 Well, hello and welcome to Jonathan from the heart. I'm Jonathan assay of Jonathan assay.com And I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic Emotionally available men. Where are they hiding? Where are they hiding? Are they hiding? Really quickly if you're new to my youtube channel, oh by the way If you're new to my youtube channel on these videos that I shoot on Saturday mornings are from my balcony You're gonna hear chirps and birds and and seals barking because I live over the ocean or live over the marina And this is actually very similar to the videos I shoot for my private group called midlife love mastery It's a VIP group check out the link below This is where I shoot three videos a week for our members based on their questions in the group in our private forum And we also have a once a month webinar Or you can ask questions directly at me So if you've been interested in asking me a question and you can't afford private coaching Check out the VIP group below. Okay emotionally available men. Where are they hiding? Where are they hiding? So oh by the way the cup says do all things with love do all things with love in my t-shirt the Fantastic Four If you ever watch the Fantastic Four, please post a comment below if you do all things with love Please post a comment below. Okay emotionally available men. Where are they hiding? So I want to share a story with you Three years ago. I did something called the Hoffman process the Hoffman process now the Hoffman's process Here's a copy of the book The Hoffman process. It's a inner child workshop. I call it an inner child workshop where you heal your childhood wounds and traumas with your parents which basically When when we're children, you know, we experience life through our lens and and grown-ups Don't know how to To how should I say this? Don't understand how children are affected by almost the littlest of trauma as well as big traumas And what happens is these little childhood wounds and traumas develop what is known as Negative patterns and limiting beliefs in our lives negative patterns and limiting beliefs in our lives For example, I've shared the story where a school teacher Called me stupid in front of the classroom Well, that defined me for a very long time in my life So that was a childhood wound and trauma that I got a chance to heal at the Hoffman process But it's still to this day even has a tiny tinge, but it doesn't have the same as it was before Okay, I'm going off subject here. So I'm at the Hoffman process. It's a seven-day immersion into healing your wounds a great experience and What was interesting is you're not allowed to tell people who you are I mean your last name you're not allowed to tell them what you do for a living until the last day And there was 40 people in this group half men half women and the last day I shared or the second to last day I shared with the group what I did for a living I'm a dating a relationship coach and I mean it was fascinating to me. How many people said to me You know, it was weird the way you talked. I thought you were a therapist Anyway, so one of the that evening after we all shared we're at the jacuzzi Most of us were and I literally had all the women surrounding me because they wanted to talk to me Because of what I did for a living and a lot of the guys were kind of a little pissed off But one of them came to me and said Jonathan when I got here I scanned the room, you know of men and I'll be candid with you. I was attracted to you and another guy Now this other guy looked like the Marlboro man. I mean he was handsome. He was virile. He was, you know, very alpha male looking It was kind of ironic to find out. He was a professor of microbiology at Stanford because he like I had tattoos up and down his arms Anyway, so she said to me when I scanned the room, I was attracted to the both of you After going through this experience and talking to every man here she said and there were 20 men She goes I would date every single one of these guys I would date every one of these guys. I wouldn't have seen them for who they were until this experience And that floored me Not floored me In a good way Because what she said is I saw each man's heart. I saw each man's heart And ladies, I know I can be tough on guys I'm tough on guys, you know calling them out when they you know pull away ghosts disappear calling out bad behavior I'm a big proponent of that But I'm also a big proponent for men. I'm a big advocate for men because I believe most men are good guys They're just bad daters They're just bad daters and most of the time they're struggling with childhood wounds and traumas or adult traumas And they haven't healed It's one of the reasons why i'm such an advocate for my book what the heck is self-love anyway You know do me a favor if you know a man if you know if you've gotten this book do me a favor Please post a comment below. Let me know if you did get my book But buy a book for a man For a man, you know just one man, you know buy him this book as an invitation To begin a journey of personal development self-help and spiritual work just like these other 20 men did You know One of my favorite coaches out there Well, you don't know this so i'm going to share it with you one of my favorite coaches out there There's a woman by the name of Allison armstrong Allison armstrong has the pax group and she does a whole understanding men program and she's written a great book called the queen's code the queen's code And why i'm talking to you about this book today is because she says You know stop kissing friends Stop kissing frogs find your prince kind of thing But the whole point is a shift in perspective a shift in perspective the way we see people Because this idea of where they hiding emotionally available men are everywhere But most of the time they're just a little bit afraid To share their feelings and and so a place like the hoffman was a safe place And what i want to encourage you is you become that safe place for a man to share his feelings with you You become that safe place. How do you become that safe place? You start reading these books you start learning about yourself first and then you lead by example You lead by example because emotionally available men are everywhere most guys are good guys Most guys are good guys, you know Um allison really is about shifting our perspective on men and that's what i'm here to suggest to you Because just like this woman scanned the room and saw it from a physical perspective when she got to see their hearts She shifted to the emotional side and she had a shift in perspective And if you want to see see more men you have to shift your perspective See more emotionally available men All right, um if if this resonates with you and you'd like more of a personal touch Please check out the link to schedule a free discovery call if you want to find access to the books Check out the link to all the books that i it's called jonathan recommends. I've got a podcast. I've got my own book I hope this provided value for you. I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic Jonathan bear hug of self love I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone and give them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love And we can all use more love in our lives. Thanks so much. Bye. Bye now You