 This is the most is doing this podcast and the reason why I'm doing this podcast after 12 years is I had a big aha Last week. I was listening myself to another podcast and I heard something extraordinary. This is really I don't know if you guys know Adam Apollo incredibly articulate smart gentlemen and He was saying About meditation and how hard it is for many people these days to meditate we're all so busy and just quiet the mind Or you know even have the capacity literally time-wise, but he was saying like for him sword fighting is Meditation as I was listening to him speak. I had this Incredible aha, and I realized oh That's what the show is for me. It's a meditation. It's the time when I feel like incredibly present fully Engrossed and engaged with my guests and their brilliance of what they have to share and I'm always really excited I feel like a little kid and And I also feel like I get to show up at a master class So has it getting better than to be doing something you truly love and I'll be bringing stage Kingsley Goddard on in a minute And she is a healer. She's going to be talking about our boundaries And I don't know about you, but as good as I've gotten loaded with many years I have to say I still am finding new places to use my voice in new ways and we're also going to be talking about mother wound So some of you may be resonating quite a bit with that. So I can hear sage writing away And so I want to talk to you just a little bit about becoming a co-creator right I know sage is chomping a bit. We will bring her on But I really want to talk about becoming a co-creator and this is what I know This is a lot of the space I'm living in right now is about sort of taking back power And not living in or with but making a different choice and I'll explain because Something on me talking about is on my finger here Becoming a co-creator. So what do I mean by that? You know, all of us are learning right? We're constantly evolving and there's our true self. There's our highest self And we can as we access and align with that manifest from the state of grace And if we move further into that perspective Then we can see our role very clearly as creator co-creator In life in everything because core consciousness means that we are one with the creative consciousness of the universe And that means that our intentions are manifested solely Either through will Or through being a passive observer. What do you think? I don't know about being a passive observer, right? I mean sometimes just being in the flow can be a lot of grace But it also means that it's not through will sheer will either There's some some other mechanism that happens think about how you create So today I suggest that we all step into the role of conscious partnership in creating life And the state of creativity it can be so humbling. It can be so elevating. It can be so blissful all at the same time and Here's a little story for you I lost this ring and sorry. I'm doing this I'm on my middle finger, but I I lost this ring, which I don't usually wear on the middle finger and I was beside myself because I don't you know, look I used to make jewelry here some of the jewelry I made I used to have a jewelry company I sold to five stores across the United States. I have jewelry But I just have very few pieces that there is something significant and this this piece is significant this giant Massive gold ring with this giant blue lapis lazuli lazuli. I never said have even when I made jewelry I never said it right lazuli. Anyway, you know what I'm saying gorgeous like a midnight navy blue stone gold in it and If this has felt like if I could be wonder woman This has always been the ring I put on and I'm a small person and yet Wearing big objects like this on my fingers. There's just something like I am supposed to right? It's it's meant to be it really is a power object lost the ring beside myself My mom is Alzheimer's. I'm helping her move and pack and this and that And I'm thinking did I leave it at my boyfriend's did I leave it drop it in my place? Did I lose it in my mom's like? Oh my god so many exponential possibilities? And I have really searched my place looking and looking Nothing gym bag nothing And I finally got pissed three days later and said oh, okay Well, how did I forget? I totally went into This numbspace and I forgot my own potency. So I took it back and I said To my ring which I've done with every object I've ever lost and I spoke to it because everything is energy and I said You have been on me. I have been on you our energies have connected. We know one another you are mine I am yours come back to me. I don't care how you materialize, but do it clearly cleanly and easily I want you back now now, right? So mode of B and I literally came home Shower I did this in the shower at the gym came home Unpacked my gym bag and I'm telling you I checked it three times bam Ring at the bottom of the bag So I'm telling you it was a beautiful reminder for me to always bring back the power that I can speak to anything In the universe and then I was sharing with a friend. Okay, so if that's possible what happens And we hear you typing girl and what happens when you do that with wealth you call in wealth You know wealth you've had money in your pocket. I don't care if it's been 50 cents or $50 or $50,000 You know money money knows you your energy knows it call it back in or a career or a love or a body or a Health you know these things you've had these things this lifetime or another I know i'm preaching right now, but I've got to say That reminder happens spark me all over the place. Just consider what's possible Because we are all co-creators Yes, yeah So I offer you the thought for today, which is I enjoy Being a co-creator so you have the power So use the power and if you are given the dream you're also given the power to make it come true this I know for sure Uh Shardom said the universe as we know it is a joint product of the observer and the observed Thanks for joining us today on the show Dare to dream has been nominated for two people's pod podcast choice awards This show is available on over 40 syndicated outlets and if you want And I hope you do subscribe because if you love this show and god I just love hearing from you folks. 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Dane here h e e r dot com As well as access consciousness dot com So my question to you is do you know how to stop over giving and have bad ass boundaries? Do you want to know how to be better at receiving allowing receiving? My guest today is sage kingsley goddard She was voted the world's number one law of transfer of attraction. That was interesting law of attraction teacher She is a transformationist and she's known out in the world as the prosperous goddess Sage has personally gone through spiritual fire and transformation from bankruptcy to over a million dollars from homelessness To dream home from divorced to married now 21 years to her twin flame soulmate She lives and loves to the fullest Sage is a highly gifted clairvoyant or a reader archangel michael channel and divine Alignment coach. She's helped tens of thousands worldwide Experience greater enlightenment empowerment and enrichment by clearing out their blocks She's a number one international best-selling author a dynamic speaker as well as a shamanic Hypnotherapist reiki and money reiki master teacher and mother wound healer You can find more about my guest at prosperous goddess Calm and I welcome the beautiful sage kingsley goddard Hooray. Oh my gosh debbie. You are so right on Absolutely, I love your story about the ringing. Thank you so much for having me. You're on dare to dream This is just one of the best podcasts anywhere And everybody listening totally should jump into the dare to dream tribe here because all of your guests Are phenomenal and are really wise and loving and visionary world changers So it's an honor to be here among this esteemed group of world-changing people Yeah Have you and and I love how we met and I love how our relationship is starting and and it's a new and I'm fascinated by what you're doing and being creating in the world when you and I sage spoke recently you made it clear that what We are working on once it's healed you made this remark to me and I made note of it You said what when we're working on something And then we heal it It becomes ours to master and then teach Which was a beautiful way of how I've set it out in the world Like your wound becomes your gift your mess becomes your message and I really And the subject I know we agree to talk about today is about over giving boundaries and I want to start first with you And find out is this something in your life? You've had to master or Be a process around did you have a journey around boundaries and over giving yourself? Oh my goodness heavens. Yes Yeah, absolutely. I I am a walking textbook case Of everything that I teach and some things I learned the hard way some things I learned the easy way And it's my joy to help others learn the easier way right because who doesn't want that who wants the easy way Right. I know exactly and for me the issue of over giving and not receiving It affected me health wise as well as with abundance as well as with a Just stream of mr. Not quite right after another And revolving door of painful relationships. So all of those life areas everything, you know, health, wealth, love, happiness was Impeded by that and the first Book that spirit wrote through me Was called radiant radical self-love and now it's just an online course radiant radical self-love But I had to learn that myself So all of that information that came through about learning to open learning to allow learning to receive Really deepening my self-love because I thought I loved myself. I mean most people think yeah Yeah, I love myself, you know, I want the best in life. Of course I do But there's there was something else there were layers I call it layers levels and lifetimes Of junk and gunk that was in the way And life is so much easier and so much more of an experience of freedom You and I were talking about freedom and how important that is financial freedom time freedom Location freedom and that's what I'm all about helping people to achieve But it really isn't just about the actions the actions are important We definitely need to do action and not just be like singing kumbaya and praying and meditating all day long, right? You know, we need to take action But if we don't take a lined action at the right time, I don't we haven't cleared enough of the blocks out And done our magnetism for attracting what we really want if we're not even clear about what we want Then all these actions are just going to be like the hamster wheel, you know I'm working really hard and I'm going nowhere fast, you know kind of thing So that's the shortest answer to your really important question. I'm glad that you asked that That's true about us having a core wound Taking it on to be healed then mastering it Then I assumed you would have and you're very good at teaching this that you would have something around this I decided I wanted so much because I feel like First of all, I feel like this subject is huge. It is. This is several shows right here Yeah And a and a class and more You know, even with what I teach sage because I teach visibility. I teach how to be How to use media how to be interviewed how to write a book how to become a best scholar I coach people on this But I have to say even with this to create those things You need boundaries because you need time and capacity to become way bigger Play a way bigger game than you've been playing You need boundaries right to say hell. Yes. I am that I am I deserve my voice to be heard You need boundaries against any of those limitations you've been walking around with that no longer serve you So I love this subject and I'm going to pepper some of our conversation with some quotes Good Right, so let's It was Rachel Wolchin who said givers need to set limits because takers rarely do Oh That is so right on That is so right on and most of us like our tribe your tribe my tribe our collective tribe We're heart centered people We're spiritual people where people who are focusing on consciousness who want to help others who want to make a difference in the world But if we keep giving giving giving giving We get burned out and you know, we keep putting ourselves on the back burner too much We can't we burn out you know you burn out and we can't give from an empty cup from an empty vessel And that really shows up with interpersonal relationships, but it also shows up in business It also shows up with our finances and you're absolutely right and the boundaries mean saying yes To what we really want, but it also means saying no And one of my wise girlfriends her mother taught her she had a very wise mother Who taught her no is a complete sentence And how many of us givers and women, you know We feel like we have to apologize for no or we have to have a but or you know that kind of thing And you know, sometimes we need to really strengthen what I call your our no muscle So that we can also really utilize our yes muscle because we we can do Anything but we can't do everything So it's so important to be Financial boundaries. What what did you mean by that because you were giving a list of the ways it impacts us? But I I had never considered that before so how our finances impacted sure So it really comes down to how we're spending our time And also how we're investing like the the mentors that we're choosing the programs that we're choosing how we're learning There's a lot of people nowadays who have what I call bright shiny program syndrome It's like oh, I need that I need that one I need that one. I need that one. I need that one And I actually had one person who's lined up for one of my courses Told me she was in 10 other programs at the same time and I'm like girlfriend Stop the bleeding already. Like it's insanity. Like stop insanity So we gave we gave her a chance to kind of take a hold for starting hours until she could kind of cross them Or other things off of her checklist, but it's crazy. So, you know, we have to have discernment and the intuition Such an important part of that because otherwise we get caught up in other people's excitement Right or what someone else thinks that we should do The truth is really within us Accessing our highest truth. There are times when we couldn't benefit from an intuitive guide I really feel like everybody needs more intuitive development training because that's what I'm all about So you don't have to keep coming to me for readings or someone else or this person or that person But you can read for yourself as much as possible, you know, and that discernment and trusting we're all connected 24 7365 infinity is I like to say we just have stuff in the way You know of that. So, yeah, I hope I answered your question a bit when you when I was when I was opening the show I heard you furiously writing and then I heard you furiously typing and the audience did too What was what was going on? What was on fire for you? I was speaking because I felt you too at the same time I am so on fire about all of this. It's just like amazing, you know I definitely want to get into the the issues of the male and female energy and the mother wound And what I was writing was about that that mother wound and that where We are conscious creators with our universe. I call it y o u universe the universe because Everything out here is a reflection of of in here So what I would love to share Debbie is I think it helps to have a framework Because we can go here and here and here and we have lots of you and I could talk for like 20 hours Like totally if they just keep the tea and coffee and healthy food coming, you know Right, I mean we have so much to share and we're we're such kindred spirits I think a really important framework is that there's there's three keys To manifesting Your dream life and thank you for sharing what you did about my journey when you were sharing my bio Some people might not know that one of our courses was actually voted the number one love attraction program in the world When it came out a few years ago, but that That the accolade isn't as important to me as the fact that it means I can help more people That's that's what's the great thing about that, right? But what makes this unique Like the approach to love attraction is that we go deeper and higher and this is what I mean So the first thing we have to do is define and we have a three-step process define a line shine I like to play with words. So I like to rhyme So i'll put it and they know it sometimes I show it right so define Means we need to be clear about what we want It's funny because the synchronicity of the universe driving home this morning just today I heard the joe jackson song. I'm an eighties music girl You might be too You might be joe jackson and he had a song called it went like this you can't get what you want Till you know what you want You know and it's like oh right so back in the eighties joe jackson was preaching it that we need to know what we want There's also the concept that sometimes god goddess universe knows something even better So I always add the cover my butt claws like this or something even better Thy will be done but but it does help to have a clear vision and Some people dream too big and they're like pie in the sky and then they get caught up and you know Oh, yeah, i'm gonna make a million dollars a month and you know this year and then when they don't reach that goal They feel like a failure So sometimes we have to kind of scale up to things and make it you know realistic But stretch a little bit more than what feels realistic But most people I think dream too small. Wouldn't you agree debbie? That they they might not actually visualize Their full potential of how amazing they are and what a bigger impact they can have and people like you who help with That's stepping up Bigger in the world, you know, your that's what your program is dared to dream. It's like hey, you know, you're put here For a bigger purpose you are put here to Have a bigger impact and leave a bigger legacy Yeah, so that defining Um is knowing what you want It's also trusting your intuition and I know I say that I'm probably going to say that word like 17 times in this hour together Because I am such you know, I'm so on that soapbox that you know When we trust our intuition and we're living more intuitively that power within us Like you're talking about your magic experience with your ring And that was your intuition that said to you wait a minute I have the power to do this. I can summon my ring back my ring and I are friends I just need to do this thing, right? I don't have to be caught up in this emotional You know wig out I can go wait. I've got the power. I'm just going to reach that out I call it reaching out with your spirit hands You know or there's another technique I call I use for lost objects Which I call the golden fishing line the golden fishing line. You can tap your third eye picture a golden cord Send it out to your whatever it is you want to bring in could be a lost object But it could also be your twin flame slow made it could also be your perfect job your wonderful clients Your dream home whatever your new car and you bring it in And when it lands in your third eye, it lands then down into your heart and your hands and you're like, yes Here it is. Whoo. And you feel that that energy of that. Whoo. Yes, it is. Thank you. Thank you for coming to me You know, so there's so many techniques for that, right? That's one that it works so fast When we use those techniques that are really aligned for us and that are right for us So trusting our intuition clear vision dreaming the right size dream And knowing that we that we deserve that, you know, so that's really kind of all the defined step about the vision Right, and um, do you want to pipe in for a second because I'm I'm I can just go on and on but Jump in anytime and then I can also tell you about more about the aligned step But yeah, what's free to do that? I I mean, I have a couple of questions for you Let's let's get the rest of that process Should I I do want to say is for people who would like to see because sage just did a demonstration of that So if you love visual and you'd like to follow along You can also go to youtube.com slash debbie dashinger and you can watch this and of course the replay will be there at infinitum Amen, and debbie is d And dashinger is d is and david a c h i n g e r spill the name right and you reach gold Okay, beautiful Is it define shine a line or define a line shine? Okay, right and for different goals that we have in life We might be kind of more at one step and something else we might be more at the other and we are doing them simultaneously and concurrently But if you're not yet living your dream life in some area of your life I guarantee it means you need to go deeper with one or more of these either your define needs more Expansion or clarity more intuition brought in there or you're aligned or you're shine. So let's pop into a line So a line Is more about the healing. It's more about the energy You know the define is like what do I want? What do I deserve giving myself permission to desire that and to ask the universe for that and the align is okay Is there some way in which I've been getting in my own way? Is there something? Preventing me. Have I been preventing myself in some way from living this right because the outer is absolutely Always and I know they talk about this next as consciousness, too It's you know aligning you have to ask those right questions and you have to align So what I work with and and thank you for talking about my healing work. It's Soul healing would really be the best way to describe it. It's energy healing. Yes, there's heart It's body-lined heart and soul but what I have seen and I've been a healer for 26 years. Wow, that makes me sound really old, right? I ain't just the perfect age to be me Um, that that's a lot of years. Um, what I've seen is that the root causes for things are often at the soul level and that could be life Yeah, that's past life stuff. It could be ancestral and familial Life from your mother's side your father's side. It could even be prior to their lifetime There is definitely stuff from childhood. Sometimes there's even in utero Which is also kind of coming under familial, you know ancestral Most of the time the original causes are prior to this lifetime Which means we have to actually heal it at the root cause And most people don't know how to heal their own root causes Or even if they know how and they have tools and they're like a super powerful healer We tend to need support for that because it's kind of that shadow work. It's that deep dark Justy musty, uh, you know kind of Most people could change things They would but they don't have access like they know something's off They can see a good pattern a repeated result. They don't want it to keep happening But yeah, it's very difficult. So can I take what you're saying and use an example and let's explore that a little bit? Sure, please do. So here we have Define a line shine and I'm assuming shine means ta-da you put the light out into the world And it's the action and it's getting it out into the world. Exactly, right? Yeah powerful dare to define Align and shine so I'm going to mix the two together boundaries And mother core mother wound so I think anyone who's a healer reads energy Look, I ain't gonna lie, right? I'm totally transparent. I did not grow up under great conditions And it was Very difficult, you know And I am at a place in my life right now where my mother has Alzheimer's I would say and I could be Really off of this number, but it's my guesstimation. She's about 65 capacity Meaning 65% acidity. I feel very grateful for that really grateful I'm the only one here in the west coast my family in the east coast two male members are really pitching in But being the only one here physically It is effing exhausting and it's every effing day and it's constant throughout the day and constant throughout the night There is no fire that goes out the fire is freaking blazing over every hilltop and I mean Yeah, sometimes I just break down because I'm finite So I'm finding a new way to use my voice doesn't mean it's always received You know, but I'm finding a kind but clear way to say hey man There's only so much of me and I can't do that, but I can do this I'm still using it and I'm finding boundaries. I'm also clear In the insanity where I could step back and go. Why me? Why did I have a difficult mom? But I'm the one taking care of her Why am I not able at a time when I've been called to become a healer clearly from the divine at a much higher level And I'm really wanting to step into that Am I being taken so off course because my life is kind of no longer my own and at the same time I have this higher awareness happening, which is I am so So Amazed and grateful and humbled by the perfection of life By a mother who the for the first time my life says I love you I had to wait this long by a mother who said last night that I'm one of her best friends I mean anyone who knows what it's been like. This is Really amazing And that I'm showing up for somebody with a caring kind heart a frustrated resentful heart sometimes But also kind loving and caring that's I recognize the potential for healing But I but but there's a lot swirling and all of that. There is motherland. There is Where are my boundaries and and if I speak up that sometimes I feel guilty because this Stuff still has to get done. Where does it begin and end and how do I extricate myself and have a life? And I want to go to a holiday party and yeah, so I because this is a big example I'm giving you but I want to give something that big indeed For people to have some experience of you And what's possible and they could maybe see themselves in this so may I turn that over to you? Yes, absolutely. And first I really want to honor you for your deep authentic raw totally real heart share And it takes a lot of courage And it takes a lot of truth telling and self love to do that And I love that about you debbie. I'm like that too with my tribe where I don't try to present that like my life is always perfect And you know, I'm inhuman. I'm some kind of supernatural like oh she channels angels like she's like a superhuman We're all human Yeah, and we have stuff and no matter how involved we are or how powerful the manifestor we are We're going to have painful situations in life like this with your mom And um with your mom Let me focus on you and your mom and then I'll share a little bit about what's going on with my mothers I actually have two mothers Which can be double blessing and also double wound So it's like twice as much potential for healing and twice as much stuff to heal I was adopted. So that's why I have two mothers and they're both very much in my life um with your mom The issue of boundaries It affects life balance. Okay so You want to go to a holiday party, but party was like pulled here Well, but mom needs me but the thing with mom needs me is no matter how much you give In this situation They'll still be a feeling that I could give more Or it's not enough or it's not enough for her. Maybe I feel it was enough But maybe she doesn't feel it's enough or what if something happens and she's having a hard day or you know The monkey minds and the kind of guilt part of you can just Have a field day with all that and the truth is not only is there only one of you But you deserve To have a healthy and balanced life and if you don't maintain your self care and your healthy boundaries You won't be able to show up for mom You won't be able to show up for your people that you serve You won't be able to show up for your your beautiful partner Or anyone in your life your puppy puppies two puppies one puppy When we were sharing puppies the other day You know, we have to Put self and spirit first. That's a mantra. You guys self and spirit First If there's one thing you take away from the show That's one of the things to take away from the show self and spirit first or angel michael taught me That it's not selfish To take care of ourselves. It's self-bliss So Fish There's a reframe right there. Okay, because when we have the self-blissed We then radiate at that higher level. We're vibrating at that higher level. We can give more we're overflowing And even if someone out here is still doing their S-h-i-t, you know, they're still doing their thing, you know, they're still doing their pattern mom is still moming, right? We don't take it as hard. We don't take it personally. We go, oh You know, that's mom. She's doing her thing. It's actually not about me It's really not about me. It's almost never about us right when someone out here is doing their thing even if it seems Uh disrespectful or narcissistic Um or judgmental or negative or whatever, you know, I will say along those lines I love that what what sage said I'm I'm gonna post it somewhere not selfish. It's self-blissed Fantastic. I want to say that I have non-negotiables. I exercise every morning period Nobody has to come in and make a choice. That is mine I love it. I need it. I want it this morning I went to yoga and they had singing holes And I and like also like here's the interesting thing about boundaries. I find too it's never one thing Nothing's one thing not one person is one thing not one situation So if anyone's listening going oh poor Debbie awesome, I'll take it But I'll also say my life is effing amazing. I also have beautiful things and this morning I was in deep gratitude like oh my god I'm just allowing the sound of these gorgeous two women playing at the same time Singing washing over me while I'm practicing yoga for an hour. How did I get so lucky? You know to be right here right now. What a beautiful gift. I I receive I receive So, you know life is many things. I think when we make boundaries It's also really important to keep our eyes and hearts open to all the magnificence that is concurrently happening Very true gratitude is a magnet for blessings And it opens the faucet for more blessings and it also helps us to acknowledge and actually feel Like I could feel the energy as you were sharing that sweetie. It was like wow How blessed am I it wasn't just at the head level you were in the moment of I am blessed in this moment blessed and blessed as I like to say So you're in that's where we're in the present moment, you know, I I've been a meditation teacher for like 20 something years And we talk a lot about mindfulness But what I like to bring into that is also heartfulness Because mindful is like okay. I'm conscious. I'm aware. I'm present. I'm I'm right here right now But when we get that into the heartfulness too That's where we have that It's okay This is going on in my life And it's okay. This is going on and I'm okay. I am love. I am lovable. I am loved I am blessed and it's so important. So That helps to with the boundaries, you know, having that present moment awareness present moment beautiful moment is a beautiful breath mantra In fact, let's do that together for just a moment. Let's all do Present moment beautiful moment. Would that be okay? Yes, I love that. Let's do that Let's take a few breaths with that and you can just visualize that you don't have to say it out loud Just think about present moment beautiful moment And now I'm going to invite you to do it a slightly different way if you had your eyes closed do it with your eyes open Or vice versa. Okay And again pleasant moment present Beautiful moment All gets scared by the silence I might just talk as you close your eyes because when this goes to radio, of course Radio hates silence. It'll put a commercial in So just for those of you if you're going to close your eyes or keep your eyes open now say just said present moment Beautiful moment Present moment beautiful moment Thank you for joining us with that when you do that with your eyes closed. It tends to help you focus on the beauty within That's within you the beauty in your heart And when you do it with your eyes open You can actually do it as a present moment like full body sensory awareness Kind of exercise, which also takes you out of your monkey mind And it just reduces the stress It's amazing from stressings to blessings. Hooray Woman Play with words all the time words my husband's an artist and I am just like a word artist I'm just always doing this playing with words Yeah, you probably have such a gift with that. Oh that could be something we talk about offline because I love that I want to say just another quote here warren buffett the difference between successful people and really successful people is That really successful people say no to almost everything Oh, that is so good So we're going to take a really quick break here just to let you know this is dare to dream I feature really successful leaders and What would it take for you to get yourself out there to have ease with your career your message your business your branding I run the ultimate visibility program. It's called the ultimate visibility formula and we're about to roll out a new class This is how to get interviewed how to be seen as an expert And how to be exquisite while you're being interviewed on radio and podcast in 60 days or less I coach you live. We have people from all over the world join It is d e b b i d dot net slash visibility. That's where you sign up. 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This is the award-winning dare to greet dare to dream podcast I am interviewing sage kingsley goddard aka the prosperous goddess A highly gifted intuitive archangel Michael and divine mother channel you can find sage at prosperous goddess com and uh sage Hmm. This is I think because you brought up mother wound. I want to ask you Does a mother wound affect and it may not be really clearly delineated But does a mother wound affect men and women differently? Or can it often overlap? great question So let's talk about the the causes of mother wound and the forms it can take because there's a yes and no answer to that So what obviously everyone has a mother or had a mother, right? Your mother might be on the other side. You might or might not have known your mother You might have had more than one mother figure in your life I actually have two mothers because it was adopted. That's kind of an unusual situation But people can also have a step mother or someone who served as a mother role or a grandmother who was very powerful in their life You know important their life So all these people would be like a mother figure and men as well as women Have that but you know, but there's also a whole another aspect to the mother wound which is women as a mother or women who wanted to become a mother but didn't have that opportunity or women who Had a miscarriage or an abortion or a child who passed away Or a child who they're estranged from So there's a lot of other aspects for women about the whole issue of Self as mother or self not as mother, right? So for that that would be something unique to women. Men could have a father Whole set of father, you know wound issues with that But the thing with the mother wound too Is that our mother is our first teacher Our mother is the first one who loves us and she either loved us really really well Or not so well or really not well Kind of or kind of sometimes yes sometimes not and all of our mothers all of our human mothers are human So they couldn't by definition have done a perfect job There are there is a spectrum though. There are people who have You know, reasonably healthy relationships with their mothers and had very functional Upbringings and are still close with their mothers and so forth But I think that there's a a large majority of people who have Stuff as my Jewish grandmother would say they have shtiklach with their mothers Like oh no, you know and that can also be mother-in-law issues too. So don't even get me started on that one So, you know We're looking for approval, especially when we're a little child We want we want that approval. We want that nurturing. We actually have healthy human needs Not only to be held and to be fed and to be comforted but also to be taught and to be respected and encouraged to To go for our dreams, you know and to be all of who we are and our mothers had their own stuff So our mothers could only love us and teach us and nurture us to the degree that they themselves Received that or whatever amount of healing that they've experienced since their own childhood So my adoptive mother the one who raised me obviously she was also very very under Mothered some people are under mothered some people are smother mothered Some people have a bit of both even from the same person in some ways They were not taking care of enough in some ways the mother was too controlling You know, I had a pattern when I was growing up which I think contributed to my having a lot of health challenges which is My mother and father got divorced when I was 12 And we went from a four person household My my older sister moved out a year later. My father moved out. So it went from four people In the nuclear family to just me and my mom. Mom went back to work. I became a latchkey kid and mom had not had Satisfaction in some very significant ways shall we say in her marriage for 25 years So when she got divorced she went a little crazy. She went out to the nightclubs It was the 70s before anybody even was worried about AIDS or anything and she was coming home with all these men and very busy with her sexual rebirth And I was a teenager and I didn't really get much attention and the time I got attention was when I was sick So it set up a pattern and a program that oh my mom nurtures me and I get Touched and I get talked to and I get brought tea and I get loved When I'm unwell. So it's an interesting pattern. I had to identify And now with my husband because I have a supportive and very psychologically and spiritually we're husband. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you So I actually say to him honey Don't just offer me tea and neck rubs and foot rubs when I'm sick offer me that stuff when I'm healthy So we can undo that that program, you know So it's really interesting everybody has these these different patterns and it's it's especially challenging if you have a narcissistic mother which is very common with women Yeah, I remember you and I were talking about that and I was like, oh boy I totally understand that because no matter what you do or say a narcissistic mom is still going to be unsatisfied She's still going to feel like it's not enough You know and she might put the guilt on my mother is also Jewish that we've got the Jewish guilt Very good at that. I know there's also a Catholic guilt, right? Right So we have to Do a number of things to heal all this the mother wound itself We could talk for hours and I love helping people with this and I actually have helped men as well as women In fact men get incredible profound results when they get their their mother wound healed Just as well as women Oh my god So important because the way it impacts us if we don't get it healed enough is it blocks us from receiving It blocks us from receiving love it blocks us from receiving money It blocks us from being healthy It saps and zaps our life force energy And we put so much psychic energy subconsciously into Trying to manage You know the mother and her stuff or how we're feeling about it and the processing that we're going through Or if people have cut their mother out of their life completely This is just the one form of other ones we can talk about the other ones too forever. Um That takes energy too like if someone had a mother who is so toxic That they're just like wow, I don't have anything to do with my mom or the mom Crossed over and they feel like well my opportunity to heal that relationship. It's it's gone. It it did what it did Which is go take plant medicine and while you're in the middle of a journey have this awareness like Oh, I know tough conversations. I don't have to be with my mom to do this I could have it right here right now and it's probably more divine and boy did I and that is exactly right And you know what I love about energy I love about being in an alternate reality other than this thick reality here on earth is when I go to that place It's this and I'm always so shocked Because here everything seems arduous to take so much time It's the shoulders and when I go like when I'm with the divine on plant medicine It's like oh that conversation It's over it feels like seconds and it's healed And that is exactly why I love to support people with the healing at that soul level and at that soul to soul Highest self level and this can be done too with like spouses Ex-spouses, you know sisters brothers other people that you have a wound with it's not only About mother it just happens to be that the mother wound is very common and it's so primal and it's so Impactful that when we heal seriously that one thing like to a significant degree it impacts every aspect of our life We just liberated Anybody's done this kind of literally where you I don't know you leave your body in a sense, but I've gone to the core of a creation. That's what I'll call me And let me find out what the inception What avarice or belief or experience a situation created that? Exactly And then I just created into the no thing Which the darkness the emptiness really I can see the matrix the entire thread I don't have to know all of what it goes out to but like a spidey web You know like what that's been affecting my career In my life and my love and my body Right, and then you've got that space of beautiful gorgeous nothingness into it You can't hate and co-create that which you prefer Exactly exactly And we do that through what we call omni dimensional healing And omni temporal and omni universal so we're healing it in all times All realms all universes And it's just completely the other thing that's so exciting that i'm glad i'm remembering to say as you can see i'm getting really excited Is that when we heal Let's say the mother wound for example when we heal it at the original cause It actually heals the entire lineage It heals not just us, but it also heals our mother and and the grandmothers before and the whole line Of women all the way back and it also heals our children not only our female children But also our male children because we can pass stuff on unintentionally of course to Our children and so the the years and the tears of pain the chains of pain And the years of fears all of that is healed right here right now Which is the point of power and it heals it all the way back and all the way forward So we're creating liberation And true soul freedom for ourselves and for our entire family lineage. That's how powerful this work is Woman, I just had got such a huge aha. Thank you for that because I'm such a path Of healing for so long. I've done some deep ass work Yes, i'm patting myself in the back because i've really showed up and gone there and done that That's you have And uh, thank you so much and I I humbly say when I heard you say that I never Considered that that's why my mom is saying for the first time in my life. I love you and thank you and she's thanking me She's never thank me for anything. It's really amazing So perhaps that is the healing work and even most recently the plant medicine Is healing the healing that you have done within you exactly And plant spirit medicine is one way to do that There's other ways to do that if not everyone can go to the amazon or we can't go to the Plant spirit medicine every week or every month, but it's a beautiful and powerful Experience for those who are called to that And i'm glad that you you know that that's the key is we have to Trust What resonates for us? Where do we feel that excitement? Where do we feel that? Wow That is calling to my spirit and I need to say yes to that And it doesn't matter what it costs or how far away it is or all that stuff all those logistics will work out We won't manifest that when we 100 commit to something or like that thing is for me That healer that retreat that program whatever it is. That's for me And we exactly we send that line out to the universe we instead of saying how instead of saying I can't afford it Or I can't do it We say how can I how can I make this happen universe show me the way this is for me? I'm getting a yes on this show me how And it lines up it absolutely lines up and it's my honor To help people with this I want to mention really quick I know you mentioned my website a couple times prosperous goddess calm I want to tell everybody that there's three gifts there right now Depending on when you're seeing this gifts might be different But I like to have lots of gifts and just show everybody one of them is a mother wound quiz So if you're really curious like to what degree do I have a mother wound or what form could my mother wound be taking Do I need support with it? Is it something I can do myself or you know, it actually kind of quantifies as well as qualifies it And it's a self-assessment Really really empowering and helpful tool for everybody and you can just pop over to prosperous goddess calm If you're on a phone, you might have to click the menu, you know They're like the lines to see the menu in order to see the free resources Okay I'm cutting it only because we're right here at the end And I'm going to give a few more quotes and then we're going to like really bullet point wrap it up We have a minute it was Henry cloud who said boundaries define us They define what is me and what is not me a boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins leading me to a sense of ownership Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom And then it was Renee brown who said Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves Even when we risk disappointing others Again, if you are interested in learning how to be interviewed and to get your message Out to the world to your tribe to your community So that you can finally fully use media Free exposure for what it's here for and you're correctly go to debbie d dot net We're here at the end with the beautiful sage Kingsley Goddard and sage This is dare to dream if you could quickly tell us what are you next dare to dream? What are your future dreams or goals? Oh, thank you. What a beautiful question Can I share one quote first debbie that I prepared because I I think that it'll be perfect And then I'll I'll answer your beautiful question. The quote is this When we heal our mother wound, we heal our relationship with the sacred feminine With the earth with our bodies and with our innate right to thrive And be fully alive We liberate our very souls and we reclaim our power and our ability to love ourselves and life itself So that's a quote from my heart and soul to all of you And what thank you for letting me share that what I am dreaming into my reality because I know that Uh shamanically speaking and I know that you get that too as someone interested in and practicing shamanic healing The this world is also a dream And the dream world is also a world of awakening So our job and our joy is to awaken in both worlds and realize that we can shape Both with conscious intention. So what I'm dreaming. I'd love to share more with you about that too What I'm dreaming into reality is a world in which We love ourselves. We love life. We love one another. We serve. We prosper. We thrive. We shine We speak our truth And we live our peace And that's what I'm dreaming into reality Thank you. Thank you for being on the show today. It's been a pleasure so much It's a tremendous joy and you are doing such great work in the world. Thank you Debbie and blessings to everyone For your boundaries and your healing and for receiving And I end today's show with this quote from gerard manly hopkins Which is your personal boundaries protect the inner core of your identity and your right to choices Join me next week on dare to dream when I bring on my friend Kimberly selzer matchmaker dating an image expert. She's a blast. We have such a good time together Learn the secrets to looking and feeling your best and getting dating confident with image consultant and dating expert Kimberly we're gonna have a blast. She and I have the use of the word ish in everything So ish and what I told her is it's my favorite word non-word Because it allows me to be non-committal about everything so we're gonna have an ish kind of show Join us next week subscribe to dare to dream. It's your number one transformation conversation Please leave a review and again if you'd like to see my guests and I animated talking what we look like And all the things that go on between us go to youtube.com Debbie dashinger and remember the secret of success Is knowing that you have the courage to begin in the first place. Thank you so much for joining us today on the show