 you know we can't love and cling and grasp at the same time often attachment masquerades as love and impersonates love doesn't it but really it's a cheap imitation it smells like love it feels like love but it comes from the worst part of us it comes from a neediness and a fear and an insecurity that makes us clingy and graspy but not loving love comes from the best part of us it comes from our essential self or the soul if you like and is concerned with giving and generosity and serving and kindness and i think in our relationships we have to learn to love more and cling and grasp less