You're still that type of person who cares about other people. And that's really what I want to promote on my channel. I mean, I know I am just one man. I can't change the entire world, of course. I recognize that, but I at least want to do my part to educate people, to get them to understand the value of empathy. Instead of just going about and only thinking about ourselves. Because yes, there are people out there who need our help. There are people out there who are going through certain situations, they're being abused. And the truth is that most people don't even care. I mean, just look at things if you've ever had to deal with the police or the courts. Because of a narcissist, you won't know exactly what I'm talking about. They always favor the narcissist. A narcissist are often in management positions. They're doctors, they're lawyers, they're therapists. They're the leaders of the world. The elites. Yes, this world has been taken over by narcissists. Which is why I think it's so important to make these videos. And I'm very happy when I see people are watching them. And they're contributing to this channel. Leaving their comments, they're sharing the videos. That's very important. Because yes, it's almost like there's a war going on in the world today. And we need to show people who we are and what we stand for. Which is why again, I advise against confronting or exposing the narcissist and especially trying to get revenge. We don't want to blur the lines of who we are. Because when you do that, it can be very difficult to tell who the good people are. So we must show ourselves by our actions. Show people who we are. Show that we are different. We stand up for different things. And by doing that, I think it will help. I'm not saying it's going to change the world. But we have to do something. We can't just give up. If you believe that something is right, if something is important to you, you must stand up for that. And that's what I do. That's the whole purpose of my work. And I will do that until the day I die. I will never sell my soul. I will never put out anything different to that. It's been my purpose from the very beginning. And it will always be who I am and what I stand for. That's never going to change. So if anyone one day tries to smear me on YouTube or something, and they start telling you all of these things, just remember this. Remember my videos. Remember my message, what I stand for. This is always what I've been about. Love. Loyalty. Trust. Loyalty. Trust and faith. These things have always been important to me. And they will continue to be as well. Which is why I will continue to promote these things for the rest of my life. Until the day I die. That's never going to change. No matter what anyone does to me. No matter what happens in my life. My purpose always comes first. And I'm definitely a man who is willing to die to protect my purpose. I'm definitely a man who is willing to die to do that. It's my mission. It's my job. It's my work. It's what I must do. I hope that I can be an inspiration, a model to you, someone who you can look up to. You can believe in. I'm not saying that I'm perfect. Of course not. I have made a lot of mistakes in my life. But with that I gained experience and I gained knowledge. And I do believe that with time I am becoming a better person and much more wiser and knowledgeable than I was even just one year ago. But yes, narcissists, of course as we know they're never going to be about any of that. They're never going to be about any of that at all. What they will be about is manipulating and trying to destroy you. Just why you must protect yourself. Be very cautious and just continue to watch these videos. Educate yourself. You can book a session with me as well anytime. I do one-on-ones and we can discuss your situation, the things you're going through. I can help you with that. So yeah, that's it for this one. For one-on-one sessions you can book on my website NarcSurviver.co.uk Until the next video please give it a thumbs up, share, subscribe. Let me know your thoughts in the comment section. And I will talk to you soon. Thank you.