 Hey, four things I want to share with you about boundaries that I've learned over the years, many more things, but here's four. First of all, boundaries are not about protection from, but they are about protecting you from within. Part of respecting others is respecting their boundaries, but part of respecting yourself is creating and building your own boundaries. Secondly, boundaries aren't based in defensive mode. They may be interpreted as that, but boundaries are to do with self-love rather than dislike or hatred or aggression towards someone else. Boundaries are an act of self-love. Thirdly, boundaries are about self-respect. They're not about someone else's respect for you. Boundaries are you respecting you. They are not an attempt to try and get someone else to respect you. And fourthly and finally, boundaries are about empowering you. They're not about controlling someone else. Again, others will interpret your boundary as an attempt to adjust and edit and control their behavior. But really, a boundary is about empowering you much more than it is about controlling anyone else because we all know you cannot control anyone else except you. So a boundary is a huge gift of self-love to yourself.