 If you look at the Oxford dictionary, it defines tolerance as the ability of an individual or the willingness of the individual to tolerate the existence of opinion or behavior that either one dislikes or one disagrees with. So, very apt description of tolerance that it is your ability or it is your willingness to live with certain types of ideas, opinions, behavior that you do not approve of. Now, if you look at our usual life experiences, there are four broader boundaries that defines our goals, the fulfillment of those goals. The very first thing that life does necessitates understanding of specific goals. So, there is a need put forth in front of you that you have to identify the goals that you want to achieve and you should find meaning in those goals. Number two, irrespective of however capable you are, you would certainly have certain limitations either those limitations are confined to yourself or there could be certain limitations that has to do with the environment. But then you have to realize that there are certain limitations either limitations in terms of your own capabilities, your own potential, your own time management, your own stress management or certain type of limitations that environment puts in front of you and you are not given the freedom that you would have actually love to have. Number three, there could be a possibility of renunciation of certain goals and there could also be a possibility of considering certain limitations. So, identification of goals, the propulsion in terms of your behavior means those behavioral issues that can still propel you towards achieving those goals. Once you start moving towards the goals, certain types of limitations that you realize and then you try your best to achieve the goal, you also try to refine the whole process of achieving the goal with accepting certain limitations. Now, this would involve certain degree of tolerance, the fact that you have a goal that you would certainly like to achieve, but you have to wait and watch. One of the most contemporary example could be that while you take admission, you want to graduate, but you know that there is a limitation that the environment has put in front of you and that is the four years limitation that you have to undergo the semester structured that IIT puts in front of you and you have to pass on each semester, you have to clear with certain CPIs, which ultimately will help you achieve the target that you have set for yourself. Now, there could be multiple experiences that you can have. You are all aware of the limitations, AP, warning, undesirable grades. When I say undesirable, I am not talking of F, it is C, D, the grades that are given, but you do not usually love to have them or finally getting F. You are told that you will have to go for extra load. When you are told that you have, if you want to graduate on time, you will have to clear this in your summer course. Now, these are environmental limitations, which fuses with your own interaction with the environment. You did not perform well, you missed certain things and therefore, it is the limitation that the environmental structure puts in front of you and it is your own interaction with it that finally helps you land up in a situation wherein you have to devise other strategies, if you want to graduate on time. Similarly, once you graduate, then you realize and perhaps, I think by the end of the third year, you would realize that graduating is not important. So, every time human beings have this ability of sliding the bar little ahead, once you are very close to achieving it. Let me ask you something very frankly, when you were in plus 2 and you were getting ready for your J exams, how many of you thought that you will finally, crack the exam? Raise your hands. You see, out of this pool, 5, 7 people who are confident they will be able to crack the exam, rest were still not very sure what will happen. If you are not sure, you would certainly have thought of alternatives. Those of you who cleared the exam, again this question is for them, once you joined the IIT structure and once you lived couple of weeks in this structure, did you think anything had changed before entering IIT system and after entering IIT system? Perhaps, the answer would be no, life was as it was, you were the way you were, nothing changed. Similarly, once you come closer to the end of the fourth year, overall if you know start from any given point, if you trace back to that point of your autobiographical content of your memory to the present day, you will find that there is a big change, really many things have changed in you. But, if you just look at the intermediate points that you have crossed, then you realize nothing much has changed. I was the same boy as I was in the third year, if you compare third to the second year or say first semester to the second semester, second to the third. Intermediate positions, you realize that usually the changes are very, very smaller. But, such type of smooth changes does not put a big challenge in front of you. But, imagine a situation when now suddenly things changes upside down. Yesterday, we took the example of one of the victims of communal riot in India. Imagine a situation that you are told that there was a communal riot in your area and say one of your parents finally succumbed to the injuries during the communal riot. Life never remains the same for you. Suddenly, one moment and it changes upside down. Your entire concept of tolerance for people, tolerance for certain aggressive acts, tolerance for say certain type of religious practices, tolerance for certain type of group involvement, tolerance for certain type of group activities, political activities could realize that overnight there is a big change simply because the outcome that it has yielded to you that has led to a huge difference. Now, if you look at the process of adjustment that has to do with tolerance, you realize gradually in your life initially that does not happen. But, gradually it starts happening that you start accepting things that you realize that it cannot be changed and you also know that I cannot even ignore it. Especially, those who have crossed the 30s ask them how much they have started complying to the social protocols, the do's and the don'ts of the community, how much they have succumbed to family pressure, peer pressure and gradually with more and more graying in the society you realize that gradually this acceptance also increases a lot. In the initial years especially till adolescence also it is very difficult to accept that I cannot change this. In most of the cases you feel that yes I can rest of the world couldn't, but I can certainly change this. But, gradually this acceptance comes that there are certain things that you can neither ignore you cannot even refine them. So, the best strategy could be that simply accept them the way they are to and that has to do with this acceptance of the fact that you cannot change or cannot ignore these facts. Therefore, acceptance becomes an inevitable component of the adjustment process and the more and more you start accepting things the more and more tolerant you become. Now, if you look at the extreme possibilities with respect to tolerance, one extreme end of tolerance dimension could be that you have an indiscriminate acceptance of your own self and others. You do not go for discriminating analyzing why this happened, why that did not happen whether this is a tolerable behavior or not. You become indiscriminate in terms of accepting your own self and others. The other possibility is that you go to the extent of rejecting everybody and you turn into the mode of denial. I will take couple of examples. In discriminate acceptance would be that say you display certain type of behavior which usually people do not approve of which people do not like, but then you appreciate your own behavior. You give reasons for your own behavior and you do not find fault in your own self. Majority of us do not find fault in ourselves in most of the cases, but in certain cases the fact that you are on the wrong foot is very clearly known to us and in such situations most of us would be generous enough to accept that I did commit an error and I am extremely sorry for that. Some of us are not brave to accept it right at the face of it. So, there would be delayed acceptance. After two days after one week you accept it. I did that thing to you. I think I was wrong because it requires certain degree of bravery in you to immediately accept that I am extremely sorry and say if the same act if you have to relook at and if you have to apologize for what you did after a passage of a longer time then we become much more compliant to it. We accept that yes I think perhaps I was wrong. Now, in discriminate acceptance in think of different situations, in discriminate acceptance of the self where you start accepting your failures although you should not have done that. Right now we took the example that nobody sets a goal of achieving an F grade in the course. Nobody sets the goal that I will score D in all the courses and become the minimum achiever in the history of IITs. Nobody thinks of that. Such goals are not even nobody would even think of that. Even if I ask you to think this as a hypothetical example you will have grade degree of discomfort accepting this even as a hypothetical example. Now, you start thinking that to find you were the topper of your school. You were very bright academically when you went for the J.E. coaching you always gave outstanding performance in the group to realize that right in the first semester all instructors starts telling you that you are not performing well. In discriminate acceptance in that situation would be that you start questioning the fact that how come my achievement is not being accepted by the stakeholders. I have been a very bright student all through till the point I reached this point and suddenly you tell me that your performance is not up to the mark. You get AP warning we have certain structural tax that are put depending on whatever you have scored. Now, these if you go for in discriminate acceptance you start gradually accepting the grades that you were given and you do not try to know fight against it. Fight against means I will know next time I will prepare so well that I cannot get anything less than A if not A plus or B. So, that is in discriminate acceptance. Usually if you become tolerant to certain aspects in life it starts stunting your possibility of growth. I will come to those examples right now I am at a micro example then we will gradually move to macro examples. So, similarly in discriminate acceptance of others would be that you accept the person with all types of misleads that he or she performs. Usually we always go for certain classification scheme. We are all choosing started when we were talking about selective awareness. There also we discuss this issue that by default human beings are wired in a particular way and therefore, we always know become choosing in terms of whom to pick and accept and whom to pick and reject. Now, if you go for in discriminate acceptance then you do have to pay a heavy price for it. Usually people who go for in discriminate acceptance of the self they would be very happy with the minimal achievement that they have got in their life. Consequently you also start you know talking about others and trying to reject whatever superiority component has been attached to certain types of achievement by the society. In discriminate acceptance of others would also mean that you accept others the way they are although larger part of the community does not approve of behavior like that. Extreme rejection and denial on the other hand would mean that you simply reject whatever comes your way you tend to deny things. So, the same example if you turn it twist it a bit you are told that fine this is your grade sheet and you realize that two courses D two courses C one course F and you say that this cannot be my grade sheet. I know how softwares commit errors and hence I need to clarify from the do of face I need to clarify from instructors. I simply reject that this cannot be true. Coming forward with a very interesting example I know somebody who has been into smoking for long long time he is now pretty grown up. His mother for last several years more than a decade she has been living with her son and one day the son was discussing this we were talking about something and he said that do not you think my mother knows I smoke. But if you ask her she will blindly refuse no she will say no my son cannot do these things although she has been watching this for last so many years. This is the extreme of rejection and denial that you become so tolerant to somebody you are in love with that you simply deny certain things you start rejecting certain things the mother in love with the child simply says my son cannot smoke smoking is very bad I know many students who smoke I know many people in their grown up age also they smoke but my son cannot do so. Why no tolerance becomes extremely important in terms of adjustment one because you are not providing opportunity to your own self to grow because you have started indiscriminately accepting all your under achievements. Two you would have extreme difficulty interacting with others maintaining that harmony in your immediate environment because you have developed the tendency of rejecting everything in the environment or denying everything in the environment. You cannot live in the mode of rejection and denial you have to remain in contact with the hardcore reality that there are certain things which are accepted by the society there are certain things that you cannot change in the society there are certain things that it is better to ignore rather than trying to change them. And within all these limitations you search for your own opportunities of growth. So, that although this could not be changed in last say 65 years of the history of this country can I try a bit this would be no now moving more and more towards the median point on this continuum. Let us take a macro example we have a very rigidly defined boundaries of caste class community religion different types of beliefs and practices there are very defined lines and that has existed for I do not know how long. You start dressing back in the history to realize that this was existing even in that time this existed even in the other time other time. Now if you simply go for an indiscriminate acceptance in the situation that I am narrating now I am born in a family which has been classified by the community as one of the community at the lower strata of the society. There are several castes based on the caste line the society says that these castes know it is better to reject them in terms of opportunity for full blown development and growth. You are born in that community and then you decide that why should I accept the fact that because I am born in a particular caste and hence I should accept the way society wants me to behave I simply refuse to do that. Or you simply know become extremely revengeful and you say that why should I tolerate things the way it has happened to me. It can know the extreme of this would be that you completely become very timid you accept that because I am born in this group hence my job is to know mend shoes. For example, if I am born in the family of a cobbler as a traditional family business I do not go to school I simply write from my childhood days I start learning how to mend shoes and I keep on practicing that do not allowing myself the opportunity for full scale growth the way other people in other community are growing this could be indiscriminate acceptance extreme rejection and denial could be I do not believe in these things. I simply refuse that a cobbler is supposed to mend shoes. I simply refuse the fact that child born in the family of a cobbler needs to do this and gradually you think know that both of them can backfire. So, what there could be intelligent ways of handling such type of situations and you would find thousands and thousands of examples in our contemporary society people who really faced these are not hypothetical examples know thousands of people know have faced it and they have found out ways of overcoming them and they have proven their ability. Gone to the extent of saying that fine I do not read the I do not need the recognition and the tag of a particular caste class community sect religion nothing I am above all these things. So, know the moment you start succumbing to such type of you know indiscriminate acceptance that tendency within you and if you show extreme of tolerance you are going to pay a heavy price for it because you are not going to search for opportunity that will allow you to grow. And similarly if you develop this tendency of just rejecting anything that comes your way that also backfires because then you will never get the opportunity of gelling well with the rest of the community you will always remain an outlier. So, these are interesting dimensions in terms of striking balance striking seeking adjustment and retaining that equilibrium that I neither go for complete acceptance nor do I go for complete rejection. But having said this you must also realize know that there are certain situations where the need could be that you outwardly reject it. Take for example, you are told that know there are highest number of you know crime against women in such selected states in this country or overall the national figure shows that gradually over years the rate of crime against women has increased. The number of missing children have also increased. Now, there are these are certain facts and if you say that I reject this type of you know compliance in the society I would go for zero tolerance that any crime of irrespective of whatever is the magnitude of the crime any crime against children any crime against women any crime against elderly people I just rejected. If you reject know stuffs like this it is perfectly ok. But the extreme of it think of the recent debate that is taking place in this country you know after this Delhi episode people are now know advocating a group advocating that fine know if you are involved in sexual crimes against women then the penalty should be that you are given life sentence. Option 1, option 2 people say that fine you should be know not made to die immediately. But you should be not given the opportunity ever in your life of coming out of the prison means prisoners also have certain opportunity you know say like going on parole means going out of the jail or if you behave nicely your total duration of stay in the prison gets reduced. One view point is that do not allow any such opportunity this person lives in the prison in an isolated situation and is forced to live that way throughout his life. So, that he is made to realize that how heavy was the penalty that he had to pay because that sentence could lead to momentary pain and it is all over. Another option now a days no talked about is chemical castration for the first time I am hearing it in the news is now a days know that there are group in our society which is advocating about it. There are many such debates. You could think of rejection but then if you take extreme views then it might also lead to certain types of consequences with the society might have to address in the coming days. Let me again come back to your example know say somebody getting an AP that is your academic probation or getting a warning is given an opportunity that next year if you perform well this tag will be removed and there is a system at place which will keep monitoring your grades across courses and will know keep suggesting you that say you are under performing in this course and if this continues next semester you might be out. We have a committee know academic performance evaluation committee which will look at the cases of all APs and warnings know so that if there is continuity in your history of getting such tags then the committee recommends that these people should be asked to quit the program. Now extreme rejection condition would be that you under perform and you are asked to leave the harshest form of it could be the movie fashion usually that will never happen. If you make it more and more melodramatic you are given the grade sheet and you are told that a taxi is waiting for you out but usually what happens system provides you a buffer zone giving AP and warning tags are buffers that you are been identified as a weak student who is under performing in certain courses and you are given the support unity within one semester next semester try to strike a balance. So, taking extreme views could know be extremely detrimental for maintaining the harmony in the society. Similarly, if you simply know if the system starts know making in discriminate acceptance then it becomes very difficult because then the system will not demand anything from you. So, even though you are you have got F all through in your 4 years of stay were told you have been very consistent in your academic performance and hence the president medal goes to you because your performance has been consistent uniformly F in all the courses that would be know the consequence if you go for indiscriminate acceptance at a macro level and therefore, there is always a beauty that you do not go to these two extremes rather you try to converge at a point where there would be a still a difference for certain things you will have little more tolerance for certain things you might not have tolerance at all. I will not do that exercise here, but recollect your own experiences somebody know talking something negative about you because you belong to certain caste because you belong to certain community because you know between certain type of religious practices it annoys you you have very little tolerance for it. But if you are know told something else which does not touch on these sensitive issues then you might show little more tolerance towards it. There are many many you know real life examples where you would realize know that people who were tolerant in certain cases in situations where people did not show tolerance at all and they went for tit for tat type of a phenomena. I am sure you must be aware of this episode the bandit of the yester years know full and they be at one point in her life know she underwent massive trauma she was you know a drag to a village she experienced gang rape in that village she was forced to know move to well there and fetch water without clothes she was completely undressed a great degree of humiliation she experienced at that time and little later she did come with her own group with the fire weapons she know made I do not remember the exact number perhaps it was 12 or 16 people stand in a row and she shorted each one of them. This was this became a big news in those days it was called vahemai episode vahemai was the name of the village where this episode had taken place she surrendered and then many many things happened she later on became a member of the parliament from one of the constituencies in UP a book was written on her life later on a movie was made based on that very book. I am not saying that what happened was right or wrong I am not saying what happened is true or fabricated story nothing like that all I am saying is that certain experience of women and she tries to go up to a full blown revenge that you identify people make them stand in queues and you shoot them all there are episodes know very recently a brave girl from Hyderabad had come to limelight after this New Delhi gang rape episode she came on the national television and said that I am I run an NGO in Hyderabad for women who are under distress women who have experienced sexual assaults and she said that I was myself gang raped know by 8 people and the case is still pending and I am fighting for not only my cause but I am fighting for the cause of the rest of the women who suffer my way. The reason I am taking this example is that you see one victim who decides to shoot others the other victim who decides not to kill others fight a legal battle establishes an NGO of her own and says all those who suffer like me come to my NGO and I will fight for you there is a big difference no one showing complete intolerance one showing great degree of tolerance. So, this is what happens in the case of real life events when you have to accept or when you have to reject certain things. We now come to the third dimension of subjective adjustment and that is autonomy. Now autonomy is defined as the capacity to act freely without getting influenced by any other external source. So, there are multiple agents in the society which can influence you but then if you have this know capability within you to reject the influence or to surpass the influence that are imposed on you by the social agents and work freely this is your know capability of being autonomous. What is very interesting with human beings is that right from our childhood days we do exhibit the tendency of enjoying autonomy to certain degree. Take a newly born baby I do not know if you have that experience or little grown up babies which I am sure you must have experience of babies like that hold their hand firmly to the level that you do not allow free movement and you would realize that the baby starts know throwing tantrums baby wants to be free. And this shows this is a good indicator that even the smallest of the human child does not want to be captivated. You want to enjoy autonomy that I want know the moment the child starts showing the tantrum is an indicator that I want to have know complete freedom of manipulating my body parts the way I want you please do not stop me doing that and perhaps my guess is that this was the reason why we have finally come forward with a evolving mechanism where somebody who is considered to be responsible for committing certain know illegal act he is handcuffed that something that is native in you I do not allow you to express it. So handcuffed know when these police people will come and handcuff you is basically the denial of know that autonomy or confining somebody to a police station or confining somebody to a jail simply means that you are not allowed the know freedom that rest of the people enjoy in this community to move freely the way they want. Now there are several scenarios where social agents become very important and they play decisive role in terms of guiding our course of action right now in case of tolerance also we were talking about this fact that there are certain social agents there are certain social conditions that you experience in your life where you find that there is a minimal possibility of modifying it or ignoring it and therefore you accept it and then search for possibility of modifying as an insider. Similarly even in the case of autonomy you realize that there are some heavy weights those social agents which are very heavy weight they will exert influence on you to the maximum possible extent and then either you succumb to their pressure or you enjoy the freedom that you have always crave for. Now the basic and the defensible criteria of adjustment is that stability of a larger system is the final goal of the society remember what we are doing right now is that we are comparing the pressure that is exerted on an individual I am not trying to know justify it but trying to say that at a larger level also at a macro level also there is a need to maintain know stability in the society. So if you start know providing autonomy to everybody to all possible extent then maintaining harmony maintaining stability within the society becomes very difficult. Therefore you have to look at know the achievement of an individual welfare of an individual and at the same time you have also to look at the stability that the society has to achieve. So that the relationship between the individuals welfare and the social welfare the welfare of the entire social structure there is a harmony between them there is a compatibility between them. The moment you have know individuals willing to enjoy their autonomy to the maximum possible extent you will realize that achieving stability becomes difficult because most of the individual will start making random movements. Society would want that there should be a symmetry you enjoy autonomy but there should be a symmetry and that symmetry if you help the society maintain then the society is at peace. The reason why society wants such type of thing is that if you want to grow as a culture if you want to promote certain types of know structures which has a larger meaning a larger influence of you on human life then you need peace and tranquility in the society. Let me take an example I am deviating now a bit and then I will come back to this. Take certain types of creative outcomes given by people in certain societies in certain countries paintings for example art and craft for example music for example literature for example you would realize that the best of these things have come when there was a peace harmony and tranquility in the society. If you put a country a region on war you would realize that these things will start sliding down. So, you do not have those many additions in literature painting art craft it is very difficult. You can take many countries you take Vietnam for example pre war during war and after war period. Take Korea for example take Middle East for example take our own country for example you could very easily know plot it know on the time scale and see that know if you make the time series analysis you will realize know that you need certain degree of stability in the society. So, that certain things grows even philosophical discourses have grown up and has achieved a stable form only when society was in a very very stable shape a very peaceful shape. And therefore know how to fit individuals striving for welfare with the systemic requirement of maintaining stability is a challenge. Confirmity to the way of the majority can be know accepted by some as one way of adjustment know majority says this therefore I will also simply accept it. This also is a tendency of conflict aversion you as an individual shows a tendency that fine I am aversive to conflict I do not want conflict although I disagree with the view point that is being put forth. But, because many of you say that or most of you say that therefore I do not want to remain an isolate I do not want to engage in conflict. But, when you do that the basic assumption that you are accepting is that majority's view is always right. However, if you look at human history look at scientific investigations look at discoveries look at philosophical discourses new streams in philosophical thought. Modifications in religion you would realize that these were the people who did it were the people who did not assume that majority is correct. Take any example take any example irrespective of the discipline boundaries of different knowledge domains you would realize that those who came forward with the benchmark thoughts benchmark discoveries were those who did not accept the traditional view allow me to deviate this is this has nothing to do with the psychology of adjustment. But, if you read text on creativity there you will find know very interesting research reports suggesting the chronological age of the person who comes forward with path breaking research in different areas literature philosophy maths physics. And, based on know people who have really come forward with the benchmark thoughts and discoveries there is a very interesting discourse in creativity which says that you need to be you know you need to have very little burden of the social agents if you want to excel in certain areas. And, if you want to excel in some other areas you need to be deeply influenced by the social agents. But, that I leave to you if you are interested read know such literature and creativity in psychology you will find beautiful things there beautiful description there. How the influence of know different social agents influences your know ability to go beyond the box and think something that your society has not yet thought of. So, one way could be that simply you accept that find this is the majority's view and therefore I accept it as an individual or you say that fine I want to deviate from the majority's view point. Take the example study there was a news that the supreme court of India is carrying forward a hearing where the representatives of the carp and chats were also invited to share their view point because they have been projected as if they are hard liners. And, at times their know judgments go against the usual democratic rights that the citizens of this country enjoy. Now, you have your community which tells you that marriage in the same gotra is not allowed. You have the law of the land which says that fine you can marry somebody even though he or she belongs to your own gotra. Now, whom do I follow my immediate know panchayat's view point or the legal view point that has been accepted by this country. So, know you will realize that you will find a small subset of individuals would always try to bypass this. And, you would have another know set of people who will simply blindly say that yes this is true and this is the way of life. There was this heavy influence of the Hindu way of life when Buddha said that fine I do not accept this type of a practice. And, he came forward with modified practices of course, later on he himself was designated as a god now he is being worshipped. But that was complete deviation from the majority's view point in terms of religious practices. When certain practitioners of religion know who are into healing tells you that these are non scientific practices know go for modern medicine go for pure microbiological analysis of your bodily system. There is a clear departure from the majority's view point. So, you would realize that know although certain degree of conformity is know required for maintaining social stability there is also a need in the same structure that people should deviate from the majority's view point. This allows the community to grow this allows the society to grow to get more and more refined. Now, wider range of social systems and culture and the variety of individual behavioral pattern requires that all of them they live in harmony know you remember again it is the basically saying that the cognitive, cognitive and the effective components within the individual and know inter individual conflicts should always be minimized. So, that there is always a greater degree of harmony. Now, you have know a very wide range of social system wide range of beliefs wide range of individual behavior how to make them compatible is a major task. And this is what if the if you are able to achieve it to the higher possible extent you are adjusted if you are not able to do that your adjustment is at stake. Now, it is inconceivable that these systems are all equally good in terms of dimension of adjustment. So, all systems all social practices all know beliefs all thoughts all behaviors are for the good of the individual and for the good of the society this is not true it cannot be accepted know. Therefore, there is a know always a possibility that you simply do not accept what the larger structure tells you rather you look at it from your own view point you try to cross check double check know if your view point needs any revision and then know see whether know you have to exercise autonomy or you have to accept the majorities view point. So, if you know look at the extreme dimensions of autonomy at one end you have a rigid social conformity my society says this and therefore, I will blindly accept it and the other extreme is you are compulsive inner directed know you always look within you this is what I want and that is it. Look at small children I want a chocolate and that is it they will throw all types of tantrums without realizing where they are where chocolate is available or not I want it. So, I want it and nothing beyond it no negotiations that is compulsive inner direction you are completely confined to your own self and whatever you think is correct whatever you think you should be doing at this time you do only that that is compulsive inner direction and extreme of it is rigid social conformity I simply accept whatever the society has suggested me to do you remember we had taken the example of a marriage when we were talking about a normality we also took the example of know prostitution being practiced in one village here in UP. Now, with respect to autonomy if you look at marriage as an institution you can define it as a social and legal identity where you also have know the presence of these khaapanchayats we took this example. Now, when you look at the social and the legal identity of the marriage you say that it is sacred it is based on loyalty in relationship and it is because of this that legally and socially prostitution has been socially disallowed and it is legally forbidden in our society. Having said that look at the arse while in nomadic tribes know the Bedia tribes and Nutt tribes the Sansi tribes the Kanjar tribes know there are no certain arse while nomadic tribes in India where prostitution was the family occupation and this very village not poor village in Uttar Pradesh where you find that all young women work as prostitutes the reason they say that this is how that tradition has evolved. So, without realizing that this practice violates your right as a human being as a citizen of this country and without even realizing that your tradition is exploiting you simply accept it and this is extreme rigid conformity to your social structure you know not even question it know the whole for years and years the women has been going into this practice. And therefore, it is always suggested that completely confining to social completely confining to social way of life showing complete adherence to social structures or completely becoming inner directed both are not considered to be good enjoy autonomy it gives you the freedom of growth, but then try to find a point of convergence will stop here tomorrow will carry forward.