 When the narcissist sees this it will destroy them towards the end of your relationship The narcissist made you feel like you weren't good enough Nothing you did was enough for the narcissist They invalidated you they made you feel like you would never be good enough for anyone or anything and Once they had secured their next source of supply They were out of there. They left you to deal with the consequences of their actions They moved on to this new source of supply. You may have been able to observe their new situation And it may have seemed like they are so much happier with this new person It may seem like they are so much happier without you But this is all part of the illusion it is designed to fool you as well as their new supply It's designed to make it look like you were the problem and now that they've left you Everything is going well for them Because they know that you're still hurting They know that you're going to be confused after everything they did to you They know that you're going to be looking for answers So they've already orchestrated everything for you to produce their desired effect The narcissist wants to have an effect on you They want to leave a lasting impression They want to make you feel like you're missing out on something as though you should have done more of them Or as though you're just not enough Because that's exactly how they feel inside They felt like you were greater than them Which is why they work so hard to put you beneath them Their self-worth and self-esteem is dependent on how you feel about yourself So they have to trick you into seeing yourself as less than you actually are So that they can elevate themselves at your expense Once the narcissist has discarded you they move on to their new supply They try to make it look like they're having a good time They try to make it look like they're so much happier without you, but it isn't real It's just an illusion Just as it was when they were with you When you first met them you thought everything was great You thought you had met this ideal character who was everything you could have wanted and desired But that was until you got to know the real person beneath the mask That was until you realized they're so damaged they really are They tricked you They led you to believe that they were this happy Kevree character When really they were the exact opposite of that Narcissists are ready of a happy They can never be satisfied with anything And they cannot deal with stress So they could never be the person that you wanted them to be The person that you thought they were This person who was supposed to be happy and carefree They display that to you because they knew it was what you wanted to see But that wasn't who they really are It was designed to deceive you so that they could secure you as their source of supply Which is the same thing that they're doing with their new supply It's an orchestration They know how to coordinate the elements of a situation to produce a desired effect But it isn't real It's just designed to fool you It's designed to make you believe it's something that is not Because they know what you would want it to be But they know that they don't have the qualities abilities or resources to sustain this over a long period of time Narcissists will give you a short burst of whatever they think you would to see But then it soon fades away and they have to get out of there before you figure them out Before you begin to catch on They cannot remain around you Once you know what they're really about They will only give you snippets But even then it's only about supply They have no empathy They cannot share experience Although it may look like the narcissist is happier with a new supply. It is just an orchestration It's designed to fool you and the love-bombing phase is short-lived It isn't long until the narcissist devalues them Until they go from seeing them as someone who is perfect To then seeing them as being completely flawed They have to see people in this way in order to function They have a black and white mentality Where people are either all good or all bad You're either on their side or you're against them and Once the narcissist starts to devalue their new supply There is a possibility that they may be looking for you. They may re-idealize you and Try to get you back They may try to hoove at you and when they hoove at you They're hoping that you've just been waiting on them Narcissists expect people to wait around They're delusional and they lack object constancy Whenever you're not around them They assume that you're not doing anything They assume that you're just waiting in the wings until they return So when they do return to you They're expected to finish where they left off They're expected for things to go back to normal They're not even thinking that you may have moved on They're not even thinking that you may have other commitments They're expecting you to be waiting around for them Because maybe that's just what they've experienced with past sources of supply They swooped in and got everything they wanted from them And then tossed them aside While the supply was just waiting there They were just waiting for them to return And Narcissists will base the current situation On the past success of their manipulation They will assume that it's just going to play out in the same way again They will assume that you're still going to be waiting for them But if you've moved on And built a life for yourself outside of them It will destroy them It will ruin them emotionally Because in their minds You're just this object that is supposed to wait on the self You're supposed to wait around until they're ready to play with you again You're not supposed to have a life of your own Your life is meant to revolve around them It's the mentality of a child And they see you as their parent They see it as though you've abandoned them As though you've betrayed them They have abandonment issues Due to the abuse and neglect that they experienced in their childhood But because of their stunted development They never look at their own actions They don't look at it as though they left you first Although if that bothered you They will take pride and satisfaction in that But they're not going to entertain the idea That it was something they did wrong They have to see it as though they got rid of the problem And now they're doing this honourable thing by returning to you As though you should see that as a privilege Despite all the horrible things they've done to you They expect you to see it the same way And they expect you to be waiting around for them They're not expecting to see that you've progressed They're not expecting to see that you've moved on with your life and become successful But if that's what they see when they return to you It will destroy them It will cause them to feel regret It will cause them to think that maybe they made the wrong decision And they narcissists cannot entertain that idea for long periods of time If they see that you've moved on without them It threatens their false self It makes them feel foolish So to resolve these painful emotions They will attack you They will try to steal from you They will sabotage your success They will start a smear campaign They want to destroy everything that you have created They want to destroy everything that has made them feel so small Everything that has made them feel like They made the wrong decision by leaving you The last thing the narcissist wants to see when they return Is a strong, confident individual A proud, happy and successful person They do not want to see that They want to see you broken and destroyed They want you to wait around for them for the rest of your life They don't want you to go anywhere They don't want you to progress Because the more that you progress The more difficult it is for them to control you They want to keep you down They want to keep you under their control When they were with you They led you to believe that you weren't good enough for them They led you to believe that that was a problem But that's exactly what they want They want to hold you back They want to keep you down Because that gives them the ability to control you That gives them influence and authority over you The last thing they want to see Is you becoming a strong, confident and successful person Because then that would mean that you have the authority That would mean that they can no longer control you And if a narcissist has no control over you You are no longer a good source of supply For them to gain control over you They have to cause you to lose control over yourself And then keep you in that condition Where you cannot recover Where you cannot grow or develop into what you are meant to be They don't want you to transform into a butterfly They want you to remain a caterpillar for the rest of your life And if they come back And they see that you've managed to build a life for yourself You've managed to grow your wings Fly away and build your nest They will destroy your nest They will rip off your wings They will push back your development They will push back your success Whenever a narcissist comes around you That's all they're ever going to do They're only ever going to push you back in life Because that makes them feel more comfortable That's what gives them the ability to control you That's what keeps you as their source of supply So when the narcissist sees that you have moved on And you're happy without them It will destroy them They're not going to be happy for you Because they never wanted you to move on in the first place They want to keep you stuck They want to remain relevant in your life They want to remain significant When they see that you're happy without them In their minds, that's an offence You're deliberately trying to hurt them So now they will do whatever they think will hurt you Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching Inquiries You can email me at coachingupnarksurvivor.co.uk Thank you for watching And I'll talk to you soon