 What are some ways to edify my husband and please him intimately even when I lack the desire? Well, that's your question. When most women are not gung-ho to begin with, so I would just concentrate on pleasing him, make myself available to him, and concentrate on pleasing him. You know the things that he likes, and then most of the time, though, the wife gets more in the mood as time goes on. But even if she doesn't, she can certainly actively participate and please him and not defraud him in that area. In the excellent wife book, I've got some tips. She does. It's a great chapter. Yeah.