 I got my new chair hold on this light to right on ladies and gentlemen Y'all forgive me Want to pop in the blessed tribe haven't been able to connect with you here in a couple of couple of Weeks I feel like Tomorrow I'll be On vacation just finishing up my year just relax and give my mind right getting ready for 2021 so you know I'm not sure. I don't think I have any videos come up For the 27th through the 30th Unless I get opportunity to shoot something in the morning that I can you know pre-schedule, but if not Don't expect any videos from me Until the 31st or so 30 or for 31st So I'd be out of touch for the next few days just with the family relaxing Finishing on out this here year. So I wanted to pop in and do a little Q&A I Think I was uploading the video before I started this a little video small business Saturday and not sure if I get to do a Sunday sermon tomorrow either just cuz I think we are Playing and scheduled to leave at noon So just a little heads up and congrats to all of the new life coaches all the new certified life coaches this year You know seven billion people in the world Right now I coach about two to four people a week So it's always a lot of room a lot of people who need help want help growing progressing so the more Coaches mentors consultants that the world has to help those who are trying to go to that next level and just need some Accountability the better. I feel like we got a long run of people giving back It's like it for every step you take is somebody one step behind you that wants to be where you are So to be able to reach back and to help and for some people you do it pro bono some people it becomes your full-time thing So whatever floats your boat and don't sink your ship. God bless you Now if you have a question put hashtag Q in front of it and it'll pop up on here I See cam. Okay popped up. God bless you cam. How do men view or see a woman with natural dreads? Nice and neat ones Well, that's kind of a it's not a one-size-fits-all when it comes to a man viewing a woman because every man has his own taste so but just in general What I will say the new turn is locks because those of us with locks We don't call them dreads no more cuz dread come its derivative of dreadful The root word of dreadful so now we call them locks all of us who got locks we call them locks and so But I know what you talking about with dreads But I called it dreads not long ago because that's what we call them Florida and somebody wrote me. Oh, it is locks so nice locks and What when you look at that to be honest with you it represents strength It represents strength when when I think of Samson who was strongest man ever I think locks, you know what when it talk about that long hair I think locks when I think of Samson. So it represents strength It represents, you know going your own way doing your own thing, you know loving yourself We represent self-love because that's your that's your natural hair that you let grow out and that you you know twist up and That's against going against society which Promotes, you know relaxers or whatever your perms and you know different chemicals to put in your hair. So locks represents individuality Strength and so it takes certain type of man to appreciate a woman with locks and every man Respect them, but only certain type of man because you know your hairstyle does kind of Coincide with your personality So that's a good question, but I talk about that in my book Mrs. Right. I don't have Mrs. Right in here with me But back in the day the women who used to argue with me the most for me trying to do what I do Was women with natural hair? We used to argue with me the most and Then one time a lady told me it's because women with natural hair were more enlightened than women with relaxers And I was like, oh, okay. That's what y'all always arguing with me. I'm like ain't doing I'm trying to help But they ain't wanting to help Why do some women always get a ring? I recently saw Ariana Grande is engaged for the fourth time Well, then to be honest with you now, I wouldn't be Curious about somebody on a fourth time getting the rain, but It's different with somebody like that like a celebrity Because with because a lot of men see money a lot of men see status and probably the reason why it's probably her fourth time It's cuz she realized this is a person that's not genuine that that's not really here with my heart At their best in their best interest. They just want to be in my be in my light, you know be Plug in connect it be this, you know cookie cutter couple out of magazine. So Whenever a woman has money typically a woman has if a woman has money or status or power or position She could always she'll always have a ring She'll always get a ring at some point and a lot of women just can't tell the real from the fate Because a lot of men who go dig into and a lot of women don't realize that so When you look at it like that and then at the same time, you know some women just have that oil on them They just got that spirit. That's just a it's that's like a wife spirit and a lot of men Every man they meet want to be with them, but not every man can be mature enough to appreciate them. So a Woman ends up going through, you know multiple men to trying to find the one So that's how that happens sometimes, but As you see only chat only questions in the chat hashtag Q only questions We do that to try to keep this thing kind of clear so I could get to the question easier So you'll see the moderators deleting all extra conversation. This is not the shade room So all you know all the extra, you know commentary if it's good and positive Okay, good, but it's still get deleted just so we could try to keep the the thing Clear so I could get to the question. It's easier Go on about your business. God bless you now God bless Tony when a woman remains calm during an argument Breakup or during the silent treatment. Why do some men get upset? They did not get an emotional response from you like crying or yelling So I see one person question Because that means when you don't allow somebody to get you upset that means you've taken your power back So a person who is manipulating you using you mistreating you. That's why I always Tell y'all that when you go to yelling and screaming and you cursing somebody out You letting them know you love them. You reinforcing the behavior. So some people will act out Attention-seeking behavior just to get you to yell All the way from childhood even children do it So you got to realize that when you take your power back and this person pressed the button because he normally pressing this button They pressing this button and and that make you go off you screaming you yelling You know you cursing and then when they present this button and you just like Now they don't know what's going on. It's like, oh wow She don't love me no more. I've lost my power I've lost my my influence in her life. And so that's what it is. It kind of shakes on me and up Guy was dating said his female friend invited him over 12 a.m. For drinks instantly cut them off. He still wants to exchange Christmas gifts $200 gone by to bed gone by to bed Come on Don't y'all wish y'all money for them kind of question Come on. This is a hard-earned man out here y'all donate that money to charity donate that money to charity Don't y'all wish y'all money for no question like that. Come on Come on now. Like I'll tell y'all ain't no question. No bad question, but come on now Somebody could have gotten my value meal person at this at the light asking for money could have gotten my value meal With that blessing that you sent me with that question now come on Don't don't don't let don't let a grown boy waste your time and had you spending money on him You said I mean you send me a blessing God bless you now. I thank you now, but come on Jessica God bless you. Hey Tony. I want kingdom and he wants normal. He's faithful Just not Holy Ghosts field. Do I stay and wait for God to mature him or let him go? Let me look at you with a good eye Okay All right, I can't see you too good Yes, this you being judgmental you being judgmental because now because what I see from your picture It looked like it wasn't too long ago that it You're a knock if you buck You see what I'm saying? So That always let me know when we go to talk about somebody in Holy Ghosts field We just jumped off the porch just you know trying to get know the Lord and you got to realize we don't really know what the Holy Ghost is in in 2020 like it's just so many people speaking in tongues in church and You don't know if it's real or not. They be And Then get right out the church be don't call my effing phone no more. See this one. I'm tired of this s and you be like What? when you just Son the in the church. So you see I'm saying so Holy Ghosts field Don't mean you know Somebody shout in somebody, you know all falling out if the man faithful He got some kind of Holy Ghosts in them if he faithful and you always have to realize it's no two spiritual walks That's the same so never look at somebody else walk with God and compare it to yours if he ain't just blatant sinning and disrespecting God then he doing He on the right path Understand that though Hey Tony speaking from outside looking in I know coaching can be draining for you But please do not stop your videos or one-on-one coaching God bless you Cam Ain't gonna start the videos. That's not too draining But I am in 2021 gonna be taking a break. I guess you call it retiring but Michael Jordan came back from retirement, you know So it might be retiring in 2021 right now my one-on-one coaching is booked into mid-march My birthday is Early March. So I said I was gonna be retired my birthday from one-on-one just so that I could serve more people at once so And the reason why it's like if I could do videos a video could reach a thousand people If if I'm on the phone with one person I'm reaching one person for an hour Whereas I could teach a lesson for an hour and reach a thousand I could write a book for an hour in an hour and Or two hours for a little affirmations book and reach a thousand people write a book in a week and Reach a thousand people. So in 2021 if you ain't booked the session on Whitman on my mentor that life And you want a one-on-one You might be out of luck because I've been meaning every day to go in and take off the rest of my availability But I just ain't had the time to do it yet. So if you don't beat me there I You might be out of luck on the one-on-one But I'd be here now when I say retired from coaching ain't like I'm feeling a fall-off face to the earth I still got to do the work of the Lord. I just have to use my time a little different Ariana James God bless you. Hey, Tony You often say in your videos for women to stay off a man's microphone But how do men view their wives being on their microphone in marriage? Do men lose respect for wives doing this? Ariana For one it depends on that man. Okay, how he view it and when you in marriage I'm not talking about marriage. So But me personally That's not something that I'm big on but a lot of men they swear by me personally. I Don't really want my wife doing Something that a lot of that a man go to a $2 Woman on the corner for like that on really, you know Not to say that is would be debasing The Bible don't speak to it specifically, you know In detail so it comes down to interpretation, but when you married That's when the bed is not defiled So that's to each their own on that and you have to ask your husband that you see it I mean because I'm not your husband So how would I feel about it? Your husband might feel differently and that's who you in Union with not with me. So my opinion don't matter in your marriage You should I mean and I don't I don't think any man. I don't think any man gonna look down on his wife for Pleasing him if he pleasing her whatever y'all doing. All right, this is not just not YouTube at the dark Okay, we're not trying to go there tonight. And so That I have to be a whole nother group can't be on the people channel Talking about My real God bless you not no question cold just wishing you and yours are all the best of the season and always things for But you do a blessing. I bless you now for those of y'all putting a little blue questions For the 499 I'm trying to get to him, but they disappear But y'all give him a give him a break real quick and let me answer someone in the regular chat Y'all keep pop popping up there with the great value questions and Let me answer the couple in his head chat. I had an ex I was 33 He was 29 at the time Now see this already a red flag question you had an ex so you asked him question by the ex You need to be healing on your necks and then say at the time. So this ain't yesterday So you asked him question way by the ex now come on now What y'all have to do is get beyond your ex. All right and start asking about your ex Who made an offhand comment that he stops making an effort because he already got the girl it Peeped me off. How do I respond handle this in the future? Lee the same way you did you handle it the right way. That's why he your ex you handle it the right way But that's but that let you know that's why I tell y'all stay off your back because That's how most men are if you give him the trophy before he done ran the marathon Then what's the use of running the marathon? He already got the trophy So you get on your back before he has married you for he didn't done anything for you then it's like Okay, nobody respect the reward without a process without the word Monique God bless you now lots of discussions encouraging black women to date outside their race saying successful black men are less likely to marry Than other racist thoughts Monique I'll be seeing that and it'd be a lot of black women too. Oh You need a day outside your right Oh, you need to open up and be open and you need a day other men listen a man is a man Give me a man is a man Successful black men get married successful black men get married people just go today people be talking people speak from where they are if a successful black man don't want you a Successful white man ain't gonna want to a sense for Asian man ain't gonna want to What you got to realize if a black man don't want to black people already seeing at the lowest of the low a White man might take you but he didn't with the mindset of black of the berry sweet of the juice You could be an experiment for him You could be a thrill for him You could be he hated mama because you know a lot of them be cussing out in my shot the f up when see You know, I don't care if I came out of you. You don't tell me what to have to do Lindsey You know what that's one thing to go marry Shaniqua because I always hear you calling the n-word nothing to marry Shaniqua Get on my F-nurse Lindsey. A lot of y'all don't even realize that's how white man's I had a lot of white men see y'all So black women killed me with thinking that not kill me black women live me See you got to change your words in going in 2021 and we're gonna talk about that in the 2021 Jumpstart calls the private phone calls. There's seven calls for the first seven days of 2021 and You sign up on Tony gasses Academy. It's phone calls where I'll be teaching a lesson there open up for Q&A Teleconference and you so when you go to Tony gasses academy.com you'll see it's a 2021 You click right there sign up for that for the cause you'll get the number the phone number to call in on the first but black women live me with You need that outside your race listen, you can go through the same stuff It's not that black men terrible and horrible and don't want to marry. It's just that you attract what you are so if you got a nasty attitude if You immature in the brain if you not if you haven't developed then you're not gonna be attractive to a black man Successful or unsuccessful and so that don't mean taking a nasty Disgruntled angry upset hating your own attitude to another race gonna get you Somebody that's gonna love you that you just with somebody that see you as a Experiment that they just have this fetish and and they don't want to be with you So don't get it twisted out here. Now. Don't don't think going to another race is the solution to your problem. No That that ain't that ain't gonna solve nothing you finna go through the same stuff The same stuff is you attract who you are and a lot of times we don't want to hear that cuz We think we are catch But you can't see yourself So when I when you come to me, it's a lot of women come to me for coaching something. I know I'm a good catch. I'm like Oh Everybody a child of God, but who told you that You can't see yourself But when you work on you truly objectively you work on yourself Three bees brain brain body, you're gonna track what you deserve But it take work to get there and if your mindset is negative and scarcity mindset Lack mindset a lack. You don't think God could provide somebody that you naturally attracted to So now you've got to settle for somebody that you might not really be attracted to but you think he gonna treat you like a prize That your mindset in the wrong place because you ain't trusting process you ain't trusting the Lord you don't believe God And if you're a this then yeah, I'm the wrong person thought to Kid God bless you now I mentioned to my boyfriend of seven years that I want to abstain he said he is willing to do it But we often fall short. I'm afraid he would cheat like he has done before if I abstain How can we work together on abstaining yourselves? Not kidding my not kidding listen Not listen kitty. You said boyfriend Let me read this again Kitty you said boyfriend of seven years the video ain't free Boyfriend of seven years That man. I want you Kid that man don't want you listen If a man want you he's not gonna be a boyfriend longer than three years Longer than three years if a man is your boyfriend longer than three years He don't want you and if he your boyfriend seven years and he already been cheated on you kid It's all kitty go about your business kid go about your business man. Don't want you Listen, I hate to put it to you like that But ain't no man going to date a woman as a girlfriend for seven years if he feels she is his wife And that's why y'all fall short because he is not abstaining you not abstaining Y'all just taking a break to let the sexual lust build up and then y'all choose to jump in the bed Y'all ain't falling y'all jumping in the bed. Y'all ain't falling in nothing. Oh, you got to do a keep your head What's behind how you fall you're not falling short you choose he next sex because y'all have been together boyfriend girlfriend for seven years He don't look that good You see I'm saying he I'm saying that amazing. He's still your boyfriend seven years. So any like your magnet just You get round him in your clothes just start coming off like he a magnet No, you choosing to come on out of that slide them Draw a law and jump on in that bed and get in that for an occasion You choosing that and you doing this with a boyfriend who don't even see you as a wife Because the reason why a man is not going to date a woman that he sees as his wife Longer than three years is because if he sees you as a wife, he want to give you everything He want to be your all because he don't want another man to come into your life and Speak your worth into your life and tell you how much you worth and how valuable you are and how amazing you are and show You illuminate in your mind who you really are to a man the value that you really bring to the table He don't want another man to do that and then become your husband or swoop you away from him Because he is dragging his feet and he waiting to meet a woman that he could replace you with So when a man is with you longer than three years of dating Especially if y'all over the age of 25 That's not your husband and a lot of times all the time what I hear Nine out of ten times there are exceptions to the rule But nine out of ten times When somebody was dating for seven years when they finally get married at year 10 At year five they go on through a divorce year seven of marriage. They go on through a divorce They always people always come to me and say we was dating for seven years five years 10 years then we got married and now we just struggling it's a strength And that's because y'all was never supposed to be married because a man not gonna lead you on the shelf For those seven years if he see you as his wife So understanding that now I hate to be on here telling the truth because well, there's so much line going on online So much pandering going on online. I hate to be telling y'all the truth Um thais god bless you. What's the impact of a woman's family? Is is a guy's perspective of her. What's the impact of a woman's family? Is a guy's perspective of her Okay, I get what you're trying to say And you maybe even in a guy's perspective of her. I get what you're trying to say. Um, yeah, yeah It's a heavy impact now. It's a heavy impact Because if you come from a pack of rats then The man gonna see you like a rat You see what I mean? So I've had men who are articulate and intelligent say I want to marry you But I don't feel like she my wife because of her family her family too backwards her family to this to that Especially if you still involved and engaged with your family Now if your family is very, you know ghetto You know when I say ghetto That don't mean black. Some people associate ghetto with black And that's your problem When I say ghetto, I mean Mine your mindset is very just scarcity lack immaturity Jealousy pettiness You know because because you like crabs in a barrel And so when you're living on top of each other And everybody in scarcity everybody in poverty a lot of time that affect the couple that affects the mind And that's why people say oh they acting ghetto The reason why is because a lot go down in the ghetto because and when you in poverty and you lack resources If you don't have the the right messages reaching you you start to lose your mind and you start to act out And you start to just do whatever and you get real You know Run amok And so if you come from the toxic family And you still engage with them you dealing with them and in that stench it's still on you that impacts a man's View of you greatly But if you've got distance and you breaking the generational curses And you separate yourself you still love them You still you know see them on the holidays, but you your own person Then a man actually has more respect for you because he sees how you're growing He see your mindset Just seen a god bless your tony sherry god bless you all for your hard work sending love from birmingham, england. Hey god bless you Birmingham, england all right Crystal prior god bless i like this man a lot. However, he doesn't have a car Should i look past those things or should i take this into consideration before we get serious? Well, yeah, take it into consideration now take it into consideration because if he don't got a car you got to First consider why he doesn't have a car now if this is a grown man Why he why doesn't he have a car because see that could be Speak that could speak to his character And when a man need a ride he's going to be amazing So you like him a lot because a man who got to walk Is going to be an amazing man if you have a car So that's what you first have to realize now because a man who got his stuff together Got his head on straight is going to be able to get a car. So if he ain't got no car It needed. Well, okay. Why don't you have a car? Do you have a license? Oh, is your license suspended? Oh, do you have a job? Oh, do you have credit? Like you need an explanation of why you don't got no car The only thing i'm trying to hear is he live in new york and everybody ride that subway. So ain't no need for no car You know, that's the only thing i'm trying to hear really other than that unless he just want to ride a bicycle for, you know exercise And he just he working on his calf muscles and he just like riding that bicycle because where he live at now, that's just something like that, but I really you know Husband and I are having trouble conceiving for two years. All tests came back normal. It's unexplained infertility He feels inadequate. So do I what to do y'all gonna need counseling sister That's counseling because see anything and see life coach won't deal with the body the body and medicine and you know medical stuff and all of that and You know depressing all of that. That's counseling. That's not life coaching because that right there lot goes into that mental health Damage that's that's counseling counseling first and then that that'll lift you up a little bit Then when you get a little more get a little motivated then that's when you come to a life coaching Couple the two or interchange the two Lea god bless you does red slash blonde hair make a woman look promiscuous even if the woman is abstinent blessings Uh, yes, it does But only because of what society red hair meaning if that ain't your natural color blonde hair meaning if that's not your natural color Now it look like you sister look like you is a sister. Let me look at you Look like you might be african-american like light skin like personal By racial and look like you got red hair. So you remember me and just associate with the media So the answer is yes. Is it right? No, should it make you look promiscuous? No But you remember charlie baltimore with red hair who was like the promiscuous looking rapper or whatever Me and just associate because if your natural hair color is black and then you go make it red or blonde That means that you very outgoing. That means you very Ambitious you very daring that mean you rebelling you rebelling that mean you writing your own rules you marching to your own beat and the same thing The same stuff that gives you the courage to do that to get red or blonde hair when your natural hair color is black or dark brown that same type of option is If you will do that you'll get on your back. So a man assumes and so Perception is reality But see perception is the reality of the one perceiving you it may not be your reality So i'm explaining this to you to say yes, that is true, but i'm not saying that it's right. I'm not Excuseing it. I'm explaining it. So but understand it's kind of like if I ask you do gold teeth make me look hood It's like should it make me look hood? No But why does gold teeth make me look hood because most people who got gold teeth come from the hood if The people in the hamptons and knotting hill In cambridge war had gold teeth then gold teeth would represent wealth in prominence opulence But because people from the hood From the ghettos where gold teeth gold teeth look hood. You see what I mean? So black women with red hair or blonde hair It's typically not If michelle obama ward if kamala harris ward then it will be normalized because they at the top In their profession But when we see red and blonde hair you typically see it on an exotic dancer On a raunchy rapper On somebody in south carolina alabama Where the fashion sense is a little different because you're gonna have red hair blue hair purple hair blonde hair on on individuals who natural hair color Is black or dark brown? So then men just lump you in and associate Now if he takes the time to get to know you And then he finds out that you're not promiscuous now you become the exception to the rule and you break the mold now He's no longer lumping you in so the key is if you want to do something like if I had on me a diamond cuban chain right now Diamond cuban chain, but I'm giving I'm giving game and I'm talking with sense You'll be like man. Most people with diamond cuban chains are not articulate and they like rappers or thugs or dope boys But this a life coach with a diamond cuban chain Cuban length on like what's going on if I had a grill in my mouth But I'm still I'm giving game and I'm being who I am Now I start to shift the narrative And so that's what happened is you have to understand perception is reality So when I when I got started being a coach, I had six gold teeth I had four on top and I had two on the bottom That would have blocked me that would have put me in a box. Yeah, I would have carved out a little niche, but It would have put me in a box and a lot of the jobs that I got a lot of the clients that I got A lot of the opportunity that I got I wouldn't have got those with when I had dreads long gold tea and six gold teeth I wouldn't have got those why because perception is reality So understand that now. I know a lot of times y'all Barbara. God bless you now for that simple. Thank you God bless you. Latoya. Hey bless you now. Latoya I'm thinking y'all had a question y'all just blessing the brother. Hey god bless you now miss till How you doing now? Hi, Tony my husband has another woman and I'm somewhat jealous because he is doing for her and Five kids and she started out buying him And thoughts on this And she started out buying him Sis you didn't fell out of love with yourself You gonna need some coaching you're gonna need some coaching said you jack You got to hear enough wisdom knowledge understanding enough feedback So you could start to rewire your brain You didn't fell out of love with yourself. You didn't you didn't gain your identity To your husband your husband defines you You don't stand on your own two feet. He is he makes you and so So that what you you gonna need some coaching so you could really understand your worth and who you are Charlotte g god bless you Tony thank you so much for what you do. I'll introduce you To multiple of my friends. We're all under 21 and you've helped us so much We're all virgins and waiting awaiting marriage as well. God bless you on your family Hey god bless you not charlie god bless you Hey now y'all keep them led clothes. You hear me keep doing what you're doing. You you're gonna stay it off your bike Keep staying off your bike So fully ascending god bless you told me that i'm a special woman and that when he gives himself to me He wants to give his best self and he needs to clean himself off more in order to give me what I need And that he's never felt this way for a woman He lying God bless you now because a man ain't gonna tell y'all that a man ain't gonna tell y'all a man never gonna tell you If a man wants you he's never listen what i'm telling you now If a man really wants you he's never going to tell you that he's not on your level and he's not good enough ever He could be the absolute worst man on the planet of the earth a man not gonna ever tell a woman That you better than him if he really wants you he wants you to believe That he is your soulmate he on your level He could be dumb as a box of rocks and he's gonna be trying to sit there talk so articulate So yeah, so what you need to understand about the metaphysical Metabolical diatrical is that the transformation and the transfusion of the little lack of love is just astronomical And the boy ain't he barely got through eighth grade But if he's see you he feel like you his wife and you articulate and intelligent He's gonna be a dr. Seuss And alber Einstein mixed in one So but see what y'all have to understand about manglish. Okay, not english not spanglish manglish The language men speak when a man tells you that you on another level and he need time to work on himself That is manglish for You're not the one for me. You're not attractive enough to me For me to change, but I don't want to hurt your feelings So I'm gonna tell you that you're a good woman Just so you can keep your head up and keep going because I like you as a person And I like you as a friend But you're not on my level and I don't want to marry you But I also don't want to crush you so that you don't meet your actual husband because I broke your heart and made you feel worthless That's what that is in manglish So listen to what I told you listen to that two or three times get that in your system and go on about your business Ruth and God bless you. I found you back here at $15 question nine Somebody said I missed it. Hello me and my potential partner decided to fast from each other to make sure we hear God's voice In our decision to enter courtship no kissing and no until marriage sound like a good idea Yeah, that's a good idea now. That's a good idea, but I just want you to understand You may hear something different than he hear So be okay if he hears you not the one And you hear he the one Because for one nobody but God know who y'all hearing So, you know, so so Just understand that now So look some of these questions I'm gonna miss I'm trying to catch them, but I'm just one person over here And uh, so y'all forgive me Jess, how can you bless you now? How can you know for sure a man did not settle for you or with you out of convenience many men now Nowadays can be married for years and years only to leave when they feel like they reached a certain level You'll feel love you'll feel the love see love is so grand and love is so real That when it's present You're going to know it So you will know by how you feel You know, you won't have to ask anybody when a man is in love with you You won't have any Worries or concerns so love will show itself because love is is too Strong to be hidden But when you feel when you don't really feel all that love then you just kind of feel like you there Like you an accessory not a necessity Then that's when you know he settled for you And you just convene for him. He just need a help make but You're not really the woman of his dreams You're not really who he wants Joanna god bless you. I am over 60 and much blessed In all my relationships with men. Hey god bless you now. Thank you for being here Sabrina bless you. Is it my fault? I told him we should be honest no matter what He told me that he found someone very beautiful, but she was married I was so stunned that I wasn't able to leave him nice in him Um No, it ain't your fault, but you know You just don't ask for something if you don't want the answer if you don't want it So going forward, you know, don't don't ask and that what I tell y'all sometimes when I tell y'all You can't handle the truth a lot of times women y'all ask for The truth from a man and you really not ready for his truth. You really don't want his true That's why I asked my wife when we got together and once we was together and we like laid it down the line I said why you asked me how many women I had slept with Because she found out when she read my book my first book and she said because I didn't want to know the answer She's like I didn't want to I I wanted to get to know you for you and judge you for who you were And not your past and I know that if I would have asked you and there was a number I didn't like You probably would have never seen me again And that was her honest truth. She was like that was something she wanted to omit And so you got uh, you know And so my wife she never asked me what woman do you think is beautiful? Do you think this woman's more beautiful than me? She don't ask me a question like that. She don't ask me a question that she don't want to know the answer to And the answer may be in her favor, but just the odds that it could not be and you will never unhear that Just be careful what you're asked for Oh, sweet and love but god bless you Candy cane god bless you Now Miss till god bless you. Sorry. I guess I didn't give enough detail, but I've done coaching and counseling. I'm way better now I still feel a way about A way about her. Thank you so much. I love your channel um Yeah, you you need to work with the right coach then because you need to work with me You need to work with me So if you have done coaching and counseling you still feel that way Then you need to keep going till you And you keep going till you get the right person Who could really hear you and really ask you questions. That's going to move you forward That's going to move your life forward. That's going to really get you Get you going Hello, tony when you ask a guy if they're completely done For closure they ignore your question and give no response And that is intentional when a man does not give you closure That's because he wants you to remain stuck He wants you to remain stuck because if you're standing still Then a man can run in and out your life Hello, and I miss your question now the sec sec sec ck 50 Now what is that now sec sec What the country called that is I'm afraid to make plans and go after my dreams because I'm afraid my plans may go against God's plan Wrong way of thinking. Yes is the wrong way of thinking Yes, the wrong way. I think because you don't know God plans So when you make plans and you activate them plans if they go right, then you know that other God plans if they don't if they go wrong then You're going to get a lesson from it, but you can't You can't really hear God Catherine. God bless you. You will see God so When you make plans the plan that God got for you, that's going to work. You're going to feel a peace in your spirit Tiffany Thomas God bless you if you don't feel that peace Then that one God God going to give you peace So make your plans because remember faith without works is there you got to do the work Bob will tell you make your plans now, but it might just be your plan But the plan only the plan that he has for you will prosper But you still got to do the work He was mean and snappy in our last text convo And made me feel like a fangirl. So I blocked him for good He ran me off, but technically he left me first. Was this ego or him telling me? I'm not the one. It was a little bit of both It was a little bit of both Hello, Tony. Oh, I seen that one As someone whose love language is physical touch how to navigate that while dating or having a boyfriend if I intend to abstain Until marriage Well, you got to you got to get to the root of why your love language is physical touch And you also got to understand that everybody love language might be physical touch But that's not the only love language I bet if a man affirm you with words and speak life into you and lift you up and you know Speaking right to you that'll feel good too Quality time is a love language. I bet if a man taking you out on a date Physical touch could be holding your hand Physical touch could be massaging your neck physical touch could be, you know, hugging you it ain't got the turn remember you have to Grab them draws And pull them down So before you get to that point You could stop You could say no, okay. I know this feel good. Your eyes running back your head. He massaging that back you But that don't all necessarily got to turn in the Yeah, come on. Come on. Give me that. Oh that back row feel so good. You see I'm saying so you have to You could get Touch he could hug you and you know hold your hand you kiss you on the forehead a little peck on the lips without you having to And that's what y'all y'all be acting like There's this just magnet that just you just Can't fight the magnet force and you just got to get on your bike and sleep with a man No, that is a choice And it's a lot of steps you got to go through to get on your bike and to do that So before you get there, it's it's so many opportunities before you get all the way to Come here Before you get all the way there you got so many opportunities to say, okay No, let's stop. Let's hey calm down. Let's stop. No, we're getting a little too hot and heavy. It's all right. I'm We're not going there Just like that Breanne God bless your tony love how you break down manglish for us. Can you also please break down a man's ego? Since you want me to go and get the moon for you too But can you break down a man? It says do you want me to solve e equal mc square? says do you all right You do you want me to give you matter from heaven to break down a man ego? I will be here till We'll be here to december 26 2021 So listen here that right there you ain't gonna be able to fully understand that but you'll recognize it when you see it You'll recognize it when you see it and it's always there and it's always in play Very few men get beyond their ego very few men so Just know that But at the end of the day, you don't have to worry about a man ego What you have to worry about is how does he make you feel and how does he treat you? And if he's treating you wrong if you don't feel good and you don't feel respected and you don't feel love Then he's operating from the wrong side of his ego and that means you need to go point blank period For next god bless you now. Hey tony. Thank you for all you do here for us. What is a good course on building business? On the entrepreneurship with purpose course will bless you And then also the personal brand course will bless you Now it's principles in there, but it's not specific to any one type of business But the business principles will help you a lot Greatest love god bless you. What does a man think of a woman? in form-fitting dress Classy not trashy. My first question was miss. I know you're doing your best How patient should a woman be? While supporting a man's dream. Okay, so you know ask you two questions now, um again you know Every man perception could be a little different. They'll have a general perception but It really does not when you say form-fitting dress There's nothing wrong with a form-fitting dress, but different It's different form-fitting dresses if it's stopped at the high part of your thigh Then that sends a total different Thing in a form-fitting dress that come to your knee or to your mid calf or to your ankle so What it says overall is that this woman Is bold this woman bold enough to show every curve and crevice and cellulite of her body She okay being looked at she okay being stared at she okay being gawked over and She loved her body that she don't put together And she won't and this form-fitting dress is her Rewarding herself to say listen this woman hill got extra love on her handles Ain't no extra love on the handle just the right amount this woman over here Is insecure and shy and don't love her body. I love my body over here That's just really what it's saying to a man and at the end of the day is women who dress like Of roster suit and do not get on their bike And then this woman who dressed like a ceo of a fortune 500 company And will be on their bike in the bike seat of a chevy Riding down the highway So what what a lot of men are finding out is the women who look the most promiscuous A lot of times be the least promiscuous and the women who You know all professional a lot of times be ready to drop it like it's hot That's what a lot of men finding out Other hot patients should you be while supporting a man's dream The key with that is to identify if it's a dream or if it's a fantasy There's a difference between a man's dream and a man's fantasy. So a man's fantasy is to be a gangster rapper Just so he can get lambos and what have you a man's dream is to Do something that serves a purpose in the world Even if it's making good money, he want to make money so he could be an influence to the youth So he can mentor and and be listened to and respected because he's achieved a certain level of success Even if that's being a rapper, but he won't hit it's something he want to do with it He has a blueprint and that rapping is just you know The trojan horse to get him in To get him behind the line so that now the youth and the people are listening to him because they listen to rappers But if he just want to be A rapper so he could trick off in the club and just um make it rain. Then guess what? That's a fantasy. So you got to identify is he chasing a dream or he chasing a fantasy I Only one god bless you Tony. I've been with my partner for 28 years married 11 years going through a divorce for 28 years married 11 year. Okay. See, uh, you know punctuation. So let's throw him off of that now 11 years going through a divorce my biological adult daughter 26 years old is not speaking to me at all. I feel bad about that, but I'm moving on husband very manipulative Well, tell her your side If you and if you're not in the wrong and if you're not nasty yourself She's 26. So she got sense and mind of her own So she might not be speaking to you for for your ways for your behavior But typically I ain't no 26 year old finna listen to her daddy. She ain't nine She's not just finna listen to her daddy because he manipulative So it's something that you're exhibiting that she that she's picking up on Now, yes, she could be a daddy's girl and yeah, you know Mother and daughter always kind of have that tension. That's just the you know, the hand y'all was dealt from the sin in the garden of eating but If you express yourself and you're not in the wrong and you lay out What her daddy did to you and why y'all in the place y'all in She at least got to read that text of that email and then do what she will with that But once you didn't spoke your peace and you did what you could do then that's on her, you know, she's grown You know, don't lose no sleep over that she's grown Tricia God bless your metta man says he's a man of God his social media pages quotes about God, but Ask me over for dinner at his house thoughts Well, I mean you met a man if y'all not dating if y'all not dating And you haven't gone on outside dates with him Then You'll need to be going to his house Until you truly know him. I always say a minimum of 10 You know a minimum of 10 Dates outside out and about y'all could walk the lake Y'all could sit downtown and have you a little cook sushi because no y'all don't eat no raw sushi How you look cooked sushi and y'all go out on a date like that You know do something that you could do with your mask on and don't go in you know That man house And and a good man of God ought to have enough sense about that and a lot of people who post all of them quotes I live with the Lord. You don't see me posting a bunch of scripts scriptures. I live for the Lord work for the Lord You don't see it in my bio, you know, because when you really buy that people going to see that on you They're gonna feel that on you they're gonna hear and see it in the way you move So a lot of men using that to get women To get women to drop their guard There's so many went men that's got all these scripts on they paid and they in full-fledged Fornication intensely and they plan with God and it's a hot corner in h e double l form And they're gonna not only would they spend eternity there and they don't get they live right But you're gonna see them suffer A whole lot here on earth for playing with the Lord a lot of these guys just shout out. They're just They're crazy. So you do What the auction of the spirit tell you and God and you know gun will the Lord ain't gonna give you peace About going over to no man house that you just met that you don't even know like that Nigel God bless you now. I've been going on dates with this guy once a week We talk daily. He pushes me closer to God. I like him but don't want him to be a distraction advice Well, he's not distracting you if he's pushing you closer to God Now if he go to asking you to get on your bike now, you know, he is a distraction That looked like destiny. So the proof gonna be in the foot You'll know the tree by the fruit it bear. So In order for a man not to be a distraction is you need to be staying living right doing right He need to be encouraged you on your right walk on your righteous walk And also the other way, you know, a man is not a distraction is when you're not Putting down what you need to be doing to move your life forward to talk to him meaning Don't be on work Don't be at work talking to him when you're supposed to be working And if you get caught on that phone, you can get rolled up Don't be Talking to him when you're supposed to be studying so you could pass your test because you're in school That's when a man is a distraction But if he's not getting in the way of your Progression then that's not a distraction Shanice God bless you. Hello Tony. I broke up with my boyfriend in september because he did not believe in the holy bible He wanted to propose on his birthday december 22nd But my dad ruined it by telling me how do I go about this gone by your business? What do you mean? How you go about this? You don't don't you ain't no going by this? He don't believe in the holy You don't believe in the bible Well, let me get my purse up I got to get a more expensive purse because the handle always gets stuck when it's time to go You know what? This is just gonna be a clutch. This is a clutch tonight Uh, you don't believe in the holy bible. Okay It was a nice note. You know what actually gonna get this candle. I just brought over here up. I'll see you later. Okay He don't believe in the bible. I got to go You don't believe in the bible. Okay. Yeah, I gotta go gotta go that That's gotta go I'll see you later Get your purse on the rock Listen got to go. Uh, that's the last thing you deal with how you go about this Let's put the shoes on go on by it like that right now. That's how you go about that Don't deal with no man that do that think he bigger than god if a man don't believe in the holy bible You hear me? That's the worst thing you could do that is that You'll be chopped up in somebody's freezer Come on now No, don't play with that now. Don't do not play with that. Ain't no other Does it get proposal? No, keep that you need to propose to the bible. You need to ask god for forgiveness Uh-huh got to go I ain't new don't play with it Baby girl. God bless you Tony can a man fully be over a divorce within a matter of months and he's jumped into another marriage already He's been planning to marry her. I guess he acts so unbothered by the divorce Um Technically no, but technically yes like if he'd been done he'd been gone way before the divorce Then he he was healing in the midst of the situation ship. So then when it was over he was already done Recovery and amber god bless you. Thank you for always showing up to bless us ain't bless you So understand that right there. So yeah, he could be over it. He could be over it But if he already jumped in another marriage He just got a lot of red flags going on even if he is over it it just Common decency and common sense you'll take like a year at least to just heal be by yourself focus on you work on you This man he he got a lot of issues. So Get it far from him as you can Uh Yamola god bless you An old friend of my boyfriend recently Reconnected with him an old friend of my boyfriend recently reconnected with him They were close But he said she saw him as a brother and she is in a relationship. He wants us all to meet and go on double dates thoughts um if if she got a man and y'all gonna double date That kind of cuts into it a little bit that kind of make things a little better, but i've seen crazy things happen in situations like that so You still got to tread lightly with that because some see because when people have a soul time They'll use their relationship as a You know disguise To get back in touch with each other and still in the feed at soul time So my hard and fast rule is no friends of the opposite sex when you in a committed relationship colleagues Associates that's not friends That's happy birthday. Merry christmas. Happy hanukkah. Whatever y'all serve whatever y'all do celebrate Uh happy easter That's colleagues associates But sitting on the phone chopping it up. How you doing how things going? Is that what you really want to do? What is your what is your five-year goal? That's friends none of that none of that because She could be using that boyfriend as a disguise to get back in with your man and then your man they meeting up And the whole time they think they brown sugar Like the movie and they planning on how they finna lead y'all and be together. So listen I'm tell you as a man. I don't have now female friend Not a not a one. I got female clients Who they could text me a business question? But ain't no on the phone just shooting the breeze. How you doing? How things going? How business going? So what's your goal for 2021? No, ain't none of that ain't none of that because you can't play with that because humans the way humans work It's to get to that next level. You mean somebody getting on their back And so all that right there and it's a and it's the people that swear they got friends of the opposite sex and all that but Just don't know no better. Just ain't little long enough. Just the person they made they moved yet Or they look like the back of this cell phone case and so they friend really really truly do not want them And so understand that Humbling great for god bless. I got caught up with a married man He made it like he was with this white hit this wife for his daughter He is muslim. I am born again. I stopped it before Now we remain friends. I have feelings for him now though. What should I do? Let him go cut him loose all the way. You got to cut him loose all the way because you're playing yourself Because y'all cannot become nothing He married he got a daughter So all you're doing is blocking your blessings you born again If you born again, then you need to be born again. You need to be talking to the lord You need to be praying as for forgiveness for falling for a married man Ask that you be healed that you be washed that you be cleansed. You need to get on my mentor dot life You've seen coach amber right here coach amber who? Donated the 99 dollars 99 cent coach amber is a coach on my mentor dot life So everybody watching this go book a session with coach amber because I think she got a very affordable price And she need to be blessed greatly for the seed she sold over here So go book your session with coach amber because She her price is way more affordable than mine And i'm finna retire one-on-one coaching in 2021 and I know her person is she gonna keep it real with you but you need to go on Smell the folges in the morning because you plan yourself and when you giving this man your energy because y'all friends You become his energy dump you become his trash can he just get the dump into you Talk to you to get a break from his wife And he have you stagnant and stuck to where your energy is being given to him So now you blocking your husband your husband when your husband see you you look like a Emotionally unavailable woman you look like a taken woman because you falling for your quote-unquote friend So the the man over there he winning and then you playing the fool And you blocking your blessings by sniffing his booty While he already got a wife and a family So you need to let him have his wife and his family and then go on by your business So that you can get your husband and start your family But while you over there you you're messing yourself up. You see what i'm saying You're messing yourself up um Fire group a y'all forgive me. It's just too many questions coming. So i'm gonna miss somebody question Now if i miss your question you just got to understand so Do not send no financial Blessing no money for a question That you can't afford to lose don't be calling google Yes, good google. I don't even know how to spell google. I did not spend over $4.99 Tony who what i don't even know what google is just refund my money because that $4.99 has now become $39.99 because my account was empty and now you gave me an overdraw fee So listen do not send no money on here To get a question asked when you send money that's you saying tony god bless you This is a free. This is a free Q&A So if you is too impatient to put your question in the thing and wait till i see it Don't send money for an answer because if i miss the question I don't want to hear it in the chat. Oh, you missed my question. You missed my question When you see it's a thousand questions over here now. All right Fire group of god bless. Did that say fire group it? Let's say something totally different. You might want to work on that name Now that might mean something else over there. I don't know now. Hello tony this man I met a few years ago just started starting calling and having casual casual conversation last month Keep asking to assist me with doing work at my house. What should I do? No gone by the bit Gone by the bit because a few years ago and now y'all just not talking he wanted he would talk to you a few years ago Gone by the bit and then you had this man in your house Don't ever let a man. You don't know in your house this man will be in your house Hey, i'm gonna work over this over here and while you tackle that over there that way You know We work at the same time we kill two birds with one stone because you know me I'm from the street. So the way we do stuff we like to split and divide and do That thing, you know, this man putting cameras in your house This man got a camera in your shower. You don't even see it This man got a camera in your bathroom. You and he he ain't got to pay for only fan noble Now he just sitting there watching you Whoo, take it off. Take it off right there. Hey, you got out the view. Hey, you see what i'm saying That's what a man to do to you now That woman that report on espn. She was staying at a house need somebody Come come in my wife be respecting me like i'm in he'll be with presidents it's like Girl, it's your house. You come in when you want to come in What you got going on? Why i told my little house Why i told my little house Great I'm getting started now. Now. I don't forgot what i was saying Queen to walk in hell got what i was saying Oh, i was saying the young lady who reported for espn She was in a in a hotel room or something like that and the man was watching her The man had a camera watching that. So listen, don't let no man come in your house till you know him You now about need to know his social security number just so you can mess it credit up if he do something to your house And let god bless your height on it Is there ever a time where a man truly needs time to get himself together say after a divorce? Yes There is a time Anytime a man come out of relationship. He need time to get himself together But a man will get himself together while he's with you if he feels like you're the one If he don't feel like you the one Then he He gonna need time to get himself together Now y'all hold on right quick whole question. I'm trying to catch these questions some questions. I missed After talking with a new guy daily for a month and we both stopped communicating Recently for three days should I call and check on him or let him pursue you let him pursue you I'll we let the man pursue you Hannah god bless you how to end the soul tie god bless you and thank you go to tonigasteracademy.com I got a free course called soul ties. I believe it's free So because that's too that's too much for him T the origin god bless you he is telling a man Hey, it's telling a man calmly what goes around comes around Amasculating him if so why? Um, it's not about a masculine him. It's it's actually threatening him So what you the last thing what you want to do is tell a man, you know What go around come around Because what he might deserve is a a bus hitting him while he crossing the street And that's what he made picture. So now he's gonna feel like that's a threat And so he may he may call that a masculine him. But yeah, that's kind of like threatening him because What's already understood don't need to be explained. He already know what go around come around. He just don't kill But if you tell him that like you like you gonna be the enforcer Now he's gonna take issue with it And now that he can make your life worse if you're gonna be in the vicinity So if you do say something like that, you need to go about your business Because that's how you feel you need to go about your business You don't need to be with him Don't be don't be throwing shots like that and then still on your bike Still staying with him because now you finna get done dirty Um vv god bless you. I'm single and been abstinent for 10 years How do I begin to attract the man for me? I stay in a small town and want someone on the same page as me Since you're gonna need coaching. Okay after 10 years Have 10 years. What's up? You're gonna need to look. Oh, you're gonna need to look coaching says 10 year We can't address. We can't address 10 years in two minutes. So you're gonna my mentor dot like my mentor dot like Hey, Tony, thank you so great that much. You're so right. I've used your my mentor dot life before and it helped me I'm going to move on. God bless you. Hey bless you Bless you on your family. Thank you for opening my eyes or a real god bless you now Angela bless you for the blessing you sent. Okay. I've seen that question Jenae bless you. I like a 50 year old man. I'm 28. I block him to get myself together He's smart divorce. No kids. He wants to marry and have kids. How do I get a ring? Jenae I'm going by your business. That's your daddy If you 28 if I read this thing, right 50 year old man. I'm 28. That's your daddy classmate He older than your daddy That that's no, that's your daddy class. That's your daddy classmate You get a ring for this man. You go around your uncles or your auntie. Hey, classmate Uh, what you doing with my knee? Y'all y'all what? Y'all they need them a classmate Not not listening now. I I ain't trying to put my business in the street, but I'm dealing with a little bit of ed I know he gotta be dealing with ed Don't call hold on. I need I got the gold You see what I'm saying? That right there says, please Please we finna do Now when I get on the board or coaching when they get ready to regulate coaching I'm finna have them implement Baby powder slaps the way you just There's every cert every night in the client got to get a little bit of baby powder But sometimes just talking ain't gonna do it for you. Somebody might need to just To get that register going says come on now Like who you follow online? Do you follow all these young ladies online who got sugar daddy? It's like come on. See if you know this man 50 years old you finna be in your prime like when you get in your prime In your 40s and all that right there and you feeling good This man finna be 98 years old on a walker can and why you want to see the world you pushing him in the tail It's like come on now. I said don't get that desperate nice So the issue right there is you got daddy issues. You got daddy issues And you looking for your daddy. That's what you have to understand. You don't like him You looking for your daddy you trying to feel the void That your daddy left and that's where you need to go to counseling and deal with that Deal with them daddy wounds and then come out on the other side Renew Sinclair god bless you So beautiful give me whole blessing you and queen god bless a god bless you now god bless you See my wife she do this thing. I'm gonna tell y'all what my wife do Y'all hold your question for a little second now y'all hold your question for a second Hold your question for a second now if you send them money question you just you donate All right, I said hold your question don't send no money question right now Hold let me tell y'all what my wife do See my wife she do this thing. Well She used her energy her feminine energy she used her feminine energy so That she remains a prize like my wife. She respect me but she don't Kiss the ground I walk on And so and and my wife she's not nasty. We've been married for Going on 14 years. She's not the type to just be nasty and just be And just be all over me and just like she is a slave It's a lot of women y'all think I heard I heard of For lack of a better term idiot And we're gonna use that in the clinical sense not a derogatory sense. I heard an idiot woman She happened to be she looked like maybe middle not middle. She looked like Armenian or something like or his you know a lighter Hispanic or something She was oh, she could have just been a white woman with a tan And I saw the video online and she said y'all hos y'all need to start sucking D You ain't sucking another D and I guarantee you you ain't sucking another D Your man cheating on you and you need to give your man the reason you need to start just do everything for your man Because y'all don't want to give three some y'all don't want to suck D. I guarantee your man cheating on you And that's the problem right there with so many women Is that so many women today think in order to keep a man that you got to be Subservient that you got to be on your bike that you got to be You know less than you think the way to keep a man And the pleas of man is to just be a robot to where anytime he'd look at you You you ripping off your drawers and you on your bike So he could get some And my wife is not like that. She is a human being and she respect herself as a human So anything we do she got to feel like doing it whether it's talking whether it's On the date whether it's our private time as a as a couple She got to be all engaged and that's and I have to earn that So she don't she's not no robot for me It ain't just I pay y'all attention all day and then I just could go get my wife on her bike Hey girl, give me a girl come up girl. Give me some of that. No, I have to make love to her mind She own her body and yes, her body belongs to me But I got to respect her and I still have to serve her I got to love her. I have to earn her still I earn her every day She earned me every day. We still courting each other. So that's why you see me Get giddy when my wife come around. That's why I look at her the way I look at her because she's never Debased herself to be a love slave to be a robot she still Carried herself with love and respect and I might be like Hey girl Girl come on. Give me a piece of that You know, I might say something like that wrong to you and she'll be like Boy, I got to go. I I'm already running late. I got to go. I'll see you when I get back That's how she is whereas a lot of women they will with tears in their eyes Feeling like nothing get on their bike thinking this gonna keep a man faithful Let me tell you the more you do for a man the more likely you are to be cheated on Y'all ain't hit me. Y'all ain't hit me. I say the more you do for a man The more subservient you are the women who bite they tongue The women who bend over backwards the women who always on they bite Sucking and ducking. I don't curse. That's why I said ducking And I ain't and that's not a substitute for the f word Who always Shucking and jiving those the women getting cheated on Because what's intriguing to a man Is when a woman knows who she is And she do what she want to do how she want to do it when she want to do it So 14 years in my wife not going to bumblebee triple x to get no tricks from her Because bumblebee triple x don't have nothing on my wife So whatever my wife feeling like That's what she's feeling like and she ain't going to know another woman to say hey How you do this how you do that, you know, how you pleasure your man Please your man know because all that common sense All that common sense so it depends on what she's feeling like Because everything that bumblebee triple x When I'm saying that name I'm that's like I'm saying that's like a porn star or whatever Everything that she capable of The woman who do all the cooking and cleaning everything that they capable of The woman who know how to do business in the board room Everything that any other woman is capable of my wife is capable of But her response Is a response to my action So if I have inaction Then she's not going to be bending over backwards and serving me if I'm not doing right by her And that has been one of the secrets to the success of our marriage is my wife has kept her identity She's not a slave to my ego. She's not a slave to my Sex drive. She she don't work for me. She worked for god She ain't just You know doing and and that right there that's intriguing to me because he a real man He wants a challenge real men. We want a challenge We don't want a floor mat a real man don't want no do-girl a real man Don't want no robot a real man want a woman who that if we feeling hot and heavy But we ain't made love to the woman mind We don't want no woman to wear when we feel a hot and heavy and she got a migraine. She said, okay Come on. Let's just do it. Just or she pretend she don't got a headache to be on her back A real man don't want that A real man want a woman that's gonna say look, I'm not feeling good tonight I got a headache tonight. So ain't nothing going down tonight And she gonna roll over and she go to bed a real man gonna respect that And then he's gonna say, okay. Well, how can I solve this? Okay, she got a headache She stayed up late last night Doing laundry and preparing lunches. So tonight I'm doing the laundry and I'm preparing lunches So that that that way she could be done by 9 30 and she feeling good She could go to bed tonight because she was tired from staying up late last night She go to bed tonight. Then when she wake up, she's fully rested. That's what a real man gonna do Real man don't want no woman to just be on her bike And that's what so many women doing wrong today is you think That what you're doing in the bedroom the tricks you're doing the bedroom gonna keep a man faithful and that's a lie That's why you see women who were strippers and women who were porn stars get married And still get cheated on Because all them tricks in the bed and how about the walk How about a walk this walk that yeah, yeah, you got your walk and still getting cheated on So what do that mean? When you subservient and you just is a robot and a slave to a man ego and his will and his way But you're not making him earn your love You're not making him court you and love you then guess what you just giving yourself to him He don't appreciate you because he didn't have to work for you You gave your body to him on the first night or you gave your body to him too soon You did too much. He it got to come in stages So you you you doing everything you doing the whole nine In the first year of a relationship You're doing too much. He earned that level of treatment So when you give him everything that he have not worked for Because see one thing about real men is we understand that it is of the essence That we work for a woman's heart So if a man not working for a woman's heart, he don't appreciate a woman who just give herself to him But see a grown boy Wants a woman who does not know her worth a grown boy wants a woman who's going to be a do-girl Who's going to be a robot because he don't want to have to sacrifice He don't want to have to give her anything He just won't her to literally just please him and be there for his every whim and her brain scheme and his sex drive So she literally is no different than a prostitute or a concubine That's what grown boy and the grown boys are flourishing today and that women are being okay With threesome. That's the dumbest thing in the world. You're not that's not going to keep a man That's the way to lose a man because you're feeding his lust and lust is not like thirst When you feed lust it gets stronger In order to quench Lust you have to starve it so When you feed lust it gets stronger and now he wants more Now he don't want just one woman. He want two women. Now. He don't just want two women He won't three women now. He'll just want three women He won't each of y'all lick in a different part of his body Then he wants y'all doing stuff today. Then he won't this then he won't that then he wants you in the back seat Then he wants you in the airplane Uh bathroom, then he wants you on a private jet Then he wants you in the library when you feed lust it gets strong and strong and strong And so that's why you see these women who bending over backwards kissing a man behind Serving this man because he got money or status or or just a good talk game or a good D game and she's serving him. But then you see he's still cheating He's still dealing with other women and that's because when you doing all that for a man You're not quenching his lust You becoming a new girl and it's the women like my wife Who keep their identity Who know who they are who know their worth If they got a headache you ain't getting on If you made love to their mind if you sat down and communicated and conversated and spent quality time You ain't getting on ain't no wham-bam. Thank you ma'am Ain't no do what I say when I say do it ain't no jump and they ask how high It's no you got to come correct or don't come at all and a man fall in love with that kind of woman and so Y'all listening to jezebel's Y'all listening to jezebel women telling you put on heels Look sexy have feminine energy. They confuse and feminine energy with Being bait on a hook With being lusted after that's not feminine energy feminine energy could be sweats with temmelin boots Feminine energy is a mindset. It ain't a perfume smell. It ain't an outfit feminine energy That's how you see yourself. Do you see yourself like a queen? Do you see yourself like a prized in the sense of you got to be earned? You got to be worked for when you get to that place That's when you get the best from a man But when you come and you serving a man and you on your bank and you giving to a man and he ain't even earned that level of you Now he don't respect you. That's what y'all got to understand That's what you got to understand So a couple y'all came in now see some people they don't hear the instruction because They'd be watching the video they come in and they don't they're not actually watching the live They asking what I said five ten minutes ago because they just hopped on you could pick up, you know where I was So i'ma grab a cup of tea her question. Hopefully I got that pointer crawl My wife she packing for our trip. I said baby, can I help you pack? She said no, you can't help me pack child Because she know how she do the packing and that's just her that's her, you know, she she good with Um So she told me no you could do a live because see I might not have no videos for the next three or four days So i'm doing a lot of night just to you know get some of the questions in Sarah god bless. I got engaged to a great man today Y'all got engaged there and you on here on the live? I got engaged to a great man today Single mom and stand off my back. You are doing the work of the lord and help me out Of a talk divorce. Thank you lord. Thanks on a god bless. Hey listen now. You see how what sarah doing? Lotta women they would have got engaged And they they enough body play walking up. They enough What what else you want? Oh, you want some extra soy sauce in there? Okay They enough twerking over the food. They got the thong on They in the uh, uh, uh, they got the music playing and they in the uh At this time of night They in there doing all that or you want some wine or you want some water now or what else I could do for you Give me that microphone They doing all that this is the hill got engaged today. She on the lie This is the only lie Give knowledge I had to read that again. I got engaged to a great man today. This is the only lie After she got engaged, you see what I'm saying? She let that man know like listen ain't your property Okay, just cuz we got engaged don't mean I'm finna be sniffing your booty 24 7 No, bro. Go on about your business now. I got something to do. I got a lie that's on tonight So guess what? He gonna respect her. He gonna respect her space. He gonna respect her mind because she know who she is Evil god bless. I broke off our engagement for a year and we have been back together since august Should I wait for him to propose or can I wear my engagement ring back? He is in Kenya and I am in Canada Tiff, I'm gonna tell you this for life now It's gone by the bill Gone by the bill Gone by the bill Gone by the bill The man in Kenya He in Kenya And you broke off y'all and gave it for a year. So you was able to do without him for a year For a whole year. You was able to do without him So Gone by the bill Okay, and and you in Canada You can walk around with garbage bags on he won't know he in Kenya. So definitely Definitely do not Winner rain because he has not Asked you to marry him again He earned you the winner rang again. He earned your love again. You said I mean So And since I'm gonna tell you that long distance for a man That that kind of long distance Kenya to Canada that kind of long distance that relationship is a figment of your imagination Their relationship not even real. I hate to tell you that that too real for tv is too real for this channel I know y'all believe Listen sis When you listen to all these women's stories You barely could trust a man that lived with you A man that lived with you still cheap What you think a man on another continent is doing That's that's that's not your band That's not that's your pen pal Pen pen pal Meaning your writing buddy that y'all just write letters y'all intercontinental Pen pals. That's not a relationship That is not a relationship relationship You active you in person. You could see each other. You could watch him. You could drive by his place To see if another car there And kenya y'all on two total server. He could have a whole wife And kid and you wouldn't know it Y'all time zones completely different. You know, I'm telling you come on. I said Come on in if you are alone this relationship Y'all more than a four-hour drive apart. You need coaching You need coaching Breathe god bless you now It's not much, but you just preach the sermon god bless you for being authentic and just showing me a lot of what I know now thanking god for a breathe god bless you now In the sunshine god bless you Have you seen the movie acrimony? How do you know When to leave and it's not a mistake. You'll regret example. He puts you through so much and then gets his Stuff together after you break up um I feel like I've seen the movie acrimony, but I struggle watching some kind of mood because that writing just be Too predictable I'll be struggling like okay. All right knife and to do this All right Parkour and get stale trying to watch some kind of movies. I feel like I've seen that movie though But the fact that I can't fully remember let you know And y'all got to start hanging on to your movies. All right That's that's the problem with a lot of people is you basically like decisions off of movies And yes, it's all right Stop that And then to listen if you feel like leaving it's never a mistake Because a man that's for you He's not going to push you away If he for you And if you leave it's never a mistake because even if you not gone forever Even if y'all get back together because he does the work Then he had to earn you back So it's never a mistake when you feel like leaving Always if you feel like leaving It's time to go because he obviously pushing you to that point Currently separated for seven months due to his infidelity He has an apartment and we have kids He calls every day keeps check on me seems like he's trying to keep me stuck while entertaining others And you would be Correct Alice for 500 You would be correct If he entertaining others, but he calling you every day, then that's exactly what he's doing keeping you stuck so If he cheated on you and y'all been apart for seven months, what you have to do is treat this like a business relationship This now has to be like a business relationship to where he can't just call you when he called you you let The child answer the phone or you call him on facetime But you let you put the phone in front of the child face and that's where his relationship need to be With the child not with You so understand that it becomes business at that point How should women respond once we receive a genuine apology from our man after three days of using the power of silence When she is still disappointed Um, if you receive a genuine apology You know you say thank you for You know doing that that means a lot for you to be man enough to apologize and to express that and so you know I need to see actions that follow that so if you're going to be with him and you plan you're not planning on leaving You just would be in silent for those three days The apology really does not mean anything because a genuine apology Is not words coming out of a mouth a genuine apology is the actions that follow the words that came out of his mouth so You really are not responding until you see the actions that Happen over the next three to six months Then you're responding and what I mean by that is when you have to Take a little break from a man and put him on that type of silent Treatment the three days When you have to do that that means that when you take him back everything need to be going slow-mo You need to be going slow-motion. You don't just get back and then you write back on your back You write back cooking and clean doing everything you was doing You don't do that God bless you since six months ago Six months ago met a 36 year old unemployed man living with his mother Three months ago. He got an entry level job. How much time do I give to see if he has ambition and motivation? well, it's it's uh It's less about ambition and motivation and more about his character and integrity So what you need to be looking at is does he smoke? Does he get drunk? Does he gamble? Does he curse? Even though that's smaller does he curse? Does he has he mentioned nasty movies pornography? Does he watch that? You know, is he trying you trying to get you on your back? Pressuring you to sleep with him Those are the things you need to be focusing on And because that first comes that's more important and if he has that then If he has that then him getting the job shows some ambition Even though it's entry level, but you also got to ask him why you got an entry level job So you need to look into his past to see if it's red flag so What's the reason for a reason for a 36 year old man getting an entry level job? So understand that okay, so it's a lot to go into that as bigger than just ambition Um beauty how to heal from an aren't a relationship 11 years two children and moved out of state with him Six years. He left three times told me It's my fault. He cheated You'll need therapy, you know as life coaches. We don't deal with Uh Labels that's a clinical term. That's although y'all misusing it a lot of times uh A lot of people misusing it because that is a clinical term But a lot of people throwing it around you're throwing you're willy-nilly slinging it everywhere Even though it's being overused as a life coach I'm not trained to deal with clinical terminology Clinical language because that's a diagnosis that comes from you know, somebody certified in those behaviors But uh, somebody made that word. This the first year I've been doing this 13 years. This the first year. I've heard So many people use the word Never before have I had a client say that word but somebody made that thing go viral Somewhere around last year the end round last year Somewhere somebody made that word go viral and now that is everybody's solution. That's everybody diagnosis for the x and I'm just like wow And but a lot of the time what y'all be diagnosing be every man So I'm like, okay I guess every man is one of those because what y'all describing is every man I've ever met a lot of time El Renee got this high Tony could you actually read if she would do a q&a with you? Maybe on the anniversary of when a woman's influence was published. Also. Have you all considered to do another audio? for which reads boys, thanks um No, we haven't considered doing another audio for it just because it's it's not our book It's published and the publisher, you know, they probably ain't gonna redo it because it's just probably a lot of work Probably work and money and stuff like that that the publisher don't want to invest and um And then as far as her being on here If I ask her she'll do it But also I know If she wanted to do it, she'll tell me she wanted to do it So I really don't ask her to do my my ministry because if she don't feel Call to answer questions Then I don't ask that of her and and she may have her own reasons why she Don't really see what we did the q&a we did that was kind of almost like a promo obligation with the publisher to show that You know, she helping promote the book Um, so that was more so business than her wanting to do it But she just don't like the limelight. She just don't like being You know in front of folks She don't have a desire to coach You know, she's just she like she's living life. She's like Living life and actually doing it versus talking about it You know, I teach on it because that's what i'm called to but it's not her calling It's not her gifting and so a lot of people ask me that but Yes, it could be good for business But i'm not focused on it being good for business A lot of people drag they spouse into What they do To make more money because people like to see couple goals relationship goals which If I brought my wife in working with me a lot every day Our income probably a quadruple Because people just love to see that kind of stuff, but we're not in this for the money We really about living genuine life and the more that you put your relationship on the front street You could have One interaction that the two of you understand perfectly But other people read into it as some tension Or are they reading to it as? Oh, oh ain't no. Oh, they ain't really got no chemistry. Oh Oh and then you got all these people with all kinds of spirits in the comments speaking on your Relationship and words have power And so now when you put your relationship on the front street You open yourself up for attacks from the enemy And that's what the devil won't that's why you see most relationships who do reality tv They disintegrate not long after We've seen one relationship survive Perceivably, we don't know what's happening behind closed doors and that's rare one and his wife justine If that's her name, that's the only couple that I've seen Successfully From what we could see we don't know what they go into behind closed doors But they have not gone through no public fallout scandal or divorce every other relationship that you See that go on tv you later hear something about some cheating some some kind of stuff Because when you open yourself up and you put yourself out there the devil going to go to work because he want to get that that victory so for me A lot of them are working with this lady and she said Tony I tell my kids treat your relationship like a house And I use that and I expounded upon that and I and I even put it in my book I think make it work and that's how me and my wife do we don't tell all our business. We don't show everything Y'all see probably 10 percent of what we do Probably 10 percent y'all see and that's because I do this so I understand how this work And so that's I and see People will pay for a ticket to watch you set yourself on fire and jump off a cliff and I refuse for the real love that I've built to be entertainment or to be fodder for evil spirits because it's genuine people that want to know but If you know, you know Because you could just look at her pictures You could hear my story and what I say Because the thing about it is because this is my gift I articulate What she does and she don't even know she's doing it. So a lot of women say Hey chari need to give us the game, but it's not a game For chari a gaskins. It's not a game. That's who she is that her life She don't even know what she's doing like she she ain't write this down or she don't read She ain't reading a book about this. It's not on her. It's in her So I being The subject her student mean meaning me being a man who pursued her and courted her I see what she did differently Than every other woman I ever met. That's why I could tell you she wouldn't even be able to tell you As good as I tell you because she just being authentic and just being her It ain't no game. It ain't something she's playing. That's just who she is That's who she became loving the lord walking with the lord, you know living and loving herself. So understand that I articulate and expound upon things that She don't even know that I know this She don't even know what I explained to y'all tonight I've never even explained that to her in full detail like that. She don't even know that she's just operating She's just being authentic So that's why you know And I tell her all the time or man, everybody, you know, pull one of her from you like They'll be sadly disappointed because I you know, it's just me. I'm just living, you know So understand that about my wife and I'm serious about that because see me I also understand that I could deal with this I could deal with this But I love her and I'm protective over her and it's nasty spirits and if one person says something That hurt my wife That have her crying I'll be trying to find that person And take them off the face of this earth and I know people say that's extreme and that's crazy But god know my heart That right there I love her the way christ lord of church. I don't play by her And so I could deal with the idiots with the fools that attack me I could deal with that But if you attack my wife and say something about my wife, if I got the opportunity You hear me You'll have to answer to a whole another situation Because I don't play by Her emotional state being damaged or being disrupted and it's too many jezebel spirits It's too many evil spirits that'll just be saying stuff About her complexion about her her voice About how she talk Just be attacking her and there's a few people I had to block from our last video we did That I had to block and I ain't really gonna go find them, but I definitely blocked them And I know they feel stupid trying to leave a comment and can't leave one I definitely blocked them But just saying a little stuff and and I don't even tell my wife about it Don't show it to her because I'm protecting her And she follow women online. She see what women Who their husband is in the spotlight and then they come out into the spotlight She see what they go through and she told me she said I'm not that type of woman. I ain't built like that I'd be ready. I bashed a woman head in if she come trying me disrespecting me because that's just how she is She's not with the games either and that's why our relationship worked because she don't play games So I got to respect her and so A lot of people think that I'm rough that I'm tough my wife. You really don't want to smoke with her You really don't want to smoke with her. She's not bought no games and So it's also me protecting her so that she don't have to go off on nobody And have to read nobody left or right Because she didn't know how she didn't get it a few time, but just nice in a nice way So y'all understand that everybody who's seeing this right here You could go follow my wife on instagram you she posts on her stories every day You see our life. You see my other half So you see how she is with our sons you see all of that You'll see all of that But me dragging her in the coaching and speaking and teaching That may never happen when she says she's ready I'm ready, but until then Because you got to be built for this because because you deal with a lot of evil spirits when you do it Just seen a god bless you now I broke up with my player ex-boyfriend that didn't want to commit He is now back and behaving a lot better. What are the signs? He is genuine and what are the red flags? um It's it's you know, it's really no blatant signs because Every man gonna play a role So he may not be genuine but playing the role of a genuine man The only thing that you could tell Is with time So a man can only fake for so long. So typically What you do the way you really, you know smoke them out The box out the hole is You keep your legs closed If you serve in him and you on your back and you doing stuff like that then He could keep playing that role, but when you're not giving him what he want When he working and he courting you he's courting you but you're not sleeping with him And you ain't doing nothing with him sexual. That's when you see if he really want to be there That's when you see that So be patient Don't just roll out the red carpet. Let him prove himself. Let him work. Let him court you Let him serve let him lead in love Pinky pink. God bless you. I'm dating a man who has his own business I'd like to know if I should keep dating him We've been together for nine months. The problem is His longest relationship was two years. I broke up with him, but he came back and together again I'm says, I don't know if y'all to keep dating him Because me he didn't he ain't said nothing that he did wrong. All you say he got a business. So You know why you broke up with him You know what I mean? So I that that ain't no detail for me to understand what's going on. What the man did And if you broke up with him, why you broke up with him, you know, why you took him back You know Beauty God bless you your videos helped me and I've been watching them every day. Thank you Much for your response. Hey, God bless you now Let me see if I miss something Okay Taisha, I miss you. Hey, Tony. I'm 23 years old started watching your channel since a heartbreak with a grown boy Your videos has given me so much knowledge. Thank you and God bless. Hey, thank you Thank you Keep watching. I your Bella bless. I found out last week my ex of 11 months has someone else He says I never meant anything. I know I must move on and let it go. Why does it feel like he got a pass? Because you can't see his behind the scenes. So that's why it feels like that You don't know what he's going through But that's why you can't worry about what he's going through and you got to worry about yourself Tori God bless you more and more guys today believe leading financially or taking complete care of a woman is simping How should women approach finances with men? Approach your finances If if a man feel like that Is being a simp then that's when you know, that's a grown boy But also You got to understand if he's saying he don't want to do financially For a girlfriend because a man leading financially and doing all that financially is a wife benefit So when you dating you supposed to be taking care of you and yours and he taking care he hit his and then But you need to understand that he believes In providing he believes his check goes to the household And it pays all the bills and all y'all money is one in marriage And that y'all money go into a pot it take care bills and y'all get y'all separate allowance So that you could buy what you want to buy he could buy what he wanted to buy He could shop for you without you knowing what he's getting and vice versa But it's not that oh, we're gonna split all the bills down the middle and then he made way more than you Know all y'all money come in to a pot when you marry So you just need to understand his mindset about it And if he believed that that that him leading financially is being a simp like him providing is being a simp Then that's let you know He a grown boy with mommy wounds or daddy wounds or ex-girlfriend wounds And he on youtube listening to the quote-unquote alpha males and mixtile men and red pill men Which is all which is a lot of them is lame They lames they they lost they hurting they them been dog died mistreated because they were sniffing a woman booty And the woman ain't want them But they wanted her for her body her booty and her beauty Instead of looking at her character, then she cheated on them and then not a ups They got upset. They got hurt and they hate women And so now they're making all these channels making these videos and they telling these men that you a simp if you Do this and do that for a woman and it's all coming from a place of hurt But a real man is not intimidated by no woman a real man is not threatened by no woman A real man don't feel like it make him less of a man To protect and provide for a woman in every sense of the word a real man ain't gonna feel like that Because he know he got enough to go around he know he got enough to give and still be a man Only a punk gonna feel like a woman getting over him getting over on him if he paying the bills Only a punk gonna feel like that and that just from his past pain ARJ god bless you. He likes every picture I post we had a little something 10 years ago But lost touch due to me moving away. He still likes my pictures and i'm not sure if he's taking He has not sent me A flirty dm is he interested in me? um Not necessarily Not necessarily he could just be a nice guy. He could just be wanting to be nice and just kind of interact with you He could just think that that's what you do on social media He might not really understand social media So he see the heart there he could be liking every one of your pictures and every one of 10 other women pictures You see what I mean? So you can't read into social media if a man don't come to you and say hey I've been you know looking at you We we know each other from years ago And I really want to connect with you and build with you and and I want to know if you're single Until he says that is nothing. Don't look into it. Don't lose no sleep over it. Don't be sitting Way, no nothing none of that Pinky pinkie. He dated married women before as long as relationship was two years. Should I keep dating him? He dated many women before again If the man ain't doing nothing wrong then Ain't no sense in breaking up with him You know if he's not cheating on you eating on you cussing you out not keeping his word He could have dated only two years because he never met the one, you know So don't worry about what he did in his past. What is he showing you now? That's what you go off of So you leave a man when he give you a reason to leave him don't leave him because you fear Don't operate out of fear and leave a man just because you fear something bad gonna happen If he ain't giving you no sign of nothing bad happening It's like you scared to be hurt Then you can't be in love because in order to fall in love you got to be vulnerable enough to be hurt Meaning you got to give all you got to go all in meaning you got to be open and ready And but just watching and paying attention. But if you You know jumping ship just because you scared something might happen Then you never gonna find love because every man got to pass Every woman got to pass But hey, God bless y'all. I say I'm gonna be on here two hours And um, I'm over here proud of sweating sitting in front of this here light Um, I don't know if I have videos up, you know tomorrow I'm gonna do my video. I'm gonna shoot a video tonight. Lord willing for tomorrow And then but monday tuesday and Wednesday Um I'm gonna be on vacation, you know And uh going out going old utah to the snow My wife and my son's never seen snow So, uh, we're going out there You know be with with the old folks out there in old utah And um, they didn't be back And so I get back to work And I know here y'all telling all that even though you finna be gone Hey, come right on over. You know, well, you think I live I got 1015 addresses And 24 hour security. So come on Come on get laid down 24 hour security give me So hey, God bless y'all and um, I'll be back next week If you know me personally don't if you text me email me You ain't heard you're not gonna hear from I've been off all this week So any y'all know me personally if you didn't text me or email me And I ain't you ain't heard from and wait till after the new year January 2nd The send your message again and send your email or your text again. I'll get with you I ain't God bless y'all. We'll talk soon