 Jackie, I'm going to mute you for a second while there's some of that background noise. Is that okay? Okay Welcome everyone to the AI and big topic. Oh, oh you're okay Yeah I'm called there Jackson and it's my pleasure to introduce today's host for the online game swap one of a continuing series on Exactly that topic and that's life handsome. You may know him as leaf handsome, but he's life handsome. Here he is Yes, sometimes when you go through a midlife you decide to become life I guess that is what happened a longer story later there. Thanks for the introduction Paul and hello everybody We will be recording today. Obviously if you have a problem with that then get the hell out of here but otherwise We'll be sharing the recording on the on the Facebook group So if we come up with any games and opportunities that you want to try out on your own you can do that So I am checking in from the Pacific Northwest a small town in Port Townsend I call Port Townsend a couple hours from Seattle hoping that we will do an AI and conference in Seattle some some time and Yeah, the way this is gonna work is that we will Do all I'll start us off with one or two activities just to give an example of online If AI games that can happen Some of some people get confused about the game swap in Terms of this is not about swapping just game ideas. This is about actual AI games that can be done online As many of our clients Are starting to make that request and It's a great way to kind of do introductions for what kind of work can be done online That was the idea behind this call was to give each other some ideas and to try out also just to try out things Not necessarily knowing whether they'll be successful or not. So if you have an experiment Again that you'd like to try then feel free to suggest it today Please be thinking of some now because I only have Two or three in my in my little noodle that just woke up 20 minutes ago so alright Let's begin with the game and you guys are I guess actually You don't need to unmute yourself for the first round But for the second round of it, you will want to unmute yourself No, I take it back. You're gonna need to say a name. So please go ahead and unmute yourself and We are going to play past the face and The way that's gonna work is that I will Start off by saying someone's name who I'm going to be passing a face to and I will make a face to that person They will then slowly take on that face and pass it on to the rest of the group and Demonstrate to them. They'll say someone's name and pass on a face Until we make it all the way around And welcome Matt Hey, I Alright, so for this game Jackie and Matt you're gonna need to have your video on to pass the face So either that or if you need to opt out do you need to opt out? Okay But I'll watch the rest of you. Okay. Do you need some time to put some clothes on Jackie? I Need to have a I need to have a better head. I recently had a fall. Oh, gotcha. Okay. I'm sorry if I hear that And Matt you might want to turn yours so that the windows not in the background because yeah I can kind of see me. Let's see. I'll walk around it. Oh, okay. Are you in a glass? I want to see the view though Let's let's let's see if you can see that because the mountain is out today rub it in I'm kind of near you life. I'm up on Orcas Island. Are you serious man? I just left Orcas yesterday You're kidding me. Oh, no, I was at the I was at the Imagine Festival. Oh You know what? I don't even know that that was happening. Yeah You would have loved it except that How cool yeah, well, we'll talk about that later. Okay. All right, and Let's add a little twist here Sorry guys, I'm a slow start, but I'm good once I'm going Let's actually not start with that game because it would be nice just to arrive and to do something to introduce yourselves so let's actually go around and Once you pass a face to somebody and they do the face then they're also going to say their name and Make some sort of sound to describe what their current state is. Okay, so here's my face That's gonna be passed. Well, I'll just go ahead and introduce my state right now is as you can tell Whoa And I'm life and I'm gonna pass my face on to Doug and Doug sorry the twist was that after you do you'll say you're In a sound to check in and Doug the sound would be And I'll pass to that and go ahead and do that face again. You said that was to Matt. Yep. Oh to me okay, so Matt and You know, mostly I'm actually Doing I don't even know what to say, but mostly, you know, I'm just moving into the day. It's pretty early here and Matt you're gonna have I'm gonna cut you off. Go ahead. Let only let you give a sound to describe all the sound. Okay. We're about to say All right, so let me send this to Erica And I'm Erica and I'm Like that And I'm going to pass so I don't pass that face leaf life I pass make up a totally different face. Okay, so I'm gonna pass a face Paul And it's like wow we're like twins I'm Paul it's getting late here so And I shall pass my face to Lisa I'm Lisa and I feel My face I'm gonna pass to David is my name's David and I'm gonna pass I think back to Erica And I'm gonna pass Did everyone get past to me? I was thinking Jackie could actually at least Give us a sound for how she's doing this morning. You want to pass if you want to let's let's hear Sending you a sound And I'm dizzy From my fault so the sound that I'll make is Let's all repeat that let's all repeat that sound That was an empathy for you I Like I even got the swirling head of dizziness from you I Like Matt when you left you left with this the two bathing Perfectly framed All right, so we're gonna do a round two passing and the round two is that You're gonna give like a character your face is gonna take on it doesn't have to be the same old face it's gonna be a face is going to inspire some sort of character and A way that that character would talk like a personality and you're gonna pass that personality on To somebody else in the group They're gonna say so you're gonna say one or two sentences and they're gonna say one or two sentences as that personality And then again, they're gonna turn to somebody they're gonna tell you know say okay, David I'm gonna go this one's for you. You're gonna make up a new face with a personality and a voice that goes with that make sense Enough to see it demonstrated great. Okay. All right. This one is going to you David This is this is just so exciting to be here and I don't know what what how long I can keep this up But it's so exciting So So to Paul it's it's what what I need from Paul is these very specific things Paul if you could just do that for me Well, of course, it's important to be as specific as possible for accuracy and Precision and getting the exact point across in the way intended Wait, did you just pass a Paul personality to Paul? Because I'm really not quite quite sure what's going on Matt Matt, I'm really not quite sure what's going on that But well, I don't know why you ask a meeting because because I'm the one who knows the least about it I was thinking that maybe Nah, that's not a good idea Just I just I just don't know Okay, Doug Well, I'm not really cute I'm not really clear on the point of the game actually so I don't really know if what I'm doing is even correct It's not and you know in the greatest scheme of what you call things This is not a member of that here scheme philosophy and So What I want to know is A justification of first of all, should I be calling on you second of all Do you even belong in this group and third? What is your justification for being a member of the species? Yes, yes, yes, and because I breathe I live and breathe as I sit here before you across the pond Lovely little pond that we called Atlantic So, yeah, I belong everywhere because I'm everywhere So Erica yo, yo Erica, I want to know I gotta know this I gotta know something about Why this guy is so blue you're muted Erica Gotta know the things you gotta know you gotta know the basics I know the basics Working to start working to start So Who's GK again, Jessica? Jackie that's it. I knew that I knew that I knew that I knew that if you just give me a minute I would have you know, it's just like you're always interrupting me You're always on my case if you just give me a second. I know what I'm doing here. Okay, Jackie You know the thing is Erica. It's not like you don't know who I am We have a history together and so like what at what are you know? What's your problem this morning that you can't remember who I am like is are you disrespecting me? That that was almost a little too close to home to an actual conversation. I had a couple weeks ago I don't know if you guys could post about that, but somebody just lambasted me for not remembering their name. Good job you guys And I forget everybody's name so Yeah, so one other thing that we'll do is is a little debrief after you know, just sort of how how was that? Could you see yourself doing that? What was the value of that? So let's let's kind of combine those last two ones and anyone want to comment on You like it. You're not could you see yourself doing it? Whatever you want to say? I was Somewhat confused it was an interesting game I wasn't sure we played the game you had instructed us to play This was also a fun game. I Thought your instruction was to pass a face that would generate a personality. We passed an entire personality Yeah, it was to pass an entire personality People didn't emphasize as much the face part of it, but I mean I saw some people getting into the voices, you know But but yeah, no it was to pass a whole personality and and so people the second part was and And I and I really liked that part. I felt that the the face parts was interesting, but it loses some of the Enjoyment of past the face when you're in a circle when you're actually Looking away from the group and then you turn towards them. You can't quite do that here. So And Also for participants like yourself that are just audio, it's not quite as Easy to enter in but I did like this sort of pass a whole personality myself and I found that enjoyable How about you Paul? I Felt it didn't mutate in an interesting way Through the way that we happen to interpret it From how it might be done live in a room to how it can be done online And maybe you need a bit bigger a bit more signaling Because there's a loss of subtlety in the digital world compared to the Face-to-face in the room world and that we adapted to that. So we gave a face some movement and a couple of lines sometimes even a question and That's quite nice on the content Level and I found it fun and enjoyable and I'm interested also in the What problem does it solve if it's an activity and there's something about turn taking We're indicating whose turn it is next Which is a big issue for me online is whose turn is it? So those are the two dimensions that set out me that we adapted it to be more of a digital version of a familiar game And that it might be solving some problems in some way and perhaps turn taking is one of those Yes um, I think that It was it was struck me was it was immensely satisfying to have my sound Repeated back that felt very like because I was just going out into the ether, right? I can't see So it's a slightly different game, but just to have the sounds overlap Could be a really, you know, just a really connecting type thing like I sent a sounded Jackie And then make that sound when she actually overlaps it like a normal like sound ball type thing that I was Striking to me because so often when we're on a conference call. It's like, oh my god It's just a nightmare, right when you can't see people and that was cool And then for the past the face thing I actually wanted us to pass the faith of how we were feeling Because then it's a real empathy check-in like if I'm like ah Then at least then I could pass that to someone and they for a second they recreate like okay. I got it This is what Erica's like. Yes. Good point. I like that and I think come to think of it I think they actually did have us repeat it The last time we did this like we did for Jackie and that's because that is one of the most That's one of the most satisfying part of making that sound and having everyone else do it Or just even just me to Jackie like just when I went like And then to hear her sound like coming through Like if she you know, she could just start making as soon as she if I say Jackie and I'm like And then I start hearing it's just so like that felt good It was a favor Erica and give us a sound For how you might be feeling now. I'm curious how it does sound as a whole group echoing it back if it's 2k He did do that. Yeah, I'm I feeling now. I Think, you know, I have to stop making the noise to hear you guys Um, I think I really like just the one-to-one like if I imagine the world a globe And there's like my little sound like going around half the globe And then it like gets caught and then it webs and it webs and it webs Like I kind of I feel like what we just did is what conference calls feel like like me talking like You know a big mess, right? I mean your voices were beautiful, but I Just saying that I really that precision of like we are connected Felt good Great me. I Just had this picture of a sound like somehow You start a sound Somehow indicating maybe like showing a name or something because we can't point I Take on the sound Pass it to someone else like to actually see a sound go from one person to the next to the next And go travel all around be very cool. You can do that, right? Combine emotion. So I if if you have the video I could be like, you know, hey David And then David would be like and that's satisfying. Yeah. Yeah What was that David sorry, I know I was gonna say to the point of you know, the physical passing and all that To what Erica was saying what Paul was saying about turn taking something that I think is a problem in my experience of conference calls Is I might say something and say so what did you think we've and you know If you weren't listening you don't know it's your turn or you are being cute And what was very nice about the second round of the exercise is we identified who we were passing to early on So that person could then turn on their listening and be more more in the moment we tend to come in and out of conference calls but that idea of Assigning your recipient early for a remote type of session I think is very valuable when you don't have eye contact to stare you across the table and you know grab grab their attention Great great really good point. What about a fixed order at the beginning? Yes, that is What we did that on the first round of these and I think I Think if I guess if you write it down that would work But if you got beyond four or five people it's hard to remember that order or as long as you remember who you're receiving from and giving to That's a good way to do it Let's sure whatever next game we do let's try that and anyone who wants to write it down can I will write down that order We can post it in the chat Yes, the facilitator writes down the order in the chat, then we just look at As long as you know who you're receiving from and who you're passing to yeah Yeah, I What I thought was fascinating that this game is like you gave the instructions There's that confusion and we're like are we doing it right? And then there was like this moment this threshold of we all settled into it and it's like okay This is what it's this is what we're creating it to be and I love that because I noticed that with groups lately Then I'm facilitating is there's that I know I'm very clear on what I'm saying as far as the instruction but it's what they're hearing and what they're perceiving and there's that ah and And it was funny just to see that amongst everybody, you know, we're kind of used to doing this stuff and Not that we're you know, I don't say it's not arrogant But you know what I mean and and then it's just like that settling in of like this is what it's gonna be and Acceptance and and then that's where I really started having a lot more fun Yes, yeah Love it. Well, let's let's let's go ahead and do if I have a you know A few other grab bags, but I'd like to open up to somebody else Suggesting an activity to try I also just created a little random order list there You guys can see in the chat if you don't know how to open the chat you want to click the little chat icon It says Doug David Lisa Erica life Paul Jackie Matt And so Does somebody have another one to try? You know, I have one but I actually think Setting an order for this one Puts undue pressure on on people I've never played this where there's a sequence. So maybe this is not a good game to do right now I've just done it where people spontaneously Grab the space when they when they feel inspired Oh, we don't have to do the order the orders just for when we do need an order will you? Yeah, go ahead. Okay. Okay. So this one is called no no no and You start by Misdefining a word. So for example, I would say a prune is this thing on a string that Little kids like to carry around and then someone else goes no no no no you mean a balloon and They would say and then they would miss Define the balloon they would say a balloon is This thing that I eat my soup with and someone say no no no no you're thinking of a spoon a spoon is Like the the thing behind the lyrics in it in a song and something no no no no You don't mean a spoon. You mean a tune a tune. So it just goes on like that Where you Um Continuing it's a rhyming. Yeah, it's a rhyming game and Trick is to misdefine the word that you want people to think of Awesome, let's do it start us off. All right Okay You know, let's start off actually by talking about a a tree a tree is this little kind of bug that that that Jumps around on my dog and I I sometimes I'm afraid it's gonna jump on me Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, you're I think you're talking about a That's not a tree. That's not a tree. That's right That's not a tree. Yeah, that is a Lee oh a flea. Okay. What is it exactly a flea is one of those things that flies through the air and makes honey and Okay, if you press it off it stings you no no no no That's not a flea that that's a bee and a bee is this big thing of water that people go swimming in It's how we get you know goods and services across the world and it's this wonderful thing covers most of the planet That's what you're thinking of. No, no, no, no, no that that's a sea. That's sorry. That's not a flea. That's a sea And what is a sea dad well to be more specific a sea is a kind of a clarified butter used in Indian That's not a sea. It's not Ghee oh Yeah, what's Ghee? Ghee is this combination physical and online game where you could like golf, but you're looking at a screen It's not Not exactly that's not a that's not that's not ghee. Ghee is uh is when you Have to You have to tell her what it is. It's not that's not ghee. What is it? What is it? I'm trying to figure that out And does anyone know this game? It's Lee. Yes, that's what I was about to say Go ahead. I'm sorry. I think we thought Lee said that you did What's we? Oh, great. We okay. So what we is is when you when you go to us, um Come on. Hey, babe um See I was good until the rhyming and that got me You want to go? Thank you very much Well, see a we is uh, a we is actually uh, what you oh, this is fine A we is actually what you do when you're in the bathroom And you're not going poo But you're not having liquid come out of you. That's not a we What a we is Is a feeling of great joy and pleasure and Expression of excitement But you might feel when you're playing No, no, no, no, that's not me. That's that's glee and glee is this light brown liquid made from, you know Putting leaves old leaves in hot water and just letting it sit for a while And no, no, no, no. That's not glee. That's tea That's tea More specifically tea is a feeling of just kind of being blasé where you can't get motivated to do anything And you're just kind of staring at facebook and you don't care about anything at all. No, no, no, Doug That's on we that you're thinking On we is this kind of um Game board where you put your hands on it and a thing moves around and you got to talk with the dead Oh No, no, no, no, that's that's not that's not tea. That's weegee Weegee board. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah a weegee board a weegee Is a part of the body that helps your lower part of your leg move back and forth when you're walking Uh, and it kind of weegees around and helps you to run. No, no, no, that's not Weegee that's me knee a knee is the collective pronoun for a group of people who are speaking Or doing something together No, no, that that's not me. That's a committee and and a Is what people do. It's what we're doing with each other Our ability to you know, visualize one another on the screen and and it happens with our eyes That's that's what you're thinking of there. It's one of the one of the five senses that that that allows us That's not it. You're thinking of say Say is the proper pronunciation of the last letter of the alphabet that some people pronounce Red That's not see. That's z Me Z's an appropriate letter to end on Nice that was a great one matt. Thank you Um, let's do a little a little debrief around that. How was that for folks? Once you got the riddle, it was fun for sure What's that duck once we got the rhythm of it. It was fun Um, it has um an interesting internal trick, which is you understand the other person's Game and you want to jump in and half day to jumping in you realize Oh, no, I need to have another word to set up the next person Yeah, you're like, oh, I got it. I got it. Oh, but I don't got the next part Exactly This thing because you have to remember three words at once. There's the false one the true one and then yours And so I had to keep three words in my head Yeah, it's uh, almost an advanced version of sorry I'm late in that way and I like the through line of the rhyming for it as well So that uh, it gives it a nice um a nice advanced level. I think It's interesting how the the q is no like it's a yes and game, but the q is no no no No, no, but you're really yes anding Oh, I mean, I think you could use this To me like I kind of tuned out a little bit after a while because It does sound like I mean just I don't sort of like the mansplaining conversation Right well actually, you know So maybe its utility is like For how long is Maybe people different reactions to it Not sure Is there a is there a way to actually Bring that topic up? Do you think Erica? Maybe the mansplaining in an applicable way like a way that sort of is is funny and then maybe has a follow-up Well, I wonder if If this could be like kind of like when you play yes bad or no or whatever like if we called this game well actually and then we played A yes and type game and talked about the quality of the conversation, right? So someone's like it's a c. Oh, yes And it's you know some way to be building and then to contrast it because this was so like He boom. Yeah, bro. He brought which Is fun for a while um Yeah couple of technical points One is That we seemed to be fine at spontaneous jumping in Which is a good sign with eight people there was There wasn't too many clashes if two people spoke a bit Somebody would speak in the album and stop speaking so the the turn taking is um self-organized in that activity Which is a nice thing for it to have and the It needs someone to pick it up again when it breaks down, which you did to new life Otherwise it would stop in Place where you may not be ready for it to stop or Long after It's a stop You know, I think I saw we had a couple of those moments which happen all the time in games where The the rule The perception was the rule may have been forgotten a little bit. I think at one point lisa had said the we That's that's not a we it's a we or something like that And I think she correct me if i'm if i'm wrong lisa, but you actually Did know the thing But you were waiting for yourself to think of the rhyme and people kind of jumped in and so it's one of those moments where you're like Oh, no, am I You know like am I helping or am I actually hindering by stopping the flow? You know, and that's that's just normal, but um, yeah, I mean I like I like this But it was just this is something I play in person. I don't know if I play it online quite honestly, I mean it's just I think because I would want to be able to read and You know see the group. I don't know I like it, but it's just I I love the rhyming, but I also I know it can shut people down and I want people to feel like an easy catch an easy way into the the experience and so I I like it, but I I'll probably say it for in in person activity is my preference when you say shut them down you mean that Just or just check out Because of the like you'd want something simpler so that the rules aren't getting in the way and people feeling shut down or Especially on a zoom call. Yeah, I would I want to make it because I would but I want I want to make this as easy access as possible um It's what I'm noticing Gotcha in my experience. So Thank you for that great game, but I think I I would use it in person Okay, David. What was the game that you mentioned about sorry. I'm late Yeah, so sorry. I'm late. Uh, it's a warm-up game. I've done with my Indy team before so standing in a circle one person steps in the middle and they say sorry I'm late But and then the but is they start to tell the story of a TV show movie or book that is fairly popular So sorry, I'm late, but I was stuck under in my bedroom under the steps My aunt and uncle that have been taken care of me since my parents died In in a big battle, uh, you know I have this scarf from that battle and someone will shout out Harry Potter that person then Takes focus and says sorry. I'm late, but and continues on with a different story from a piece of fairly popular Um, uh fiction or a nonfiction so that someone can guess it Got it Would people like to do that? Yeah David, would you like to um facilitate it? I I might need another quick. Um Another quick explanation Sure, so or you could just pass it on to somebody and we'll figure it out too Yeah, so um, I'll just start by describing why I was late and when anyone understands what uh, I'm referencing What movie or TV show or book just shout out the title and then it'll be your turn to Explain why you were late by describing your own Uh fiction nonfiction book movie that uh, you want to tell us the story of So I'm sorry. I was late. I ran into this hermit that lives out in the desert And I was looking for my lost robots and by the time I got worse So, yeah, um, actually I am sorry. I'm late. Uh, I was visiting my dad in the hospital Some people were gonna actually try to kill him And uh, I I didn't want to be the one to stop them from killing. I got an older brother who well The middle child's worthless, but the older brother is really gonna follow in his footsteps And uh, though he got all shot So it was just kind of me at the hospital defending my dad and the police for corrupt and they weren't gonna stop them God, the old boy you got shot. The young was what godfather. Yeah Go ahead matt Um, you know, sorry, I'm late. Um My uh My my dad's my other dad's in the hospital and um Me and my siblings have been trying to figure out who's gonna take over the company and um Um Oh, we were just out at um at davos and I guess nobody is watching this show Okay, let me go to a different one Um Oh, you know, sorry, I'm late, but like one out of every three people around me just disappeared and kind of went into a like, uh Like into nothingness and um left behind Say it again left behind Uh, no, that's not what I was thinking of Um, I have to get something but this is like, okay I mean, I I know someone someone must know this thing. What? Hand of eight tail I don't think so This is only like although although I did not last all the way through this movie. This is the most Indian history we know I've been here. Exactly. What was it? All right. So, um, you know, um, I think thore got fat and Yes Well see so now I don't want to dominate it again You can pass it on to someone Doug. Okay. Uh I'll pass to jackie Hey, but I had to dress in My family curtains Because my plantation Has just been ruined Gone with me. I am Gone with the wind Yes Very fun. Um, okay. Um, Erica you got one Uh, sure Sorry I'm late, but, um I got really mad and part of my emotions just got lost and like all I've got now is like I'm angry and disgusted and Uh, I don't know where joy is anymore But I've got to figure it out because I'm moving to a new school and Um, my whole family's moving and I had to figure out how to have a good attitude Inside inside out inside out. I don't know it Oh, you should all watch it. It's a Pixar movie. It's a Pixar cartoon. It's about me. Yes, I did. Yes, I did This is like Inside out inside out. Oh, yeah Who hasn't gone? Sorry, I'm late. I was, uh, walking back to my, um My hole and this friggin wizard comes by and Invites one of the Lord of the Rings Okay, I'm sorry I'm late I've been tied to a bench By one of the fans of my novels. I'm not misery Stiffy shades of gray That's nice Do you want to try? What you want to turn? Uh, yeah, I mean, I'm sorry. I'm late. I, um I was riding my bike and weather really got bad and then I don't know all of a sudden I was hanging out with some people It was in a buzz So quick so quick, um, all right, what do people think about that one? It's a challenge for people who aren't up on popular culture or who watch different movies Yeah A party game, isn't it? I was overlapping overlapping circles between party games and improvisation activities Then diagram And I'm curious because uh for both this one the comment Jackie made but also the previous uh exercise with the rhyming I work in a an international company. Um folks, you know, uh in Belarus and uh, west europe, uh all across north america how do folks, uh, um Approach some of the cultural challenges either of language or idioms or pop culture I mean, there's culture. There's um, just age demographics anything that might separate us from, you know What we've seen compared to what other people in our environments have seen how do how do folks approach that? Good question. I think I mean, I think it's a good question because this game like I kind of Checked out again a little bit because this is about getting it right. This is about are we seeing? Whereas what we offer an impromptu is like let's co-create something that's never existed You know What's the different energy between this and like plain word at a time and building a story? Together that doesn't require where where all of our diverse backgrounds actually Maybe make the story more interesting. So maybe this is like a this could be a serve as a contrast to This is how we usually go through the world. Like, do you know me? Do you like me? Do you like the same things? Are we aligned on identity and similarity versus are we aligned on our capacity to listen and create together? Great I felt a little awkward Because if I after I took my turn and I was was the first to get it. I didn't feel like I should say anything You know, and then if I said something I yeah, so it made me feel a little awkward as we play it Yeah It could the the suggestion of you know, having the power to pass it on to somebody else could be said early on as one way to deal with that you know, if you happen to be someone who's You know, or you could also coach people in the beginning to say hey You might actually guess it But if you've already gone once maybe hold on to your answer a little bit and wait and see if someone else gets it first That could be a way of dealing with that too. You could kind of preload it a little bit um If it's all right, I really like to try one. Um, one thing I'm interested in is can How much vulnerability and and real connection can happen in an online space You know, one of the problems that we deal with with online is that there is a distance, right? There's there's there's the flatland two dimensionality and um I'm thinking of a game that Um, I learned it kind of got made up. You guys have probably heard of portkey. It was at a nine day Improver treat with matt smith and rebecca stockley and Matt made up this game. I actually made up the name of the game portkey because If you're a harry potter fan, you know the idea and harry potter is that there are these things called portkeys and you touch them Say a cup and then it sort of takes you teleports you to somewhere else and they're they're called portkeys and um, the way that this Activity works. Well, I apologize now. I didn't credit you in the book I said created by matt smith. Oh cool. Well, it was created by matt smith. I just gave it a name Okay, so it's better to give him the credit and oh, what's the book? Well, now I feel embarrassed because I did this. Yeah, okay social nonsense. Oh, awesome Yeah, I have to check it out so, um Before you go on and Doug's being modest. It's a really good book Let's write that in the notes there Yeah, put it in the notes And thank you so much paul for taking the notes. Um, I'm surprised if they all have a copy to waive Really it's crucial equipment So matt smith for sure Matt smith, okay. Yes. Yeah. Does that predate when we went to yosemite? Because we played it there Then it does predate it then. Yeah, for sure Um, sorry, so as interrupts wanted to recommend the book. Well, thank you. Always always appropriate So the um, I want to Let's go ahead and erica. Do you want it's before I introduce the game you want to say what you're saying there? Yeah, I have to get off in 10 minutes. So I put that in chat The eye of experience at the all night space is amazing for creating intimacy Especially if you have a really big group and a group of people who don't see each other You can get them an activity like even this portkey one But send people into breakout rooms So there's like two or three people and then they have this amazing thing where they can be super intimate Because in a moment They're gone, you know, they don't have to see that person the next day. They don't even have to talk to them again So, um, I just want to break Ascension that online means not To facilitate this intimacy and then That's what I want to say Definitely. Yeah, no, I and I didn't you know imply that it's important I just mean many of the times that I am and you know on a surface level So yeah, it's the the questions the activities and yes the breakout rooms smaller space is a really great way to create it. Thank you So the way he's going to work is that, um I'll start someone is going to all demonstrated by someone's going to Give me a random object. The first one is an as a random object and that random object is going to take me to some memory In my past it might be a directly related to that object or it might be associative and I will um I like to actually do this with eyes closed, but you don't have to you can keep your eyes open or closed And speaking in first person. I will be at that time in specific place. This isn't something that's made up This is an actual memory an actual time an actual place Of which you're describing in first person. So say someone, uh, I'll go ahead and demonstrate the first one Someone give me an object You're muted. I am leather boot Oh leather boot I am in The wandering wardrobe Used clothes store It's a few days before a steampunk festival In port towns in and I'm really excited about this festival and i'm wanting to look cool. I'm wanting to kind of find these steampunky clothes And I have no clue What to buy and what the steampunk looks like And I'm wandering around And seeing there's some leather boots. There are some other cool kind of vintage clothes and uh I'm feeling a little awkward about fashion and about What to buy Awkward Date so what I do is I take a word doesn't actually have to be an object It could be any word that I had in my story That could bring up a memory I then pass the word awkward now to david Who was going to close his eyes? And the the particularly vulnerable part of this because I've had this bring into like deep tears It brought me to is to really Encourage people to go with the first memory that comes up So awkward to you david Yeah, so awkward The first memory that came to mind was my first real consulting project. I Was only out of undergrad so I'm going to pause you just just a little coaching in the beginning here david Start your start your share with I am because you actually are in first person and you're there and you're describing to us that memory You're inside of that memory So I am sitting in a A conference room with about 20 people there most of them are my clients We are going around the room introducing ourselves and My colleagues are introducing themselves having been with the company for five years and 10 15 20 years of experience My it comes to the main stakeholder in the room and he introduces himself as having been with this company This one company that I'm supposed to be redesigning the whole system for and the expert on He's been with this one company 26 years And I'm suddenly sitting there completely Fish out of water because I'm realizing that he's been working at this one job Longer than I've been breathing air on this planet and I was completely just out of water uncomfortable How am I supposed to be the expert when he's been you know doing this thing longer than I've I've been on this planet Excellent, so then you'll take one word out of that Throw it to the next person who will start with I am and they'll share It doesn't have to be a whole story by the way whoever next goes it can be just like A slice of memory that's described by your senses So I'm going to say relief to Erica Erica, you are on mute. Yes um relief all right relief Relief takes me well first it took me to like that commercial, but that's not really like a memory I'm like a commercial for role aids, but I don't have any like that was like a association Relief as far as a memory takes me to this image of like dropping This barbell with weights on it like on to the ground and it kind of bouncing a little bit And that's on a gym floor with black mats and like those little crisscross pattern and It's just this steel bar and the noise of the the weights are kind of smashing against the ground um So let's see Lisa I will send you Smashing Smashing we're calling a Thanksgiving My first Thanksgiving meal I had in my house And um, we're making mashed potatoes and I couldn't find the I can't find Huh, I can't find You see it's about being in that you're in the present moment. Okay Um, I can't find the the potato masher and um And so I had to of course improvise And so I had this other thing that I was using when I was uh To teach an art and I had to clean it off And uh, I had to like scrape some pain off of it to uh, like really cut up the the mashed potatoes So it was kind of weird and gross and delicious Um Doug I'm gonna give you paint Give who? Doug I made my bedroom. I am 11 years old My oldest brother had painted a mural on his wall. That was so good. He was hired by Carson Perry Scott to start doing art for them to sell in their stores And so I wanted to paint a mural in my room And I was told that I couldn't because I'd room the wall because I'm not a good artist like my much older brother But then I preached fairness. They said you're gonna lose interest And I said I won't and I started to just do abstract shapes because I don't have any ability to draw something so it looks like it and uh Eventually I lost interest So I stopped doing it except that my wall now had This symbol of my failure on it And the first thing I woke up to every day was this wall with this just couple of blocks of paint and stuff for this project I started and didn't finish And my mom wasn't going to spend the money to repaint the wall Because this was my punishment is I had to live with it And I'm just looking I'm just kind of looking at this wall And seeing that I can't ever finish what I started I'm gonna pause for one second. I'm not trying to be a pain in the ass coach here, but I think one of the One of the beauties of this game and it's really tricky and I see this all the time is staying actually in In the present in the moment there it's part of what creates Yeah, it is tricky, isn't it like you go you you might start in the present and then shift it to storytelling into the past So it's really um And that's part of why I personally like closing my eyes because it helps me not be like I'm telling these guys a story But it's the port key is taking you to an actual slice of time in the past and so by starting with that I am And um, it kind of brings you into the moment and you're describing that and it's a little bit more vulnerable It's interesting. I don't know why but it is so just for the last few people when they go I want to encourage you to try and play with that And I'm gonna say goodbye and I put notes in the chat about it the way that I played port key is a different kind of a Hole is a different lever there. So have fun. It's so nice to see you all you too, Erica Are people okay with we do two last ones to wrap up time wise Mm-hmm So Jackie Shapes yep, I'm drawing a complete blank. I'll give you another one. How about bedroom? Okay, I can do bedroom I can do bedroom. I am walking into my bedroom I seven years old and I'm really excited because I have asked my dad to paint my room pink I walk in and all blue Passable I was so wanted Thank you Jackie. I'm gonna pass to matt or paul travesty Travesty Yes Jackie nothing's coming for me for travesty How can you give me another one? Blue I'm on vacation and um I'm getting ready for a little hike into town and I um I realized that um Um Everything that I have left to wear is blue and I feel Really self-conscious That I'm going to draw a lot of attention to myself that people will think that this like um, completely mismatched outfit is actually my attempt to Uh put together an outfit That um, actually looks, um attractive and um, I'm just, um Uh just mortified to be seen in public in this blue outfit Um paul, uh, how about mortified? Thank you mortified As I climb Kribgoch a ridge on mount snowden in north wales Which is the toughest climb I have ever done. I'm on my hands and knees Thinking that the slightest error Will have me plunging to my death Hmm Along boy scouts and girl guides are racing past with not a care in the world And that I am mortified At my relative lack of confidence and balance Thank you paul And I think everybody that's here has had a turn. Yes. Yeah Wow, I I really uh, I'll just say I really liked that. I think I'm I'm getting I don't know about you guys but I'm getting to the place with applied improv that, um Games are fun and silly things are fun But I'm a little bit tired of them And so when there is an opportunity to actually hear a story and to make a more intimate connection The meaningfulness for me it just I think you know like A lot more juice. So I really enjoyed hearing these slices of your stories. Um So thank you. Other thoughts There's a willingness in an ain group to jump straight in with any activity or a willingness for people to say no, I'm not going to do that and resist An activity if they wish to because we know about the choices and the nature of what we're doing This call is recorded and so those stories are now going to be available to aam unless you Do something to stop that and if you wanted to I suggest you do that People will know I wanted a pink bedroom We all guessed that anyway, jack so I think in Beyond an ain call We have to be really clear about what the call is about and checking for permission or setting up guidelines as to Are we going to be going for vulnerability? And if so, is everyone okay with that? Or what's the reason for that? Um, and simply for being silly, you know, what's the context and nature of what we're doing being an important part of Um, of clearly live work and online work as well Yes, that's good. I would like to say that this really does Create connections. So everybody told a story that I could relate to You know, like Paul, I've been places where, you know, I was scared and other people weren't scared And what did that mean? And you know, so you feel like Oh now I have things in common with these people that probably I Have in common with all of you, but like I didn't know until I heard it said out loud Yeah, so it's a it's a great gift Uh to have people tell Uh a heartfelt story Yeah Sure, I like it as an activity online and offline I'm speaking only about contextualizing it. Yeah Yeah, I do too and um I Also like the silly games. I don't think it has to be one or the other. Oh, no, I wasn't trying to say that I've just a personal preference these days. Yeah. Yeah So shall we Wrap up this call with anything anyone would each like say maybe a sentence or not and then I'll Give a brief announcement about what's happening Next. Okay, great. Doug, would you hold up your book again? Any time Social nonsense. Okay. Good. I'm gonna get it as soon as we hang up and everyone watching the replay. Hopefully we'll Have a chance to get it too. Thanks available on amazon That's what I'm hoping Any reflections on today's call Uh, how about we just actually go around and and each per whether it's a reflection on the call Or just checking out for yourself each person say a sentence or two and Doug since you just did your book You want to go ahead and start us off? Uh, I was On the fence is whether I was going to join uh today and I'm really glad I did and uh right now I just punched up the list of uh future Zoom calls and stuff. This this was fantastic Excellent thanks I also thought this was um a great experience I did not know we would be discussing virtual games when I Saw there was an online game swap. I thought it was a game swap that took place online and so uh, this is all new to me and fascinating and I had a great time and learned a lot So I couldn't be happier Great. Thanks, Jackie Well, at the fact that we had some different games, um, seems like we've had some repetitive ones of Over the last couple calls to kind of deep dive back into them I like that these were pretty much New new ones or new versions of ones I've known so that was kind of cool to see how to apply it Either online or in person Great nice reason Yeah, I'm I really um enjoyed being with everybody In this space. It's not something that I frequently get a chance to do um and um I am glad that we did a lot of different levels of You know of types of experiences You want to check out last paul or should I uh, okay, so uh, yes I really um, I'm happy that my my reminder went off this morning to Because I've had a very loose schedule this last couple weeks and so i'm glad that this happened and Really enjoyed seeing everybody. I had the very strange experience of going from speaker view Which if you didn't see that note in the chat, I think that last game worked really much better as Doug said To have in speaker view when I went back to present to everybody mode I saw Myself and didn't know it was me and that was kind of scary because I don't wear glasses So that was really weird, but yeah, it was great to see everybody I there is always that sort of feeling I'm a kinesthetic person So I do like to be connected and and and to everybody looking at one person So the fact that everybody's sort of looking at a screen is still difficult for me I look forward to that day when somehow we have a A camera in the middle of the screen or so. I don't know how that's gonna work, but hey life. Yeah up top Kinesthetic well kinesthetic. Oh don't leave me hanging bro. Okay. Thank you Great, so I appreciate everybody showing up though. It's just a nice size group I think when it gets beyond 12 or something it would be very difficult. So this is a good size group. Thanks everybody Thank you. That would indeed be a fresh challenge larger groups, which I think is something we should Yeah tap into some of Matt's wisdom on that perhaps Um, I got something from all the activities and also enjoyed the range of them so thank you everyone for contributing to the offering of games and the participation in them Thanks life very much for Hosting remembering to turn up and yeah facilitate this for us there's uh lots more AI and online webinars coming up both big topics game swaps and 60 minute socials So look out for announcements of those on the facebook page and facebook page And they're all listed as they come up on the AI and website as well And they're in the newsletters that are sent out from AI and so there's various ways in which you get informed of these Find out if you've got topics you want to offer to The webinar sequence then please get in touch with me for that This one has been recorded. We record the big topics. We don't record the 60 minute socials Both of those are deliberate choices So if all works well with the zoom technology, this will be made available by Amy the A&M administrator On our AI and youtube channel Coming to you soon So thanks all Um save the chat and we'll make that as available to Amy and Assuming we can Review or dip into that if we need to at some point Thanks all great seeing you. Look forward to seeing you soon. Thank you. Thank you Don't forget to copy those notes paul that you wrote. Um, I've copied the notes. Okay