 Finding a mentor is finding someone who's gone before you who knows what they're doing and who you can get access to and Look to emulate Now while this is kind of a fun story as to what a bit of blind enthusiasm can do if it were the thing I were hanging my hat on to be stood here today It would kind of be like a lottery winner telling you how to make a million It's not necessarily replicable go down to your garage make a phone call to a prospective mentor and it'll all happen However, I've had a really deep fascination with understanding why what I did worked and how you could actually make it replicable I have friends. I have a brother I have family members who I'd love to be able to share a strategy with and so over the last few months I've really sat down. I've thought how could someone Set about making this an inevitable journey and I've tried to piece this together and make it as as close to Inevitable as you possibly could I've been working on this for quite a while and we're going to be going through a very very practical set of steps today I'd friend jokingly said that me having not gone to university. This is my dissertation This is my last four or five years of work. So I'm going to be sharing all of it with you Now before I just crack into it I'd love to thank Anthony for the opportunity to be here today I've been watching 21 convention videos for God knows how long three four five years and they've really helped me So the opportunity to be here and actually giving something back is a real honor. It's a real privilege and it's great to be here with you guys today now the one year that I did in school at 17 I studied philosophy and The one thing I learned or one of the things that I learned that was the importance of beginning by defining your terms So to begin and laying out my argument today I would firstly like to define the word mentor the title of the speech is how to find a mentor in business and When we say mentor, what really do we mean? In his essence, I will argue that a mentor is someone who who can help you get further faster in whatever it is you do Now there are many different types of mentor There are mentors that you can come along to an event like this and learn from for three days There are mentors that you can pay to coach you on an ongoing basis. There are mentors at school There are mentors in your family The type of mentor that I'm specifically focusing on for this talk today is the type that you can go and work for And the reason for this is twofold Firstly, it's the one that's really within your control as a young person if you're looking to get entrepreneurial You don't necessarily pick your teachers. You didn't pick your parents The only thing that's really within your control is picking who you go and work for and who you surround yourself with and the second I need to check my notes here. How embarrassing The second reason is that it will have the greatest return on investment It's incredible to come along to an event like this for three days and to surround yourself with really amazing minds However for real change over a prolonged period of three four five years The way to do that is to get around someone you can spend every single day with and without being a weird creepy stalker I think the only real way to do that is to begin working with someone Now why would you want a mentor if anyone here is on the fence perhaps you've read about Richard Branson You've read about Mark Zuckerberg even looking at Anthony today who's started this event at 17 It's easy to say that Finishing school as a young guy you can go out and you can start something on your own However, I would argue that these guys have all still had mentors If you read Richard Branson's book if you read screw it, let's do it. You quickly start to see The in business his mum was his first mentor She raised funds for his first magazine company and she was the person that Richard went to for counsel with a lot of big business decisions I was recently watching or listening to an interview with a guy called Noah Kagan Who was number 30 at Facebook and he said that in the early days Mark Zuckerberg Paid much older people to be around him at all times going into every big meeting with him and helping make every big business decision He trusted his instincts, but he knew that he didn't have the experience and the reference points to make big decisions If you look at Anthony consider all of the incredible speakers that he has had around him since he was 17 These people have all had mentors now some of the biggest benefits that you'll get firstly you will learn through osmosis in Being around successful people you will quickly start to see that it's not some kind of Productivity system or some kind of tactic that's really allowing them to distinguish distinguish themselves Rather is that they want it more is that they're fiercely passionate about what they're doing is that they're determined They're fiercely ambitious. They're relentless in how they work and being around people like this These traits will begin to rob off on you Now I'm gonna I'm not gonna stand here today and say that I am as charismatic nor as commanding a speaker as Matthew That's a very hard skill. It's something that takes thousands of hours of practice to really get good at However, things like work ethic Character traits like discipline these things will rub off on you The second is that they will push you a Mental will push you in all areas of life. The key to growth is really getting outside of your comfort zone and pushing yourself a Mentalship in business is a way to ensure that you will have constant headaches. You will have more work than you know What to do with? It's a very stressful position if you pick your mental well and this will help you grow and The third is that it will cut your learning curve in half If you consider just coming along to an event like this You instantly figure out the type of diet that will be best suited to you You could go through a process of trial and error trying different diets for many years and Only get it after 10 20 30 years as it's taken some people to actually figure things out and coming along to an event like this You cut your learning curve in half being around people every single day that learning curve on so many things is cut into a fraction of the Time of what it would otherwise be This is saying if you wish to be young and wise you have to learn from the experiences of others There's a big kind of glorification of failure culture the idea that you have to go out You have to make mistakes and you have to celebrate your mistakes What I would argue here today is that the mistakes don't have to be yours You can learn and observe others making their mistakes a problem with the word mentor is That it leads people to think about the relationship in far too formal of terms people hear mentor and they Picture some kind of real-life mr. Miyagi Someone who they live with and someone who is just completely devoted to their success 24 hours a day they wake up wax on wax off do this do that eat this eat that and that's not really what I'm talking about here I'm talking about surrounding yourself or surrounding yourself with someone getting close into my access and being able to observe someone in their element The second word I'd like to define for my title is the word find I've titled this speech how to find a mental as it's really the language that people are using to think about this problem It's you'll see if you look up the Google search gems how to find a mental Matthews book the book that went on to become a New York Times Bessar get the guy Dating advice to show women how to go and get their ideal guy was broken up into three simple steps How to find a guy? How to attract a guy and how to keep a guy and if I were writing a book about mental ship I'd be tempted to just rip it off and use the exact same structure How to find a mental how to attract the attention of a mental and how to keep a mental? Now people think well women will come to Matthew and complain of not being able to find any guys There are no men out there to quote a journalist who wrote an article about Matthew. They're all gay taken all weird And with us being here today, we know that's not that's not absolutely the case the real problem that Matthew will say