 How do you rate your self-confidence in a scale of 1 to 10? That is what we talk about tonight on Y254. Our topic is how to build self-confidence. Talk to us across our social media platforms that is at Y254 channel. You can also reach me at Patricia Muriochi. Tonight's topic is something that is very, it's a topic or an area that is very dear to me, something that I'm very passionate about and to be here and have this opportunity to really have someone with us in the studio to talk about this even in a point where we try to look at kids probably based 9 to 12 years and also that is pre-teen's and teenagers. It is going to help us or you as a viewer to really understand what do we really mean when you talk about self-confidence, when you talk about validation, how are you going to be able to compare yourself with others but not have that impact or affect your life in a negative way? How are we able to probably benchmark ourselves based on how our peers are doing in a very positive way without putting pressure in ourselves? We also try to look at ways in which our parents, guardians and also teachers get to contribute to the self-esteem of young kids that is either they have a low or a very high self-esteem. With us in studio tonight, we have Coach Pups who is the founder of Re-Confidence Coaching. Thank you very much for finding the time to be with us tonight. Thanks for having me. And my first question to you would be, when you talk about confidence and when you talk about self-esteem, sometimes when certain things are missing from all these, it is because of probably there are certain insecurities somewhere in your life or you've had an experience with insecurities. So, where do you think insecurities come from? First things first, everyone was born confident. You are the spam that won, you know, the promotion of your life was actually confidence. You know, children were bulging their mother's stomachs unapologetically, you know, you didn't care. And then when you came to the delivery room, we shout, you know, you just cry your lungs off when you were young, used to ask for anything, anything you wanted. And then, of course, life and the due course of socialization are bringing, kept on chipping away on confidence. And so, Re-Confidence is actually about acknowledging I was born confident. I lost it and I'm coming back to it. And that is what all our coaching work is all about for children. Yeah, that is the preteens and teens, 10 to 19. And then for women, because we also bring alongside women as future mothers and also as current mothers who are able to influence their children in a powerful way. And then also mentors in terms of teachers, whether in schools, in churches, to just bring them alongside us, people who are very instrumental in making children believe in themselves. And why it's because behind every adult, actually within every adult is a child. Yeah, it's true. You know, and that child probably was influenced by people who are ignorant. Even for those who lost confidence, we had negative voices in our upbringing that kept on chipping away confidence. So how can we be the positive voice to the children who are growing up around us? So that is my concern. Where do, when we talk about insecurities then, where do they come from? Because I can say also, like as an individual, I have had insecurities. There are also insecurities that I'm dealing with. So where do all these come from? So number one is insecurity. The root of insecurity in terms of classifying emotions is fear. It's just fear. I'm afraid. I'm afraid I'm not good enough. I'm afraid people will not like me. I'm afraid I need to keep on stepping up and looking a certain way or, you know, just be a certain way to be liked. And so the root of it is fear. And that fear now starts influencing our behavior, you know. And of course, we now keep on manifesting it in different ways, whether it is quietly because the people who are introverted and they are insecure. Yeah. We are people who are extroverted like us who are loud and clear out here, but depicting insecurity, you know. So number one, it is to understand the root cause is fear. I need to face my fears and confront them. Yeah. Like the program for children is called Facing Giants. So probably even if you are an adult, you need to face that giant cold fear and just tell yourself, you know what? It is what it is. This is what I'm afraid of. This is what just keeps on probably triggering insecurity in me. Yeah. This is what it is. And for you to acknowledge that actually takes a lot of confidence, which is actually confidence is getting past that insecurity, but it also takes confidence to be able to confront and call yourself out instead of waiting for others to call you out. When you mentioned sometimes insecurities come from not feeling good enough, do we really have to feel good every time? Do we? First of all, it is one of the things I usually say. First of all, understand the longevity. First of all, insecurity is not a bad thing. Yeah, because sometimes it comes from comparison. I'm comparing myself to someone else. Sometimes I can actually feel insecure and then I start probably working towards it because like I said, it's fear. And so you need to ask yourself, why is this fear here? What is it telling me? What can I do about it? How can I embrace it instead of resisting it? Yeah, because when you embrace it, then that fear becomes useful and helpful. And so first of all, it's important for you to ask yourself that. Why? Because we feel insecure different episodes and for different reasons. But one of the things that I will say, every time you have more than 25% of fearful episode paranoia, any kind of emotion that is overwhelming in a negative way, every time it goes beyond 25%, it's a red flag. And so it's about making sure even per day, if it's more than six hours, it's toxic because that is the quarter of a day. Like make sure it doesn't overwhelm more than the quarter of your life and quarter of your time. But there's nothing like positive or negative emotion. It's just something that is coming to give me some information. Every emotion, whether it's fear, whether it's anger, whether it is sometimes even feeling embarrassed, ashamed. It's just supposed to be temporarily there. And then I need to embrace it and ask myself, what is the use of this emotion being in my space and then go beyond it. So that place of being able to go beyond it sooner is actually the trick where confidence lies in. Yeah, even when you fail, to be able to pick myself up and move on, 25% is the recommended time of staying down. Okay. When we talk about self-awareness and with your intention to make sure that young kids are aware of who they are, they love themselves, how do you plan to literally actualize it to make sure that a nine-year-old really gets to understand what self-awareness is? How do we break it down to them without giving them these big words? Or without giving them these big things, probably they're not even so aware about. So how do we break it into bits for them to really understand what we mean when we talk about you need to be self-aware as a young girl and as a young boy? So right now we have a program that is actually running where this is when we're doing self-mastery in terms of this child understanding themselves. And one of the things usually, first of all, as my approach, is to help this child understand the resources they already have. You know, to just help them discover that, do assessments, and you'll be amazed at how brilliant children are. They don't get overwhelming information. The only thing that overwhelms them is too much data. But if you're giving them some reflective things, which coaching is about reflection and self-reflection and being able to look at themselves and see their potential, and then also now helping them use that potential to solve problems out here. Because one of the things with self-mastery is helping that child to know how they can change the world. As young as they are, because one of the things we tell children in our program is that you are not born to change the world in the future. You are born to change the world right now. You know, so what are some of the giftings you have? What are the abilities you have? What is your personality in terms of self-awareness? Because when this child knows themselves, first of all, they embrace themselves, they accept themselves, and children are so powerful at this. They don't have as many self-doubt and insecurities as we adults have. Once they're like, wow, I didn't even know that about me. Oh, that's an image you understand. You know, I really like who I am. I'm very cool even if I'm not talkative. You know, because maybe they grew up in an environment where everyone made them feel wrong for being who they are. You know, maybe they've been brought up in a family of people who are all hyped and then now they are quiet and they feel awkward because everyone makes them feel uncomfortable. So they come to our program, you're like, no, you're cool. You know, just fulfill your purpose quietly. And then the loud ones, you are okay, keep on the volume, you know, and that child feels good about themselves. And of course, the other thing is also looking at what is the obstacle to your, probably to your, one of the questions I asked them, what hinders your brilliance? You know, as much as you know, you are brilliant because every child knows they are brilliant. When I was growing up as a teenager, I used to feel very stupid and it's because probably my brilliance was measured with performance. First of all, I was not driving in muds, you know, and looking back, I was okay. Oh, that's how it is. Yeah, you know, I was not your thing. Yeah, that is not where we were driving and prospering, but we were so good in many other things. And it's about helping this child discover what is their own brilliance. Not the brilliance according to the measure of the world or academic world, but for every child to know that they are brilliant and then to share that brilliance with the world. And I think that is the bottom line of our conversations with children and every child, regardless of whether they are an A student or a D student, once they discover their brilliance, they'll find their way. Why? Because the future doesn't depend on books. Like our time when you are growing up right now, it's depending on personal brilliance. Okay. When you have these kids coming for the coaching, I am sure it takes a lot. As I say, it takes the society to bring up a child. When they walk in and they are going through this training, for you to make sure that whatever you teach them for the hours that you get to spend with them does not go to waste, how do you now engage the parents to make sure that they're also contributing? Because I'm sure you probably give them an activity when they go home. So how has it been engaging the parents of these kids in terms of how you people are able to communicate the progress and some of the challenges that you get to identify from the children that you're dealing with? Yeah. So first of all, when we are taking the children, we usually ask the parent, what are you concerned about your child? You know, so that we are also factoring in that in our personal conversations because our programs are custom made. You know, as much as that is the parent's concern, I want to make sure it's the child's concern, not because the parent wants it to be a concern, but because the child is also concerned about that. So sometimes it's also bringing it to that space. Is it the parent's fear or it's actually a genuine concern that is with the child? So that has been very, very powerful. And of course, the other thing we put parents in a broadcast because we do these classes on Zoom. So we put the parents on a broadcast on WhatsApp and every day we send assignments and we also ask the children to get feedback from the parents. So like this evening, when I had that class at around five, I was asking those children, did you ask your parents what they think you're good at in terms of your abilities? So what does that does? It's first of all, the parent affirming the child, which maybe they have never done or they've never even thought about, oh, by the way, you're good at something, you know? And also for the child to hear their parents affirming them and mentioning things that they're not thought about. And I think that has been very, very powerful. And of course, the other thing is to also put in activities. Can you believe we are actually teaching the children about SDGs? Yeah, the Sustainable Development Goals because we are telling them until you understand this concept and of course, they are cartoons. Yeah, by the parents should encourage their children to watch those version of children, the SDGs for children because there are a lot of videos out there that even a child who is as young as six can understand so that they are looking at themselves as world changers. When that child gets that mindset early, I mean, they're able to even influence their own families. So we have activities that they need to do to fulfill the SDGs. Can you imagine even switching off the light? They're participating in the renewable energy and saving water, water and sanitation like they start realizing everything I'm doing actually vibrates into something bigger, which is SDGs. And so also having them do that in their families because we also send that list of the things they need to do to their family. And this is beyond the program. Like you guys need to be aware about SDGs, even about education. Have you called on that child who is not about to access education because they can't afford Wi-Fi and their parents are on Mule Kamuizi? So maybe the last time you saw them was March. Have you ever been concerned that that child just needs you reaching out to them and encouraging them? And of course, even eradicating poverty, what are you guys doing as a family? Even including reducing wastage in our family. We don't throw away food when you have left over. Keep it in the fridge or even on the floor and eat it tomorrow. And so it changes the mindset of the children and families as well. And so approaching it from all these dimensions that we've been sharing with the children and involving the parents in the process has been very transformational, especially when the parents are now sharing like, my child has really changed. My child is more responsible. You know, my child is more expressive. My child is more confident. Those are the testimonies that keep me going after the program. Okay. That must really motivate you so much. A lot. You've talked about affirmations that is parents affirming their children and I would say right now our generation is struggling with issues that they're going through right now. It is because some of them are not affirmed. Some of them were not validated when they were young. Your parents probably didn't tell you that you were beautiful. They didn't tell you that you were good at something. So people grew up with these insecurities, these fears because probably at that point, there was no one who was there to highlight the good in them. And we've had issues where I'm sure everyone, even people watching us tonight, you've been in a situation where you've had a parent argue with or probably reprimand the child and use is really bad and very strong words. So how can parents watching us tonight or how can people probably adopt to validating children, especially at a young age, so that we are able to now bring up people who are aware and are so, so much self-aware about who they are. So number one, concerning affirming a child or not affirming a child, one of the places I always encourage parents to start know your child's love language. Most of the times, the people usually call black sheep of the family. It's because everyone was speaking to them in Greek and they could not understand Greek. So sometimes there's a child who doesn't care about affirmation. Yeah, so leave them alone, find out what else works for them. But that child who is very fragile in terms of wanting to hear it, wanting to hear words, wanting to be encouraged, wanting to be affirmed, and one of the things we usually say the ratio is, for one criticism, you give seven encouragement. So if I criticize you once, you know, why did you do that? Then I need to one, two, three, four, five, six, seven. You're kind, you're good, yeah, that is good. You look so good, yeah, I love the way you dance. Do seven, so that you can heal that child's probably from the self-doubt. And of course, the other thing about affirmation is also to make sure you give it genuinely. The other thing I always encourage parents, give affirmation on who the child is in terms of probably qualities they have, not just the looks. You know, because sometimes you also flatter children a lot and they actually know they really suck, you know, because you just want to tell them positive things. Make sure those things are thoughtful and they have to do with their nature more than just their appearance. You know, not only is you a cute mummy, you are, you know, you are handsome, you are all that, because sometimes that doesn't count. How about your kind, you are intelligent, you know, I like the way you solve that problem. You know, we're even making it more specific in terms of the affirmation so that they know which quality they should keep on building up. And the other thing, sometimes also tell them the truth. That is part of affirmation because out there in the world, they will get feedback on what is true. Sometimes they'll be told you're not good at this because competence is a child being able to know what they are good at and what they are not good at. And you should be honest about those two things. So that what, and they are not good at, they're not wasting too much time on it sometimes because sometimes that may be not a way they are inclined, maybe they are just comparing themselves with their friends. You know, so if it's not good in football, you guys have paid one term, me lipa coach, I'm not about to hush in, you know, it's also good to call it a day and just tell them, I mean, I don't think you're good in it. Okay, and find what they love. Yeah, let me try music. You know, learn to give children honest feedback. Yeah, instead of just massaging their ego because out there they'll be told the truth and they might be so hurt and crushed. So make sure that you're also giving them as much as you are affirming them. Sometimes affirm them on what is not together for them because knowing the truth sets them free. Okay, I've looked at children. Let us now look at teenagers and young adults or let's say young people. This is a group that, especially the now generation, is a group that is quite difficult to tame around certain things. They are cool. But we know it is this, the group that is doing best on social media, but deep inside we have issues that we're struggling with. We're dealing with confidence. We're dealing with self-identity. We lack probably some of the most important things that really define who we are. So for the young people who are watching us tonight and I'm struggling with my self-esteem, I wake up sometimes that I don't feel good enough. I wake up, I'm going through this experience, I don't know how to, I don't know where to tap the strength from. How can they be able to develop this self-esteem? And is it late? Well, it's never late. Even the 90-year-olds should still work on their self-esteem. But of course when it comes to teenagers, one of the things that I always encourage everyone around teenagers is authenticity. Yeah, they've seen people who have masks, people who have makeup, people who don't want to be real with them, sometimes including parents. You know, when teenagers are looking for human beings, people who are true. And that is why sometimes that is what they are looking for on the screen. They're looking for just someone who is authentic, whether it's on phone, whether it's online, everywhere. And so probably we can be more real people around them, people who relate to them, people who are able to even share my bluffs as a teenager, which is something I really love doing, like even in the mentorship programs I do. I tell them where I really sucked as a teenager in terms of things that were negative about me that I should have worked on. And also I tell them my struggles. So make sure you tell them your stories as a teenager and also your struggles as a teenager. Let them understand one day you are there because sometimes you are not relatable. You know, whether we are mentors, whether we are parents, sometimes you're not relatable. And so they actually see some another fake person, or no, you know, they just keep on five minutes into your conversation and they are feeling her fake, you know, and they just switch off. But the other thing is that they are also looking for help. If there is anyone who needs help, it is teenagers. And they are looking for it. You don't think that they are just sufficient just because they have headphones and they look cool and they feel like they have it together. Sometimes those are walls that they are looking for someone to come and just remove them and have real conversations with them. You know, and they need someone they can trust. The other thing I always say, don't be ignorant. Yeah, don't be ignorant. As much as you're coming to mentor them, make sure you also know what is happening in their space. You know, mentor them from a place of understanding or sometimes also from a place of inquisition. Instead of telling them see Sikuse too. Yeah, ask them about Sikuzawa. And that is where I was getting to. Sometimes I've been in platforms where you're talking to young people and probably in the crowd there's someone who is older than you and they'll come and they'll tell you Sikuse to Pia, Sikulifanya to Leona and all that and they will not open up to this person. They'll come and open to this person that they feel they can relate to. Let it appear. So how is it that parents, guardians, how can they be able to cultivate or have a very good environment and create a space where as a young person I'll feel very free to come to you and tell you, listen, this is what I'm going through. How can they be able to take that without the first thing that they put his Sikuse to Leona? Yes. To first listen and understand where I'm coming from because the generation that you grew in is not the same that I'm growing in right now. So how are parents and people who are much older than us, how can they relate and help us bring better or have better conversations with teenagers? So number one, come from a place of curiosity when you're approaching them. You want to learn. You know, you want to learn their opinions, you want to learn their perspectives, you want to hear and there are things don't wait for crisis to have a conversation. Learn to schedule conversations with teenagers. You're like, today I want us to have this chat or at least look for teachable moments. I usually say, maybe we are watching something and something comes up and I'm like, hey guys, can we discuss that? You know, look for teachable moments instead of just waiting for we need to talk. That moment usually is a shutdown. Look for natural opportunities to bring up conversations and the other thing learn to schedule positive moments. Yeah, you know, like taking your children out and one of the things I usually encourage that still comes to the comparison, learn to individuate your child. I think I'm very big in individuation because that is something I really yearn for when I was growing up. To just feel like, me, CCC, what I do to my mom and I mean to my mom, you know, like let them know they're an individual as much as you have 10 children. But they know that in 10 individuals, not a group of 10 children, let them also feel that effect of I'm special. And by doing that, even scheduling time and I usually say it's not something very fancy. First of all, understand the child's love language. Come on into a gift, maybe buy them a gift that you can start a conversation from. This is a new one because most of the times when you talk about love languages, we're only thinking about that in romantic relationships. So I think it's a new one when you get to talk about aspirants identifying your kid's love language. Very important. And I would like us to talk about our self-esteem. Like where is it that we, where should we, should it depend on? Because let me tell, different people have different opinions on where their self-esteem or like what their self-esteem depends on. So what are some of the positive things that we can use to gauge on how we're doing in terms of the growth of our self-esteem? So maybe to discuss the inputs to our self-worth. Let me call it self-worth because esteem is a bit general in terms of my perception around my environment. Actually, when I'm defining self-esteem is how I feel about myself in relation to my environment. Yeah, because there's nobody who struggles with insecurity in there, in the bathroom or the toilet alone. You actually struggle with it when you get out. So it has to do with other people. Yeah, when I'm alone, I'm actually okay. You know, and then when I come around you, that is when I'm like, she's looking at me, maybe it's my hair, maybe it's her hair. You know, but if I was alone, I'm just like, yeah, I'm okay, I'm okay. You know, so one of the things about our self-esteem is, first of all, to understand what are my struggles on self-image in terms of how I see myself. And then number two, also my self-esteem is self-image. And then number two is self-worth in terms of what is the price tag I put on myself. And then, of course, it also has to do with self-perception and perception of others. Because sometimes I was actually saying there's nothing like high or low self-esteem. It's just a healthy self-esteem because everybody gets a dive every now and then. Everybody doubts themselves. So being able to come back to health, it's just the way you get sick. And then sometimes you can't be too healthy. You know, you're just healthy, and then sometimes you are unwell. And so life keeps on putting us through that dive and being able to come back to health is what is important concerning our self-esteem. But it has to do with our self-image and number two, our self-perception in terms of what I think about myself and then what I think about how I look. Yeah, because there are so many teenagers and even adults who are struggling with self-image issues in terms of thinking about my poti, my hairline. My forehead. My forehead. My dins. How much does emotional stability contribute or what impact does a person being emotionally stable contribute to them having a good self-esteem? Or does it even matter? Well, it has everything to do with emotions because how I feel about myself is what manifests in my behavior, in my attitudes and in everything. And just like the way I've said, there is no positive or negative emotion. It's just about how I respond to it. I usually say emotions is like rain. You know, when it's raining, the farmer is smiling and the person who left their clothes hanging outside and they were almost dry is stressed. You know, so emotions are neutral until you assign meaning to them. You know, so an event happening is neutral. So probably I came over there and shoved you. It doesn't have meaning until you tell yourself something about it. You know, until you give it to me, but if I say, is she crazy, does she need some help? You know, that will give you a different emotional reaction from thinking negatively about me or thinking positively about me. And then of course now from the first of all interpretation that is when the emotion comes from. And so everybody instead of just trying to edit the printout, you need to go back and change the settings. So go and edit the document instead of trying to fix the printout, even concerning our emotional stability. Because as long as I keep on getting the same output, if I don't change problem in my self-perception, how I judge myself, the other thing that is very powerful on affecting our self-esteem is self-talk. What I tell myself about myself and what I tell myself about you. Because sometimes that self-talk is my personal opinion about me and also about the people who are around me. And whatever I tell myself, if it's negative, then I'll get negative emotions automatically and then I'll start having negative reactions. So if I told myself something wrong about me around you, every time I'm around you, I'll start behaving in a certain way. I surely call it the prophecy of doom. And so every time I'm around you, I start feeling insecure. Every time I'm around you, I start feeling unsafe. But it's because of what I'm telling myself about myself and also about you. And so probably one of the things that encourage people have a conversation about the person who is making you feel insecure. You know? Yeah, like sometimes I'm just going, I'm not saying that I'm not like that. I'm not like that. You know what I'm saying? I'm not like that. Yeah, I'm not like that. And then you're like, I'm not like that. You know? Even if they were looking at you, but me, it's time to change. Yeah, it's time to change. So now as we get to the end of this conversation, we have social media. Social media has affected very many things. Social media has its positives and its negatives. But looking at around self-esteem and confidence, I'll go on my phone and see that friend of mine. Wow, she drives this car. She has bought this bag at all that and all that. So how does social media, now the negative part of it, how does this affect my self-confidence journey in my life? Yeah. So one of the things is to ask yourself, why are you in social media? Are you there to feel it? Are you there to feed your insecurities? Or to also add value? Because if you're coming on social media to contribute, your mindset is different from someone who is coming to gain. You know, to just pick, pick, pick, pick, and to feed my insecurities. But if I'm coming there to add value, probably when I see you come like, wow, that is cool. I've contributed. Instead of just feeling, okay, more or not. Yeah, and the troll, those were so good. Yeah, because we come to troll, but it's because you're feeding your insecurities. So why are you on the socials? That is one of the most important thing young people need to ask themselves. And to ask yourself, how can I leverage on socials? What are the strategies I can apply? Of course, all of us have those times of just scrolling up, you know, and it's okay. Yeah, which is okay. Yeah, we find funny people and they just make our day. But it's also important for you to get on social and you get depressed within two minutes. Yeah, it's true. Nobody discouraged you. Nobody talked to you. And then you just have an emotional dive. So it's important to ask yourself, what is my motive for being online? And also, how can I use this platform to add value instead of just getting value? Because everybody has always something to give. Okay, self-evaluation is something that is very important to me. It's something that I try to do as often as I can. So for people who are watching us tonight, and they've heard about self-evaluation, but they've really never taken time to really know what it is. How does self-evaluation help us build our self-confidence? And how often should we do that? Should we self-evaluate? Yeah. So first of all, self-evaluation is just like cuts. Continuous assessment, you know. But obviously, you have to do them by yourself. Very true, but you continually assess yourself. Yeah, like everybody needs to close their accounts in the evening and just ask yourself, how did I do today? And then everybody needs to also go away. That is actually something I am big on. People need to retreat. Go somewhere where you're not needed. Nobody cares. Take a break. You know, just take a break from life. You know, leave your screens behind. Leave your socials behind. Just go somewhere and be by yourself. And ask yourself, how am I doing? Without anything, without anybody's opinion. And of course, the other thing, I always encourage self-awareness. Discover your giftings. Know what you're good at. Know what to play to. Know also what you're not good at so that you just have a feeder of your whole package. You know, so that you don't even have a need to compare. Like personally, because I know my giftings, I don't feel insecure when other people have different giftings. I'm like, wow, you are complimenting me. You know, I don't have that. It's so cool. Yeah, like I'm not a good dancer. I cannot be dancer. I wish I did. You don't say it with this negativity. Just because you're like, wow, it looks so cool. I wish I could also do that. Imagine, even when you see people probably who look better than you, you learn to appreciate them because you have self-awareness. And you know that I look good as I am. And this is my story as well on where I am. You know, so that I don't feel the need to compare. And even if I see someone who is better than me, I admire them. I appreciate them. I affirm them because I'm really confident in who I am. And I don't need to allow them to trigger any problem securities in me. Okay. So now as you wind up, social media platforms where people can find you, probably someone who has watched us tonight and they have been inspired by what you have shared, how can they be able to reach reconfidence? So on social media, as PAPS and PAPS Wanyugi. PAPS Wanyugi on Facebook, PAPS Wanyugi on Instagram, PAPS Wanyugi everywhere. Yeah, like that is where you will find me. And of course, also, Reconfidence with PAPS is my YouTube channel. Yeah, you can watch the videos I've done over there. Yeah, just on different conversations that I'm passionate about. Yeah, and some of them just self-film because I couldn't let that story wait for the videographer to come around. Okay. Thank you very much, Coach PAPS, for finding the time to be here tonight. I hope that you've learned a lot. And this is what I have to say from tonight's conversation. Confidence keeps us going even when we are failing. Be very intentional about building your confidence. Muscles, because no matter how smart you might be, you still need confidence and a good self-esteem to have a complete puzzle. We are all a work in progress, as I say. So let's not stop fighting to be the best versions of our imperfect selves. Give yourselves a chance. My name is Patricia Muriyuki. Drive yourselves a very good night.