 If you want to pump your body and expand your mind, there's only one place to go Mind pump, mind pump with your hosts, Sal DiStefano, Adam Schaefer, and Justin Andrews In this episode of Mind Pump. We have some fun conversations. Adam, Justin, and myself have some riveting conversations. Yes Riveting! First about, first we talk about my new cannabis diet. That's right. I'm restricting My cannabis intake. I mentioned how my brain is on fire because I had the four-sigmatic brain stick It's a new product from four-sigmatic. By the way, Fuego. They are one of our sponsors. If you go to four F-O-U-R-Sigmatic-S-I-G-M-A-T-I-C dot com four slash mind pump and enter the code mind pump at checkout You'll get a massive discount. We talk about Justin's breast milk tasting I love that taty milk. We talk about the miracle and dangers of birth. Adam actually tells a Disgustingly horrible story. Fast forward if you don't mind. Yeah, you might want to fast forward that. And then we did a Thrive Market Unboxing at Doug a few times a week. We'll order some cool products off of Thrive Market Also one of our sponsors. If you go to ThriveMarket.com forward slash mind pump Here's what you're gonna get. You're gonna get one month free membership $20 off your first three orders of $49 or more and Free shipping then we get into the questions. The first question was Whose opinion matters most to us? Who do we give a fuck about? Sal only cares about himself. True Next question When would we ever phase lifting to failure into our workouts? We don't fail Are you overdoing it? The next question was this will be a failure. This particular individual is trying to eat more real whole foods Instead of processed foods and is having issues because she's having trouble getting full. She likes that full feeling What should she do? I think there may be some food relationship issues here. Hmm next question was This person wanted us to talk about being in a relationship where one person has found a new healthy lifestyle And the other person has not that's actually a big challenge in relationships and fitness We've all seen that many many times. We tell some stories. It's a great segment in this episode also tip pinch their love handles Also, you are in December, which means next month is January. Oh, yeah What a great way to start your year by getting enrolled in one of our maps Why don't you do it right this next year, huh? Programs now check this out if you want to get the whole year set up for you literally you can have 2018 Set up for you. 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I think that's 40 something dollars. Anyway, we're gonna go with it. Yeah, you yeah, there you go Fit something whatever Half off if you get a bundle or mass program Look if you have any questions on any of these programs You can either DM us on Instagram or you can just go to our website Or just go buy it where we break it down for you got a 30-day money back there, right? Yeah You're fine. Mine pump media comm Hey My brain's on fire It's a lot brain is on fire Damn my brain is on fire. I do. I feel I feel quick. Yeah, I feel quick and fast like sharp Yeah, but like I could talk like that. Maybe it's the razors non-cannabis right now, huh? Well, so I've reduced I did identify that I was probably using too much Too much cannabis. What do you think it you think I think it's each person, right? Do you think I don't think it's the same well, I didn't have them. I didn't I don't necessarily have the medicinal you Need as much as I did before like I'm not getting as much gut issues. Was it like an every night thing I was using it almost every night a little bit. I was still tempering it, but I've reduced it dramatically. I'm probably Maybe once a week at the most now and oh wow it's that much. Yeah. Yeah, and you know, what's funny boring You know, it's fun. No, not really. I switch the cocaine I don't know. You came up with a new language You're talking to me in for a minute there. Totally sober, too. Yeah. No the reason why I I did that is number one I don't have necessarily the medicinal use my gut is doing really good. So I don't need it for that and I started getting like anything like if you use too much of anything you get less of the positive and more the negative so I started to Not be a sharp during the day. I didn't feel as up and awake I guess And my memory wasn't you know cannabis definitely affects your memory negatively 100% Oh, yeah, yeah, so and now when I do use it Occasionally much more occasionally than before if I feel so much better, you know, I'm saying I get feels it's like more fun And I'm more I'm less prone for to paranoia and all that kind of stuff that you can get From using cannabis. So but I also did something else. I Took a new product from for sigmatic. Did that come in? Did our stuff come in from the attic? Yes Oh, nice the brain stick. Of course you took it. I took the brain and I was gonna snag that it's got lion's mane It's got cordyceps. It's got Citicoline and Rodiola, so this is nighttime stuff. No, no, this is No, Rodiola is not nighttime. Oh, it's the opposite. Yeah, that's fucking my shit up. No, are you taking Rodiola? No, Rodiola is stimulating Now normally with Rodiola, I got to be careful because I do too much of it. It makes me feel weird It's almost it's not too steamy. I don't know. It's weird with me But anyway, the brain stick I feel good. It's my first time using it. I feel Definitely feel a little bit Elevated is it a tea or a powder? What is it? It's a powder. I just put it in my water or shook it up So that on top of now getting out of the cannabis I've been doing that for I've been doing the I've reduced the cannabis now for a month So I've already noticed that yeah, yeah, but now this is another added. Yeah, and you're partners lion's mane I've used before you know, it's funny. So lion's mane is a mushroom obviously That and it's a strange-looking mushroom. It looks like a mane. That's what they call it lion's mane They've actually shown in some studies that it is one of the few compounds to increase BD and F in the brain brain-derived neurotropic Factor so this is something that So it's considered in a tropic That's a good question I don't know if it would be considered a classic neutropic in the sense that I don't know if you could take Lion's mane or if they have studies to show that you could take it and then You know over the course of a few days or whatever notice improved cognitive function But I do know that BDNF is It promotes brain plasticity. What do the studies look like that it improved that? I mean, what is that? What are they testing? I know, but what do they know what when you say like, okay? This person took this test or they did this study in an improved cognitive function. What what does that look like? Oh, how are they testing? Yeah. Yeah, it's classic tests of memory verbal fluency There's this test called and they just take almost like those educational video games that they make you do I don't know if they're doing those in particular, but there's classic tests that they be more like this Like they would give like a group of a hundred people They would give them a sentence or a short story and then how much that do you recall something like that, right? Or they'll do something called priming where they'll they'll tell you okay Give us all the words that you can think of that associate with the blue and then you name a bunch of them and That's kind of like a measure of creativity score you based off Yeah, so that kind of stuff and there's a few things that have got some potential neurotropic properties, although it's kind of a vague Category like people will say Madoffin L as a new tropic, but it's not really it's more of a wakefulness agent Same thing with like Ritalin or Adderall or whatever caffeine caffeine, you know But again if you're tired and you drink caffeine you're gonna think better. That's a straight up I know I'm I feel smarter when I drink caffeine if I'm tired definitely so put on that Question Justin. Yes You have two kids I do sir So I was reading this funny meme thing and it reminded me to ask you something. You ever try breast milk That's an interesting question my wife Like I would I would say no don't be I actually have did you really totally I never did Did we go straight from the teeth or no? No, I got it from the bag and it was like frozen But so you had frozen. Oh, you did well I got kind of dared by my wife to try it and I was like ew, you know like that That had no like I was like what what does this mean? You know, I'm drinking this this is so weird But it's good to great. She's like no, it's like kind of sweet and it's dip, you know So I I don't know I guess it was how much of it did you drink? I only did like a sip dude Would it taste like yeah, it was like kind of sweet. It was weird sweet like what like um I don't really know a comparison. Yeah terrible at this game. Yeah, I don't know. I'm bear. Yeah Is it thin is it thin or the thick? It was like somewhere in between she didn't have really thick Breast milk, so I know some of the colostrum and all that sometimes like like some women can produce that's that's really thick That's when the babies first is that when the fruit? No, that's a cow. It tastes like water down semen. Whoa You would know better than me And I'm took it to the level. Yeah, definitely not I'm just trying to get me not on that definitely not on that spectrum Like Steve yeah, no, it's like no, it's like just a little bit of a sweetness to it I mean does it taste like regular milk at all? I mean is it no it's a different animal I don't think it would Not taste how weird would that be I thought it was gonna be like, ah, it's like cow's milk, you know But it's yeah. No, it's like just like a little bit of a sweet kind of a Cream flavor. I don't know what I never tried it. Yeah, I haven't either. I never tried it was I mean we did when we were kids, right? Well, yeah, I did try to remember what it's like Yeah, I got dared to do it and I did you know so was that like your first kid or when did you do that? Was it yeah? Yeah, it was Ethan. He was my first so yeah I was like I feel like if I'm gonna do it. I'm going straight to the teeth though Yeah, yeah, well it's like all these things. It's like I vowed to never like I'm not cutting the cord Ew, you know like I don't want to do that But like I did it you know because it's my own kid Did you cut the cord while it was still attached to your wife or did they because when I cut the core? See when I cut the cord note these fuckers they already cut it had they cut it and they'd leave a length for me to cut I'm like fucking count now. Yeah, it's rubbery. That's just weird. Yeah, it's a rubbery, bro It's weird like scared to do when you cut it. It's not like a snip It's like you gotta gotta kind of work and I also vowed not to watch, you know the entrance, you know Or like the exit all you did and I just got like well I think somebody was you broke all the rules. Yeah, but like I was I was on the outside trying to help you know Motivational stuff like I was in the way. What does it look like? I mean it was like oh, it's coming It looked like just a big like Harry Head coming out that's what you see so you see like the latest bunch of fluid It was not pretty it didn't ruin like your sex drive for a while No, man, cuz it was like a one one time thing and I just kind of you know, I banked that that image away No, some people say that man well They're weak some people say after they after they see that it's a hard time with that, you know what you know What you might have a hard time with I think sometimes Women may have well, I guess I could see both sides, but I know I've talked to association Friends who are like, you know my breasts used to be sexual for me So my husband would touch on my boobs now They're just feedback and now like they're not don't like my boobs are not sexual at all because now they look at them like You know like like I like Justin said yeah feedback No, what you see is you see like when you see them push all of a sudden you see like this the head And it's just hair the crowning and then you can see them push and it like goes it comes out a little bit And then they stop pushing it kind of goes back in a little bit Pulsates a little bit. Yeah, pull it out. It's does it get stuck at the shoulders. Hey, does it go like the head come through? Oh, you have to like go. Yeah into the different phase Yeah, the shoulders a tough one to move and does the doctor's hands fit in there while the fucking baby's you've never seen a birth No, bro. No, I did not put that on my you gotta just go on the internet. No, I know I could watch I don't want I rather hear you guys tell me about me watch. I don't you've never watched one You didn't do that in six. I didn't show you birth. Oh, I don't think so. Hmm. Really? They probably didn't you just Yeah, probably I mean that was what fifth grader. Oh, it's uh, here's what I thought so I'm life changing So I don't find any of that. It's hard. It's very difficult to gross me out with that kind of stuff I don't get gross. I can see it. I can watch it. No problem But what I was thinking the whole time as I'm watching it is This is a dangerous thing. Oh my god very like it's not I know it's a natural thing and we've been doing a Nouvering we've been doing it for thousands obviously for since we've been around right do the cord like wrapping around the neck Oh, there's so many variables forget the baby. Yeah dangerous for the baby. Sure. That's just dangerous for the boy for the mom big time because it ain't it isn't like Part of our evolution to being these upright, you know primates where we walk upright was the narrowing of the Pelvis even though women still have a wider pelvis than men do it's still narrowed and We're we have such big brains in fact Now in fact humans are one of the only animals that or one of the few mammals that gives birth to a fetus Because it's not like a human like most animals that give birth and within an hour the animals up and walking and can survive and can move and stuff Right a fucking baby is worthless like you give up if a baby is born you leave it on the floor It's there. I wouldn't survive. I can't do anything Yeah, so it's like and the reason that happens is that is an interesting point when you think about that All other animals in the reason why they think that that happened is like see it is because if we waited any long The baby wouldn't be able to get out because we're so we have such massive heads It wouldn't fit through this narrow pelvis. So it's become this dangerous process So when I was watching at the time when I was watching it's even dangerous in animals, too I mean that's it's very common like when I mean we used to ice to have to give You know help the birthing process for calves And that's the number one fear you have is you have a heifer who's worth two three thousand dollars maybe more Yeah, and they're having a baby and it's like that. We're not concerned. We're less concerned about the baby We're more concerned about the cow producer. Did you actually get in there and like pull the legs out and all that stuff crazy stories Well, if you've seen that Yeah, but it's different with my girl, you know I'm saying like I'm climbing in a cow's fucking deal I'm not climbing in my girls and I having to see that so that's the part that's different to me Oh, yeah, this is way way grosser. I had to do this one time Who's a fucking those that don't like gross stories better tune out for a minute? we had to do this one and The calf was coming out the wrong direction everything was all tangled up and It was getting the point where we could tell that we were gonna lose the heifer and so at that point It was either it sacrificed the baby or sacrificed the heifer and you don't sacrifice the heifer It's worth more money than this potential maybe that you don't know if it'd be male female when it comes out whatever and so I actually had to kill the baby inside of The cow and then birthed out and had to so it could get out I had to cut its head off you did it gnarly wait a minute. You had to do that shit Wow You're cold-blooded in it. How'd you do that shit? That was I mean it was poor the farm life right there I mean that is that the nature dude. Yeah, no, it's not a regular. It's not like we didn't I mean Complications crazy like having to help the cat. That's all normal. That's why I didn't want to be a veterinarian I only had to do that one time like that was like and of course it like fucking scarred me forever Oh, yeah, it was rough you go home and just you cry. No, I didn't cry I didn't cry over it, but yeah, it was just gross, you know, it was really gross It was really sad But you know you're I know if you live on if you work on a ranch I mean you see a lot of crazy shit man You see a lot of different stuff with with animals with dairy and dirt stuff like that So that was it was more like that than it was like but I mean for humans that is Besides war famine and disease thousand number one killer big time Yeah, in fact, that's why women outlive men people don't realize people like why do women live longer than men? Because they don't die from childbirth anymore. That's why they're so hearty because they can they last because genes are all Resilient fuck. Yeah, they had to give birth imagine doing that shit because you've seen it I've seen it totally imagine that shit happening imagine you're with your wife and you're in like a cave You know I'm saying oh my god, and what do you like what do you do imagine a woman back in those days, too? Just getting pregnant and knowing that she's got like a 50-50 shot of living like imagine how fucking having to do all the labor is Process right it's like a beautiful process I can't even I'd better have food for myself and now what am I gonna do and I can't move now right? I can't go imagine back then you go like oh, it's a 50-50 shot. I'm surviving this one Why do you hear him? Why do you think? Why do you think women are? Naturally more selective of their mates. This is a natural biological truth women are more selective of their mates because You get pregnant. You don't want to be with some douchebag that's gonna bounce You want someone to stick around and help feed? You know help provide food and take care of you because that's a dangerous process That's why they're way more selective see if the reason why guys are way less selective because you know I'm saying you Get someone pregnant you don't like you say I see you later. Yeah, I'll try somebody else It's not that big of a deal right crazy, right? That is crazy crazy crazy crazy shit Yeah, we got some more goodies here. Oh thrive market unboxing favorite time of the week Oh, yeah, dude. We're getting all kinds of fun gifts in presents thrive market box You know little different box this week. Why there's no food in it. What oh things no food at She gave me a toy. Oh kind of things my paper some paper coming out All right, some of you guys like to get sick around. Oh, you got the Remedies here they sell the Edelberry ones that you like so Kind of very actively What is it elder? No, no elder bear. Oh, it's elderberry. What the fuck get the fuck out here So we have a lozenge. Have you ever seen an elderberry before? Yeah, they grow everywhere. Really? Yeah, let me see yeah So looks like a blueberry for people that don't know elderberry is one of the few natural substances that have been shown to reduce the severity and length of influenza virus and The rhino virus the cold so elderberry if you start to get sick and that's echinacea you have in front of you No, this is elderberry. It's all elderberries. Oh, it's all those lozenges are great So this is elderberry syrup from gi herbs, which I've used before and then that one is Sambuca's Zinc lozenges so it actually has zinc in it as well now when you suck on a zinc lozenge Whatever the zinc, you know molecule looks like when it come goes the back of your throat It prevents the rhino virus from its hearing blockade, right? This is the brand that you used to have me get to that's the one I've always I didn't know thrive cells Next one good call Doug. All right. We got some toms for men Deodorant give that to sell. That's the one I use. Yes That is the one I use there you go. Hold on. What's the scent here mountain spring? Yeah before you put it on? I should have that for You know, that's good. Okay. This is a Thai crystal deodorant stone. Oh, what you guys never heard of crystal deodorants It's not even it's not even like a cousin smell or anything. It just you know what it is though Gives you like energy powers. No, it's not crystal like that. I knew I said that energy Hippy the crystal smell this crystal changes the energy of your just like it changes the energy of your armpits do you like No, so what the crystal is is it's made up of mineral salts and the mineral salts mineral salts prevent odor causing bacteria from replicating so when you rub this under your arms You're creating an environment that is unfavorable to the bacteria that makes you smell. That's how crystal deodorants work Now, can you do both? Yes, yeah, or it does not make sense to do both because does this not have a scent or I like the crystal one I'm gonna try this. It's good. It's unscented right done. Yes I got a couple tubes of Dr. Bronner's fluoride free toothpaste one in peppermint and one in cinnamon Peppermint for me. I need one. Thank you for my kids actually. Yeah, I got one specifically for Sal Oh, okay. It's called Sal suds. What the hell? I bought it because of the name. I got Justin That's great. It's actually got my name on it. Now we're gonna find something with Adam. That's all Adam's apple There you go. All right. There we go. Sal. So you gotta give up one of your gifts there. I'm gonna share these Yeah, I'm gonna trade you go. I don't want to trade. No, I don't want that. I already have the you don't want that I already have I want your toothpaste. Do you want the deodorant take the deodorant? No, I don't like the deodorant. I'm all right. I'm in Bring on the bird. Right on. This clause brought to you by Organify. For those days you fall short on getting your organic veggies or whole food nutrition Organify fills the gap with laboratory tested certified organic superfoods to help give your health the performance the added edge Try Organify totally risk-free for 60 days by going to Organify.com That's or G-A-N-I-F-I dot com and use a coupon code mine pump for 20% off at checkout First question is from M. Jerome 68. Oh, you picked one of her 30 questions. She put up there She had quite a few good ones though, you know Whose opinion is off matter most to you to each of us individually. Yes Well like yeah, yeah, who whose opinion are you like most concerned? You actually gonna listen to you know, I I think for the most part there's there's definitely not a lot of people like I Give a shit what most people think but I do care about a handful of people and for sure I care about the opinions of the man the men in this room for sure. I mean that I think that I think you're a dick See that's gonna bother me like too much time. I just planted a seed there So I gotta be careful with your words. I'll brain injured me so for sure their their opinion of Of me of how how I how I do things in business all that stuff matters to me for sure for them The other person or the other two people I think that I care the most about their opinion is my sister The reason why my sister I would say that is because I think she knows me better than anybody else and So I think it's important. It's kind of like a check-in for me to stay true to who I am So I always like to hear her feedback on on whatever she thinks I'm currently doing or saying or a part of so Her opinion matters a ton to me So Cassie for sure and then Katrina She if there's anybody that calls me on my bullshit the most and is the hardest on me It's her and and I respect her opinion because it's not like she's just Telling me there's things that she doesn't like or what that she's also the first to Compliment something that I've done or some instructive criticism. Yeah, and then and then when she does point something out It's she's normally right on you know And I kind of know it already and then it just confirms it when she says something to me So, you know, I'd say I'd say the men in this room I care about I care about my my sister's opinion of me and I care about Katrina's pretty much everybody else can Fuck off, you know, I don't I don't like to let too much because everybody has a fucking opinion You know it's something I found real quick with this Business I caught myself getting irritated reading some of the YouTube comments today and You know, it was YouTube is the home of the trolls. Oh, yeah for sure There is no I have never seen a social platform. They get great joy at just you know being shitty Well, I want to one of the things that I was actually really excited that we we just did a video the first YouTube video Where I felt like we had some like debate a little bit And I think that's so healthy and I've gotten so much great feedback from people when we challenge each other because yeah Who the fuck wants a you know, just a sound chamber or echo chamber, right? Where you're just same guy given the same information always saying it so it all must be true It's like no, that's one of the beauties of mine pump is that each of us are so unique And every each one of us was very successful at doing what we do and yet we're very different So I think that it's very healthy for us. And yeah, I was letting other people, you know, bother me Which is that's my own ego my own issues. So, you know, that's something that I try not to give two shits about other people's opinions I think we're all gonna have very similar answers because I know for me for sure I mean, this is why this works so well is because I totally respect you guys in your opinions about anything, you know, not just business, but just like anything in general Because it's like it's more and this is what I've always been kind of going through with sports and things and that it kind of Changes over the years based off of like who's in your inner circle Like like sports have provided that for me because you get kind of on a more intimate level with other men that like you respect and You know that like it stays there within the group, you know and so I think that we've kind of created that within this culture here in this environment and You know, that's definitely important to me in bouncing off ideas and you know Everybody always has something that's valuable to contribute and say and so this is sort of like an incubator for that And on top of that like, you know, my family of course, but these days. It's like I Don't know it I've I've I've gone through so much of like looking up like to my father and my my mom and like what did you know Their opinions about me what I'm doing with my life and this and that and then you just realize, you know I got to be my own person and So I think I've sort of leaned off of that quite a bit and it's more of just like I Definitely want to, you know, make them happy and like hope that they're happy and all that stuff but at the same time I'm doing my thing and You know really so it evolves around for me is this group in here And then it's my wife because like, you know, just much like Katrina for you It's for me. It's it's that that feedback that the other side that like that that that opposing force of that Not necessarily opposing because she's very much You know, like she wants me to succeed in this business and what we're doing and she's very complimentary to what we're doing But checks me, you know, like I need that healthy check and like, you know, what I What I'm doing family wise and that's you know, another part of my life. I care deeply about so Between that and then one other person was just my my old client Denise who She's just always been that constant person who I've I've wrapped ideas with back and forth done massive things business-wise I've never even seen anybody else do and You know has just this this attitude about life and in business and she's just a genuinely good person That's somebody I look up to so that's that's somebody that's high on my list. I you know, this was a this was a huge Period of growth for me was this question right here Years ago. I spent a large part of my life Thinking about the opinions of others for too long long time my You know wanting to be what my parents thought I was supposed to be wanting to Be what or you know have the opinion of my friends thinking that I was You know what I thought they wanted me, you know to be That's what that's part of my insecurities my body was part of that It was the opinions of others like who I need to be bigger and stronger or I need to Get married young to this person whose family, you know, we know and you know I got to be this this, you know, this man that is in this this this conventional, you know Family who buys a house who does these type of things that's all based off of other people's opinions you know how hard a worked sometimes was based on other people's opinions and It took me a while to realize that the most opinion the most important opinion that mattered That really mattered that should matter was my own my own opinion It doesn't really doesn't matter what anybody else thinks now that doesn't mean I don't find other people important And that doesn't mean I don't Trust and value other people's opinions and what I mean by that is, you know my girlfriend for example, Jessica Her opinion I value Tremendously because I trust her she has a wise opinion She can be very objective about things that I'm not necessarily objective about especially in dealing with myself And so I use her opinion or I value her opinion to Re-evaluate myself. I also value my children's opinion. These are my obviously that the two most important things in my life Are my two kids and their opinion of me matters because I want them to I know at some point they'll identify with me and or identify with being my kids and If they have a positive opinion about me Then they'll have a positive a positive opinion of themselves until they get to the point that they realize what I realize Which is it's their opinion of themselves that matter but at the end of the day None of it really matters. It's what you think of you That's the most important thing you are your best guide and your best Compass because I think a lot of us a lot of people we do things for other people We do what we think we're supposed to do we go to school and learn the things We think we're supposed to learn we get the jobs that we think we're supposed to get because we don't want to let other People down we don't live the lives that we want to live because of our fear of what other people will think of us That is it's a tough position to be in it's a position a lot of us are in a stuck in and when you kind of break out of that It's Extremely liberating so at the end of the day I respect and value many people's opinions Especially your guys's especially in regards to our business in regards to what we talk about on the podcast but at the end of the day I Matter most of what I think of myself and sound selfish But it's not it's really It's a it's a guiding light and it's what keeps you true and honest It's hard for a lot of people to get to that point right it's very very tough for we because we're getting this feedback from everybody else so much It's tough to be I mean I think still to this day and that's self-belief and and and worrying about yourself And like I think that you know too often we let everybody else dictate You know what we do or how we think of ourselves versus really truly learning to be a hundred percent You you know like are you being all the way you and I think a lot of people are not man I think a lot of people that struggle that I think even myself I think that you know those are the those moments where I catch that like am I really being true myself or am I trying to Give something for somebody else to make somebody else happy like those I'm constantly having to have that that check-in with myself This is why someone like my sister who I feel like her I value her opinion so much because Nobody knows me better than that and so I liked it and like you said Sal Because your opinion matters the most but sometimes it's hard to be objective about yourself You know because you are looking at yourself and you are trying to plea a plea's others So having somebody else who knows you as well or potentially better than you know yourself is such a powerful So which is also Katrina too. I mean I feel like she's a female version of of me So you know I really believe that we're the checks and balance for each other Next up is Moyer 814. When would you ever phase lifting to failure? So failure lifting versus to find what that is. Yeah, that's a tough one to answer Yeah, I feel like that's a testing protocol. Yeah, I would use first way I think we need to define it. So lifting to failure is when You are lifting a weight and you can no longer physically lift that weight with good form anymore So and I want to be clear because I think some people think failure means you can't move the bar at all anymore Regardless of your form. That's beyond failure. So failure is I'm doing a squat or I'm doing a bench press And I cannot perform a good rep without assistance anymore. I have now hit failure Failure we've talked about on the show many times for the most part It's too much intensity. It's very grossly overused. It's yeah, it's people do it too often and I think One of the reasons why people use it so often is two-fold one is The beast momentality the I need to beat myself up in order to progress in the gym And then the second one is it's an easy metric You know like what do you mean high intensity? Oh, okay, just lift until I can't lift anymore That's easy. So now I can always go to failure because I know where it is I know what that metric is. Yeah for the most part for most people most of the time It is too much intensity. You will you're you'll be on a fast track to frying your central nervous system which also requires recovering adaptation Just like your muscles do failure does cause damage to muscles But so does training intensely and stopping before failure But failing or actually trying to lift the weight and not being able to lift it sends it completely It sends a bit of a different signal to the cns And it can be very taxing It's the reason why look you don't see very many strength athletes train to failure very often No power lifters and weight lifters Don't train to failure very often not till they're meat man. That's when they say they save their pr You're not yeah, they're not chasing prs during their training protocol their training program protocols I think 80% is what they live in. Yeah, I tell you what I I can I can name at least 10 people that I've worked with who are experienced lifters who I told Stop lifting the failure stop about a one or two rep short of it Every single one of them. I've never I've never had somebody come back to me and say Oh, since I stopped going totally to failure. Wow made a huge impact. Everybody's like, oh my god I built more muscle and stronger. This is most common with my peers. I feel like this this was also I had a really hard time like These guys that were all competing we there's a ton of us that were at the same gym, right? And a lot of the guys will all work out with each other and wrote I just couldn't work out with anybody because that's how they train every exercise every set that way And I was just like I don't train that way dude That doesn't make sense to me to to take it to failure Every exercise every set you guys are silly And I think so when I first start getting back in a rhythm of training and being consistent I don't even fuck with it for at least a month because I don't need to because I know that if I haven't really been training consistently Just me sitting any sort of movement or exercise resistance training signal My body's going to adapt and start changing. So I'm keeping that that type of training as a tool in my in my belt Right like later on like, okay I'll use this to maybe break through a plateau or maybe I've had a month or two And I've got a nice good rhythm and I've had a great week of training and eating and boom Now I'm going to throw it into a day a routine where I'm going to take some exercises to failure And even then I'm not taking every exercise to failure Maybe the last one I do for that muscle, right? So maybe I'm doing I just did chest, right? Then I'm and I get on my you know my fourth or fifth set This is the last set I'm doing and maybe it's that last set that I actually take all the way to failure And that's it, you know, that's that's all you're going to need to do There's no reason for you to be going to failure on sets one two three and four leading up to that Does it make sense? I literally well the only time I've ever even Well, I mean I used to be guilty of that that style training of like trying to smash and kill every workout And like if I can't do it then then I stop it makes sense as an athlete, right? So let's let's make that clear here. It makes a little more sense if you're you're in the mental the mental component on some level So right like like you had mentioned living sort of in the 80% is a much healthier approach to that But what we did do that I feel like if I was to program it in and program, you know failure into the actual protocol it would be more of the off-season training leading into now we We switch into like more of an endurance or or we're leading into I want to know What work you put in In that that period that three month period. I want to know what the work Um led to so I want to see those metrics. I want to see bench squat, you know dead lift over a press I want to see what that looks like Your your ability so your ability to generate that kind of force. Does that mean always? It's a failure Uh, not necessarily it might just mean it's really It's an accomplishment of more weight you were able to like physically do But yeah, sometimes it may lead to failure because it's you're you're testing your your abilities to new levels And when you know when you go to failure, too, you limit your ability to train more frequently So You know somebody just posted on the forum part of why I like this question was because someone posted on the forum That recent study. Yeah, I showed the nine participants by the way. Oh really? Yeah, it was a really small study But they compared there's a pub med Um, it was published in public. So yeah small But the study was you know people training their body twice a week versus four days a week and the twice a week People gain more muscle. We don't know the intensity. We don't know if they went to failure We don't know a lot if you're training to failure. You're definitely not going to be able to train your body super frequently You're in my experience You're better off training a little bit more frequently and not training Quite so intensely, but don't confuse that with not training hard. Yes, you know Stopping one rep or two reps short of failure Is still hard. You're just not one or the other. It's like, yeah, you have to you have to train intensively You know like especially if you're in the gym and you want to promote new standards Like of course you're gonna have to you know, like press put yourself on the fire a little bit But you know like be smart about it. Yeah, and there there may be some mental benefit to training To failure every once in a while to knowing where that limit is knowing how hard Because sometimes for me at least if I haven't trained a failure for a long time three months four months five months Then I Forget that limit and so when I'm stopping two reps short of failure and maybe four reps short of failure And it changes too. It does so I'll throw it in every once in a while Just to see how far I can go and then it gives me a metric to where what the end feels like I know when to stop Just before that because that's another you know tricky thing, right? When you tell someone stop two reps short of failure, they're like, well, when is that? Yeah, it looks like you got to kind of learn learn that with your body your way through it but for the most part and look they've done studies on this and Studies will show that lifting to failure on every single set is detrimental It just doesn't work well for most people, especially if you're natural and here's the thing You know adam talked about his peers and how they lift a failure all the time and of course his peers are these physique competitors They their bodies progressed in spite of their training, you know, they're on a lot of gear They've got great genetics. They've been training for a long time And their body progressed in spite of the fact that they're doing things that are not as ideal or not as effective But I'll tell you look it's an easy test for you. This is super simple. You're not going to lose gains I promise you worst-case scenario you go back to what you were doing before Stop lifting to failure Just cut your reps one or two reps short of failure Just start doing that don't change anything else on your workouts And if within a week or two you don't notice you're stronger and you're building more muscle Go back to lifting to failure But I'll tell you this much nine out of ten you listening right now Do that do what I'm telling you try it out for a week Nine out of ten you will come back and be like oh my god my body is just fun Be objective about it too because you got to think when you cut back on that you're going to be doing less weight So understand if you're not going to failure The metric isn't like oh, I'm not lifting you're not necessarily going to lift more weight right away Just pay attention to how you feel your aesthetics things like that, you know Next question is from Sarah gets fit recovered She's trying to eat more real whole food rather than fat-free processed ones However, she is used to eating large quantities Volume-wise she is now having trouble feeling full on normal portions How can she feel full without continuing to vastly over consume vegetables and low calorie fake food? This is a good sign. This is actually So this is a when I when I work with clients What she's saying right now is a sign of Table is kicking up. Well besides that Uh, some of the verbiage she's using is a sign of a poor relationship to food. So let me explain The feeling of full Okay, when people say well, I don't feel full What they've associated with satisfaction is the feeling that they can't eat anymore That their belly is stuffed to the brim. Yeah, and it's like you ever hear that like you finish eating at a family member's house Or someone's house and like Did you eat enough? Do you think you could fit some more you want some more food? As if the metric is all of a sudden uncomfortable groan like You know in uh, I believe I want to say Japanese culture I think there's a saying where they say stop when you're at 80 And that is like one of the best pieces of advice I've ever heard to prevent overeating Now in my culture in Italian culture, especially when family gets together you stop when you can't breathe And I associated that feeling with Eating enough where if I didn't get that feeling of like I can't eat anymore Well, then I must I that's that's me being like satisfied. It's not I don't I never get to that point anymore. Now I eat and I'm satisfied But I don't feel like my stomach's gonna explode or like I'm full So first off that feeling of fullness in your belly You're probably eating too much volume. Anyway, all you got to do is be satisfied. In other words, you eat This is where this is where that Tupperware life that we kind of knock on a lot I I see uh has value for someone like this because They have this Everyone has this feeling like you said that feel like they need to stuff themselves till they get this Like oh, I feel so stuffed where when you train yourself to like weigh measure portion out all your meals When you're done, you're done. You eat out of you eat out of the Tupperware. You're done. You're finished Like that's what it is. There's there's no more calories, you know everything. Yeah, right. That's it This is where you're supposed to be. This is what your body needs You eat it and you're done and then you start to connect and get and I teach clients This is that I would have them weigh measure is pay attention how you feel like this is how you're supposed You're not supposed to feel Starving after you get done eating and you're not supposed to feel stuffed after you're eating No, you eat you eat you should feel fueled and you should feel good You should be feel like you could go take a run or do exercises exactly you should actually feel Okay, no gift to lay down Yeah, if you feel stuffed after you eat or you feel like bloated or oh my god, I need to be you know That's not a good sign You should feel like after you eat like I'm satisfied and I can get up and walk around and do regular activity Not like you just stuff the hell out of yourself. So that being said When it comes to eating, um, you know Whole natural foods, especially when you switch from eating highly palatable Process foods you're probably not going to eat as much because Whole natural foods don't hijack your systems of satiety. You get palate fatigue Palate fatigue is when you eat something and you get sick of it. Like you're like, oh, I can't eat anymore I'm sick of it. But then if you switch to a different food, all of a sudden you can eat more So a good example, this is like a potato from chris crescer He talked reminds me he talked about it But like if you're eating dinner and you're like, oh, I don't want to eat anymore I think I'm done and then they bring out dessert which is sweet and all of a sudden you're like I think I can eat more That is because you've hijacked what's a natural system of checks and balances called palate fatigue Where if you eat a lot of the same thing Your brain will naturally make you not want that food anymore And it's to protect you from overeating because believe it or not Although scarcity was a real thing for humans for most of you know civilization So overeating will still be a problem if we if we encountered a meal And we could still overeat and overeating would still make us sick, which is not a good thing So the brain naturally has this thing where you don't want that food anymore And whole natural foods will hit that signal much faster than than processed foods because processed foods Are engineered literally engineered There's a lot of money that goes into making these foods Hijacked that where you know if I open a bag of chips It's the perfect crunch and smell and taste and feel And saltiness and all these different things to where they've engineered it just residue Yeah, they've they've engineered it so I eat a whole bag like I had a massive bag of potato chips I guarantee you this much right now if I sliced up a cooked potato Well, I've never even heard of any she says over consumed, but I've never had a client Over consumed vegetables now. I have had a client Okay, I've had a client who have lived off of carrots and salad salad all day long. I have done that That's not over consuming vegetables. That's under consuming other nutrients that you need So I've never had somebody actually over consumed vegetables In fact, most people are grossly under eating vegetables and you could easily handle sick servings of vegetables every day And that's that's why I said there's there's a there's a relationship with food here that and I'm just giving your health I should just I'm just reading her question and the way she's asking it tells me intuitive guide, man Yep, this is our intuitive. This is why we wrote the intuitive highly recommend you get the intuitive nutrition guide because it'll help you But like two things feeling full and then over consuming vegetables. She's seeking out the feeling of being stuffed That's why she's over consuming vegetables because she's like, okay, this is healthy But I'm not full or stuffed yet. So I'm gonna keep eating until I get that feeling Um, yeah, I don't seek out that feeling. It's not something you want. But again when you eat whole natural foods You're less likely to overeat just because you'll hit palate fatigue a lot sooner. Chris Crescer talked about That's what Justin was alluding to Chris Crescer says. Hey Eat a plain baked potato with no salt. No butter nothing on it Do nothing but to eat that for a few days how long you can eat and you won't be able to eat very many calories Even though you need more calories, you won't because you're of that palate fatigue, right, right There is a good. I mean, there is something that could be positive. I know we just kind of ragged on her quite a bit But you know, they're she could be doing a lot of things the right way too and her her metabolism is kicking up So that's another reason why you you tend to feel hungry But I think that's one of the reasons why we are both or all of us are all advocates of Fasting too because this teaches you to have this relationship of what what is really hungry feel like a lot of people They it's a psychological thing and we've trained ourselves that we need food. We need food all time It's like well, what have you actually tried to go without for a while? You learn how to suppress that immediate urge that like it's like You'll make like whatever decision just to cram something in right, you know, you can control that, you know, it's funny too It's also stay to mind totally like You know, I'll have clients who'll be you know telling me like oh You know, I went to the movies and my friend had popcorn and you know I didn't want to eat popcorn because it's got butter and I'm not supposed to eat dairy or whatever and But it's like so hard to resist. I just want to eat it, but I know I can't and I'll tell them like Switch your words around. It's not that you can't you don't want to you're choosing not to Right because if you feel like you can't like you're being forced I promise you at some point you're going to nobody likes to be forced to do anything Right remind yourself that I don't I choose not to I don't want that time you choose not Yeah, I'm choosing this one time. Right. I'm choosing not to I don't want it and that's why I'm not eating it And it's way more empowering Next question is from swole nick Can you talk about being in a relationship where one person has found a new healthy lifestyle and the other Who you obviously don't want to pressure into doing what you do Is just not there or maybe really doesn't understand the journey that you're on to this Sounds like you're sounds like you're growing. I think it's like the third time we're addressing this problem Yeah, it sounds like you're growing. This is a this is a very common I mean think of think of all the clients that you guys have trained. I don't know how many times I got a Man or a man or a woman walking, you know, that's in their 30s 40s 50 years old And you know something happened to them heart attack stroke, you know, doctor told them they got high blood pressure whatever knee surgeries And they're they're they're here now they now are they are now saying okay I'm going to make time for myself hire my personal trainer Meanwhile, they have the spouse back at home who doesn't give two shits because nothing dramatic has happened to them And how do they fucking deal with this? It's a monster, man You know when you have they've done studies on this when you have couples where one of them loses Yeah, the divorce rates really high it goes through the roof. Yeah, it spikes because you've changed You've grown or you've changed or your interests everything That's a hard pill to swallow for somebody right now, too If you're if you're dating someone but I can tell you right now I grew out of many relationships that I dated, you know, I just we're different and it's not necessarily You're growing in the right and they're wrong It's that there's different things that that become a priority for them And you are at a point in your life where taking care of yourself and health and longevity and these things have become a priority And it may not be for this other person and you're right. You can't force them to that No, and it can be threatening to them. I mean if I if I picture this if I'm with me and my Why for girlfriend or whoever I'm with let's say we're both overweight or unhealthy, right? We don't eat right. We don't exercise. We're we're together. We're happy And now all of a sudden my significant other Is found this new interest that's threatening all of a sudden like what are you doing without me like it's this new thing Okay, especially if we have a codependent relationship and then all of a sudden they're losing weight They're more attractive. They have more more energy getting more attention And that can be very threatening to me because I may perceive their value as increasing whereas my value I perceive as staying the same and again, they've done relationship studies. Well, they'll find people are They we tend to be attracted to or date people who we view As having the same social value as us So you'll find good-looking people be with good-looking people or or they have something that you value much more like money or whatever And if that balance is thrown off if you're not a self-confident individual if you're not Secure with yourself It can it can be very very threatening I mean it's very threatening because there's a part of this person that has to be fearful of losing this relationship If they continue to press that dude and the advice that I always gave to this client is like listen If this this is the one for you the person that's supposed to spend the rest of your life with you They'll respect the love and they'll and they'll they'll eventually get on board So continue to bury yourself in that direction of continue to pursue your personal growth health journey And hopefully that that will eventually Inspire them to get their act together or it could also get you it'll get you to your point faster finding out that This wasn't the relationship that you're supposed to ship out or ship out. That's right and try not to resent them for not No, it's just Yeah, do your thing enjoy yourself. I mean, but it's so important though. You have like if you are somebody who is I I don't know I don't personally know any relationships that have been very successful where one person is very health Health-minded cares about all that and the other person absolutely is not because I rely heavily even being that this is my profession My livelihood and I love it. I still heavily rely on Katrina's good decision making and her to balance me out There's times where I just want to say fuck it. I just want to eat shit today I don't want to get exercise when doing anything and when I see her You know, I don't really feel like that I want to go eat this because I feel like we missed yesterday And we had this going on with her life and we just had this dinner So I'm just like I I need that I need that extra push to keep me because that It matters a lot to me. So if you're somebody like that More than likely you will it could be tough man relationships relationships are tough, especially if the other person You know does things that'll challenge you change to themselves. I mean You know being in fitness for as long as I've been I know I might be a difficult person to date 100% I'm I worked in gyms most of my life Or with clients personal trainers aren't easy to this can be challenging For you to date a personal trainer let alone because right you're working with other women the opposite sex The job we do is I could be challenging If you're not with someone that's secure right because we're in fitness We're going to be introduced to people in the fitness space and all these different things So relationships present their challenges In many different ways and you know be okay with it. Let that person know You know you love them. Let them know it has nothing you're not Moving away from them. You're just doing your own thing Don't pressure them or feel resentful because that'll do the opposite I've been in that situation before Where you try to force the person to work out or you tell them you want them to do something And that person because they feel forced or because they feel like you're coming down on them They resent you that'll actually make them not Yeah, they'll resent you and if they do do it they'll resent you Anyway, so it can be challenging But I've I've had clients and I had one client who uh, this it was a it was a man I trained who him and his wife had been married for a long time. It's not like 10 years And he lost 80 pounds and he came when he first came to see me he was shy a little bit of an introvert not you know super outgoing obviously self-conscious And over the course of the years of training him He lost his weight He all of a sudden became much more outgoing Started doing more things being more active Meanwhile, his wife stayed overweight She continued to not to be that same person And it was very challenging because she felt threatened By what he's doing and I mean he used to communicate this to me like man You know she she gets upset when I want to go on a hike because she can't keep up with me And he's like I just want to go move because it feels so good. I have I've never been fit I've never been able to do this before it's very very challenging and then he started resenting her for not Trying to keep up with him type of deal. Anyway, they ended up getting a divorce You know, and I've seen this is why all these relationships. They need a three-year lease with an option to buy I'm gonna put that back out there in the universe again We need three year leases with an option to buy in all relationships. That's that's brilliant But I mean one of the best things you could do in a relationship is grow together or just be confident Eat each other enough and secure with each other enough to where When that person grows you celebrate it rather than feel threatened by it Yeah, I think I think continuing to focus on yourself and not worrying about the other partner And what their health goals are is the path to go until it gets to a point where it is completely hindering you until it's stopping If he's not if he or she is not Keeping you from going to the gym keeping you from eating healthy foods or that they're just not on the same page as you are Then fuck it just keep doing your thing keep doing your thing keep bettering you Hopefully one day that'll inspire them or one day they'll be forced to actually have to do that As long as they're not stopping or holding it but what may happen like salas saying and that's where It is time to realize that maybe it is time to ship out of this relationship because I was trying to sabotage Yeah, they start exactly. Have you guys seen that? Oh 100? Oh, I have clients that will tell me though The partner would bring home fast food like knowing that they're on there Or just skip a day skip a day at the gym don't go to the gym. Oh, yeah, that's all you ever Yeah, no, absolutely. And so when that starts to happen if that's happening in your relationship and you truly care about Yeah, man, that's time to get the fuck out when it's time to bounce. Absolutely Check this out. Go to youtube mind pump tv We just posted some awesome new videos Uh and make sure to subscribe Subscribe to the channel because it's awesome. 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