 Okay, so this is a kind of a long-winded question from Abadi Kyle, and there's some names involved. I'm going to keep the names anonymous just in case it's not something he would like to share with everyone. So the question starts off. He says, hey, this has happened twice to me now with one girl from before and now last night with another girl I really like. I had a lucid dream that I was happily married to someone and then she died on me in a dream. It wasn't scary but I felt emotional because it feels real and when I awakened I still had the feelings they're still here and very strong. He says he fell in love with her in his dream and he woke up and obviously this feeling was still with him. He was experiencing the emotional sort of aftermath of that and he then says, what do I do? I wake up and feel what I dreamt but I can't control them which is interesting and I'll get to this in a minute. They're so real but then they're not, if that makes sense. Then he says, yep, everything is done like you said in the email. He used the wait-back-to-bed technique I believe which is where you, I'll probably link to another video, you set your alarm for two hours earlier than you would normally wake up and then that obviously interrupts your sleep just before or during your REM sleep which is obviously your rapid eye movement which is the time which you're most likely to have a lucid dream. So he has tried that technique, that's worked for him, great. And he then says, ah, this is sort of the other part of the question. He says that when he looked at his phone, this is where he set his alarm for the wait-back-to-bed technique. He can't recall if it was, so I'm just reading this question here. Okay, he looked at the phone and it was hard to understand. So he looked at the screen and there was like no status bar at the top. There's normally a signal thing where it says signal, carrier and the battery. That wasn't there. So what has happened there is he's had what's called a false awakening which is where you dream about waking up and it feels very real. It feels like you're doing all the things you would normally do when you wake up but of course it's false and you're still dreaming. You're dreaming about waking up from a dream which is a very weird experience. Okay, so we're going to start at the very top. Having an emotional reaction in a lucid dream or experiencing, I'm going to use quotes here, love in a lucid dream can be very confusing when you wake up because obviously it feels real just in the same way that lucid dreaming sex or any other experience you can have in a lucid dream feels very real. It's important to realise that it is a dream and obviously when you wake up maybe don't go sort of calling this girl saying you know, I love you and everything because the chances are that she, well she might feel the same but of course you have to realise that you've had a subjective experience which means that you experience this in your dream and it's not something tangible that's happened in the real world. So obviously if I'm not going to give a relationship advice here but if you do feel an emotional connection to her if you do feel like you love her in real life then maybe the dream is just a manifestation of that and it's just sort of confirming to you your feelings on her, feelings towards her. So obviously that's something you can explore yourself if that's something you want to do. But in terms of having a love experience in a dream it's not obviously real but it can suggest something about your feelings for someone in real life so that's something to think about maybe you do have feelings for her, I don't know. Now going on to the, so yes sorry to summarise what should I do, I don't know it's up to you because obviously you know this girl I assume and it's something you have to decide what to do. But in terms of the dream, if you couldn't really control it then I would argue that it wasn't really a lucid dream at all but maybe just a very vivid, regular dream that you woke up and had a good memory of you had a good dream recall and it feels like you just did it but if you weren't aware of yourself dreaming and if you couldn't control exactly what it was that you were doing then I would argue that you didn't have a lucid dream that's near the hill there. So the second part of your question is the false awakening part where you looked at your phone and you couldn't see you couldn't see the time or the carrier, no signal bar that was a false awakening it may have felt like a real awakening and in that sort of time during the morning you can get confused between the dream and waking life because you're sort of half asleep if that makes any sense you're half conscious, half unconscious and you sometimes can feel like you were awake when in fact you were dreaming about being awake and looking at a phone so it's a perfectly normal phenomenon this is called a false awakening and it's nothing to worry about you just need to be a bit more focused in your reality checks and in your mental state when you first wake up and you first see your alarm do a reality check, make sure that you're actually awake and then try and go back to sleep do the normal visualisation whatever techniques you like to use for the way back to bed method okay so I hope that answers your question Kyle if you have any questions please send them in to contact at howtolucid.com or just tweet them, send a message to the YouTube channel the Facebook page, wherever you would like to contact me also please don't forget to subscribe it really does help me and it means that you can see my videos as they're posted because if you're an email subscriber thank you very much for being an email subscriber of course but bear in mind that I don't send my YouTube videos to my email list I keep them separate because obviously I'm going to be posting quite a lot of YouTube videos I don't want to annoy my email subscribers but at the same time if you would like to see regular video updates then just subscribe to the channel and you'll get both, you'll get the emails and the YouTube subscriptions okay thank you for watching