 Now coming to the stage is a man that was at the Sweden 21 convention Yeah, over in Europe, and he's gonna be speaking about a couple different things then that he spoke about then So make sure you check that out online when it comes out lives in LA, but was just just flew in from Munich and So you can tell you about his European Ventures, and yeah, he joins the The Orlando convention for the very first time ladies and gentlemen welcome to the stage Orlando Owen. Here he is Thanks Thank you guys. Let me see. I got I guess still an hour. Okay, cool Okay, what I talk about what my my real passion is is what I call remasculation and Even though I do a lot of different things just to introduce myself a little bit my background I've been teaching women since 1985 how to have better orgasm of squirting or gas was long before that was fashionable before any of these other guys were doing it I've been doing that and That was my passion. It still is my main passion And there's a lot of other people who came on the scene who claimed to do the same thing And that's fine, and they probably know how to do it, but I learned a hell of a lot about life I learned a hell of a lot about women. I've actually been married once and Unfortunately that marriage failed even though it was a very hot-looking model and that marriage even though I got her to squirt even in the sexual arena everything was more than perfect eventually she left me because I Didn't really know what it meant to lead. I didn't know what it meant to be a man I didn't know what masculinity even was. I was kind of a pretty boy. I was modeling I was a photographer my whole thing was okay I know how to all I need to do is go out stand somewhere look cool, and some girl will approach me I've gotten about 500 lays that way that's Probably what most of you would consider a quality problem or a high quality problem. I'm telling you it ain't There's something really fundamentally wrong with because you even though I was using the law of attraction of attraction properly I wasn't using a lot of other stuff, right? I wasn't really using my balls. I mean sexually. Yes, I got that stuff figured out But I didn't know how to be to keep them. I was like, oh, yeah, you like that you like my sex whatever Here's my balls. Would you please keep keep them for me and just whenever I cannot just occasionally have them? No Okay, that's fine. Okay. Just be good about them How many of you have ever had successes with pickup Seduction ended up in a relationship because you can't go out there and just kind of like get laid for you know forever And ever and ever you can I'm still doing it, but the point is It's like when you're really hungry, and you haven't getting laid or if you're like what they call an AB an absolute beginner And you think like oh my god. I want it so bad Then that's like going to a grocery store. You're totally hungry. You're starving What kind of what kind of stuff do you buy when you go? Shopping when you're totally starved you buy a lot of shit you buy like Oreos and you buy like You know candy bars and hot dogs and all kinds of crap you go home You know you stuff your face and then you get really nauseous and you think god, you know nasty taste of my mouth And I'm still hungry or I'm still sick or whatever and I'm not fulfilling that need I Don't know what you guys needs are but I tell you once you whenever I got into that dry spell Time of my life. I was like, yeah, I'll fuck anything that walks But you know what you do this and there's a steep curve of diminishing returns You get like one lay 10 lays 20 lays 30 lays and eventually it's like, you know, you don't even another girl every night Pretty soon you're gonna say you know, it's like, you know, I'm kind of full and this is lovely But you know I want a little bit more. I want to have maybe a relationship I'm not saying you should go monogamous or any of that that may or may not be the time of your life to do that But if you've ever tried to make a relationship work, if you've even tried to spark Attraction there's something really important that you need to make that happen and it's called Masculinity when you ask women and I've asked a lot of when what was it? What what kind of like sparked the attraction or what what was like influenced your buying decision as it were They all said well, you know, you made me feel like a woman whatever that means But what it is it's a It's a polarity. It's what my colleague and friend Scott McKay calls Igniting femininity and he's real good about that and he's got a real good woman by his side Who completely is supportive of him and he sparks that femininity because I think you all want I don't think you want hip-hop bitches I think you want cool girls that are like so sort of know who they are that are like with you that are supporting you and Kind of follow your lead That is providing that you are willing to lead that you are that you know how to lead In order to lead I have a lot of guys Right me all the time and call me up and say you know what I don't know what you talked about Do you want to lead? What about a 50% relationship 50 50? Oh David yangela once about ten years ago was asked well, isn't it possible to have a 50 50% relationship? You know politically correct PC as they call it now. I'm not guys. I don't deal with PC, but Politically correct. Yeah, that's that's what they call it now But you know he was asked isn't it possible to have a 50 50% relationship? And he said of course it's possible and there was like a moment of silence in the room I remember this very well about ten years ago the advanced series in Vegas and Then he said it's called. She owns you She does man if you start Surrendering you will believe I'm not talking about suppressing women oppressing them being a dick being a jerk being a douche bag I'm not talking about being disrespectful to women. I'm not talking about any of that That's not where I'm going with it, but there has something something has entered our culture this conference is under the heading of Taking a bite out of feminism and I used to think that feminism Was the enemy I used to think kind of like Steve Jobs used to think that IBM was the enemy Then he found out that the real enemy was actually Microsoft if you ever see Pirates of Silicon Valley a very interesting movie but It's kind of like this. We're all focused on feminism is the problem But feminism is just a concept feminism is a concept that has been watered down and filtered down into the society and When I came in a couple of days ago. I've made the first stopover in Philly and I saw a Magazine I think was called the Atlantic. It was like the end of men the end of men What kind of statement is that I mean they're saying like our father's even necessary That question there was a sub article in there like a box article Is it even necessary for men to exist is basically what these people were saying this reminds me of some like my father was German This is why I do a lot of work in Germany Speak that language not very well, but I like to go over there and help these guys out because they're completely masculated But the end of men Is that where you guys want to end up? It's like you becoming obsolete Like even the drones that supposed to never work in the beehives Then eat it. Otherwise that whole thing would collapse But this is how women look have come to look at men and it's not just because of the propaganda and the mind viruses out there it's because in order for you to go down that route you have to own it you have to become Complicit in that whole emasculation just like Xan is saying women become complicit in their own seduction men are becoming complicit in Their own emasculation in their own castration if you will And if you're walking around the street, and you're not feeling like a man, what are you gonna exude I? Mean you want to spark sexuality you want to spark interest you're learning all these wonderful techniques I'm not the I'm not a P way at all. I'm not even close to that I didn't know what that word meant way until Neil Strauss had written a book about some of my friends And I called up Steve P if you know that as Steve P and Rasputin Rasputin is actually hypnotic But I don't know where Neil ever came up with that name, but these guys were my mentors I learned a lot from them, and they watched me and they taught me a lot of stuff about being a man particularly Steve P and You know he saw me give my power away To this very famous ice skater. I was so star struck And I wanted her so bad that I gave my all my power away This is about ten years ago, and he caught me and said dude, you know, I've never seen you do this kind of shit What's up with that? You need to reclaim your boss be a man about it and kind of reclaim your male power And not by being a dick because I was being controlling I wasn't in control I was being domineering, but I wasn't dominant and When you when you have this problem where were you walking around I see especially in Germany these guys have lost the war you know we bombed the shit out of them and Like 65 years ago, they kind of like surrendered and since then they kind of walking around I was laughing when when psych was over there. We're talking to the Frankfurt Lair And you were you were saying like oh, you know, maybe the the German girls are so bitchy because they got like bitch Sheals like you've never seen and he's he said uh, he said probably it's because you guys are such tough alpha males It's kind of like a match, you know, and I was like is he being facetious Or is he trying to? Kind of like prop him up And it turns out he probably misread a little bit that these guys never smile and they maybe have a pretty good way of Caring themselves at first glance But when you really look in their eyes when you talk love they don't know how to smile They're not present with themselves. They're not present with anything They're completely like oh chicken little like the sky is falling and I was asking the conference about three years ago when I first got Over there, I was like is it politically correct to be German and they're like, oh, well, you know under certain circumstances You know, I could consider maybe considering the question. I was like shut up. Stop. What a stupid Thing to even even respond to it's kind of like thank you for smoking What I like to ask you guys is is it politically correct to be a man? wrong answer It's like thank you for smoking if you leave in the context who? Even responds to a stupid-ass question like that Why is that even on the table that it could possibly be a Question or an issue whether it's who gives a shit whether it's politically correct to be a man You are a man you got balls. I hope so you got a dick. I Hope you got more than that I hope you got guts if you do have that then who is gonna question that if you're true man You'll never be questioned. I'll tell you one thing I saw like I lived in Vegas and I met a couple of these these show guys They're like doing with lions and tigers and this said, you know, I said, what's the secret and this said won't you just got to know Whose boss if you ever even even ever have the slightest hint of a doubt in your mind About who's running the show with these I mean There's like five tigers and five lions and like Jaguar is like the most ferocious friggin kitty on the planet, right? talk about pussy and Those cats they can tear you to shreds before you even know what the hell hit you and They said like it. What's what's the challenge? You said well, it's kind of like when you're talking to women this one guy told me It's like they call them tests or now you guys you go call them shit tests But how do you master a shit test, you know, if you master every shit test you're pretty good There's a hell of a lot of difference between good and great and if you're truly great You will never ever be tested women. No better my attitude. I'm like the lion That's kind of like lying in the belt and like these lionesses do whatever they do and when they come up And they like trying to to run bullshit on me. I'm like Thinking to myself. I look out of like really lazy kind of opening one eye And I'm like that's the most stupid thing I've ever heard and I go back to sleep and then oh shit You know, it's like I'll never go there again That was a bad idea and you do this once or twice. You'll never have to be tested again But how willing are you To lead it's like in Germany. I don't know if this is enough taught a lot of stuff over there So I've been over there about you know 70% of the time I'm really looking forward to going back to LA in a couple of months, but these guys are Like so emasculated like they're writing to me like what do you mean? Like I'm supposed to lead I have poor leading I said that's because you have no idea where you're going and If you're not having the political will as it were to lead and I'm not saying be a dick and tell the girl Oh, give me a beer. You know, it's like bitch. Come on. That's not what I'm talking about That's not at all. That's not being a man That's being a total douchebag worse But if you really are a man Then you never have to do these things. It's like my girlfriends. They will and they know of each other They don't particularly care for each other most of them except for two But they know what this deal is because I'm totally straight with them right from the bat and I'll tell him right off the bat. Look, you know, this is who I am This is what I do if this is you know This is before this relationship goes any further because before we're gonna start kissing just want to make a few things clear So I'm totally there and you know what 80 90% of the women are totally okay with that If you think you need to be lying to women, that's a real just to get something That's a big problem in the PUA community. Anyway, it's like the first three questions. Germany when asked like I'm a PUA Oh, oh, yeah, okay. Oh, you're a PUA. Okay. How many approaches? How many gigabytes? Of stolen stuff I might add of pirated shit they'll never use and never pay for because they don't think they're worth it and That's a real problem over there I don't know how bad it is over here because I haven't really spent a whole lot of time in the US the last couple years But that's what they're saying and the mentality is oh, let me get something for nothing Let me let me just extract like sex get her to go to bed with me That's pickup That's like neediness like trying to get something for nothing like gambling if you ever listen to Savage talk about his triangle there's a whole difference between pickup and seduction seduction is like the opposite it comes from strength It comes from giving something from having power from giving power And it's based on the assumption that women are essentially willing to give whatever it is that you guys think you want Voluntarily why cheat and trick to get it These are all things about being a man. These are all things that if you really have that down You get a lot of that outer game stuff handled by itself I'm not going to teach you that stuff. There's much better guys like psych back there Who know exactly what they're doing and they can you know run you through that play-by-play and blow-by-blow. Oh? Yeah, you know is what he's doing believe me. I Know women I was this would never work on me Yeah, maybe well, maybe it won't depending but if you really know who we are if you taking care of Not just your inner game. That's kind of like becoming like a really twisted term too because if nobody really knows what the hell that is People think all it's like I'm doing a little bit of meridian tapping or whatever it is wonderful We're sitting at home and kind of like trance to yourself. Yes, I can have every girl. Yes I'm the prize and then your subconscious says no you're not That's really lovely. That's not in your game That's like trying to bullshit yourself But if you are Going out there and you're taking care of being a man and really not just like I'm the alpha Aren't I because men my friend Johnny St. Porno always says men seek the approval of other men That's that was a real red pill for me because I never thought about it that way I Thought yeah, who you're trying to impress lay reports Freakin trying to impress with a friggin lay report bragging rights kiss and tell What to prop your ego up? Oh, I got her, you know, and here's the gory details or the juicy details or whatever That's not being a man. That's being a dumb fuck and If you really know seriously, I mean come on what the fuck is a lay report for Christ's sake a gentleman Can you think like James Bond or Sean Connery? Let's say Sean Connery I think he's a pretty macho guy in a good way. Can you say it? Well, you know, it's like oh, I'm gonna go to the forum and post like in 55 forums like who he laid last night I mean what kind of I mean is that does that masculine? Do you think hypnotica does that shit? No, those are all guys. I think Zane doesn't do that Johnny doesn't do that. Those are all real men and They don't need bragging rights to prop themselves up and most of the guys When they've when they try to get women what they're really trying to do is like get a woman to to impress their buddies You know, maybe you're really playing the wrong gender here is my impression if you really so so concerned with trying to impress your buddies Maybe you also might want to hang out in the locker room a little more than usual and Looking at sweaty guys and jockstraps. I mean that sorry. I don't want to share too much information But if that's what you're into Be my guest I'm personally not trying to impress anyone not even women but if I'm gonna like Kind of be impressive to someone I've wanted to be impressive to women I want to convince by my presence and if you ever have any issues I remember hypnotica at Niels house Dostrosis house doing the annihilation series. He was there and talking to guys that said look at me And he was like kind of shoving the guy a little bit stop look and he said and the guy was like You know like Steve P would say he was shaking like a dog shit and page things and The point is I have this all the time I have workshops. I do probably about two to three hundred People in workshops in Europe a year at this point paying about 1200 bucks a pop So it's it's it's there's a real demand there and these guys come in there And they're like, you know checked out and like there's like that die eyes are darting all over the place There's somewhere off in their own world and this is exactly what women tell me the guys are like nowhere to be found Where is the real men? That's a real problem if women tell you always no more no more real men Well, but I'm such an alpha kind of like help bitch No, that's being a little boy. That's trying to to to pretend being a man and This is what I see a lot of times in the in the whole community guys And I look just kind of like posture you're learning body language like guys come to me and so, you know, I have a If I just get my body language of my stance handle a little more, you know, then Then I'll be okay. I just got this tiny little Problem with my self-esteem, but you know, it's like once I get the body You know what that's like saying I got a tiny little problem with my self-esteem But if I only learn the outer technique that's like saying my my marriage is is perfect Would be perfect if it weren't for my wife I mean think about it a lot of these guys if you guys want to attract if you want what you want You want to spark attraction and contrary to public belief Attractions is something you can just create you can yes You can if you have a natural atavistic polarity the male polarity you can use it You can bring it out and that's what people confuse with creating attraction You can't create it out of thin air if you don't have the male polarity if you don't know who are who you are as a man It's facade and I mean I do stuff with women where I always have like a couple of kind of like Decker Authentic man program where I always have a couple of women there Especially on the second or third day of the seminar and I have guys just walk up to them and just say nothing and Just stand there and just watch the body language of the women Watch them kind of like take that guy. I wouldn't say apart But really give feedback these guys are like, you know this about me you could see that I've had girls telling look, you know masturbating too much. I see it in your field and the guy's like, oh my god I can't believe she's seen that. It's like do I have hair in my palm too? Yeah, people can see that women have bullshit detectors 10 to 100 times greater than yours You can have those too, but it's a matter of developing them But if you really are looking at a woman and she doesn't see the man inside of you There's not a whole lot you can do maybe show fuck you maybe but that's a big if But in the long run typically what I get is like high Orlando. My name is you know Joe AFC and I've been doing pickup for one year seven months four days and three hours and Now I'm reaching this point where I just realized it only goes so far and I want to go beyond that What do you do? What do I do? I'm like, you know It's not gonna be a real quick fix It's more like y'all know the story about the Zen master who comes to the forest and they see these two guys With this 10-foot blade sweating away trying to cut down this redwood and they're not making any progress The guy watches them for an hour and he's like, let me see the blade. Let me see that saw and it's completely dull It's like there's not no edge there right no edge He says look Guys, I know this sounds counterintuitive, but there's a guy about 15 minutes from here who does nothing but a sharpened saws It's gonna take you 50 minutes to walk there. He's gonna take my half hour to do it 15 minutes back It's an hour and 10 bucks And there's the guy said shut up get away from us. We don't have time for this stuff Don't you can't you see we're busy as log in season That's like I was watching this thing the other day and I saw this had this like little roof window and a little place I'm staying in in Germany and like this fly or it's whatever a wasp was kind of buzzing its head against this thing It was like an a lip of about like like an edge of about two inches All I had to do is go down but like eight hours later I swear eight hours later that same wasp was still buzzing up against that thing Trying to if I only try a little harder if I only do a few more approaches If I only beat my head against the wall if I only land free more at the seminar about the size that a guy Says I know pick up this bullshit, but you know, I want to I want to learn a few techniques that women haven't heard before and Like the whole room you're not laughing. I wonder if I hit like the sore spot here Hmm, can I get a little like David Angelo would say a little ferris wheel after maybe you're not getting it Do you know what I'm trying to tell you guys you're trying to do more of the same thing instead of Going back counterintuitive that that fly was or whatever that that was was buzzing about an inch But it takes two inches to get down and now It was always there was learned helplessness or it wasn't even learned helplessness that thing was just had no clue what to do No, of course, it's a fairly small size brain. You guys got huge ass brains the size of supercomputers or at least the power of it use them and The point is if you just step back instead of going after the instant gratification like I don't know like if I've done 5,000 approaches Why am I not aren't I getting somewhere? Because maybe your technique sucks, maybe your intergame sucks Maybe you need to go back and take a step back and really sharpen the saw and get to be a man And if you truly a man, I'm not one of these guys that goes out there, but do I get late? Yeah once in a while More than I can handle Not because I'm so cute or so young or this or that or so hot or so cool It's just because I know how to Talk to a woman. I know how to make her feel like a woman. I'm totally present with her I'm not making any bones about who I am. I'm totally straight and honest. I never frigging lie to them and I'm completely Present with them. I'm right there and there's like no wavering and if they test me if they ever should be so foolish to Do so I just smile at them like I lean back and I'm just like, okay Maybe you're just used to these little, you know Punk ass boys that can be pushed wrong, but I'm not that kind of guy and if that's what you want, you know I wish you well on your journey And they say, okay, it's a little different and then they're right there with me and not out of ten Will Completely come wrong and be right there with me and they say, okay, this is different. Okay. Let's take this to a whole new level and Typically what these other guys are telling me that I like going into the pickup and then they say well You know, I've met all these girls, but then invariably I fell in love with one and now I got one I it is one it is and I'm completely like heartbroken. I don't know what to do and it fell apart as I didn't fall apart Let me guess you weren't willing to lead. You didn't know who you were in the relationship What did she tell you once you left? She said, you know grow up Or who's ever heard that grow up. I've heard it not in a while. Oh, right Okay, and for the rest of your lives You've never heard that okay, I doubt that very much, but I Know a lot of guys who've heard it And there's other stuff like I'm just not feeling that much attraction for you. Well, what does that mean? Women don't necessarily go for the cutest guy or the hottest guy they go for a guy that makes them feel like a woman and I don't care if women today are so Emancipated or so empowered that they're up in the upper echelons of you know, they're the corporate society But when I talk to them, I know a lot of those girls are like making, you know Whatever a million dollars a year and up or at least 150 200 grand a year and they're up there and they're making corporate decisions They're telling hundreds of men what to do yet As much as they love their job as much as they're having success and all that they're completely lonely Nine out of ten of these girls are totally frustrated And they sometimes talk to me and they said what can I do it's like I'm feeling attracted to the to the construction guy I'm feeling attracted to the truck driver, but I can't find another guy even if he's making twice the money I'm making out there in a suit that I can actually respect and look up to they can't get The attraction they need a man who's man enough to actually pass up to step up to the plate and be a man and nature abhors a Vacuum and if you're not filling that vacuum well that then you get the situation we have what they call now gender mainstreaming You know what that is? It's meaning somebody is there with like a couple of scissors looking having a real hard look at your balls Collectively even Obama's I mean I voted for the guy and I'll probably vote for him again But the point is even he has this Michelle and three powerful women these girls are what no eight Whatever and her and he's basically implying or It's allowing that She runs the show. Well, how can you run a goddamn country? If you can't even run your own family and again, I love the guy don't get me wrong after eight years of the other stuff I'm I'll vote for anyone, especially him because I like the guy. He's cool. But is he like the role model of like masculine authentic power You know and people say well, do you understand? Let me just let me just see who would rather have a 50 50% relationship Who would rather who'd be okay with that? I know nobody now will dare to raise their hands But who's who really has the will to lead? That's taking some of you a little long Because the reason I'm telling you this is not of some kind of epic principle or like some Idealistic, you know story out bullshit It's because if you want to get laid if you want to keep a girl if you want to have fun Even with women you just met for that day or that night if you even want to meet them in the first place You got to work on sharpening the saw you got to work on being that guy Even if you're doing things like a venue change even if you started to escalate all these outer game things How can you do those if you constantly like I'm not doing the right thing or am I like kind of like off base here? Who cares? I'm not saying just be a brash asshole and like oh, yeah, fuck the bitch. That's not what I'm talking about What I'm talking about is being the leader being like very much in line with that And I wouldn't tell you this I was actually going to talk about something entirely different today I was actually going to talk about self-esteem because I'm doing these two-day workshops with guys completely building up their self-esteem Getting into a lot of real deep inner game stuff and they come out of it and after like 30 to 60 days The self-esteem will boost by two to 300 percent It's real powerful stuff and that's my my real work mostly, but I'm just realizing when I'm just coming back to America I was always telling these guys in Germany you guys a bunch of wooses We Americans aren't wooses we're like men I'm coming back here and everything everyone I talked to and they're like No, it's not a such dude. How long you've been out of the country? I'm like about two three years with a few interruptions and said no man. Ain't no such thing. You're deluding yourself same problem here Serious problem here And if you're not if you're looking at yourself in the mirror, can you truly say look I'm a man I'm proud to be a man not because I got big martial muscles. That's fine. Those are nice tremors of masculinity But the point is do you really like being a man? I mean this sounds like a real trite kind of like Obvious thing, but do you really enjoy being a man? Do you truly feel? You know comfortable in your own skin. This is what women told me even the ones that told me that they didn't really like me Being being with them or whatever many many years ago. They said look, you know You don't feel like it doesn't seem like you feel comfortable in your skin. You need to work on that Yes, they don't me. Yes, I got a lot of them, but I still felt like a douche and I probably was Because I really wasn't a masculine man And that's what they look for when they look in your eyes. They're looking for like this strange Strength what I call core strength Unfortunately this presentation thing didn't quite work out the way because I bought an iPad yesterday thinking that all I had to do was Like my buddy Daniel's bad boy plugging it in and here it is and I don't know There's some other tricks to this which I haven't figured out because I'm not a computer guy But I've broken it down into a process that I call remasculation This is a little different from what Scott McKay does where he's talked about Igniting femininity, although we're basically saying the exact same things in totally different words and It's only part of what I do There's other processes to this whole thing called the magic male process There are things like ultra deep game, which is dealing with all your your deep emotional issues how to get rid of those how to really get emotionally free and clean so you can actually be Totally present and comfortable with your own self but There's other stuff like using magnetic attraction, which is using the law of attraction to literally Attract women into your life having them approach you showing up in your life Even if you don't leave the house. I've had him literally contact me on social media after doing some Very deep intergame stuff. So there's many things sexual mastery I do all these things But the real my real passion my real favorite part that I know it Well is the quickest way for you to really get lasting success with women even if you're just talking about getting laid And that's fine. I have no trouble with that God knows I've done that for many many years of my life and I'm still doing it And I still like just getting laid in massive quantities. I enjoy that but I also have to have Some kind of intensity some present with a girl. Oh my god. I said the wrong thing. No, you don't like me anymore. No Okay, okay, thanks guys for coming that's it No, shut up No, I can live with that and it's fine I do like that and my girlfriends are totally okay with that, but that's not the point the point is remasculation is a real intense process That I really want you guys to to get to kind of look at what makes a man a man Do you guys know what makes a man a man? Do you have any idea like when you're standing in front of a woman and you're saying like look When you want her to say she he made me feel like a woman Which means you were being the man or you you are the man and I've broken it down to about ten different Main points and you probably can't read that from where you are, but I'm gonna break him down for you real quick Those are what I consider the ten main ingredients and you can switch this around you can say this is more important than that There's many ways to look at this. There's many ways to skin a pussy a cat but One of the first things if you want to lead you got to know who you are you got to know where you want to lead to How can how can a woman trust you if you don't know where the hell you're going? It's like the woman is like the polarities as the yin is like the ocean It's like a big thing that can destabilize you yin and mythology or in terms of You know the whole metaphysics behind it is the ocean. It's the earth. It's the ocean We are sort of like the spark the world of ideas But in order to bring that fire and air into existence you have to have The female polarity just like the DaVinci code like the inverse pyramid and In order for a woman to follow you why the hell should she follow you because you said so Try that with girls and see what they tried with this beautiful lady back there and she'll slap you I've heard her talk. She's a damn feisty one But the point is if you don't know if you don't trust yourself self-esteem also means you feel Proper to life appropriate to life. You feel like you know you can handle life You know where you're going you stand for something bigger than yourself or you bigger than your dick or Bigger than thinking with your dick. It's got to be something a little more and if women all go into college Three there's 50% more women supposedly going to college this article said than men Well, maybe that's what they need to do Maybe you guys need to be doing something else all these inner city kids all these I was talking to Frank back there And he was talking about how he was in Russia and how all the men there I like this functional they get them on the bottle and the woman says well somebody's got to pick up the slack and If you if all the men I like out there playing World of Warcraft on the internet or other things on the internet Whatever, you know how why should women even trust you why should they follow you because you don't have a purpose in life So I call this VIP vision attention and purpose. It's discovering who you are. It's like the hero's journey Joseph Campbell death and rebirth and Part of you probably needs to die a part of that the boy you've heard that the boy must die David the angel talks about that dr. Paul talks about an intergame deep intergame. That's what that is As long as you're so attached to oh, I'm the biggest p-way. Oh, I got the biggest dick or I'm the biggest seducer It's wonderful, but why should a woman trust you? She didn't want that She wants somebody who knows what what he is not somebody who tells her what to do Yes, but only if he knows what to do himself if he's worthy of that leadership and That creates intense attraction if you don't have a vision of purpose for your life Evolution tends to filter you out because evolution tends to favor people who do incredible stuff Who do anything so find something in your lives? That's bigger than you are for Christ's sake find something that's bigger than World of Warcraft or Grand Theft Auto Whatever the hell people are playing these days Find something that is so compelling to you that you don't need to motivate yourself find a cause anything I don't care what it is But find something that is so exciting to you that you're inspired and enthusiastic if you break those words down. It really means in spirit it Infections and women will follow you and you never run out of things to say That's one of the nice perks of it There's other stuff the first step actually now may even reverse those two in order Responsibility It means saying look you know I am At least a major factor in my destiny. I'm a major co-creator in my life's path and I'm willing to step up to the plate and I take Responsibility for who I am responsibility doesn't mean like what your parents told you. Oh, you're irresponsible. You didn't clean up your room That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about taking responsibility for you set for yourself your development everything you do in your life and really grabbing life by the horns Responsibility means that you're seizing power that you've given collectively and individually a way to The media, you know politics, whatever it is out there sports if you watch in ESPN all day Well, then you're probably not taking a whole lot of responsibility for your own life And it's not really a vision and the purpose either neither is security by the way in Germany The number one thing always on the questionnaires that I send out Like among the top three is always security safety, you know being taken care of these guys live with their moms till they're 30 And then they go straight into marriage and the girls are like no, I don't want that I'd rather have a guy like you that's fucking wrong But he's totally straight and honest about it and totally congruent with it Then these wusses who are like just want to get married and have kids and just be in that Nothing wrong with getting married and getting kids But why are you doing it? Are you doing it because you want that safety that security and Thomas Jefferson our third president is credited with having said and they say it was somebody else who said it But it doesn't matter. He said those who are willing to give give up Freedom to gain security will lose both and didn't deserve either I'm paraphrasing But what that means is when whoever said it is not important, but what is important is if you if you're seeking security Getting a good job getting a good education. It's like that song like 50 grand of a year will buy a lot of beer Timbuk three many years ago about guys that are just going out there and going after the safe job She believed that that's gonna get make you make you safe or make you rich then go read rich dad poor dad That's a really interesting eye opener Forget playing it safe. And if you all in Germany, this is like an epidemic I mean guys are like just going after safety because I guess the word You know kind of like shook the country so hard all they know the only vision they can even think of is like I want to make sure that everything is by the book and I got money and I never have to you know fear Well, that's a real quick way to lose it all and why I like I tell these guys Well, why do you like America like after Bush and all this shut the fuck up? I'm very proud to be American even though my dad was German Why am I proud not because we have all these big aircraft carriers and big Governments and any of that stuff, but because our founding fathers and I was trying to tell these guys about our founding fathers They didn't even know who the fuck that was they're like what do you mean like the guys on the Mayflower said no no no You're missing something here The founding fathers Jefferson, Washington all these guys Hamilton all the guys that signed the Declaration of Independence remember that piece of paper They were declaring the independence from oppression. They were declaring Their independence as a nation to be free so you guys all that freedom you guys enjoying today You owe it to these guys 240 years later the Constitution and all that stuff is still holding up pretty well even though a lot of people tried to chip away at it A lot of American Taliban and American Nazis and other Nazis were trying to chip away at I'm not calling names But I'm just telling you what I think of them and they can't understand what that is at least you guys most of you guys are American now hope you understand what the heritage means and I'm not trying to be patriotic or or any of that flag waving shit That's not what it's about But it's about these guys stood for something greater than themselves But do you think that the 4th of July you think when they were done with that that was just okay gentlemen Okay, the next point in the agenda is Whatever no These guys were getting the hell out of there because they realized if the British were catching them They would treat them like we would treat Whatever Osama there were terrorists to them Okay, cool. Thank you so that's These guys could have died. They would have been shot or hung on sight for many years So they stood for something and you still owe your freedom to these guys 240 years later Wherever you stand politically is irrelevant. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm just saying get something that is compelling to you I don't care if you go out there and do a habit of humanity some social cause I don't know if you go down there and join the Peace Corps whatever it is I don't care something anything if you form your own company you find something that you're truly passionate about and it isn't Isn't what your dad or your mom or whatever Told you that you need to do to get a safe job. That's not very attractive to most women I've seen guys that went from stockbroker to bike messenger And that was their passion women respected it even though we're making one tenth of money But that's standing for something taking responsibility ethics and character thing is Not too popular these days either, but it means characters destiny if you really know Where you go and if you really have clear boundaries, how can you lead a woman? How can you even be in a relationship if you don't have clear boundaries? You end up with borderline girls you end up with co-dependency And if you don't know it's like that old song like no one to Hold and no one to fold no one to walk away. No one to run I hate country music even though I like to dress like a cowboy, but I told you just hit the test country music But that's not I like that line. No one to fucking run, dude And you cannot do that if you caught in the monkey trap, and you're not independent of the girl These things all go together by the way including self-esteem Anything that you work on will spark all of it to a greater level This may seem like the long road. Well, I want to just know the damn pickup lines I just want to know how to open and close and do this and do that Wonderful and as I said, there's plenty of guys who know how to teach that and they're great at it And you need that you need outer game. No doubt about it but sometimes you need to step back and not be the The wasp that's so caught up being outcome. Was it you that? Cyclist, but was it I forget who said it like being outcome independent doesn't mean outcome indifference You know being being not so caught up in the instant gratification of just going out there I just want to get laid so bad Well, a lot of attraction says that doesn't work because you would you'd be better off saying I wanted to late You get laid so good because then you're feeling it because otherwise you're coming from lack It's not gonna work a woman feel that and One of the other things is if you're talking about these things Decisions and clarity decision-making a knight carry the sword that means you cut this from that you make a choice a decision It's like literally you're taking the sword. You're not rattling it. You know where you go And you're making a commitment If you can't commit to something Then you're probably not gonna be able to lead in a relationship if you don't need how to commit if you don't I'm not talking about motivational training or any of that It's like once you commit to even getting on a path of Development of becoming a real man a lot of weird magic starts happening a lot of stuff kind of like takes care of itself You don't need to posture or be the alpha male or whatever all that stuff. You'll just be it and then people will follow you Emotional health is really really can't over stress that one because if you're going from if your basis is low self-esteem Well, you will never be able to attract anyone who's who's higher the law of attraction of attraction says you cannot attract a Woman of high self-esteem into your life if you own self-esteem as well You'll end up with borderline girls There is no way That you can't be on an even level with somebody with low self-esteem If that's what you end up going for and if you just going out there and you're like, oh fuck intergame I'm just gonna do the outer game stuff I'm just gonna go serge like the cows come home. Well great But if you do it from a place of low self-esteem, you're probably gonna damage your self-esteem even further and Core strength male essence and independence those all go very well Together, I mean if you really are what does it mean to be independent as a man? That means you're not going like okay, which way the wind blows you're not going okay Whatever my buddies say Whatever society says you are then unplugging yourself from the matrix literally and you say look just like America unplugged itself from the old World 240 years ago you can unplug yourself from all your mind viruses from all your memes Who tell you look it's not okay to be a man? Oh, well I have to be politically correct and be nice and kind of like keep my sexuality kind of under wraps So they don't know what I really want from them Being independent of your peer group saying look you guys a bunch of losers you're drinking I'm getting the hell out of here. I'm going out there, and I'm actually doing some with my life commitment These things all are very close related and women will feel it. They will literally smell it on you They will know whether you're a real man or you just faking it There's only so much you can do with body language is only so much you can do through charging approaching and all that other shit It is really Really important that you get Completely your masculinity handled because if you don't have the molecularity How can you attract the femininity that you're after I don't think you want a girl That's just being a tough bitch I think you want a girl that is truly there with you that truly sees you for your that doesn't mean you need to be at the end of this That doesn't mean you have to have an incredible job or incredible vision for your life and all that if you just make In the first step and saying look This is what I want. I am going after it I don't know where this journey takes me But I am committing to a path of self-development of being a man finding out what it is to be a man go in the hero's journey Die and be reborn Let the boy die and then become a real man It may seem like the very longest possible journey, but I'm telling you it's the quickest and fastest way To get in what you guys want It's the absolute fastest way if you take care of your emotional issues if you take care of your character all your issues All of who you are what you stand for if you're looking to that your life will be ten to a hundred times more fulfilled Than it probably is now and the rest Attracting women into your life will be a natural and inevitable consequence of that whether you believe this or not I'll leave that up to you and it's time for me to kind of wrap it up And I could talk to you probably for three days without chipping the fuck up But I'm gonna shut the fuck up and I'll just invite you on a journey if you want to know how to find me This is my home page. I spell it magic male with a CK Because it's separating the path of magic meaning like Taking control of your life from the path of the muggles the path of the mundane the path of the everyday bullshit Where you just a victim? And if you want to find me there you find my email there. I'm gonna do a Little free workshop and I wanted whoever wants is interested or might be interested in this talk to me after this thing Or talk to me during the next day or so Catch me and we'll talk about doing a little free for our workshop where I'll give you a taste of what this stuff It's times way too short to even give you a taste of it But I guarantee you'll change your life And if you really want to get a little more serious about it I'll do a Small workshop not very expensive for a day or two where I'm gonna really get deep with you guys I'll do a lot of trans stuff. I've learned from people like Steve P in hypnotica and I've learned a lot of other stuff like that and If you really want to change your lives talk to me and we'll figure out something You know where to find me magic male comm that's the end of the commercial. Thanks a lot. I appreciate it and thanks to Anthony if you want to see what a young guy 20 friggin one years old He's probably done more in his life than most people will do all their lives. He's yeah, yeah, I don't need to blush You're just like I'm totally amazing. I'm not trying to flatter your ass What I'm saying is if you want to see a guy that's living his vision and purpose. He's a maniac I mean he's badass. He's just like obsessive about stuff. He's done what now 3,500 approaches, but doesn't matter He's living his life. He's living his purpose his vision and he's making this come true How many guys at age 21? Do you know this is not his first conference either? He's done this a bunch of times so Thanks Anthony my respect to you and everybody who lives their lives and becomes a man If women talk to these guys, they know they're looking at a man. They're looking into the eyes of a man It's not a question of your years. It's a question of wanting to be a man being a leader being comfortable and Really reclaiming your authentic male power Thanks a lot guys appreciate it Oh, okay, sure. Yeah at the bottom of your list there you have presence and authenticity And that's something I've been thinking and working on quite a bit and you didn't really discuss it that much But if you could give a few thoughts on how you think we could go about cultivating and developing presence and authenticity Yes, and what I mean by presence is a bunch of things if you want to exude presence You also have to become present with yourself you have to know yourself very well and One of the things I do in the workshops is I put guys very very much on one-to-one with their own image, but also with somebody else and You really really learn what you're looking at who you are How you being present with yourself and all the stuff that goes in on yourself the Buddhists call this mindful being But I take it a little farther or a little further into the body And it becomes completely being present with everything that runs you Because it can't destroy you and becoming totally present with yourself on the inside releasing the stuff and The less stuff you have it's like emotional high colonics if you will the less Mucoidal plaque you have between you and your true emotions and that's also what I mean by courage First and foremost what I mean by courage is very much what Gary Zuckoff talks about Who's talked about authentic power and it's like he said this was a special you a special forces guy get the shot at an El Salvador and he was so present with becoming Present with his emotions said it was the most courageous thing he ever did he said get the shot at in South America and El Salvador was peanuts Was bullshit compared to having to face his own emotional issues having become present with his own Pains and this is one of the things that unfortunately there's no way around it You don't need to wallow in this stuff But we have techniques where you can go into your pains for maybe five to ten minutes and get rid of them like the layers of an onion forever That's a big piece of being present and being courageous and being authentic with your own pains because you're trying to hide them Women will tell you it's too bad. I really wanted to pull up a woman The beautiful Erica back there that would have been great, but she came a little late in here So I would have liked to have her on stage and kind of have her give you guys some feedback But you can still probably play that with her walk up to her and just have her give you honest feedback about where you are And what you're hiding from yourselves Hello, so I feel for me I Always struggle with the dilemma for Pursuing my purpose, but I also feel held back by like obligations I'm not sure if sometimes the obligations is legitimate And whether or not I'm running from that responsibility or if I'm just you know making making up these obligations So I'm too scared to pursue my purpose We have just like in the regular mail empowerment workshops I say who gave you the right to give you power away like that as a man We have one workshop called the RMP Which is about finding a vision of purpose and then living it regardless of what everybody says Which is usually about six or seven people and including your inner critic. It's to really Distinguish between your real emotional guidance system what Martha Beck calls your your North Star and Like all the false stuff that your inner critic will tell you all the bullshit that we take on It's like who gave you the right to betray your dreams Because you will never be successful even hardcore capitalists like Andrew Andrew Carnegie who is the model for Scrooge McDuck Believe it or not the steel guy He even said people are rarely if ever successful. It's something that they don't fully enjoy and having fun with and This is the thing you will you can you have to develop sort of like your emotional guidance system and really know you're in your Emotional GPS they'll tell you like is this really me and yes Sometimes the process is very much like metamorphosis part of you the caterpillar kind of needs to die like in Alice in Wonderland And it completely dissolves part of you needs to be willing to completely let go and really face the fear let it Completely dissolve you die Then the boy will die and then what comes up after that if you cut open a cocoon and you look into like a caterpillar cocoon There's nothing there except goo. I mean it's completely so much surrendering into like the DNA will know where to pull me the creative plan If you learn how to follow that you'll eventually kind of come out of that cocoon and be a butterfly And a butterfly is not a caterpillar with wings. It's a totally different animal has nothing to do with the original thing This is kind of like where I'm trying to help you guys go and this is what I'm saying It's a lot bigger than just pickup lines If you really really feel that if you learn how to become present it all connects And this is just a small piece of the puzzle if you if you really feel like this is me. I'm having fun This is energy. You will never have to motivate yourself again You never have to like NLP bullshit yourself again nothing against NLP But if you're using it to try to prop yourself up Against where you really want to go what you really want to do with your life you beat on a dead horse if Once you find who you are and what really excites you and really feel that Wherever you feel it then you will never have to motivate yourself again I'm a total lazy fuck, but I work 80 hours a week 50 weeks a year Sometimes a hundred hours a week. I'm not I can't motivate myself to do shit But yet I get up. I know I'm doing it because I'm totally stoked about it I love doing what I do love one. We're giving women orgasm squirting orgasm. That's part of what I do But I also like to share this with you guys so that you guys can do the same thing And yeah, it took me you know what five six seven years ago. I was fairly wealthy I didn't think I'd ever have to work again in my life It's living Vegas that I lost everything in the blink of an eye and I had to all of a sudden dig ditches at 150 degrees in Sedona, Arizona in the desert and It came sort of like a cowboy I was working three jobs never had enough money and I was writing it from like 10 p.m To 3 a.m. I was writing ebooks about how to do sexual stuff pleasure sizes and stuff like that I Slept three hours at a night for like two years and I still don't sleep a whole lot I'm probably look at my eyes and see it But I'm totally I can do that because I'm so much into what I want to do do not give up your dreams And not just the regular pep talk really Develop the courage get rid of your fears. I can show you how to do that That's what I do to help guys even corporate managers even top managers kind of like make the switch Like if you read the four-hour work week, but Timothy Ferris That's what I'm talking about and he's talking about all these fears, but he doesn't tell you how to get rid of him I don't know how to get rid of him for you with you So answer your question Little bit not really okay Okay Okay All right Talk to me later. I'll I'll help you out All right, that's it. I'll let go and give it up. Okay. Thank you Thanks, man