 Hi, she was seven. I'm back. I got my J. Lo glow happening in my Ombre hair if y'all like this makeup look y'all check out my beauty channel. I had this tutorial on there, so I'm going to be answering a few questions and Covering a few topics on this video if I can get to them all From my last video where I asked you guys to ask me questions and suggest topics so the question I got the most was Open relationships open marriage cheating Is this the new thing should this be embraced instead of look down upon is monogamy natural blah blah blah blah okay, so as young adults Humans are very curious about other humans. Okay, they're gonna be attracted to other people They're gonna be attracted to this person. They're gonna want to have sex with this person in that person. This is physically Human nature. Okay So if you are very hard to control your lower natures your lower Anatomies and you just driven by them first Then of course, it's gonna be hard to stay faithful to somebody But if you're in a relationship for different reasons, it's easier to stay faithful to a person depending on your reason for being with it Okay, so let's say if your reason for being with someone is For their money. Okay, you're going to weigh your options About okay, so if I get caught cheating with this guy, he's a loser But you know, he looks good his sex is good But am I gonna risk living in this nice house this night's car? Am I gonna risk, you know all the things that I can lose because this dude's taking care of me This one is not your priorities Become different so women cheat for different reasons men cheat for different reasons. Okay, if both men are losers And it doesn't matter and you have nothing to lose or gain then Doesn't matter if you're in a relationship and you've just grown bored of it And you just Attracted to someone else and you've been in with the same person forever and you're just like, okay You're boring now. I want something new and you cheat then that's because you know You're in this there are rut and you don't you know your board and you want to do something different Just like people want to do stuff different with their hair make-up looks clothes people like to change partners, okay? And sometimes people get hurt behind this and they're like, well, you cheated on me or she cheated on me Sometimes it's not about you know that they didn't love you. It's just about that. They got bored with you. They got Infatuated with someone else temporarily and You know, they wanted to try a new flavor and I don't think you know, I don't think It's right Unless you discuss it beforehand. I like a lot of people have open marriages now or open relationships. They're like look Especially celebrities. They're like, look, I'm out on the road. You're not with me all the time if I see something I like I'm not gonna deny myself Can you deal with this type of relationship? and a lot of these women will be like, you know what as long as you use protection and You know, you don't kiss her, you know, they have all these stupid rules of place then they're fine with it I mean For me as for me, I Mean a long time ago when I first met my husband. Yeah, I was like jealous type and oh, yeah You're you can't do anything and da da da da da and you know because I was You know trying to claim him and all this stuff and the longer the the older that I got I just stopped caring like I stopped like I don't think he was cheating or anything But I just stopped caring like I stopped being so jealous. I stopped like looking looking On his phone or I just stopped here because I've been I've been Williams along. I'm like whatever whatever you ain't going to wear I don't care. You know, you don't you're not checking on me So I don't need to check on you. It's like when you've been in a relationship for so long For some people like if you've been married here, we've been we've been together 16 years old So basically it's like you're more like a family member at that point, but I don't think monogamy is Natural okay, it's just to answer that question. I don't think it's natural I think you have to work on it. You have to really be disciplined and You you know, it's just something that you're just going to have to If you have certain moral values That you hold high and that's one of them that's great Some people, you know, they're just gonna do what they feel like doing at the time Just to itch a scratch or whatever scratching itch or whatever and you know, the other person doesn't find out They're never they're never hurt and it's just like, you know No big deal Like I I do readings. You know, I do readings right? I get so many women Who want me to tell them it's okay to cheat? This is what they're they really want me to confirm that it's okay to cheat They're all doubt it's always with the work husband y'all It's always with the work husband I'm trying to tell you men if you get a woman and you send her off to work every day She's gonna get a work husband and a lot of times it goes further than the work Relationship, okay, because I've done countless readings like I'm gonna tell you I've done countless readings Where the woman always gets the crush on a man a co-worker or a boss and they end up doing it And they the readings start off like well, I like someone else. I'm attracted someone else. Am I wrong? Should I go for it? My husband don't pay me no attention anymore. This guy does everything Should I do it? They're asking me for permission, but the funny thing is they've already done it They've already cheated. They're just trying to see what I think about it if it's gonna go any further You know and stuff like that So I basically tell them look because I already know they already done it So I was like look, you know, you're a grown woman if your husband or your boyfriend doesn't find out Then you know kudos for you, you know men do it all the time. I don't think we should have devil's standards So, you know, just be careful protect yourself do all that kind of stuff. I'm not here to judge I'm not saying that it's right or wrong. I'm just saying people are going to do what they are going to do And this is why I keep telling everyone Men or women both They're you send a woman out to work. She's going to become close with a male, okay? male Men are going to get at your girl at work, especially if she looks good This is why I said if you're gonna get married don't send your wife off to work eight hours up under another man all day She will see him more than she sees you. Okay. Next question is How do you get how how long do you wait for someone You're dating to have sex with okay, if you're a girl you you need to You need to wait until he's spent at least $500 on you before you do anything Okay, before you even spend the night he needs to spend $500 plus on you before you give it up. Why? Because the man who invests in you is not going to be quick to up and leave you unless he's just got money like that But most of the time if you're dating someone and you invest in them take them on dates Maybe purchase purchase them gifts, you know tickets to concerts and stuff like that whatever movies candy a couple of dates make sure You know it all adds up to at least $500 or more depending on your standards You know if you if that's chump change to the guy add add another 500 on it, okay? So a thousand And after that he's invested in you he spent lots of money and time with you So he's invested in you he's not trying to hit it and quit it in three dates of taking you to McDonald's or You know Netflix and chill You're You make him invest in you so that if he does decide to say hey I don't want you anymore after I've slept with you because that's all I want He's put all this effort time and money into you. So he's not gonna easily let that go He's gonna be like well, I've invested in this girl. She's kind of nice, you know She's kind she didn't give it up quick. So that means she's not slut So let me see what else there is about her, you know So wait till they spent a lot of time and a lot of money, okay? This usually takes up to spend $500 on a girl if you see her Every week probably takes about three weeks two weeks depending on how much money that person has But you don't want to give it up too quick If the guy is rich up it like instead of 500 or 1,000 make it 2,000, okay? Keep it keep it on their level of income. So make sure they spend Enough on you to where it is an investment for them. Okay? Where to okay, I got another I got another request Is it possible to date a guy without having sex before marriage in America in this day and age? I don't think so they're gonna be getting sex somewhere else if they're not getting it from you You can you can practice celibacy. You cannot have sex with your boyfriend until marriage but guarantee you he's gonna be doing something else or he's gonna get addicted to porn in the process of Trying to remain celibate if he's religious, you know those Those things are bottled up and they can come out in different types of ways rage Self-destruction Abuse so you have to let people get out their sexuality. You gotta let them, you know, you gotta let them get it If it's not if it's not with another woman and it's not with you they're gonna find out an outlet I'm just telling y'all So I would suggest not doing that because it's kind of impractical in this day and age Unless you allow him to sleep with other women, but wait on you as the brides But that also poses a risk of him of you losing him to another woman So you have to really think about that I Say test out the merchandise a couple times at least if you believe in celibacy Just like slip up one or two times with always looked up. I can't do that anymore just to give him a little taste and get you a little taste and see what you're working with and Then you can decide if you want to remain celibate or if you want to go ahead and get married Because that's really mainly what you know why people wait Because if the guy is terrible, you're stuck with him in your Mary Can you imagine that or if the girl is terrible and you're stuck with her and y'all are married now That's that's gonna be worse. It's gonna be more cheating and Stuff like that. So don't wait, you know, this is not the biblical days. This is not a thousand years ago This is 2016 where people are sexually free to Explore and experience and do whatever they choose to do without judgment. Okay, that's like in the past There's still some parts of the world where that is practiced and I can understand if you're from that culture Then you know abide by your culture, but if I'm saying for Americans and people like, you know, in some European countries It's it's fine. Okay, I don't see anything wrong with it So go ahead and have fun and I got another question on How do you keep how do you keep a man's attention like you've gone out in a few days It's kind of blah. How do you reel him back in? How do you reel him back in and get his interest peaked again? Well, you're gonna have to you're gonna have to come out of the box You're just gonna have to go wild and crazy post some crazy pictures on Facebook And tell him, you know, I was nervous on our dates and I really didn't let the real me come out because I'm you know, I Think I wanted I think I want to show you something and I think I want to take you to this place You know that just like think of something that is really cool and different It's like I just want to take you somewhere cool and show you, you know, the real me You know, if you've already messed up if you're played the boring rigid Date and you want another chance and he's like forgotten about you You have to do something like that grand gesture like let me take you somewhere fun. I was you know, I was uptight I didn't let the real me show and sometimes that you know Gets in my way because I'm so used to you know guarding myself, but I really like you and let's just try this one more time You know, you gotta you gotta put yourself out there Sometimes you have to seem a vulnerable because sometimes men don't like women who aren't vulnerable, you know At least act vulnerable. You don't really have to be vulnerable. What act vulnerable like you need them You want another chance with them or you know, let them lead let them think they're leading, you know I also got another question if you're always talking to your man And he puts all your ideas down and doesn't let you finish talking and talks over you Everything you suggest he shoots it down automatically and your man don't respect you. Okay, and plus he thinks he's smarter than you and usually If the woman has a really good idea and the man didn't have a good idea He's still gonna shoot it down because of ego sometimes. I'm not saying all man. I'm just saying this type of man It's because he's probably undereducated and he is overcompensating for his lack of you know Intelligent so he has to shoot down everything you do to make himself appear and seem smarter. So with cases like that Sometimes the women have to trick the man into thinking their idea was the man's idea This takes a mentalism and some reverse psychology If you just don't want to deal with these type of guys, I don't suggest it because they can't get abusive when When guys are undereducated and the woman is smarter than them a lot of times they feel threatened and then become abusive So y'all ladies watch out for those undereducated men who do not appreciate your intelligence And if you're one of those ladies Who are dating an uneducated man, I know they don't have any money. So there that's not the excuse to stay So but if the man has money, he is probably most likely educated in some form or fashion and if you want to You know compromise with this type of guy, you're gonna have to make your ideas seem like that they were his ideas So I will see you guys later. Thank you so much for asking me questions and suggesting topics I'm still looking through those topics. So I probably will take a few and do a few videos from there So thank you guys so much And I will see y'all later. Don't forget to subscribe if you're new