 And obviously, you're gonna have haters, you're gonna have people who support you, but your number one fan should always be yourself. Hey guys, it's Brandon, creative, happily dressed, a fashion blog dedicated to acceptance, self-confidence, and self-sufficiency, and welcome back to my channel. By the title of this video, you guys already know what we're talking about today, and that is how to develop your own personal style. This video is very important to me because I always believe that dressing the way you want to and being true to who you are is the best way to go about life and the best way to be who you wanna be and achieve the goals that you want to achieve. How can you do that when you don't even know who you are or how you want to present yourself? So developing a personal style takes time, thought, and honestly, a little bit of bravery. We all have that one item of clothing that we're so scared to wear. We really, really like it. We feel like it's true to us who we are, but we don't wanna wear it because we're scared we're gonna be called names or we made fun of or we're gonna be looked at every time we go out. The great part about owning your style and wearing that piece out is that once you get past the looks, the names, the comments, the sides, knickers, you find a really new sense of pride for yourself and how you represent yourself. There have been plenty of moments where I've worn an outfit that has either got me stares or somebody's like, oh, actually recently, this is so funny because I did not plan for that to happen before this video. I actually just thought about this video today, but when I was at work the other day, you guys know I like doing my pants high-waisted. That's kind of my thing. It's what I feel most comfortable with. I feel like a compliment's my body shape. Obviously when I wear a lot of cropped items, it definitely helps set a silhouette. Anyway, I was checking out a customer at my job and this woman, who is just like mom, had the nerve to say, I don't think I like those pants that hide on you. And it's so funny because honestly, after you become comfortable with the way you dress, the way you wanna dress, the way you wanna be represented, stuff like that just goes in one ear and out the other. Granted, I was distracted as well because I was on the phone and I was talking to another coworker, but when I heard that, it definitely struck me, like, did I ask you? But also, it made me feel good that it didn't honestly hurt my feelings. I wasn't like, oh my God, I can't believe she doesn't like it if I get on one of my pants high-waisted. I should pull them down. I should go home and change. I didn't even acknowledge the comment and then later on during the transaction, she was like, oh, but you wear your jacket cropped. So I guess I can see how that works. I can see it all put together now. The daughter that was there said, well, I like his pants. And obviously, you're gonna have haters, you're gonna have people who support you, but your number one fan should always be yourself. And because I dress like this on a daily, it really didn't hurt my feelings because it's just how I dress, it's who I am. Developing your own style will take some experimenting. So go to your favorite retail stores or your favorite thrift stores if you like that as well. So go to your Topman, your H&M's, or as they say in the UK, your H&M's. What else do, oh, your Zara's. I'm gonna say, what else do people shop? Go in there and just try on clothes. Go into the fitting room, try on a range of styles. Most stores carry multiple styles. You have skinny jeans, you have wide leg jeans, you have trousers, you got overalls. For my ladies, you got so many options between dresses, skirts, jeans, t-shirts, jackets, jumpers, jumpsuits, I already say rompers. The options are endless when it comes to style and fashion. So just go in there and see which one fits you the most. And developing your own style will take time. I started experimenting with my own personal style back when I was in 10th grade or 11th grade of high school. I started to go to Goodwill more often, thrift a lot of cool sweaters. And I used to thrift a lot of cool grandpa sweaters. I was kind of my thing, so I have really cool sweaters. I pair them with my super skinny jeans, which is crazy. Yes, I used to wear super skinny jeans. I used to be very, very skinny. And one day I just realized that skinny jeans were not cutting it. And it was like a personal choice that I had to really make to switch to super skinny, because I was like, I don't recall names. I don't want anyone to judge me based on the clothes I'm gonna wear. But skinny is just not cutting it. I wanna go skinnier. I'm scared. I don't want people to talk about me. But I made that jump. I trusted in myself. And boy, was it a great stepping stone. Do I wear super skinny jeans now? I do not. Would I ever again? No, I would not. Just because I've grown out of them, it's not my style anymore. It was a great step in the right direction of trusting myself, trusting my body, and knowing what I felt comfortable in. From 10th grade to now, my style has definitely evolved. I've kind of figured out my own little silhouette that I like with my high-waisted pants and my crop jacket. I thrift so much now. I honestly don't even shop retail anymore. And if I do, it's at Urban Outfitters because of my discount, because I work there. But I really honed in on the way I like to dress. And you don't have to be fashionable to have style. I think style is a mix between the clothes you feel comfortable in and your personality showing through those clothes. People tell me all the time, you look so nice, you dress so cool. When honest to God, like literally my clothes come secondhand. I don't think people realize that. Like I thrift my clothes secondhand, not from these high-end bougie boutiques, but from straight up, like Goodwill, Value Village, Last Chance, you guys have seen it. It's a huge warehouse of clothes. My clothes aren't fancy. Sometimes they're not made of the best material, but I make them work because I love them. And I like to show my personality through them. So if you're at home thinking to yourself, oh, but I'm not fashionable. Like I can't wear all that cool stuff you wear. You don't have to wear what you love to wear and make sure it feels like you. I love, love, love to see people confident in the clothes that they're wearing. No matter if it's a big ol' sweater that hides them or literally a crop top that comes up to here or no shirt at all and just pants, it doesn't matter to me. As long as you feel comfortable in the clothes you are wearing, that is all the style you will ever need. It makes me so happy to see people who might not fit the status quo, dressing the way they want to, not letting the boundaries of what society says is cool or nice or beautiful, shaped the way they dress their own bodies. I feel like the perfect formula for style is body positivity, self-confidence, self-acceptance, and clothes that match your personality. If you have those four things, you're killing it no matter what you're wearing. So after this video, I want you to go to some space that makes you feel the most you, sit down, think about the way you want to present yourself, who you want to be, and how your clothes can reflect that. Figure out who your style icons may be and see how you can incorporate what they do into your own personal wardrobe. And I feel like when you do this, people truly gravitate to who you are, the person you want to be, and the right energy is thrown your way. So always dress like who you want to be because that will radiate so much farther than the clothes you're wearing or how much they cost or what season they're from, if they're hand-me-downs, it does not matter. Let your clothes be a medium through which your personality shines through. So that is it for this week's video. I felt like talking to you guys, and I feel like a lot of times I'm just showing you things that I find, or I'm trying to do some kind of lookbook thing, but this felt really important in this moment, so I thought I'd share it with you guys and something that's been on my mind a lot, especially after that comment was made to me at work, but a lot of people tell me they haven't found their style yet, or they haven't really figured out their look, and all it takes is experimentation, trusting yourself, and kind of letting yourself try a little bit of everything. Hopefully this video helped you in any way, shape, or form. 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