 The narcissist fears the most. That's what we're going to be talking about in this one. There's one thing that narcissists fear more than anything else. And you could say that this is the only thing that they fear. From my research and my experience I would say that it is. And why does it come down to this one get they didn't receive when they were a child? And that's why they then fear this the most. So what it is, is more than anything else and you could say the only thing that they do fear is rejection. Yes that is it. That is what narcissists fear the most. And the reason why is because needs were never met. And instead they felt abused, neglected. They felt like they were unheared and seen. And for any child that would be traumatic because at a young age children are unable to see themselves. They don't have a sense of self. So they need to get that from their parents. So because of that they never got when they were a child. This is why they engage in attention-seeker behaviors. It's why they're attention-horses. And it's why they abandon their true self when they were... But everything they do it's all a response. Because you may not have even rejected them at all. You may not have intended to do anything wrong. But they could have just taken it the wrong way. And with narcissists they are very greedy they always want more. So no matter how much you give in to them it's never enough. They want to completely dominate and control you. They want to have you wrapped around their finger under their spell. Because that's the only way that they can feel comfortable because they have a false self. And this false self needs to be validated. Because if it isn't it causes a narcissistic injury. And then they're forced to reflect on who and what they actually are. And that's when you will then notice the narcissistic rage. By the time that you're around them you have to be under a spell for them to even feel comfortable. Wait, they covered it up a long time ago they buried it down deep within. That leave for them because they targeted us. They targeted us because they believed that we were the best of the best. They believed that we would be able to supply them to fulfill their needs. To give them what they want. The problem is that when you target someone who you believe is going to be the best of the best. Or a narcissist because they're egotistical. So they're constantly comparing themselves to everyone and everything. To see what's better in every area every aspect of life. They're constantly in comparison mode. Especially after they've been around you for a certain amount of time. And then there's a problem. Because while they need you. They also feel inferior to you. They recognize that you are greater than them. I was saying about how they constantly compare themselves. And they target you because they perceive you as being the best of the best. You're the best choice for them. You were what they wanted. You were this person who they believed could save them. Rescue them. Give them everything that they need. And give them that supply. Make them feel special. Make them feel worthy because all of that arrogance on the surface. It's just to cover up a very fragile core within. The problem is by getting around someone like that. It can then be turned around against them and make them feel inferior to you. And that's why they then begin devaluing you. And it's why from that point on everything they do is just a response to the rejection. Or even just a perceived sense of rejection. Because they feel like everything that you can do, that you can give, that you can be for them. They know that they can never reciprocate that back to you. They know they're never going to be on your level. So all they can do from that point on is devalue you. Play down your worth. Make you believe that you're not as great as you actually are. And minimize everything that you're giving to them. Because they have this abandonment anxiety. And if there's one thing they fear more than anything else. And I would say it's the only thing that they fear. It is rejection. Yes, they fear being rejected by you. I don't know what you may be thinking. Because you may be with a type of narcissist who is so boastful, arrogant and obnoxious. Where it's like they couldn't possibly push you away more if they tried. I mean they do everything they possibly can. They may be very hurtful with their words. They may be physically violent. They may always be on you. Always trying to make you feel as worse as they possibly are. Bodies as weapons to cause as much pain to you as possible. You may be with that type of narcissist. And you may be thinking how could they possibly fear rejection. But what I would say to that from my research and my experience is that the more outlandish and obnoxious they are, the more that they fear rejection. More than any other type of narcissist. Those are the ones who fear rejection the most. The one that you and put you down. They're doing that because they're very insecure and they're trying to control you. And also they can be in control of it. It's not so bad for a narcissist if they can reverse discard you. If they can just be so toxic to the point where it pushes you away. Rather than you getting fed up of them and you realizing that you're worth more. And then you getting rid of them. That is the last thing that they want to happen. That's where they manipulate you. That's where they have to keep you under a spell. Because that's the last thing they want is for you to reject them. From the very beginning they've got everything all thought out. They've got all planned. Of what they're going to use you for. What they want to do with you. And how long it's going to last. When they're going to get rid of you. And the last thing they want you to do is to foil their plan. They don't want it to run on what they want from you. Then you just go and cut them off. And it's like they were still hungry. They still wanted more. You still had a little bit more to be the ones who are rejected and abandoned. That would cause a massive narcissist injury. If that was ever to happen. And that's why they do everything they can to avoid neglected. Maybe they will be used as well. They never want to have to go through that ever again. That's why they are the way that they are. That's why they are so manipulative and abusive. Because that's what they are trying to avoid. They are trying to avoid being rejected by you. So that they don't then have to feel this sense. Of being rejected, neglected, abandoned. They never want that to happen. They never want to feel that way again. Because they never want to have to reflect on the true self they chose to abandon a long time ago. They want to live on as the false self at the breast of their lives. And remain in denial, remain in the solution. Even though it isn't real, they don't even care. They would rather settle for something fake as thought it. That's just the way that narcissists are. Brief for you, I know for myself. I would rather be hated for who I am. But it's the opposite for them. They're fine with being loved for something that they're not. In contrast to being hated for who they actually are. Or for being disliked, for being neglected, abandoned. Or just unnoticed. Because since they have a false self, what they need now is excessive amounts of validation, praise, compliments and admiration. That's why they have an obsessive need to feel cured and seen. And at all costs. They will do anything, they will hurt people, keep them down. Whatever they have to do so that they remain on top, they remain ahead and they can keep getting the supply that they need to validate the false self and make them feel real. They will do whatever they have to do to appear more than anything else. And I would say it's the only thing they really fear is that rejection. They fear you rejecting the false self. But when you look at it, all of these things are just forms of rejection. It's the only thing they really revolve around. It's the only thing they're really concerned about is that rejection. That's the only thing that really matters to them. They want to avoid experiencing that at all costs. They do not want to go through that ever again. They, who I actually am, this true self is not good enough. If you reject that, then that really crushes them. It's like a double blow. Even though they spent their entire life pretending to be in fake and even that's not good enough after all of that time they spent to construct this false character. And then only that. It's a double blow because then they have to reflect on the fact. So that's why you have to destabilize you to where you are completely off balance. You're being manipulated, gas-less. And they may even abuse you even physically as well, not just emotionally and mentally. Either they may also start a spear campaign against you and enforce their flying monkeys to support the false narrative and paint you in a bad light function as in the false character. If you feel comfortable being yourself, it just doesn't work that way. They have to keep you off balance so that they can feel stable in the false character. And that's really how you know it is that they have to destabilize you so that they can feel comfortable. Because otherwise it would be like they're actually a real person. They wouldn't care about you. They wouldn't care. You could go off on your own and continue doing what you're doing and be confident in. But they can't. They can't allow that to happen because everything destabilizes you. Because that false character, it's not even real. It's not even there. It's just the means to manipulate people. And that's why they have to destabilize you so that they can feel comfortable in that false character. And this is why they fear rejection. Because when you're rejecting them, you're choosing yourself because you're rejecting the false character. So they have to get you to abandon yourself so that they can feel like, okay, now you've chosen them. And you've chosen them not only because they're good enough, but because they're real and because they exist. But if you choose yourself and exist, that is just a false character. And also that they're not good enough. But a lot of times that is actually how it is. We do choose ourselves when we realize that it is just manipulation and that it's not real. There's nobody actually there. But they hate it when you do that. And they hate it because all of these years, all of this time, they had such confidence, such conviction in their false character. They had so many enablers around them to support it as well. And then you come around and you dispute the validity of it. So it's just such a shock and experience for them when you do that. When you reject them or even if they just perceive the sense of rejection, they hate it when you do that. And of course, when you reject the narcissist, and it's really that it will, well, as for you or I, I mean, when they discredit us, we typically don't get very angry like they do. We don't try to lash out at them and attack, even though they may have made us feel insecure about who we actually are. Instead, what we do is we may feel shame, we may self-love, and they love that. Again, they love it when you feel shame and when you self-love and when you go within yourself. And you doubt yourself because they deflect in the shame. They abandoned who they really were a long time ago and their childhood. They created a false character. And that's why they're now shame-based people who are doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame. Well, as for us, we may be willing to do that for the rest of your life, as many victims have done already. And that's really what they want you to do to keep you stuck, to keep you questioning yourself. But they're abusing and manipulating you. That just serves them. So when you're around these narcissists, you need to stop doing that. You need to stop taking the fall for them every time. You need to be doubting themselves. They should be looking at themselves and realizing that they're presenting a false character. They're trying to be something they're not. And they're tricking and deceiving you, not only you but everyone else as well. All of the enablers and flying monkeys. Maybe all of the other sources of supply. Now, that's why they kind of love it when you do take the fall for them. It's kind of like they just really want to beat you down. So that's rejecting them. It's when you develop that confidence in yourself. You recognize who you are. You know your worth. As soon as you do that, they already know what's coming next. They already know that's going to lead to you rejecting them. And then they develop this abandonment anxiety. So every time they try to destabilize you, they keep you down. They try to get you to doubt your worth. They target your self-esteem. It's because they already know what's going to reveal something in them. And then they're left with this reflection of themselves, which is the last thing any narcissist wants to see. If there's one thing they don't want to see, it's a reflection of themselves. They do not want to see that. But as for myself, when I've been a brown narcissist or a member, and I'm sure everything you've done for them, everything you've achieved, you wish that they could just see that. Because maybe at some level you recognize you're aware that once they see you as you actually are, that they finally see them as they are. As soon as you recognize that and you become aware of it, that's when you can then develop this relationship with yourself as well, from that point on. But before that, you're just under the spell. You act there back and cool, running endlessly on this hamster wheel in an effort to please them. And whatever you're doing there, whatever you're doing, anything for a narcissist, even just validating the illusion, you're disconnected from yourself. This illusion, that false character of the court, it has no value at all. And it has no value because it doesn't even exist. What do you, from yourself, it's causing you to dissociate positive from them. Actually, in essence, there is nothing even there. Whatever you think you're seeing, whatever you think you're engaged in, there's nothing even there. It doesn't even exist. Remember, it's a false character. So it's not even there. It's not even real at all to where you then perceive a loss of value. But really that loss of value is just coming from you disconnecting from your true self by being around them. And that's why as soon as you disconnect from a movie, you can't build anything there. You can't develop anything. You're just watching a movie. So at some point, the movie ends. The credits roll. You're just going to get about your seats. Leave the movie fit. You can then rebuild your value. And that's how you can then come back to yourself again. It's the same thing with the narcissist. It's completely fake. It's not even real. It's not even grounded in reality. All you're doing is watching a movie. You're watching something that's like a form of escapism. It's pulling you out of reality because it's not even there. It's not even real. Because you're coming back to yourself again. That's why. What's character? You're validating an illusion. It's essentially just a void. So all that's going to happen is you're not going to get anything out of it. And you're just pouring everything you have into a void. So it's not going to fulfill you in any way. But yeah, this is what narcissists fear the most. This is what they fear more than anything else, is that rejection. They fear that you may reject them. They fear that you will no longer validate the false character, the illusion. Because that's all they really want you to do when they get around you. They just want you to make them feel like you're in accordance with their agenda. Because, I mean, it's... Because sadly, the false character, the illusion, it's all they have. Narcissistic rage. They haven't got anything else outside of that. And it's really sad, but this is just how it is. You may pity them. You may feel really bad for them. It doesn't matter how bad you feel, it doesn't matter to bring anything back. You can cry, you can get your knees zombies. Because there's just nothing there. There is nothing there that they can't just appear out of thin air. It can't... rise. So what you think is there, is it even there? It's like death for them. Because the only thing upholding them, the only thing that's keeping the false self alive is the power and the energy that they're getting from you. You're validating it. But yeah, this is what they fear the most. This is really the only... But let me hear from you. Sorry. Let me hear from you. In the live chat down below. Let me know what you think about what I've said so far. And if you have any questions, if you'd like to know more about anything that I've said, I will read out your questions and respond to them. Because their agenda is more important. Sadly, yes, this is just how it goes. Their agenda is more important than anything else. It's the only thing they're really concerned about is that illusion. Harvey Mearski says connection is bad. I don't know what's going on. I know the connection was bad earlier. But right now I do have full bars for my phone signal. But my data... I'm on 5G network. I think it's okay. Kirsty Teco says they do not care if other people die. It's true. I mean, they lack empathy. So they can't feel what you feel. They have an inability to... You know me, I love cats. I got my cat, Nala. Maybe you see a cat on the street and it hurts. You want to save it. You want to protect it. They don't have those feelings. They don't feel anything. They can't feel what another person or an animal feels. They feel nothing. They disconnect from themselves. And yes, as you said, Kirsty, they don't care if other people die. Even because... I mean, they died a long time ago. So they look at it like... Is it really that unfair if someone dies? If someone loses their life? They already lost those a long time ago. They lost theirs a long time ago. So they look at it like... What difference does it make if anything happens to you? How do you get out from under them after they've completely destroyed your support system and it feels like I'm trapped? That is a very... I may have done a video on that. I can't remember right now. I'll do a separate video on that. Also, you can book a coaching session with me as well. Just by going to my website. It's Narcseviver.co.uk Craig Carey says they are dead in sight. Books, definitely they are. I mean, they really are just death. There's nothing in there. I mean, once you become awakened to where you will be able to feel that sense of death of just nothingness. Like there's nothing there because we... And what they feel is nothing. So yeah, that tells you everything you need to know. The energy never lies. It doesn't affect their life. They don't care. Yeah, that's pretty much it. As long as they feel like it doesn't affect them. But then, the more elegant narcissists and psychopaths they don't even care if it affects them. They don't... Bullies are, I'd say, 10 to 25 times risk more of developing a psychiatric condition as well as many other things as well than their own victims that they are harming. So whatever someone harms you, it's actually just affected them 10 to 20. They do get their karma for everything that they did to you. That's why when you look at them, they're miserable. How messed up in the minds, how miserable, how pathetic you have to be to seek to harm someone. I mean, just think about that. As you can probably tell, get my words out and even just peace sentences together. And also, my throat is very dry from the anxiety. It is very difficult. That's how you may have noticed in my recent videos. It is very difficult for me to think even to just remember who I am in video sometimes and where I am. Like, if you ask me a question about myself right now it probably took me a few seconds to answer. But luckily what is at my core and can't be taken away from me is my purpose, my mission in life. But yeah, I'm just so glad that I can get on here and that I can help people and bring the fact that I'm able to get on here and to do that, the opportunity to do that. And I'm happy to know that it is making a difference in people's lives. So, and I love to hear from you every time comments, emails, people hear that. I really get it. And also, what I would advise as well is be careful when you're rejecting narcissists, when you go into contact, when you're leaving them. Because yeah, sometimes they can become violent when they experience that narcissistic injury. You never know how they might react. You never know what they might do. So, yeah, be very careful and really from that devaluation point on my anxiety. So, yeah, be very careful when you're rejecting them, when you go into contact, when you're choosing yourself, more than choosing them. What I would advise is before leaving them or going into contact, sorry, it's not a fiver.co.uk. Also, please give this to me a thumbs up down below if you've had it helpful. It helps the YouTube algorithm to get the smashers out there to other survivors who may need to see it as well. Let me know your thoughts in the comments section. Hit subscribe and click on notifications to be notified when I upload a new video. And if you would like to donate, you can leave a super chat, a live chat, a super thanks in the comments section. Or you can go to my PayPal Instagram where I'm uploading new pictures and videos. Follow me on there. I would cheer at this park today. I love you all. I appreciate your support. 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